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6 Ways To Be The Alpha Male She CRAVES

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Sex tips show you what techniques to use, but they won’t matter if you’re a wuss who asks permission to do anything. Here’s how to be the ALPHA MALE she wants!

There are a lot of ways to be authoritative with your girl. Here are six you can use to get on the right track, tonight!

Take Charge!

These sex tips start right from the beginning. Don’t ASK for sex. Just make your move! YOU must lead the interaction. Here’s a great way to show her you’re in control: Once you have her turned on, naked, and ready to go, tell her she isn’t ready yet. Tease her, and show her she has to beg for it before you will give it to her.

Then have her get in the positions you want, tell her what to say – just make sure you are leading!

Make her orgasm on your command. When she is getting close, say to her you want her to come for you, or say she isn’t allowed to climax until you say it’s OK. Then keep doing her hard and make her wait for your okay.

Use Dirty Talk

The whole authority thing backfires if you proceed to have silent sex with your girl!

Start early. If you’re meeting up with your girl later, call or text her ahead of time and tell her you’re going to do naughty things to her. Tell her she’d better be ready. Don’t know what to say once you are all over each other? Start by just describing what you’re doing, then let her know what you’re about to do to her.

Say what positions to get into. Make to talk dirty to you, but save the “I Love You’s” for another day! (Or right afterwards to show her that you LOVE how dirty and nasty she was just for you, but you still cherish and love her).

Do It Hard!

You can’t be authoritative if you aren’t giving it to your girl hard, plain and simple. Save the sensitive love-making for another time. You have to put me in positions that are good for this – doggy style is GREAT for this!

But don’t confuse hard with fast. You don’t have to be pounding away like a jackhammer – just full, hard, and deep.

You can also gently but firmly pull her hair from the back near the roots, slap her lightly on the ass, throw her onto the bed, “mock” rip her clothes off with your teeth!

Use Authority Through The Whole Experience

Use dirty talk and she will love it.

Do her hard and she will love it.

But do ALL of these things – and watch her totally lose control and come over and over at your command!

It’s All Relative

Authoritative for one couple might be completely different from authoritative for another couple. If you have been ignoring great sex tips, having boring, quiet, missionary sex, with the lights out for the last 15 years – you have to be careful not to do too much too soon. This can make her uncomfortable and ruin the experience.

So start out slow if you have to. As you both get more comfortable you can keep adding to the authority and having more and more fun!

It’s Not The Same As Being Mean

Authority is all about being in charge, and telling the girl what you want. It’s NOT about degrading her, making her feel uncomfortable, or being too serious. One of my favorite things is when a guy is authoritative in a playful way. It’s more about him knowing that I enjoy him being in charge, that he’s not afraid to tell me what he wants, and that I can just safely give in to him.

Remember, authority is one of the best ways to get and keep a woman 100% sexually satisfied.

Many men have told me JUST these sex tips have changed their entire sex lives! And taken them from clumsily messing around and “hoping for the best” in the bedroom to confidently giving their women orgasm after juicy orgasm – whether it’s their very first time with a girl, or someone they’ve been with for years!

3 Sex Positions Guaranteed To Make A Woman Orgasm!

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Sex positions can help you improve your game and make your partner orgasm – if you choose the right ones. Here are three that will leave her gasping for breath!

These three positions that drive me and most women CRAZY. These positions are a sure fire way to bring your girl to some of the loudest, most intense orgasms of her life.

Most guys, in their struggle to please women never understand the SPOTS that actually trigger climaxes so they flail around uselessly trying weird sex positions that don’t work.

The Real “Orgasm Zone” Of A Woman – And Why Traditional Sex Positions NEVER Hit It!

Many guys know the feeling of having sex and wondering WHEN their girl is going to orgasm. In a futile attempt to get her to come you keep pounding away hoping it will happen. But it never does. The reason is because you are not hitting the “orgasm zone” that causes us to have an orgasm! Think about it like this:

Let’s say you burn your hand on the stove. You REALLY need to get some cold water. Your friend runs over with a bucket of cold water. But, instead of dumping the cold water all over your hand, they dump it all over your FOOT. You scream in agony that you needed cold water on YOUR HAND because that is what burned. Obviously the analogy is a bit dramatic and simple but it proves a certain point. Yes you need water, but you needed it IN A CERTAIN SPOT. Let me explain how this helps teach you about female orgasms. She NEEDS your penis to have a vaginal orgasm with you inside her. But if your penis isn’t hitting the CERTAIN RIGHT SPOT, its like dumping water on your foot when you burned your hand!

Now let’s talk about where the “orgasm zone” is inside of her. Guys don’t realize that the actual “orgasm zone” is the TOP INSIDE WALL of the vagina. This is where the g-spot, the deep spot, and all other sensitive orgasm zones are located!!! When you are having sex in most positions your penis is going IN to her not UP AND IN where it will give her an orgasm. Your not even giving yourself a chance at giving us an orgasm. However, there is hope! Once you learn how to ADAPT certain positions you will be going UP AND IN and nailing that “orgasm zone” EVERY TIME. You can expect your lover to start having g spot, deep spot, and maybe even a squirting orgasm when you start putting these powerful tricks into play!

The 3 Ideal Positions to Hit the Orgasm Zone and Drive Her Over the Edge

Position #1) A Very Advanced Version Of Doggy Style

What you want to do in this doggy style sex position is when you are entering her from behind on the bed you want to flatten her out. But, before you flatten her out you want to stick a pillow under the lower part of her stomach. Once you have pillow under her stomach (to raise her butt higher) you want to lie down fully flat on top of her. Often people refer to this position with out the pillow as “froggy style.” However instead of staying even with her body, move up as high as you can. The goal of this is so that as you thrust you are hitting the top inside wall of her vagina. The entire point of the pillow and moving up on her is so that you are thrusting down DIRECTLY into her “orgasm zone.” As long as you can last at least 5 minutes in this position you are sure to give her a climax.

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

If you are doing it right your head should be right above hers putting you in a perfect position for some dirty talk. As long as you feel comfortable and she is comfortable you can throw in some dirty talk and really send her into spirals of orgasmic pleasure.

Here’s another secret:

You can use your arms to lightly pin down her arms to show male authority – by doing this you are going to increase the “animal primal instincts” that doggy style provides because it shows her that you are totally in control of whats going on.

And one more:

Once she has orgasm DON’T STOP – she will have an orgasm and think she needs a break. However, you can keep going lightly and she’ll recover – and be ready for an even more intense second orgasm. Slowly increase your speed and pressure and she’ll come again and again and again!

Position #2) The “2 Inches Bigger G-Spot Missionary”

The missionary sex position often gets a horrible name. Critics call it boring, plain, and vanilla. However, when used the RIGHT WAY missionary position can be one of the most intimate, climax giving positions there is. I personally LOVE missionary for the intimacy and most women do too!

Here is how to change missionary position to “2 Inches Bigger G-Spot Missionary:” (note: not only does it hit the spot, it also makes you feel 2 inches bigger inside of her due to the “angle of the dangle”)

What you want to do is take a normal missionary position and adapt it to hit the “orgasm zone.” Here is what to do:

  1. Use a pillow (or two depending on physical proportions) under her lower back but this time in missionary position.
  2. Start inside of her in missionary and scoop under her legs and put them on your shoulders.
  3. Now place your hands under her lower back between her and the pillow.
  4. Lift her up so that as you thrust in to her again you are thrusting UP AND IN and hitting the top of her vagina! (note: the entire reason you have the pillow is so that you don’t have to support her entire lower body weight with your hands)
  5. Thrust up and in and the position that you have her in is sure to trigger an amazing orgasm

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

If you have the flexibility lean forward and kiss her while you are inside of her. Due to the close physical contact with her (legs on shoulders AND hands around her lower back/ass) it is a very intimate position and adding in kissing makes it highly emotional. If you are a guy that likes romance (like women do!) then you can also tell her how much you like (or love her) and that she is your girl. This position is often a girl’s favorite.

Position #3) This Position Is Seated “Girl On Top” With Her Leaning Back

Often your lover will climb on top and show that she wants to ride you for a bit. The reason she is trying to do this is because is instinctively trying to position herself so that you are thrusting UP AND in!!

With a few simple adaptions to “girl on top” you can let her take control while you lean back and watch her climax!!!

How to do it:

  1. Sit down in chair or sofa (not on bed) and have her get on top facing you.
  2. Have her put her feet forward on the outside of your body.
  3. Tell her it would be really sexy to see her lean back.
  4. As she leans back and start riding you thrust straight up, and due to the positioning you will actually be thrusting UP and IN.
  5. Lean back on the chair or sofa and watch her ride you to climax!!

Here’s how to take it to the NEXT LEVEL:

As she is riding you, reach forward and stroke her clitoris in a light circular motion. Now she is getting stimulation on the inside “orgasm zone” and the external  one.

Beware: She will climax quickly!

Now that you have learned WHY normal positions don’t give women orgasms and you have the knowledge as to what does give her a climax.

Sex Tips: The 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make In Bed

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Sex tips will guide you in the right direction, but you also want to make sure you’re not actively ruining your own sex life as well. Are you ruining your sex life? Even the best lovers are often guilty of flubbing up in the bedroom, often WITHOUT ever knowing it.

It’s just a fact of life.

But that doesn’t mean that YOU have to be! Discover the most common issues men have in the bedroom – and what to do INSTEAD to drive your woman WILD with pleasure. Avoid these 10 sex life ruiners and you’ll have better sex the very NEXT time you make love, guaranteed!

Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn’t

You may think that your lover is having “multiples” (or even ONE you-know-what) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises and even TELL YOU it’s happening. But is she really?

Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments on “faking it.” I’m not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking it EVERY TIME but chances are there have been a few episodes of lovemaking where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.

When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to finish. It doesn’t mean you are awful in the bedroom; just that being a mind-blowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.

If you are giving your girl the “Big O” (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You’re one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing a woman REALLY WELL. But if you’re not, it is crucial that you learn how!

Not Giving Her A Variety Of Sexual Experiences

A lot of guys who are new to lovemaking – or are used to doing it with the same woman – tend to forget that women want different KINDS of sensual EXPERIENCES. You might think that changing sex positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting IS a mixing it up. But it is not.

Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes they want to be taken, sometimes they want it hard, and sometimes they want to make love. If you are NOT talking during lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her, she CAN’T be totally fulfilled. Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in the bedroom.

Let’s look at an example. Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them. This is why that when a women cheats, it is often with a “bad boy.”

However, you don’t need to be bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in the bedroom. Just be a bad boy yourself by giving her a light spanking, talking dirty, and giving it to her good! Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy paperback romance novels they read with Fabio on the cover. This is not a myth – women REALLY read this stuff!

Now, I’m not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse, but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.

Get it?

You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences – and YOU are capable of giving her each kind – but you have to mix it up!

Forgetting To Be A MAN

Ask any 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL. That’s right, we want YOU to call the shots! As long as you are respectful, your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and switch positions without asking, and to do what YOU want!

Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate. Sure, it’s okay to ask her if she is enjoying something, but keep it simple. Save the talk about actual positions she liked for AFTER you are done.

Now don’t get me wrong – you are not making her a slave here, but rather leading with authority and masculine strength.

Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think a woman is just uptight if she doesn’t want to do something, when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with strength and confidence. You’ll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Thinking Sex Isn’t That Important To Her

If you want to know how much women LOVE sex,  just think about how loudly we scream during lovemaking! You won’t ever hear a guy screaming like that! You might THINK that your drive is much higher than your woman’s because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But as hard as it is to accept, recognize that if your girl doesn’t want to make love, it is NOT always because she doesn’t want to.

Unfortunately, it’s probably because you just aren’t getting her off. Fortunately this can be an easy fix.

Being Silent/Emotionless During Sex

You may think that it is “cheesy” or “creepy” to talk romantically during sex. (you may think its weird to talk at all in the bedroom) However, women HATE silent, mechanical lovemaking.

Why?

I’ll say it again: We women THRIVE on emotion. Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT ways to give your girl STRONG EMOTIONS during sex. And strong emotions = strong orgasms. Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that give your girl the most pleasure. The most POWERFUL “BIG O” will always be triggered by our MINDS, not by our physical bodies.

Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having making love, and she will experience the most intense pleasure of her life!

Trading Dinners/Flowers/Etc. To Get Sex From Her

Many men mistakenly think that we women aren’t interested in making love (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking), and that they have to “trade something” with her to get her to want intimacy. This is why you see so many guys trying to “get there” with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts.

While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SOME. When you have to trade something to get intimacy from your girl, realize that this is PROOF you are just not truly satisfying her in the bedroom.

When you are intimately satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for it, but she will often spontaneously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating lovemaking constantly. Just wait and see!

Not Giving Her Enough “Foreplay”

If you still think of “foreplay” as the activity before lovemaking, well then you are thinking of it WRONG! Here’s a hint: Women consider foreplay as PART of the lovemaking. NOT as a separate thing!

Here’s why:

While a man is not always capable of having a “Big O” during foreplay AND then another “Big O” during the actual lovemaking, WOMEN CAN! Imagine if YOU could have one during foreplay AND not lose any firmness and keep having them well into lovemaking. You’d want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?

Well, your girl CAN have foreplay “O’s” AND penetration “O’s” so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!

As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as lovemaking and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the lovemaking better when you are finally inside of her.

Not Lasting Long Enough

This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of problems in the bedroom would be complete without it. But while all guys know they need to last long, they don’t necessarily know HOW LONG that is!

Well, after talking to dozens of my girlfriends about the subject, I’ve discovered that we all think pretty much alike. If you can last at least 20 minutes, most women will be SUPER happy with that!

Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior

It’s no secret that we women can be a LOT moodier than you men.  But if you’re in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time, this is often because she isn’t getting what she needs in the bedroom. FACT.

As we talked about before, while women aren’t usually as sexually aggressive as men, we do love and NEED to make love just as much! But here’s the thing – if you’re not giving her the “Big O” – then lovemaking does her no good!

Can you imagine if when you were masturbating you could NEVER “get there”? You’d begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you’d get so frustrated by the inability to “finish” that it would just be easier to avoid it COMPLETELY! So if you can’t give her the “Big O” why WOULD she want to make love with you?

The answer:

She won’t.

If your girl is not wanting to make love with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her. In the beginning, she may have tolerated it because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and lovemaking isn’t satisfying for her, it is more fulfilling for her to take care of HERSELF when you’re not around. This leads to only being with you on special occasions, or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)

If you recognize any of these signs, it’s time to step up your game NOW before the drought gets even worse.

And when you do, you’ll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in the bedroom, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis, but SHE’LL start initiating making love with YOU! If you are giving her the best of her life, she won’t care if you are homeless and living in a cardboard box – as long as you can make love in it!

If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting intimacy, or acting “distant” in some way, it’s time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your ability because the real culprit is inadequate lovemaking pleasure.

Not Getting Help

Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey, not a destination. Top athletes don’t all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. CEO’s don’t suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep growing. And guess what lovemaking is no different.

To be an amazing lover you can’t ever be blinded by arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new sex tips or tricks to get you to the next level.

Super Sexy Ways To Use Your Mouth On Him That He Won’t Expect

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Men want you to use your mouth on them. A LOT. Here are some super sexy ways to use your mouth on him.

What She Said About Ways To Use Your Mouth On Him

Men love blow jobs! Like no lie, this is one of their most favorite things, right up there with beer and football.

But your mouth can do so much more than just suck! So how can you keep it exciting and different?

Whether you are a pro or a newbie it doesn’t hurt to work on your skills in the oral department. Below are some super great ways to keep your man happy, keep blow jobs exciting and try some new moves on your man with your mouth. Although, just having your wonderful lips wrapped around his rod IS exciting enough.

Variety Is The Spice Of Life

When it comes to putting your lips on his penis or anywhere on his body, it is the spice of life.

Use different suction strengths on him going from light sucking and harder sucking to keep things exciting.

Find a way to vary the temp in your mouth. Some girls choose to keep ice near the bed and a cup of warm water close at hand too. It can be a little odd “prepping” for sex but if you make the night all about him you can easily set aside some props. And once you have them use them!

Start with the ice but make sure you don’t put the ice directly on him, keep it under your tongue to cool your mouth. After some ice action take a sip of water and do it all again, make sure the water is not too hot! He should get a nice temperature variation that will drive him nuts.

Talk To Him

Use your mouth to utter some dirty words and phrases. Also gasp and grunt along with him if you feel moved and inspired. Don’t fake a porn star noise just don’t be afraid to moan if you are enjoying it too. That being said let your mouth be noisy even if there are no words, let him hear you suck and gag and slobber. It can get hot.

Lick Him

Although there is a good chance that the whole time you are licking his body that he would be waiting and praying for you to just get to the meat of the matter and put his meat in your mouth. Make him wait for it!

  • Use your mouth to caress and stroke and just adore his body.
  • Lick his face and neck too.
  • Trail your tongue down his belly to his thighs and back again.
  • Pay some attention to his balls! Many women forget about these jewels but a lot of men like to have their twins in on the action. So feel free to lick and even take one or two in your mouth.
  • Men like to have their nipples licked and necks sucked!

What He Said About Ways To Use Your Mouth On Him

I don’t care how freaky you are ladies, you have a pattern of moves. A “greatest hits collection as it were.” Not to sound like Archer or anything, but you probably could use some new super sexy moves with your mouth to liven things up and make him a bit surprised.

Texture And Taste Matter

There’s nothing that says that the velvet tongue (a blow job given to a man with honey/yogurt in the woman’s mouth) has to be the only taste additive in your mouth based sexual bag of tricks. You can try experimenting with all sorts of tastes: you could blow him with a bit of BBQ sauce in your mouth, or pour it on him and lick it off. You can put a flavored condom on his dick and then blow him, or use a flavored dental dam to give him a rim job he will never forget.

Talk Dirty

This one is just not used enough. Either woman don’t do it, or they don’t take it far enough. If you don’t talk naughty to your man, you need to. And if you think you are talking way too dirty to him, you aren’t talking dirty enough. Take it farther than you feel comfortable with. That will be a great way to use your mouth to shock his brain. He won’t expect it. And mystery is good for the relationship.

6 “Innocent” Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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Dirty talk is an excellent way to get your lover turned on and ready to take you all in. Use these six “demure” dirty talk suggestions during foreplay tonight!

“I Love How Wet You Are”

If she’s already wet, this dirty talk phrase will make her even wetter. A lot of women are self-conscious about being too wet – especially women who are able to ejaculate during orgasm. You’re probably thinking, “Yeah, right – that’s totally hot!” However, she may feel differently about it. Many women are self-conscious about their vaginal secretions, and they may even think that their ejaculate is urine and be embarrassed about it.

Let her know that you think that her wetness is arousing to you – tell her how hot it makes you when she soaks the sheets! This will make her feel sexy for letting go – which actually increases the chances of her squirting when she has an orgasm.

“It Feels So Good To Be Inside You”

She wants to know that her vagina feels good to you. She wants to know that she’s tight and that you love being inside her. Tell her how good her vagina feels against your penis! If you’re a little dirty talk shy, this can even be shortened to “You feel so good!” This should be a real, guttural response and it is best used when you first penetrate her. You can also use eye contact as you’re saying this (and as you’re penetrating her) to give it the maximum effect. Don’t be surprised when she wraps her legs around you and pulls you in deeper, gasping with pleasure!

“Wow, You Really Know How To Do That!”

Women put a lot of work into giving a great blowjob, handjob or whatever else skill your girl has mastered. If she’s halfway decent at giving head, commend her on her great skills! The same goes if she has just given you a handjob that rivals your own masturbatory skills.

Not only will this make her feel really great about what she’s doing to you, it will make her want to do it that much better. An added bonus is that she will automatically think that means she’s better at whatever she’s doing than every other girl you’ve been with – which works out great for you because you can make her feel that way without actually coming out and saying it (and possibly fibbing a little).

“I Don’t Want This To Stop”

Use dirty talk to make her feel like you want to be with her all night long. Of course, don’t use this phrase if you plan on having a quickie or are the kind of guy that gets yours and gets off. Telling her that you don’t want to stop must be accompanied by a long night of sensual lovemaking, where each step – from kissing to foreplay to oral sex to penetration – is elongated and more drawn out. Not only will she hear that you never want this night to end, she’ll feel it as you take your sweet time with each and every move you make.

“I’ve Never Been This Hard Before!”

Again, this makes your girl feel like she’s the best sex you’ve ever had – not only that, but that she’s also better than what you can give yourself (okay, maybe you are fibbing this time). Either way, this phrase calls attention to your erection (which she’s totally excited to have given you) and makes her feel like she’s turned you on more than anyone ever has before!

Don’t be surprised if after you use this dirty talk phrase that all she wants to do is lavish your penis with attention by giving you a slow, sensual blowjob!

“I Want To Eat You All Night”

So many guys make girls feel like going down on them is a chore. A lot of girls walk away from getting oral sex feeling like their partner didn’t like it, it was gross to him or he just wished it was over so he could get his orgasm and go to sleep. Don’t be that guy! Make her feel like licking her clitoris turns you on just as much as it turns her on!

This is another one of those things that you want to reserve for when you actually do want to go all night. She’s going to feel jipped if you say that and go down on her for ten seconds! So tell her you want to eat her all night and then actually do. Go slow, like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted before!