Dating Tips – Page 8

What To Avoid Writing About In Your Online Dating Proﬁle!

Online dating can be a great way to meet women in your area if you do not have the opportunities to meet them in your everyday life. However, your online dating profile should convey the proper emotions. Here are some emotions that you should avoid when creating your profile.

Don’t Use Pity

If women read about your problems, how depressed you are or how life sucks, they want to get away. They want to close the browser, hit a video sharing site and watch a clip of Friends or Seinfeld, or do something that will erase the feeling of depression they got when they read your proﬁle. If you remind them that life is painful, there’s trouble around and the world will probably come tumbling down anytime soon, you’re going to drive them away. You don’t want that. But, Dave, all I have are painful experiences. How can I avoid talking about these with online dating sites?

There’s a thin line between empathy and pity, and if you can’t prevent yourself from mentioning something painful, you have to be extremely aware of this thin line. You can “mention” a painful past, but avoid talking about it at length. Dishing the dirt about your bad experiences will make it seem like you’re not yet over them. Instead, write about how your pain strengthened your spirit and turned you into the man you are now.

You have to understand that the girl who’s reading your proﬁle page might have gone through the same things. But, like you, she wants to get over these bad experiences and see them in a good way. Talk about the lessons you’ve learned, and how you’re progressing rapidly into a better life. Remember that strength of character and confidence is a heavy aphrodisiac to women this is what they really mean when they say a man is “strong”.

Don’t Convey Anger

Like it or not, we can’t choose who views our proﬁle in dating sites. The girls who will ﬁnd you there will be from all walks of life, and from any social level. They will have different belief systems, religions, political leanings, convictions. This means you have to take care not to mention something that will strike at a person’s inner core.

There’s a difference between being bold, edgy and unapologetic, and being downright rude will never get you a first date. If you’re unsure about which issues can anger a person, check the terms and conditions of the site you’re in, or think about the unwritten rules of the internet in general.

Issues such as hatred, violence, profanity, discrimination against race, gender and religion or political beliefs can spark a heated argument anywhere, and the virtual world is no exception. Besides, implying that you’re into these things will make her feel like she’s meeting a psycho and you don’t want that.

Don’t Be Boring

The worst emotion in the world is boredom, or ennui, the deﬁnition of which is “a feeling of listlessness and general dissatisfaction resulting from lack of activity or excitement.” When you describe yourself as average, normal, plain you will not meet women that you actually want to date.

She will feel bored and move on to ﬁnd some other proﬁle that will make her feel something, anything. Don’t get me wrong. You might think of yourself as average, normal or plain, but she doesn’t know that you feel that way.

Saying it out loud will plant the impression inside her head. Listen, women want to meet somebody who’s going to make their life more interesting and more fun.

The 10 First Date Commandments

By dicksinthecity

The first date is crucial – it can determine whether you will be seeing this person again or not. Here’s the ten essentials you CANNOT ignore!

What She Said:

First Date Commandments 1-7

1. Thou shalt not keep your phone on the table.

You need to give your full attention to your date. Do not text, call or check your email. If you must text a friend, do it in the ladies room.

2. Thou shalt ask him questions about his family

You are an extraordinary creature and so is he. Do not spend the whole date talking about yourself, makes sure you ask him questions and get to know him on a more personal level.

3. Thou shalt offer to pay half

Chivalry is not dead and its super sweet when a guy will pay for the tab but common sense isn’t dead either and you should never expect a man to pay. Even if he did ask you out, a woman should offer to pay or buy a round of drinks or leave the tip.

4. Thou shalt not talk about your ex boyfriend

Or any past relationships for that matter. A first date is a time to start new and fresh. The guy does not want to hear how your past relationships went sour or hear you bad mouth your ex. Past relationships is more 3 or 4th date material.

5. Thou shalt not get drunk

A drink or two might be just what you need to calm your nerves but getting smashed on a first date is never a good thing. By all means, have fun but do not get to the point of slurring your speech or misplacing your items, keep it classy. Besides, few first dates that end in puking have a second date.

6. Thou shalt brag about oneself

There is a huge difference between being cocky and being proud of you. A first date is a great time to share with him some of your accomplishments, career and socially. Show him that you have a pride in yourself and what you are doing. Also share what you hope to achieve in the future.

You don’t need to rattle off your resume, but you should be an alpha male. A girl who has a passion for something is always a turn on.

7. Thou shalt not treat a date like a therapy session

Maybe your roommate is a slob, or your mom yelled at you or your co-workers are lazy. A first date is not the time to vent all of this. You want to keep the conversation lively and positive not negative. You also don’t want him to think that he needs to somehow make things better or fix you.

What He Said:

First Date Commandments 8-10

There’s only ten first date commandments in the article, and she takes six. Is that the most sexist thing ever, or is the most sexist thing of all time? You decide.

8. Thou shall not read into everything.

Yes, first dates are basically interviews. With alcohol. And sex appeal (hopefully). And while it is only natural to evaluate your potential romantic partner and be aware for red flags, it shouldn’t feel like they’re sitting across the table from an IRS auditor or a CIA operative.

Try not to turn this date into an interrogation. Don’t let this feel like it’s a bank loan application, you know? You need to know a little about the person, not a lot. You aren’t filing taxes jointly, you’re just trying to figure out if you both want a second date.

9. Thou shall not be yourself.

Look, no one wants to date you. You can’t be yourself and expect to get laid or get a second date. You need to be your best self if you want the guy, the girl, and/or the booty.

Being your best self, doesn’t mean you’re lying to them or pretending to be someone or something you’re not, it means that you are on your best behavior, using confidence and at the absolute top of your game. If you’re not, why bother?

10. Thou shall not over-complicate things.  

Men are not women. They do not have a hidden agenda. They want to find out if they want to bang you, and if you’re cool enough to be around when they’re not, and if it’s going to be too much trouble or if they will have to jump through too many hoops to get in your pants. That’s it.

Women are slightly more complicated, so to speak, but you’re not building the space station here. You’re trying to evaluate the other person and see if you want to move forward.

It’s just a date. If it’s good, or bad, it’s just a date. Do not be afraid of rejection. It should be fun, above all else, and if this one doesn’t go well, there’s always the next one!

The Big Conversation Mistake 90% Of Men Make!

By loveandsex

Flirting can lead to big mistakes. The biggest mistake men make when interacting with beautiful women is talking in a monotonous, emotionless, dull “filling in time” way. While starting conversations with women seems hard enough, it appears even more daunting to keep a interesting, fun conversation going.

Don’t Change Your Behavior

When men hang around with their friends they laugh, make jokes, have fun and don’t take things too seriously. But for some reason, when a man finds himself interested in a beautiful woman, he usually becomes very reserved. He stops laughing. He stops making jokes. He stops teasing. He stops having fun. He stops being flirtatious.

When in the presence of a potential date, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe he has with his friends, he suddenly becomes boring. He won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, he won’t play around like he does with his friends, and he takes things way too seriously.

Why do men change their behavior around women? They usually don’t’ even realizing they are doing it. The reason is that men are so afraid of losing their only chance with a particular woman that they turn into “Mr. Serious.” Don’t mistaken this for confidence.

Men get so nervous talking to beautiful women that they lose all creativity and can’t make interesting conversation. Fearful that they might say something rude or challenging, they resort to boring “walking on egg shells” conversations, which results in no emotion.

Remember This Simple Law

While men can tell you that it’s important to not be boring when you try to meet women, they often don’t even realize when they’re doing it.

1. When you fear loosing a woman you become cautious
2. When you’re cautious you become serious
3. When you’re serious you become boring
4. When you’re boring women aren’t attracted
5. When women aren’t attracted you don’t get a date

Men have such a strong “I must have this girl” attitude that the more they have physical attraction to a woman, the more serious and boring they become in their poor attempts to date them.

Don’t Beg Her!

Although films and television strongly encourage the idea of begging women, it doesn’t work. These values are used to evoke emotions for the movie audience, and in people take it to heart and buy into the idea that this behavior will lead to success. It always seems like Mr. Romantic is doing the right thing by standing outside a balcony window every night singing love songs, reading poetry and bringing flowers until his dream girl finally falls in love with him.

While these actions may seem romantic and work in movies, we don’t live in the movies; we live in the real world. Women can smell manipulative men ten miles away and have no respect for their child-like behavior.

3 Little Gestures That Will Seduce ANY Stripper!

By deancortez

A stripper will require a lot of comfort. Displaying chivalrous behavior is a quality most customers don’t possess. This isn’t hard. It basically means treating her like a lady. The fact that they’re dancers causes most guys to treat these girls as sex objects, to be ogled and groped.

Strippers are so used to this behavior in the club that they play it off and laugh (unless the guy is being too aggressive). It’s part of the job. But that doesn’t mean they like it.

A stripper will encounter a lot of aggressive, obnoxious customers who love the “power shift” that takes place inside a strip club. But when you present yourself as a laid-back gentleman, you’ll make her feel comfortable and safe with you, and her attraction has a chance to grow.

One act of chivalry is all it takes: a small gesture that shows you respect her as lady and are a protector (rather than a customer, who only cares about his own needs being met). Here are some quick examples of the right actions and body language.

1. Offer Her A Seat

When she sits down next to you, say, “Your feet must be sore from walking around in those heels. Here, give them a rest.” Then, pull up a chair and have her place her feet on them. Or, call to your waitress and have her bring over another chair for your dancer to rest her feet on. This will set precedence for a small date together.

2. Wrap A Napkin Around Her Drink

When the waitress brings your drinks, make a special effort to make sure there is a napkin wrapped around her glass before the drink is handed to her. If there is already a napkin around it when the waitress brings it, adjust the napkin and make it perfect.

If there is no napkin, wrap one around her glass and then hand her the drink. It’s a simple, classy touch that will go a long way when you start flirting.

3. Move Her Seat

If the strip club is crowded, move her seat so that other people aren’t going to bump into her chair. Bring it in closer to you and angle it away from the traffic. Tell her you want to make sure she’s comfortable and that no one brushes up against her.

There are lots of other “acts of chivalry” that you can come up with. Look out for opportunities to do one or two nice little things that she doesn’t expect. (Don’t go overboard, or you’ll appear to be kissing her ass; one or two is enough.)

By taking a moment to make sure she feels comfortable and respected, you’re separating yourself in a big way from the average customer.

Your goal is to always place women in a comfort zone. This is where physical attraction has a chance to develop. This means your body language must always convey a level of cool. No nervous fidgeting. Maintain eye contact. Don’t keep your knees together and your hands in your lap; spread your body out across your seat. Take up space.

These are signs of a man who is confident and relaxed. Nervous guys make women nervous.

4 Qualities In A Man That Are IRRESISTIBLE To Women

By loveandsex

Flirting can be one of the most awkward situations if you are not prepared. These qualities – or traits – are things that girls will find desirable. If you project these qualities you will be more likely to attract women.

1. Confidence

The reason most girls are attracted to jocks, bad boys and other men that don’t seem to be “right” for them, is because these men usually act arrogant.

For this to make sense you must understand that women are insanely good interpreters. If a man says or does something, a woman will look beneath his comments or actions and ask herself, “What is he really trying to say?”

Arrogance is interpreted as confidence. And as you may know, confidence is the most important trait you can portray to a woman. Confidence alone will get you more dates than you could ever imagine.

The essence of flirting is based on projecting confidence around women. In addition, arrogance communicates “higher status” and an “I’m too cool” attitude, which appeals to most a girl’s need to climb the social ladder.

2. Dominance

A significant part of being what women call “a real man” is taking charge in all situations. Girls will often say, “I like a man who knows what he wants.” Unfortunately, this statement is baffling to most men.

A man who knows what he wants doesn’t ask for permission. He takes the leadership role in every situation and expects others to comply. The next time you are out in clubs or bars, watch as the dominant men control the situation when they ask a girl out, talking to them, taking them by the hand and guiding them through the club to another location.

These men expect women to follow their lead. They don’t politely ask – they just do it. You might think this attitude seems rude or careless, but what you need to understand is that women want men to act this way.

Why do you think men who ask, “What movie do you want see?” get responses such as…

“I don’t know.”
“I don’t really care.”
“You decide.”

Women want men to be the leaders. Men who ask women to make these decisions get vague responses because women want men to lead. The woman is offering the man a chance to affirm his manliness. An “alpha male” will make decisions.

It may seem daunting to maintain this sort of control, but as these behaviors are broken down into actions, the need for this will become clear.

When women say that they are attracted to strong men, they don’t mean physically strong men; they mean men who can control the situation.

3. Humor

Humor is a very powerful. Everyone loves to laugh, and people love to hang around those who make them laugh.

Humor is something that all women are looking for in a man. But what you may not realize is that humor alone isn’t enough to attract women. You also need to maintain eye contact when you are approaching her.

If you become naturally funny, you’ll be able to keep fun conversations going with women as long as you want. You don’t want your humor to come across too goofy, nor do you want to look like a “try-hard” when you crack a joke.

Humor combined with body language is a powerful conversational tool that everyone needs to develop if they want to succeed socially.

4. Higher Social Status (Be Cooler)

You must understand that along with physical attraction comes social status. Just think back to school – all the cool people hung out together, as did all the other social groups with their respective peers.

The advantage you have when meeting new women is your hidden social status. Most women make dozens of assumptions about you the minute they lay eyes on you, and this includes your social status.

Women want to hang out with guys that are cooler than them. When you talk to a woman who catches your eye, you must always portray yourself as being “cooler” than her, or at least “as cool”. This increases the likelihood of her being interested in a date.

So how do you accomplish this? You accomplish this by increasing your coolness quotient.

Don’t act insecure and always ask “Is everything Ok?”, “Have I done something wrong?”, “Do you like me?”, “What do you think of me so far.” Never say these things!

Dress in fashionable, comfortable clothes that you feel great in.

Be selective with the people you hang around, as well as which women you choose to date.

Now that you understand attraction, and what it is that makes women feel attracted to men, let’s discuss the basics of flirting. And after this, we’ll talk about how to incorporate these must-have qualities into your conversations.