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How To Leave A Message & Get A Return Call

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You’ve been dating and you’ve got someone’s number. Congratulations! You’re riding the high but you’ve yet to actually call them – what if you get their voicemail? Getting the answering machine make most people lock up, stutter and leave the most awkward messages. What kind of message do you need to leave to get a return call? If you’ve struck out in the past and have left voicemails that don’t get callbacks, here’s how you can leave a message and get a call back – every time!

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Speak Slowly And Clearly

When leaving a voicemail, whether you’re phone dating or calling a number that you’ve scored, it’s important to speak slowly and clearly so you can be understood. When people get stuck with the answering machine instead of the person they want to be dating, they tend to get very nervous clam up. They may not speak at all for several minutes, or they may talk so fast that they’ll never be understood. Speak normally, but slowly and clearly enough that the person listening can understand each word that you’re saying. Just don’t talk too slowly, or the person that’s listening may actually think you’re “slow!”

Leave Your Phone Number

You would be surprised at how many people get nervous and forget to leave who they are or their phone number in the message. If you have to, write it down. Sure, you know your own name and phone number but it’s easy to get so nervous that you forget to say it. Also, remember to say where you met them at the beginning of the call and repeat your phone number again at the end of the call. It may unnerve you to think that they may have forgotten who you are or where they met you from, but we all get busy and things slip from time to time. If they don’t remember where they met you, you’re probably not getting a call back. If you leave a long message, the person listening to it may not have the time to rewind it and listen to the phone number again. Saying your number again at the end of the voicemail gives whoever you want to be dating the opportunity to write it down after they’ve had a chance to listen to who you are and where they know you from.

Practice What You’re Going To Say First

It’s easy to get really nervous during different steps in the dating process, especially if you’ve never talked to the object of your affection before. If you’re super nervous, practice what you’re going to say before you actually make the call. You want to sound confident and casual, not scared and stuttering! Even if you’re a pretty chill person, the pressure is totally on after the beep. Your confidence will suddenly drop and you may not remember what you were going to say! Making a few notes about what you’re going to say before you make the call and having them in front of you when you dial will make it easier for you to leave a great message.

Let Them Know You Like Them

How many times have you left a message letting someone know who you are, where you met them and what your phone number is – but have forgotten to let whoever you’re calling know that you really like them and enjoyed meeting them? Lots of people forget how important telling someone you’re into them is, which often leads to getting stuck in the friend zone instead of actually dating them. Don’t be afraid to let someone know that you like them and you’d like to meet them again or schedule a first date with them. Just be honest about how you feel!

Don’t Be Afraid To Call Back

After leaving a voicemail, give it a few days and if you don’t hear from them, call again. There’s no “phone dating rule” that says you can’t call more than once. Lots of things can happen to sabotage your message actually getting through (in its entirety) to the person you’re looking to start dating. They might not have gotten the message if their voicemail was full, or your phone – or theirs – may have cut out before they got to write down your entire number and they’re not sure how to get a hold of you. The message may have accidentally been deleted, or they simply may have listened to it, meant to call you back and just forgot. There’s no shame in calling again to see if the message actually went through. Just don’t end up on the stalker list – calling back more than a few times is a little creepy.

Dating Tips: What Are The Best Pick Up Lines?

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When dating, coming up with pick up lines isn’t always an easy thing to do. It can be extremely difficult to think of something when you’re trying to approach a woman, especially if you’re very nervous or jittery. You may be tempted to use a “canned” pick up line that you read on the Internet or heard from a friend, because it’s easier than coming up with something on your own when you’ve been put on the spot. However, those puick up lines rarely work and often serve to get you rejected by the girl you’re trying to ask out. Check out these great tips on the best pick up lines and how to successfully ask a girl out.

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Be In The Moment

The best pick up lines come naturally. They come from the heart and are sincere. They’re not canned statements that can be used on any girl – they’re intelligent statements about your surroundings, what is going on and who you’re with. Most women don’t respond to manufactured pick up lines when dating – and not to worry, a girl can smell a fake pick up line from across the room. Rest assured that any cheesy statements will get you rejected! Instead of using canned pick up lines when dating, be “in the moment” and talk to the girl you’re asking out about what is going on around you. Ask her a question, compliment her in a genuine and sincere way or tease her with a giant smile on your face. Avoid making a comment about her physical appearance, especially her body. Gorgeous women are told all the time that they are gorgeous – they want a guy to make an effort to get to know her and value her for her intelligence, not the way she looks.

Be Yourself

When dating, it is important (crucial, in fact) that you be yourself instead of trying to be someone else. Not only will trying to be someone you think girls will like make you feel uncomfortable and out of place, people are going to see it on you right away. If you’re not relaxed and “in your own skin,” you’re not going to look natural when you ask a girl out. You’re going to look nervous and cheesy, and it’s going to be completely obvious to the girl you’re talking to that you’re not being yourself. When talking to a woman, be honest about your hobbies, your work and your opinions about things. Don’t try to tell her what you think she wants to hear, because you’re most likely going to be wrong on that count. You should also make a point to ask her honest questions about her life, her interests and hobbies and her opinions about things. Listen to what she says and do your best to show her that you’re genuinely interested. Women want their voice to be heard and want a guy that will take and interest in what interests them!

Practice Makes Perfect

If you’re shy, dating definitely doesn’t come naturally to you. For shy guys, dating and talking to new people can be downright torturous. You can, however, learn how to get more comfortable with dating and meeting people. The best way to comfortable with meeting new people and talking to them is to get some practice at it. “Practicing” is actually a pretty simple concept, but the hard part comes when you have to actually get out of your comfort zone. Try going out and meeting people! Go to a bar, a bookstore, a fast food restaurant or the park – go anywhere where there are people and make a point to say hello to as many people as you can. Bonus points if you can actually strike up an interesting conversation with someone! When you practice meeting new people, you’ll be much more comfortable when asking a girl out. If you’re comfortable in new social situations, you’re not going to need pick up lines to meet women!

Have Confidence In Yourself

The best way to be successful in dating is to have self confidence. Being confident in yourself is something that shows through in the way you talk, the way you carry yourself and how you appear to other people. Women don’t generally gravitate towards men that are shy, that hang their head down and wait for someone to approach them. Women are attracted to men who are conversational, personable and who eminate self assurance and self confidence. Just be careful not to appear too cocky, because men who give off a “cocky vibe” will definitely not succeed in dating!

3 Surprisingly Romantic Things To Do On A Date

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Flirting and being romantic is easy, but the challenge to men all over the world is coming up with ideas that will make a date exciting. Every woman who’s worth a second look has probably been on dates before, and it’s safe to say that quite a few of them have seen it all. From movie dates to coffee dates, to simple walks around town – she has probably done most of these things with her other dates.

Even if she is not the type to have gone on various dates, you still have to be at your romantic best when you’re out with her. Creating the perfect date takes some effort, but you don’t have to aim for perfection (and do away with the pressure). You can settle for ‘extremely romantic date’ instead.

Blow Bubbles

Here’s a romantic date idea that won’t break the bank. Small bubble tubes (the kind that kids play with) are cheap, so bring a few if you’re planning on just walking around the park while talking and flirting. You can use the bubble tube when you’re sitting on a park bench or on the grass doing nothing but talk and relax.

The romantic part is using the bubbles as a tool for learning about each other. Share one story per bubble blow, or punctuate the end of a story with a stream of bubbles. In a park, during the day, bubbles float upward, which could be quite a sight if you and your woman are feeling sentimental and romantic.

Firecrackers

An alternative to blowing bubbles is lighting firecrackers. This is for those night time dates when you’re outside and you just feel like stargazing together. Small firecrackers are inexpensive, and they can be quite pretty to look at when you’re just sitting around doing nothing but sit close together.

Summertime weather is perfect for lighting small sparklers that only stay lighted for a few minutes. This activity will make any date feel like it’s the fourth of July.

Karaoke

Some guys think that singing karaoke is too passé, too corny and too common. I say they haven’t tried it one-on-one with a special lady. This is your chance to know what kind of music she likes best, and which songs mean a lot to her. Music has a way of making a woman feel deeper emotions. At the very least, you will be able to make her laugh and turn it into an opportunity for fun flirting with your singing.

Rent a karaoke box somewhere for more privacy. If you live alone or your parents are out, you can go for frisky karaoke. Making out cannot be avoided in a karaoke singing session, when she’s acting seductive while singing a love song to you. Pull your weight by singing something romantic, like ‘Michelle’ by the Beatles or some other classic love song.

3 “Cool” Ways To Stare At A Woman You Like

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When you see a beautiful lady, your first instinct is to stop and look, right? Why not? I know it’s awkward to look at a girl for too long – but this is an incredibly effective seduction technique if done correctly.

Yeah, you don’t want to get caught staring. You don’t want to offend her. Sometimes, you even imagine she can “tell what you’re thinking” and might think you only want her for her body.

The truth is, most women can’t stand being stared at. In fact, the men who stare at them are automatically unattractive to them. However, there are a few ways you can look at a lady and get away without a scratch. In fact, you can look at any woman in these three ways and turn her ON, instead of turning her off.

You’re about to discover how to seduce her with just your eyes (you don’t even need to say a word while you’re looking.) Best of all – these seduction tips make it impossible to “get caught.”

Why Women Are Turned On By Vampires

They are masters of seduction – but why?

Have you ever owned a puppy, or knew someone who owned a puppy? Then you know how much puppies love to have their stomachs rubbed. Do you know why? Well, it’s because there are a whole bunch of nerves on a puppy’s stomach that don’t usually get touched. So a soft touch on this super sensitive part of their body makes them go wild.

How’s this relate to women? Well, the stomach is a sensitive area of YOUR body, as well. Try it out, lightly touch yourself on the stomach. You can really feel it, can’t you? Truth is, there’s another area on your body JUST as vulnerable, sensual and sensitive as your stomach. It’s your neck. The female neck is also a very SEXUAL area of her body, even more than her vagina or clitoris, because she puts perfume on it, loves getting kissed there, and makes sure it looks sexy in any dress she wears.

So what if you stared at her neck, while you two were having an intimate conversation while dating? Here’s what happens: She starts thinking about her neck. And she starts FEELING your eyes on her body. This starts to send the same emotional signals to her brain that get sent when she gets kissed on her neck.

In this respect, staring at her neck while you two are sharing an intimate moment is the same as gently kissing or nibbling on her neck and it has the same effect ON HER BODY.

So try this seduction technique. Next time there’s a two second break in your conversation, take those seconds watch the nape of her neck. She’ll get off on it. And you’ll give her an emotional experience no man she’s ever met has given her, before.

Making Eye Contact

Being able to master eye contact is absolutely critical in the art of seduction (seduction really is an art)! It builds trust, because prolonged eye contact (longer than 3 seconds) releases the bonding chemical oxytocin. And this is the same chemical released when you two are cuddling in bed after sex. It’s in much smaller quantities – of course – but it still has an amazing effect.

However, “too much” eye contact can be intimidating and down right creepy! Ever had a boss “stare you down?” It’s a miserable feeling. So what should you do with your eyes, if you’ve had “too much” eye contact? How about you turn her on?

Try this incredibly effective seduction technique next time your on a date.

Take your eyes, and lightly dart down to her lips. Just for a second. And then look at different parts of her face, like her cheeks… the corners of her eyes, her temples, and other parts of her face. Your goal is to look at any part of her face you’d like to kiss. Because, like in the example before, a strong look on a certain part of your body releases the same emotions and chemicals as a light kiss does.

So “placing” your eyes on her face like you’d place your lips will get her imagining you kissing her face. And all of the bonding emotions that releases will make your first date – or even your relationship – much, much stronger.

How To Make Awkward Pauses Sexy

What can you do when you have a few seconds without speaking when you’re dating? It’s easy – look deep into her eyes. This builds a HUGE amount of romance and sexual tension.

Most of the time, men try to “fix” an awkward pause with a joke or something to diffuse the tension. This comes across as try hard, and is never attractive to women. However, just looking into her eyes tells her you’re OK with silences. You’re OK just being yourself around her. And this is extremely attractive to women.

Imagine a girl saying, “Hey. I feel like I can be myself around you. You just make me feel comfortable.” That’s the sign you’re sending to her. And that’s the message she CRAVES when she’s dating a strong man, like you.

Dating Tips – How To Have Multiple Girlfriends And Be Honest About It

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Having multiple girlfriends is something single guys (and even men in relationships) dream about. Unfortunately for them, dating more than one girlfriend isn’t something that is achieved easily. Most guys try to lie about it, but they always get found out – leaving them alone with no one to date at all. It is possible, however, to have more than one girlfriend at a time without lying or cheating – here’s how!

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Be Truthful With Each Girl

If you want to have multiple girlfriends, you’re going to have to be completely, 100% truthful with each girl that you’re seeing. Let each one know that you’re dating other people and you’re not going to be exclusive. That way, if she’s looking for an exclusive relationship, she can look for one elsewhere before you both have too much time and emotion invested into a relationship that really isn’t going to be a relationship at all. Yes, this is difficult to do because some women will look at you like you’ve grown feet on your head and others will walk right out on you. However, the right girls won’t mind that you’re looking for a casual relationship and are seeing other people. They’ll be interested in casual dating too and will truly appreciate that you were completely forthcoming about your other girlfriends from the get go.

Let Her Know That You Like Her

In addition to being open with each girlfriend that you have, another trick to seeing  more than one woman is to let each girl know that you really do like her or love her. It’s ok to like or love more than one girl at a time, so don’t be afraid to tell a woman that you love her if you also have romantic feelings for someone else that you’re dating. Women by nature want to feel loved and cherished, and if you make each girlfriend feel like they are important to you and mean something to you, they’ll be more apt to stick around, even if you are romancing more than one woman.

Be Discreet About Your Dating Habits

When you have multiple girlfriends, it’s important that you keep your dating habits to yourself. Yes, you’ve been genuine with each woman that you date that you’re not in an exclusive relationship with them, but that doesn’t mean that any of the girls you’re dating want to see evidence of your relationships with other women. Don’t have pictures of you and your multiple girlfriends in your home (that is, if you bring any of your dates to your house) and don’t post pictures on social websites such as Facebook or MySpace. This will only lead to trouble and more trouble! Even if you do have multiple girlfriends, if you make each woman feel as though she is your only girl (even though they know it’s not true), you will have much more success than if you make them feel as though they’re not the only one. This truly is the key to seeing more than one woman at a time – if you can make each one feel special, loved and important, you’re in the clear.

What To Do If You Want To Become Exclusive

If you decide that you want to have an exclusive relationship with one of the women you’re dating, it’s important that you let each one of your multiple girlfriends know immediately. Don’t wait, and don’t continue dating them if you truly just want to be in a relationship with only one of them. It may be difficult to let your girlfriends know that you don’t want to see them anymore, but it will allow them to move on with their own lives and search out relationships of their own. It will also help you to be frank with the girl that you’ve chosen to be with, so you can let her know that you’ve decided you want to be with her and only her. A break up is a difficult thing and you’ll have more than one on your hands, but that’s one of the caveats of having multiple girlfriends. You may also want to give yourself some time apart from your chosen significant other – if you had any emotional attachments to the other women you were with, you’re going to have some post-break up blues for a little while. You don’t want to let your significant other see the emotions you have about breaking up with the other women because she may doubt that you made the right choice and that you want to be with her and only her.