erectile dysfunction

Losing My Erection – Help!

Erectile dysfunction affects a lot of men, all over the world. But that doesn’t mean that these men and their partners have to suffer with unsatisfying sex lives. There are ways to get around erectile dysfunction, depending on what the cause is. Here’s how to find out what is causing your problems with getting and keeping erections – and how to get rid of them so you and your partner can have better sex!

Hey Dan and Jenn – I have a problem! Whenever I attempt to have sex with my girlfriend, I always lose my erection. It’s very embarrassing for me and her because she thinks its because im not attracted to her. What is the reason for this?!!!

–YouTube Viewer

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Physical Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

First, it’s important to consider and rule out physical things that may be responsible for or are contributing to your inability to get an erection. There are many physical causes for ED, including but not limited to:

Overweight
Inactive
Diabetes
Heart Disease

Generally speaking, the healthier and more active you are, the less likely you are to have erection problems. If you aren’t in good health or live a sedentary lifestyle, there is more of a chance that you will experience the inability to get or maintain an erection at some point. The same applies if you use recreational drugs or abuse alcohol. If the latter applies to you, start eliminating things in your life that might be contributing to your ED, one at a time.

If you drink excessively or smoke, quit. If you’re not active, start taking short walks around your home or office and make a commitment to eating more nutritionally rich foods. If your body is healthy and has what it needs, it is more likely that it will perform well in all areas of your life, including sex.

When To See The Doctor

If you live an active lifestyle, are healthy and don’t use any recreational drugs or overdo it on the alcohol and are still experiencing erectile dysfunction, it’s time to make an appointment with your doctor. Your doctor can help rule out more serious problems that could be responsible.

Emotional Causes For Erectile Dysfunction

There are just as many, if not more, emotional reasons for erectile dysfunction as there are physical. Stress from work or your family is a huge reason you may be experiencing ED, and other factors such as depression and anxiety can contribute as well. Stress, depression and anxiety can cause all kinds of problems in your life, including ED or even trouble reaching orgasm.

Even if anxiety or depression isn’t the cause of your erection problems, the medications for these issues (and other medications as well) can also contribute to impotency and orgasm problems.

How To Trace It Back To The Root

Although there are dozens of different things that can cause or contribute to ED, you can most likely find your answer by thinking about what you started doing differently when you started experiencing erection problems. Did you just start a new medication? Did you lose your job or did a close friend or family member pass away? Thinking back to what was going on in your life at the time is probably the biggest indicator of the true cause of your impotency.

Is It Her?

If you’ve exhausted all of your other options and you’re still having problems with impotency, consider the possibility that your partner may actually be the cause of your issues. For example, if you’re currently having relationship problems or if you caught her cheating on you in the past, your subconscious may be recoiling from her during sex and this may be causing you to have problems getting or keeping an erection during sex with her.

Basically, any unresolved issue you have with your partner may manifest itself as stress and carry over to the bedroom. You may also be suffering from performance anxiety – if you’re trying desperately to please her and are worried that your performance isn’t going to measure up, you’re not going to be able to maintain a rock hard erection.

Relax And Have Fun

If you’re healthy, active and aren’t having any relationship problems with your partner, just relax a little and remember that sex is all about having fun and having a great time with someone you care about and who cares about you. If you stress out too much about it, you’re going to make your issue worse instead of better! Relax and have fun!

How To Sustain Sex Longer And Give Women Amazing Orgasms

By lloydlester

Giving an orgasm is at the top of the list for most guys, but many guys don’t know how. Here is a simple, powerful way to give an orgasm and sensational sex!

Emotional distress. Lower self-image. Relationship breakdown. Marriage on the rocks. Sexual infidelity. These are REAL problems that many men have to go through when they persistently suffer from premature ejaculation. And you know that if you can’t last long enough, you’re sure as heck not going to give her a great orgasm. While PE is twice as common as its other “cousin” – erectile dysfunction – it is FAR less understood by the majority of men. If you are keen to get a handle on your early ejaculation problem, you will want to read keep reading and learn one powerful way to delay YOUR orgasm so she can get hers.

The Preeminence Of Sexual Endurance

Many men equate sexual endurance as the prerequisite for giving women sensational sex. That is true to a large extent. In fact, many women complain that their partners aren’t lasting long enough to sexually fulfill them. And we probably know too well of relationships that have been torn apart because the man persistently ejaculates too early.

The Illusion Of The Magic Number

Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates earlier then desired. For 25 to 40 percent of men worldwide, this typically means a male orgasm occurs within 2 minutes during vaginal penetration. That said, many men focus too much on the specific duration they should last. They fret over the fact that they cannot last like porn actors do. The simple truth is, sex that lasts too long can be painful and uncomfortable for the woman! The lubrication in the vagina typically dries up from prolonged thrusting.

So what’s the magic number, you asked? Simple! In most cases, intercourse just needs to last as long as a You Tube clip to be satisfactory. That means 3-5 minutes on average, not including the amount of foreplay time. And studies have consistently shown that lovemaking that lasts 7 to 13 minutes is the most desirable.

“Endurance Superiority” vs. “Female Orgasms”

Women are biologically wired to respond VERY slowly to physical sexual stimulation. That is why in general, your wife, girlfriend or partner needs at least 7 to 15 minutes of consistent stimulation during penetration to get aroused to the point of vaginal orgasm. Compare that with the short one to two minutes that bring most men from arousal to orgasm!

So, if you want to desirable sex, you should be lasting at least 7 minutes during sex… and this poses a REAL challenge for the vast majority of men.

The Trick To Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Triggering Faster Female Orgasms

Stop relying on your penis to stimulate and bring your woman to a climax. In fact, a man’s most prized member is the lousiest tool to help women achieve the big “O”! Besides thrusting in and out, what else can your penis do?

Instead, what you should do is to focus on giving your woman enough stimulation to her clitoris. It is difficult to do this with your penis, so use your fingers/thumb or your tongue instead. Pound for pound, the tongue has the strongest muscle on the human body, and is extremely powerful and flexible in stimulating the clitoris. Plus, since you are not using your penis, it helps you manage your arousal better and gives you more endurance in bed.

Proper clitoral stimulation will quicken her ability to enjoy an orgasm sooner. So give her one before you start having intercourse with her. The great thing is, when you’ve made her climax BEFORE penetrative sex, it becomes ten times easier for her to achieve a vaginal orgasm during intercourse… and in her eyes, you become the man with superior stamina that she has been dreaming of!

Fixing Erectile Dysfunction: What Works And What Doesn’t

By jackgrave

Are you tired of dealing with erectile dysfunction? Here are some simple steps for fixing ED and the common mistakes you should avoid when trying to fix it.

And let’s be honest, erectile dysfunction is something that’s worth fixing. If you don’t it can have a devastating effect on your love life. Nothing is worse than being with a woman you’re incredibly attracted to and would love to have sex with, but then not being able to get an erection. Not only can it be demoralizing for you, but for her as well.

First, what not to do….

Don’t Get Frustrated

Erectile dysfunction is as much a psychological condition as it is a physical condition. If you find yourself getting frustrated with it then it will only make things worse.

Putting a lot of pressure on yourself to perform places a lot of stress on the body and with high stress levels will only make it harder to get and maintain an erection.

Don’t Rely On Medication

I definitely agree that medication such as Viagra can be a solution, but I consider it a last resort. Using medication to solve erectile dysfunction can make you dependent on that medication and restrict the freedom of your sex life.

If you’ve tried everything else then by all means consider medication with a doctor’s supervision, but try and find a natural solution first.

Now with the common mistakes out way, let’s switch to the positive things you should try to end erectile dysfunction….

Focus On What Turns You On

Like I said earlier, your psychology plays a huge role in erectile dysfunction and what you focus on and think about before and during sex is part of that.

If you want to get hard then make sure the only thoughts running through your mind are those that make you the most horny and aroused. If you get turned on by thinking about getting a blowjob, that’s what you should think about during sex. Forget worrying about work or focusing on what isn’t working for you. Let that all go and focus on the pleasure of sex and being with the beautiful woman that you’re with.

Work Out Your PC Muscle

The PC muscle plays a huge role in controlling the blood flow to your penis. If you’re not taking 5 minutes a day 6 times a week to exercise your PC muscle (also called kegel exercises), then your erections are going to suffer.

Exercising your PC muscle doesn’t have to be difficult or complicated and you can do it while doing other things like driving or at your desk working. There’s really no excuse not to do it.

Control Your Blood Sugar

Numerous sources have suggested the link between out of control blood sugar levels and impotence, so if erectile dysfunction is a problem for you, you need to take control of your blood sugar. And for many people, this is just a case of making a few dietary changes.

Cut out as many sugars and white carbohydrates as you can (things like white bread, white rice, etc.) and replace them with as many greens as you can. Vegetables are proven to lead to much more stable and healthier blood sugar levels so take the leap and make the switch.

In many cases, fixing erectile dysfunction doesn’t have to mean medical intervention, it just takes implementing a few small changes to your lifestyle and approach to sex.