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How To Give Your Sex Life A Makeover Without Shattering Your Man’s Ego

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Sex isn’t something every guy is a natural at. In fact, a lot of guys are very awkward when it comes to pleasing a woman and some guys aren’t able to give their partners an orgasm at all, period. If your man sucks in the sack, you definitely want to give him a few sex tips to point him in the right direction – but how on earth do you do it without damaging your guy’s fragile ego? Here’s how to gently give your guy sex tips, while still making him think he’s the best.

Vocalize Your Pleasure

Even if he doesn’t get it right most of the time, there’s bound to be a few times that he hits the spot exactly the way you want it – and when he does, it’s important that you vocalize your pleasure and make a very big deal about it. You don’t necessarily have to make it into dirty talk – you can simply moan very loudly, gasp for air or yell “Yes!” – or all of the above. The point is, you want to make sure that he KNOWS that he’s done something right. Because once he figures out that he’s on the right track, he’s going to keep doing whatever it is that makes you scream and writhe with pleasure. So vocalizing what feels great to you is beneficial for you both.

Do To Him What You Want Him To Do To You

Sometimes, the best way to give your lover sex tips is to actually show him what you like – on him. If you want him to give you oral sex, try giving him a really great blowjob first. If you want him to touch you with his hands or finger you, show him what you want by giving him a handjob first! The idea here is to show him what you like by doing it to him first. He’ll probably pick up on it right away, but he may not. Keep giving him what you want and he’ll eventually get the idea. If he doesn’t, you can always wait until after you’ve given him a really amazing oral sex session and say, “I would love for you to try that on me.”

Guide His Hands – Or Mouth

If he’s going down on you and just isn’t hitting the right spot, don’t be afraid to gently guide him in the right direction. If he’s licking in the wrong place, gently use your hands to guide his head and mouth to just the right spot. Honestly, he’ll appreciate the pointers much more than he would appreciate his efforts being wasted because he wasn’t sure what you wanted – and you wouldn’t tell him.

If he’s using his hands, gently slide your hand down to your clitoris and show him with your hand how you want to be touched. This won’t upset him if you’re not cocky or condescending about it. You can also move his hand the way you want him to touch you – and after you let go, he’ll continue doing the same movements you showed him.

Leave A Magazine Or Internet Article Out For Him To See

If you find a particular juicy article with sex tips you think your man can use, leave it out inconspicuously for him to find. If it’s a print publication, leave the magazine in the bathroom, open to the page you want him to read. Leave it out as though you were simply reading it yourself and just forgot to put the magazine up. Next time he’s sitting in the bathroom, he’ll probably notice it – and read it. If it’s an Internet article, just leave your browser pulled up like you had forgotten to close it down. You can also minimize the browser and when he pulls up the Internet, the article will pop up “accidentally.” This is especially effective if you and your partner share a computer.

Tell Him – Nicely

If all else fails, you need to talk with your guy about how to make your sex life better – because if he’s getting off, you deserve to have an orgasm too (and an amazing one at that!) There’s absolutely no shame in talking to your guy about how to make sex better, but the way you bring it up is extremely important. If you start the conversation off saying “You need to do this,” or “You do this wrong,” it’s going to make him want to immediately stop listening to you. Don’t criticize your guy – because he’s probably trying very hard to please you sexually. Instead, tell him things you’d love to try, or say, “I love it when you do this, but I think this would be even better.”

10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Men)

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Oral sex is something she loves, but isn’t going to always ask for. She may be too shy to tell you how much she craves oral sex from you, but no matter how much she wants it, she’s not likely to let you know just how hot it makes her to have your mouth down here. Instead of making her beg for it, learn to be the best at it and give it to her without her ever having to ask! Here’s how to give your lover amazing oral sex and be the best she’s ever had!

Lick Slowly

Most guys lick fast when performing oral sex, assuming that a woman likes it that way because that’s what he likes when he’s getting a blowjob. Women are different though and many of them enjoy slow licking, especially at the beginning when she’s just starting to get warmed up. Lick her clitoris and labia slowly, as though you are savoring her taste and the way she feels in your mouth.

Take Her All In

Instead of focusing on just one area – such as her clitoris – when you’re going down on her, let your mouth wander all over her vagina. Don’t leave a single fold unexplored by your tongue. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman is sensitive only in that one area, when in reality, she has sensitive nerve endings all over her vagina. Her inner and outer labia are very sensitive, as well as the skin around the entrance to her vaginal canal.

Show Enthusiasm

Just like you don’t enjoy getting oral sex from a girl who is bummed out about having to give it, a woman isn’t going to enjoy receiving it from you if she feels like you think it’s a chore. Show your woman some enthusiasm when going down on her and let her know that you really enjoy giving her pleasure this way. Don’t lean your head on one thigh and lick lazily as though you’d rather be doing something else – because she won’t be fooled for one minute.

Use Your Fingers

A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris alone, but you can give your partner an even more powerful orgasm by stimulating her g-spot with your fingers at the same time you’re giving her oral sex. This will either help her to have a g-spot orgasm or it will help her to have a blended orgasm – which is a clitoral and g-spot climax at the same time.

Penetrate Her With Your Tongue

Most men don’t bother using their tongue around the entrance to a woman’s vagina because why bother if he can’t stick his tongue all the way up there, but the truth is, there are hundreds of sensitive nerve endings just around the opening to her vagina. Even just slowly licking all around the entrance will have your woman grabbing the sheets with desperation, but if you slip your tongue inside, it’s likely to send her into a complete frenzy.

Lick Her Anus

Lots of women don’t like anal sex, but they may enjoy the idea of analingus in conjunction with oral sex. Often, anal sex is painful, but analingus is not and can actually be very pleasurable for a woman. If your girl is clean and you don’t have a problem with it, lightly lick her anus a few times while you’re going down on her. You don’t have to stay down there for long to have the desired effect – just a few licks will send her out of this world with pleasure!

Don’t Rush It

A huge mistake that men make during cunnilingus is rushing through it so that they can get to the main event faster. They’re more concerned with their own pleasure than hers, and a woman will be able to tell right away if you’re rushing through oral sex so you can get to your own climax. Instead, take your time and let your partner reach orgasm naturally, without feeling rushed or pressured to do so. This will make her climax much, much more powerful and keep her coming back for more!

Make Noise

Don’t lick her in such a way that you produce hardly any noise. Get sloppy! Allow your partner to hear your sucking and licking sounds, and don’t be afraid to let a moan of pleasure escape from your own lips as well. Give her the idea that you absolutely love everything about giving her oral sex by letting her hear every bit of what you’re doing to her – and how much you’re enjoying it.

Use Different Sex Positions

Don’t just stick to letting her lay on the bed while you go down on her. Try different sex positions for oral sex, such as licking her from behind or letting her sit on your face. This will add an element of variety to giving your lover a climax orally, making her want more and more. She’ll always be ready for sex if you make sure she not only gets a great orgasm from you, but also that she feels like your sex life is really wild and amazing.

Go Different Places

Break out of the bedroom and give your partner oral sex anywhere else. Move from the couch to the kitchen, then to the car and out of the house. Next time you go on a road trip, pull over and lick her clitoris right then and there. Or, next time you have dinner out together, slip underneath the long tablecloth and perform cunnilingus on her while everyone goes about their business, having no idea what is really going on. Even if you have great oral sex technique, going down on her in different places is all you need to make her think you’re the best on the planet.

4 Tips To Drive Her Wild With Razor Sharp Female Orgasms

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Oral sex is a great way to give your lover a mind blowing orgasm. The fact is, what makes a perfect sexual life is when you give your woman the powerful orgasm she deserves. And the most wonderful way for your partner to experience the ultimate excitement is by making your woman feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return.

Oral Sex Equals Orgasm!

Cunnilingus, in simple terms, is oral sex for women. Cunnilingus gives a heightened sexual excitation in women. If you don’t know how to do this, then it will turn out to be just another forgettable experience for your partner. But with these 4 tips below, you will certainly triumph in bed and give your lover a truly memorable erotic adventure – complete with powerful orgasms, no less!

Arousal Multiplier

Many men make the mistake of jumping right in and start stimulating their women with their tongue. While oral sex is usually considered as a form of foreplay to intercourse, you still need to get your partner warmed up first. Women are like analogs… you need to slowly turn the dial to heat it up. Take your time to playfully tease your partner; kiss on the neck and nibble on the ear lobes; gently stroke the inner thighs. All these little, sensuous gestures will turn a woman on quickly and get her ready before you start giving oral sex.

Oral Manifesto

The right way to use your tongue can be compared to how a cat or a dog drinks from a bowl of water. Try observing these animals when they drink; you will see how their tongues move in and out of their mouths at a really fast pace. This is exactly what your tongue should do when performing oral sex on a woman and licking the clitoris. Your tongue has one of the most powerful muscles in the human body. Put it to good use!

To bring this intimate mood to the next level, get creative and try out various tongue strokes (hint: circular strokes produce a tantalizing effect on most women). You can also use your tongue to spell different letters of the alphabet and see if she can guess what you are spelling. She will probably be squirming with ecstasy as she tries to figure out what you are going to do next. Go slow, use your tongue and tease your lover.

Pleasure Multiplier

When you are giving your partner oral sex, there is nothing to stop you from leveraging on the magic from your fingers. If you know how to use fingering and your tongue, you will exponentially intensify the pleasure she gets from you. Here’s the trick: when you are kissing the clitoris, use your thumb or index finger to rub it simultaneously. By giving sufficient stimulation to the clitoris, you will set up your partner for a really explosive orgasm, and make it happen in a hurry too.

Rhythmic Consistency

To give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes, and to spice things up a little, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged. The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to the clitoris.

When you sense your lover’s orgasm approaching (e.g. when breathing quickens; and hands start gripping the sheets), keep a steady tempo as you continue to stimulate the clitoris. Refrain from changing what you are doing, as that might cut your partner out from the orgasm she’s yearning for. Once you find a rhythm that gets your lover going, stick with it… and keep at it until you bring your partner over the edge!

Your lips and tongue are your best “tools” to bring your lover to an orgasm. Science has proven it. Experience has confirmed it. More than intercourse, oral sex is craved by many women, but delivered by very FEW men. So give your partner the pleasure she deserves, and in return you will get more sex than you could probably handle!

6 Sex Misconceptions – Rules That Were Meant To Be Broken

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Sex includes many unspoken guidelines that supposedly dictate what can or can’t be done in or outside the bedroom. However, sex can get boring fast that way. There are many myths about sex – in fact, some of these “guidelines” for sex can definitely go to the wayside. Break these so-called guidelines and spice up your sex life tonight!

Myth #1 – Men Don’t Like Giving Oral Sex

It’s a common myth that men enjoy getting a blowjob, but they don’t exactly like to return the favor. This myth originates from the “I don’t feel so fresh” ads from long ago, where women got a bad rap for having a smell – of any kind – down there. The truth is, some guys don’t like going down on a girl – but most of them actually do. Women are terrified they don’t smell right, even if it’s just the natural scent of their bodies. Don’t worry about it and let your man blow your mind with his tongue.

Myth #2 – You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date

Sex on the first date has long been a “faux pas.” You’re supposed to wait until at least the third date, right? This is an old rule that should definitely be broken – that is, if you have the opportunity to be on a date with someone who so totally rocks your world that you can’t wait to get your hands on his clothes and rip them off. In that case, why not? If you and your date are both consenting adults and have discussed safe sex, seriously – why not?

Myth #3 – Sex Should Be Serious

Yes, all the sex scenes in the movies make us feel as though our sex lives are nowhere near as enthralling, but come on – who hasn’t passed gas on accident while getting it on after burritos and margaritas for dinner? Come on! Sex is fun, and it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. If you accidentally make an idiot out of yourself, get stuck in a not-so-flattering sex position, or get interrupted by a call from the in-laws, laugh it off and go back to doing whatever you were doing before. Your mate will love your good sense of humor and the ability to roll with the punches.

Myth #4 – You Have To Have An Orgasm Every Time

Pretty much every woman has been in the situation where she’s not in the mood, but he can’t keep his hands off her. Many women will give in and give their guy some lovin’, but they’ll end up faking their orgasm so he thinks she’s satisfied. Hold up – it’s totally okay not to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your man. It’s okay to put out just for him, because he’ll get yours next time. What isn’t okay is letting your guy believe that whatever he did to give you the big “O” is what he needs to do every time…and the only person that suffers in that situation is you.

Myth #5 – If You’re Great In Bed, You’re Great With Everyone

A lot of people believe that if you’re really great in bed, you can rock anyone’s world. But everyone has a different idea of what great sex is and what it isn’t. Everyone likes something different between the sheets, and you can’t please everyone. Truth is, you can be really great at sex with one person and give them multiple orgasms in a single sex session, and the next person you sleep with, you can totally bomb out and wonder what the hell happened to your mad skills. If you’re in a relationship, focus on being the best for that person. If you’re single, just have fun!

Myth #6 – If He Cheated, He Doesn’t Care About You

Men have gotten a bad rap for being notorious cheaters. In fact, rumor has it that most men who cheat on their partners do it because they just don’t love them anymore. Right? Wrong! If your man cheats on you, chances are, he didn’t mean to. Ask him. He may have been drunk and in a compromising situation, where a woman was all over him and wouldn’t leave him alone. Or he may have thought he wanted something and then realized it was a very, very big mistake. Cheating is not the end of the road ladies, unless you’re absolutely sure that’s what you want. He may still love you and want to be with you – talk it through and ask him why. You might be surprised at what you hear.

What Women REALLY Want During Oral Sex

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Oral sex is something almost every woman loves – but many girls can be afraid to tell a man how they truly like it and what they want their guy to do when he’s down there. Next time you go down on your lady love, give her what she truly craves. Here’s what to do to push every single one of your girl’s hot buttons with oral sex and make her melt in your mouth.

Slow And Sensual

Many guys assume that because girls enjoy using vibrators while masturbating that they want their clitoris licked hard and fast. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Giving your partner slow and sensual oral sex is something no vibrator can do – and your lover will enjoy it so much more.

Instead of being tempted to lick quickly, flatten your tongue out and slowly lick her entire vulva from top to bottom, pausing to flick her clitoris or put pressure on it with your tongue. Don’t be in any rush – act like you could be down there all day without batting an eye.

Lick Everywhere

The clitoris is extremely sensitive and when stimulated, it can bring a woman to an incredible, leg shaking orgasm. However, just because this is the most sensitive spot on her vulva, it doesn’t mean that you have to keep your tongue there and only there. A woman secretly wants a man who isn’t afraid to put his tongue everywhere – in every nook and cranny. This is also a great way to get your girl to last longer – you can lick other parts of her vulva while she comes down from the brink of orgasm, after which, you’ll lick her clitoris again to get her close.

Instead of keeping your tongue in one area when going down on your lover, take your tongue and use it to explore every fold down there. Point your tongue and slip it into her vagina, and then lick up and down her labia. When combined with a slow and sensual approach, this will blow your lover’s mind.

Be Enthusiastic And Enjoy It

You don’t like getting a blowjob that seems like a chore for the girl doing it, do you? Of course not, and your girl doesn’t want to get half-ass oral sex either. Even if you’re not totally into it, at least put on a good show and act like you’d rather be doing nothing else in the whole world than bring your partner pleasure with your mouth.

When licking and sucking your partner into orgasmic frenzy, pretend as though you’re savoring something extra delicious. You can use flavored lubes or even dabs of chocolate or caramel sauce to make it more enjoyable for you. Show your lover that you’re totally into it and that you’re enjoying going down on her – not just to give her an orgasm, but because you just enjoy it.

G-Spot Stimulation

A blended orgasm can easily be achieved during oral sex by simply slipping your finger into your partner’s vagina and stimulating her g-spot. Since you’re licking her clitoris and rubbing her g-spot at the same time, she’s much more likely to have a blended orgasm than just a clitoral or g-spot orgasm alone.

Don’t start stimulating her g-spot right away. Give her oral sex for a few minutes first to get her nice and warmed up – this helps make her g-spot much, much easier to find. When you start fingering her, back off from using your tongue for a few minutes while you use your hands. Then, begin to lick her clitoris and stimulate her g-spot at the same time. This technique increases her chances of having a blended orgasm because she has time to feel each sensation individually and then together.

Anal Play

While some women don’t enjoy anal sex at all, others absolutely love it. If your girl enjoys anal sex, try to incorporate a little anal play next time you go down on your lover. You don’t necessarily have to use a sex toy or even a finger for insertion – the nerve endings on the outside of the anus are sensitive enough that licking or touching the outside of the anus during oral sex will send your partner over the moon.

If you’re not averted to trying analingus, make licking her anus part of the “licking everywhere” technique. If you’d rather not put your tongue down there, try simply rubbing it or pushing against it with one of your fingers while you lick her clitoris.