Dating Tips – Page 39

How To Meet Women

When it comes to dating, if you are not approaching and striking up conversations with women during the day, you are missing out!

Many people think that in order to meet a woman, you need to go to a bar or club. This is simply not the case when it comes to meeting and dating quality women. There is a hesitation many people face when it comes to talking to an attractive girl during day-to-day activities. If you feel this way, you are really limiting yourself to the women you could meet in your life.

Meeting a women in the day time is an interesting concept because it takes the element of “pick up,” that one generally associates with a bar or club, and applies it to stores and street venues. What is partiality intriguing though, is if you asked any girl how they envision meeting their dream guy, it never seems to take place in a nighttime venue. Girls will always go on describe a random occurrence at a coffee shop or mall, where the man of their dream just falls into their life and a connection is made.

The Hollywood Effect

Thanks to the picture that books, movies, and television has created, women have the fantasy that they will meet a man for them while going about their day-to-day activities. This perhaps explains why a woman will always put more work into her appearance before going out on a series of errands. If a woman expects to be out and about for than more than an hour, then you can bet they dress to impress (or at least shower and apply make up, unlike what can be said about some of our male counterparts).

It can easily be assumed that women want to be approached during the daytime thanks to the fantasies that they have imagined. This is why it is not uncommon to see a girl doing schoolwork by herself at a Starbucks, or hanging around longer than needed in a Café. She probably did not need to leave her apartment to get work done, yet she got herself put together to be presentable during the day time before going out.

If a women puts all that effort into their presentation before going out, it seems safe to assume that they are indeed meeting men they are interested in during the daytime. Or at least for mindset purposes, assume this is true and your actions will reflect it. Yet it still seems that women flock to bars and clubs as a means of meeting men, now why do you think that is?

Approaching Women During The Day

Let me ask you a question, how many times a day do you think a beautiful women gets approached by a man that attempt to spark a conversation with her?

3 times?

5 times?

Or even a better question, how many times a week do you think she gets approached?

5 times?

10 times?

After interviewing some of the most beautiful women I have met in cities like New York City and Miami as well as asking my close attractive female friends that go out on a day to day basis (for example they always does their school work at Starbucks) I found that they all gave me the same number when it came to approaches from men during the daytime.

Each of these women are NEVER approached by men during the day time! It’s that simple. When I asked if there was ever a time a guy came up and tried to start a conversation with them they all drew a blank. Sure they would get the occasional once over from guys walking by, or maybe a rude sex remark yelled from a distance. But when it came to them doing their day-to-day activities, not so much as a simple “Hey, what’s up?” has ever been extended their way.

Taking The “Daytime” Dating Approach

We have to face the fact men are simply not approaching women during the daytime, yet women prepare themselves for the off chance that it may happen. It is even fair to say that women are more ready and susceptible to a man’s approach than they are at a bar or club. All their guards are down and there is that subtle fantasy that one day a man will genuinely spark a conversation with her and they will have a real connection.

So if you are not already approaching and chatting up women during your day to day activities, just think that myself, and all the single ladies in the world are encouraging you to take advantage of this untapped resource when it comes to meeting and dating women.

Friend Zone Damage Control

By vindicarlo

When dating, beware of the “Friend Zone” – we have all been in it, and it sucks. Despite all the glorious positions you can be in with a women, there is one that no man wants to be in. When placed in it by a woman, you lose all romantic interest in her eyes. You become a sexual non-entity with the arousing powers of her own brother, or a lampshade. Once you’re there, she’s not going to be interested in dating you.

As you gain more experience with women, you will find yourself in the friend zone less and less and will learn many ways to preemptively stop yourself from winding up in it. However, that is not what I am going to get into with this article. Instead I am going to share some ways that you can remove yourself once being placed in it.

Be Willing To Lose The Friendship

The first step to getting out of the friend zone is that you have to be willing to lose her completely. One thing I have learned in my years managing relationships with women is that two people who are platonic don’t sleep with each other. You will not be able to go after her if you are afraid to lose her, doing so will only plant you deeper in it. So what’s the most important step?

Make Yourself Less Available

One of the main reasons you probably got placed in the friend zone in the first place (instead of dating her) is because you made yourself overly available. You constantly made plans to hang out with her without making a move. The longer you hang out with a girl without hooking up, the higher the chance you will be placed in it. So what do you do? Get away from her. Distance yourself and for a little bit stop making an effort to hang out with her. If she is a real “friend” she should be making an effort to hang out with you. You’re soon going to realize that she probably won’t be setting up a time to hang out anytime soon.

As time goes by she will become in touch with you. If not, you can slowly re-engage but this time with a different approach. For example, do not be her therapist. Do not give her advice for how to deal with her problems. If you need listen, only do so mockingly. You are no longer a shoulder to cry on and have no need to feel sorry for her problems. She is a big girl, she will figure it out.

Keep Your Options Open

In the mean time you should be talking to or dating other girls. Not to make her jealous, but to create other opportunity for yourself. Only once you have emotionally removed yourself from the girl you are in the friend zone with, will she start chasing you. Also, this is a great time to work on staying out of it with new girls.

Time is beneficial to you here and use it to your advantage. I’m talking about going months without being in touch. It may seem harsh but if you want her that bad, this is what it takes.

After making yourself scarce to her you have opened up a window to change the frame of the relationship. Start sending her mixed signals by escalating touch and showing interest in dating her. Do not be afraid to start flirting with her. You have not talked to her for a while, you want to come back seeming like a different, more sexual person.

Change Your Goals

You want to be coming from the mindset that you want her, but it does not matter if you get her. Remember, you can’t be afraid to lose her. In fact if you are doing any of this to just try and “get her,” it is not going to work. Stop trying to get her. It may take a few months to get out of the mindset where you are trying to be the guy for her, but only then will you be able to start dating her. And at that point it is up to you to decide if you really want her.

If you honestly have a strong friendship with a girl and you really don’t want to ruin it with dating, then you need to accept you will never hook up with her. But you need to ask yourself, is your spending time with her just another hope for you to hook up out of some miracle, or is for your own enjoyment. Remember, people who are platonic don’t sleep together. But if they do, they can become friends that have sex.

The Dating Guide To Picking Up Women

By rebeccamills

When dating, most men have got it all wrong and we will correct those dating mistakes here. I think this quote sums it up: My boyfriend used to ask his mother, ‘How can I find the right woman for me?’ and she would answer, ‘Don’t worry about finding the right woman – concentrate on becoming the right man.’” And that is exactly what you will be.

When you look good, feel great, and give off that positive vibe, women will naturally be drawn to your charm. Gone are the days of you begging her for her number or stalking her at work. Just keep these tips in mind:

No Wash-o-Phobia Guys

First off, make sure you are clean and that you smell great. You are not a college guy sharing his dorm with fraternity brothers whose noses are practically desensitized. Keep in mind that dating women requires great hygiene, especially if you want the woman to get her body near yours. A few drops of cologne would be great but please, make sure that the cologne does not bombard her nose with overpowering scent.

Queer Eye For A Straight Guy

Nope. We are not telling you to be metrosexual or anything close to that. Being metrosexual can be a little overbearing for woman, especially if man takes longer to get ready than she does. Good grooming and hygiene are essential, but don’t over do it.

Mr. Smooth

Rather than indulge in any arrogant or aggressive dating approach, take it slow and be smooth. Try to establish eye contact before the approach. Do not just barge in or the woman would think you are an arrogant thug who thinks he is God’s gift to women. Eye contact allows you to assess if the woman is interested. If she looks at you and maintains her gaze, your loins are in for some surprise. If she stares away, do not even bother. Your chances are slim and you are just about as good as Steve Buscemi trying to squeeze a date out of Charlize Theron. Dude, no freaking way.

Your Are Not Ramesses, The Great Pharaoh

Now, we assume that every girl in a bar is with another girl who happens to be lovely as well. Or maybe, there are three or four girls in the group and all of them are pretty. When you make your approach, concentrate on only one woman. You are not a pharaoh in his harem of marvellously good looking girls. Avoid flirting with too many women, or at least don’t be so obvious about it. And without any doubt, do not approach her friends if she has blown you off. Women are fiercely loyal to their friends – and you’re better off heading on to new pastures.

V is for Victory, Not Verbose

Stop pretending to be an eloquent speaker. Get rid of the cliché pick up lines that you learned in high school, a time when you were just trying to understand the female body, let alone her mind! Pick up lines are uncool and will drive your woman to the other side of the world. What matters is your sincerity to converse. Talk to her about things that she is interested in and you shall definitely stand out head and shoulders from the pack. There is nothing more important to a woman than to be listened to and appreciated.

How To Seduce A Woman

By loveandsex

Seduction is a series of well thought out moves that show that you’re interested in a woman and also serve to entice her to become interested in you as well. Sometimes seduction happens on its own, but most of the time, it’s something a guy has to make an effort to do. However, seduction doesn’t always come naturally to a lot of guys and most of the time, there is a lot of room for improvement in techniques. Here are some great seduction suggestions that will turn up the heat between you and your love interest.

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Take One Step At A Time

Most women like to take things slow when getting to know a guy, so if you want to use seduction to get a girl, make an effort to take baby steps. Don’t lean in for the first kiss if you haven’t even held her hand yet, or don’t pressure her to have sex with you if you haven’t kissed her. Start with small things such as touching her knee or rubbing her shoulders and slowly work your way up to the bigger things like kissing, paying attention to her reactions each step of the way. Her reactions to your actions are what will give you clues on when to move forward and try something else. They will also show you when you’re not hitting the right mark and when you need to try a different seduction tactic.

Build Anticipation

Think of seduction as a dance where things move back and forth between you and the girl you’re interested. Seduction is not a “charge” where you brush by her to cop a feel right away or start suggesting sex within just a few minutes of meeting a girl. Build up the sexual tension by doing things like leaning towards them for a kiss and then moving back or pretending to be slightly distracted by something. Women love anticipation, especially when the end result is just as rewarding as the parts leading up to it. Many guys make the mistake of rushing things and don’t put in the effort to create that “dance” of seduction by building up and releasing tension. When done well, building up your partner’s anticipation will help heat things up between the two of you.

Move Smoothly And Slowly

When using seduction to woo a woman and get her interested in you, it’s essential that you take your time. A lot of guys get nervous and rush through the movements, skipping over creating the necessary foundation for a woman to be attracted to a man. If you make a lot of surprising, jarring moves, you’re going to make your date nervous too. Don’t do anything completely unexpected or shocking, because you’ll end up causing her to feel uncomfortable and awkward – which definitely won’t get you anywhere.

Seduction involves lots of slow, well planned moves that appear smooth and create an aura of comfort and predictability. With the right techniques, you and your partner will slowly but steadily move through the different stages of seduction and dating.

Reading Her Body Language

A girl isn’t always going to tell you when your seduction tactics are working and when they’re not. Since you’re not a mind reader, it’s important to read a woman’s body language. While she may not put her feelings into words, she’ll definitely show you what’s going on in her mind through her body language. If she seems responsive to your actions, such as touching you a lot, laughing at your jokes and making lots of eye contact with you, it’s a pretty safe bet that she’s as into you as you are her. The closer she gets to you, the more you know you’re ready to move on to the next step in the game of seduction.

If she seems to be giving you the cold shoulder, it’s likely that’s exactly what she’s trying to do. A girl that isn’t interested in you isn’t going to be laughing at your jokes or making excuses to be physically close to you. She may even be crossing her arms or looking directly away from you.

The most important thing to remember when it comes to seduction is to have fun, relax and be yourself. Seducing a woman doesn’t involve pretending to be someone you’re not, because that will almost always backfire. Even if it doesn’t, you’re building a girl’s attraction to you on a foundation of dishonesty. Women will always appreciate a guy that is relaxed and is comfortable enough in his own skin to be himself. Go with the flow and keep it lighthearted!

5 Dating Mistakes That Men Make With Women

By loveandsex

Dating problems are easy to create, but great girls are hard to find. So when you do find one, don’t ruin your chances by making deadly mistakes. Remember, attractive ladies are used to dating a lot of guys, so they know what’s going on. The result? They’ll disappear before you realize you’ve done anything wrong. Here are 5 things that many guys do that blow their chances with their girlfriend, and how to avoid them.

Sharing Your Feelings With Her Too Early

When you announce that you love her, you lose the mystery, the magic and the chase. Remember that the early stages of dating should always remain casual. Only after you get to know each other really well should you pursue anything further. It’s also worth mentioning that you can’t logically convince someone to fall in love with you either. Falling in love is a process that happens outside the conscious mind remember that.

Trying To Push It Too Far Too Soon

It’s natural to wonder about your future together but remember, if you start talking about marriage after only 12 months, you could ruin your chances to take things further. Just because you like a particular girl doesn’t mean you should rush things any faster than they should naturally progress. Think about your friends and how the natural progress of friendship happens. Rarely do you meet someone and feel eager to become best buddies over night. As a general rule: slower is better.

Being Too Available

You might think “saying you’re busy” is playing a mind game or being manipulative. Well let me tell you something: everything you do is manipulation. We always act a certain way to try and achieve a certain outcome. The best way to come across naturally is to ACTUALLY BE BUSY. Get involved in life and don’t make your new girlfriend the center of your attention. This is simply a reminder to be who you were before you met the girl of your dreams and continue to be that person, rather than use trickery. Remember that your busy, interesting and fun life only has so much time for her, no matter how much you like her. And remember, ladies love a challenge and mystery, so this actually works in your favor.

Not Being Yourself And Seeking Approval

Girls love dating confident guys with a strong sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, guys often try to guess how the woman wants them to act and try to accommodate her mold, which leaves very little room for your own personality to shine. Be comfortable being you. Showing that you’re not scared to be yourself is very attractive and very refreshing for others.

Buying Gifts For Her

While buying gifts “looks” like a nice gesture, the underlying message is, “I want you to like me, so here’s this expensive thing.” Don’t do it. Gifts are for couples in long term relationships. Buying them too early can have the opposite effect to what you want.