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8 Basic Strokes For Erotic Massage Down South

Erotic massage doesn’t have to be limited to her back. Instead, make your way to her vulva and massage her down there to get her totally aroused!

Here, you assume the role of a giver. For best results, place a pillow or two under her buttocks. Position yourself beside her or between her legs, in such a way that you have maximum access to her vulva.

These strokes deal largely with the Labia majora, and to the giver, it may seem there’s not much difference among strokes – but to your lady, whose eyes are closed, fully intent on savoring every minute, the trivial variations become different adventures. You’ll be amazed at how simple modifications alter her experience significantly.

You will also notice that none of the strokes intend to penetrate the vagina.

1. “Hello” Technique

Always start with this one. It’s not really a stroke as it is a way to get things rolling. Position your hand like a panty covering her vulva and cup your palm to her shape. Do not move your hand. Not yet. Feel the heat emanating from her. Add eye contact for better results.

“Hello” has a two-fold purpose. One, it’s a getting-to-know-you time. You gain familiarity of her curves & musculature, her soft and fat parts. Molding your palm on her equipment affords you prudence later in the erotic massage. Two, it’s a comfort building technique in that it introduces your hand to her thing. Remember that you’re about to man-handle what women consider as their core, the innermost sanctum of their being.

2. Palm Circulars

Maintaining the “HELLO” position, move your palm in circular motions. Think: Karate Kid “Wax On, Wax Off” motions. Easy, isn’t it?

Here are a few things to consider:

You may go Clockwise or Counterclockwise. (She may prefer one over the other)
Palm circulars go at different intensities. The soft variety is when your palm merely hovers around her vulva, the hard version is when you grab the fleshy parts and move it in circles.
Regarding speed, start the erotic massage slow. Most women prefer RHYTHM over jerky movements, so let your circles flow.

3. Palm or Thumb Glide

Spread your lady’s legs and see how the slit divides her vulva into a left and a right side. Place your palms on her labia majora. If they’re too big, use your thumb or any of the fingers instead. They have the advantage of inducing more focused strokes.

If in the previous technique you were concerned with circular movements, the Palm Glide is all about UP and DOWN movements. (Glide UP even as high as her belly area, and DOWN, near the anus.)

4. Spread & Squeeze

This time, it’s TO THE SIDES.

The Spread & Squeeze part of the erotic massage teases the vulva to open up. You may use your palm, thumb, or any of the fingers for this. Slowly spread the vulva by stroking to the sides, away from the central slit. Stroke to the sides, (not too far or she’ll feel vulnerable and self-conscious.)

For the Squeeze, go the opposite direction by slowly gliding towards the central slit. Let the two inward strokes meet at the center as if mending a torn dress. Join the two sides of her majora.

Now, with your thumb and forefinger, pinch and hold, then release. The ladies would appreciate a gentle pulling or tugging at this point.

5. Thumb Circulars

This is one of those erotic massage strokes that really get women going. Using the flat of your thumb, employ circular strokes while gliding UP & DOWN her Labia majora. The combination of 2 movements results into spiral strokes on her vulva. Nice!

Vary the size and direction of the circles you make.

6. Finger Walk

Use the flat of your fingers to walk around the vulval zone. Point to an area and then PRESS… and RELEASE. Then repeat. You’re not just brushing or tapping but generating pressure. Imagine you’re playing the piano and you’re masterfully pressing her keys.

A variation is the Finger Moonwalk. Do the press, but before releasing, add a slide element to it. Slide your fingers back towards the wrist, continuing the pressure as you do. Your fingers make possible different variations, experiment and do random press and slides. The multipoint stimulation would make her purr like a cat.

7. Pinch & Slide

This one’s not recommended for sensitive vulvas.

The fleshy areas or those skin folds are homes to the Pinch & Slide. Assuming you’ve employed ample lubrication, pinch an area using your thumb and pointer finger. Hold for a second. That’s the ‘pinch’ part. The ‘slide’ happens when you do a little bit of pulling. As you pull, let the patch of skin or flesh slowly slip from your grasp and pop to freedom.

After releasing, target another area and repeat.

8. The Labial Tug

Her Labia minoras will always be screaming for action during an erotic massage like this.

Using your thumb and pointer finger, tug on her minoras. Not too much but with enough force so she can feel the pull on her clitoris. Tug at different directions and find out what angles work for her. Release by letting it snap off your grasp.

TUG, then RELEASE. Repeat as desired.

After acing the massage, look at your woman and notice how horny she already is. Give yourself a mental pat on the back and proceed to Phase 3 – stimulating the clit itself.

Erotic Massage For Couples

Erotic massage is not just a great way to transition into sexy time with your lover, because it helps to calm and relax her, to get her in the mood. Those same calming effects, applied to your body, can help you to take your time during lovemaking, and focus your intentions on pleasing your wife instead of hurrying to please yourself.

Before you dive right in to a sensual massage, take some time with your wife to decide what you want out of the experience. Do you have time for this to turn into sex? Do you want to make sure you both have a good massage before you take that next step?

Or is this just a brief interlude during a busy day, with the knowledge that you will come back together, more relaxed and in the mood, later on, when the rest of the day is complete? Perhaps this is just a chance for the two of you to connect on an intimate level when her libido is waning or you are saving your energy for a special weekend sex marathon!

The Extra Mile

No matter what the purpose, it’s nice to be clear with each other about what you expect. It will help you get a good idea of what to wear, how to set up the room, and what accessories or sex toys to bring along. Also, she is much more likely to enjoy the massage if she knows whether or not it is going to turn into steamy sex, so be sure to take the time to plan before you start working her muscles.

In Position

Start out with your wife lying face down on her stomach, with her head turned to one side. Have her lay her arms down by her side. She may want a small pillow or none at all, to be comfortable in this position, so let her find the spot that works for her. When she is ready, you have your choice of top positions.

Depending on the height and location of your bed, (or perhaps you’re very serious about massage and have acquired your own table!) you can decide what the best position is to enable you to reach the areas of her body that need the most attention. Move around a bit to be able to give her a full-body rub down.

Try kneeling and straddling her thighs, pressed up against her bum so you can reach her shoulders, back, hips and butt. You can also have her spread her legs while you kneel between them, or try kneeling at her side instead. If your bed is high enough, or she is on a table, you can stand next to her.

Just Breathe

The breath is incredibly important during this intimate experience, allowing you to connect with each other and helping you to stay focused on your partner. If you have a hard time focusing on her breath long enough to continue breathing with her the entire time that you are massaging, at least take a few moments before you begin and each time you switch positions to match her rate of respiration.

An alternate breath from Tantric methods that is supposed to aid in the exchange of energy between two partners is to breath alternately – in as she exhales, then out as she inhales. Start slow and deep, and if the rate builds to a crescendo, let it happen naturally. Bring it back down to a slow, deep, calming breath before you head back to the real world.

Rub Just Right

You’re right if you have already realized that a deep muscle massage or a stimulating surface rub are both very different from the kind of clitoris and vagina touching you’re probably used to.

If you are both naked enough to use massage oil or lube, it will help keep your hands slick and smooth for an easy glide on her skin. Be sure to use the whole palm and fingers of both hands for best results. First, put a bit of oil in your hands and rub them together to warm it. Using a flat hand spread out the oil in large, circular motions on her back, being careful not to press directly on the spine anywhere.

When she is well-covered in a natural massage oil, try locating and loosening her sore muscles with a gently squeeze. Use the heel of your thumb to gently press the muscles of her shoulders, back, butt and legs toward the cupped fingers of your hand. Again, avoid pressing directly on the spine.

Follow her lead and listen to her sounds for clues about which spots need more work.

When you have given her a thorough massage, ask her to do you too, lying face down as well. If you want to continue this massage into some sexy time, next have her lie face up, and take some time to massage and caress her face, neck and shoulders, breasts, hips, legs and feet before heading in for a vulva massage and finger play and hopefully an orgasm or two. After she has climaxed, suggest you switch again. Position yourself face up on the table, and let her decide how she wants to return the favor!

The Secret To A Sensual Erotic Massage Before Anal Sex

An erotic massage is another way to prove your love for her back parts. The gluteus maximus, the main butt muscle that gives each buttock its round shape, is one of the biggest, chunkiest muscles of the body, meaning it loves being massaged. Because there’s usually quite a bit of fat covering the muscle, you can be rougher in your massaging technique.

Use these massage techniques before anal sex.

1. Put Her In The Mood

Relax before you start in order to make sure that your hands are up for the effort (you wouldn’t want to stop after two minutes, leaving her eager for more).

Lie her on her stomach, her legs slightly parted for the erotic massage.

Slide your hands to her buttocks with soft caresses, using any relaxation or toning oil you have at hand.

Aromatherapy is a powerful tool for stimulating arousal in both men and women, so you might want to choose the fragrance of your oil carefully before having sex.

2. Use The Right Oils

Orange blossom, it has a sedative and relaxation power. It transports one to a dreamlike state. If she loves romance you want to show her that anal pleasure can be romantic also.
Cinnamon, perfect if she usually lacks sexual desire, is moody and hard to satisfy. The smell of cinnamon will enhance her senses and he’ll be more open to experimenting.
Mint, tonic and stimulant, it will wake not only her body, but also her mind. If she just got back from work and she’s tired, use some mint oil to get her whole body going your way.
Lemon, energy inducing! It also reduces inflammation of the erogenous zones.
Patchouli, it is perfect to calm excessive anxiety, so it should be on your top list of choices. Fill the whole room with patchouli smelling candles and she’ll feel more OK with the idea, though she won’t really know what changed her mind.
Rose, a tonic for the heart, stomach, liver, and uterus, it regulates the functioning of the female sex organs. I’m sure she must have something which contains roses perfume in her beauty cupboard.

Use These 3 Types Of Manipulation

1. Rubbing

Place your hands flat on your girl’s back, with your fingers relaxed, and apply pressure. Make small circular movements with your thumbs or the pads of your fingers, traveling up the inside edges of her cheeks and back down the outsides. This has a relaxing effect, which is felt at the nerves located under the skin.

2. Kneading

Kneading consists of energetic motions that imitate the kneading of dough, and is particularly helpful for releasing accumulated tension. To do it well, you must press the skin between your thumb and your fingers and sink the thumb into the muscle mass.

With your fingers, push the muscle toward you again. Move your hands, alternating between one and the other, pressing, pushing, and lifting the skin.

3. Friction

Friction consists of pressing rather small, specific areas, which induces a very pleasant, restful sensation. It is important to push the tip of the thumb downward and perform short rotational motions to achieve a deeper penetration.

Top 5 Erogenous Zones On Her Face

Foreplay has a vital role in getting a woman primed for sex. Some of the most erogenous zones on a woman’s body are on her face and head. Here are some foreplay tips to help you master these zones.

Why The Face Is So Important

All women are beautiful in their own special way. And nothing expresses physical beauty as succinctly as the face. It plays primary role because of one very obvious reason: IT’S THE SEAT OF THE SENSES!

It houses the EYES (windows to the soul), the EARS (receptor of dirty talk), the NOSE (channel for scents), and the MOUTH (for spit-swapping, licking, sucking & biting) Capitalize on her senses. If you know anything about sex, you’ll realize how vital the senses are – it’s all about them.

1. The Nose

What can one do with a snout? A lot actually. For starters, you can make her close her eyes and give her a whiff of varied scents and aromas. Nothing strong, just something nice. Then initiate those playful nose rubs. Nuzzle each other. It’s mano-a-mano only with the snouts. Pinch that cute nose, cut air flow and then start kissing her.

Kiss her on the nose. You can even gently bite on it – just not on the bony part. Use your lips to shield teeth and bite through that. Bite and release immediately. Don’t hold the bite too long because it will get weird.

Tell her to close her eyes and trace her nose contours – the ridge and the sides. You may then give her a nose massage, this works best with lubricant or lotion. It’s very simple – with your thumb and forefinger, gently slide up and down the sides. Just slide up & down.

2. The Ears

In many countries, animal ears are considered a most sought-after delicacy. Women have ticklish flaps, and going this route can be the beginning of something fun during foreplay. So nibble her ears. Since this is not a boxing match, don’t bite it off. Play with her ear lobes and curves, but don’t go deep. Make sure it never gets wet and sloppy – it’s not a nice feeling when things start getting slick.

Whisper sweet nothings. You don’t have to be poetic. Anything in a sexy tone will work. Since you’re so close, your utterance will be magnified several times, so don’t go drill sergeant on her. Banging the life out of her eardrum is not sensual. Instead, use your sexiest and most evocative voice. Whisper is the operative word.

You may, but very gently and not directly, blow her a warm breeze – it’s more like a sigh or moan really. This is a huge turn-on, especially when reinforced with a caress somewhere. An erotic massage works well with this method.

3. The Eyes

Bring your heads closer and get eye contact, this cheap psychological trick adds to the feeling of intimacy. As been said, gazing into each other increases attraction.

Try this – have some sweet things to say in your head, and then try communicating them through your eyes. Get to that point where you find it easier to talk through the eyes. The satisfaction of knowing what the other is thinking, without the exchange of words, is incomparable – it’s like an inside joke that strengthens your bond.

Tell her to close her eyes. Plant those gentle & dry kisses. Run your fingers over her eye brows, eye lashes and kiss them very gently. Watch her get dreamy with this. Caress the soft skin around, go gentle and sweet. This is something men rarely do nowadays.

4. The Mouth

Take licking, sucking, biting, making out and blowing to a new level. What else can you do with it? Feed her! Put something inside that mouth. Open your refrigerator, what’s inside that’s not past expiration date? You don’t need to go grocery shopping for this one.

Feed her. Kiss her. Don’t just spit swap, swap diets. Spread some on her cheeks and lick it off. Encourage her to do the same. Give her something to suck on – a chocolate-dipped finger, perhaps? Anything that’ll make her mouth and tongue move will do the trick.

You are scintillating her by offering an assortment of flavors. Don’t feed her to fullness though – that’ll just make her sleepy and bloated – not good for physical activity. Give her a tingling sampling, a taste to excite and awaken her drowsy existence.

5. The Hair

Unless your partner is G.I. Jane, I’m going to assume she’s got some. Blond, brunette, frizzy – doesn’t really matter, you can have fun with it. Smell her locks. Isn’t that already a treat? Instead of considering her locks as an annoyance guys should take advantage of her hair.

Hair is one of the best sex toys. Play with it. Use it to caress her body and yours. This will spring goosebumps on both. Run your palm over her head several times – like soothing a lost child. Then course your fingers through like a comb. Add appropriate eye contacts and you make her feel like she’s the most precious girl in the entire Universe.

Motion as if you’re tucking her bangs behind her ears. It’s the same move as wiping the corner of her lips clean even when there’s no food there. These are cheap, ‘cheesy’ tricks, but she falls for them every time because they’re a sweet-kind-of-nothing that shows attention to details.

For ladies with long locks, take a fistful by sliding your hand from the back, through the neck and through her hair. Form a fist and grab a fistful near the roots then gently tug on it. Gently but firmly. Look at her longingly, survey her face and slowly descend your lips on hers and kiss her.

Erotic Massage from A-Z – How To Master Foreplay NOW!!!

Erotic massage seems easy but the challenge lies in doing it correctly. Become a master of the massage with these EASILY learned strokes for better sex tonight!

The Basic Strokes

1. GLIDING – The most commonly used stroke, gliding is executed by simply sliding your palms over lover’s skin, creating friction and warmth as you go along. Make sure that you use a lot of lubricant for this. There are no patterns or set motions, this is just you caressing her. This is a very pleasant stroke that can be applied anywhere on her body. (You may also use the back of your hand.)

2. PALM CIRCLES – This is usually executed on broad areas like your partner’s back. Trace a circle (or half-circle) using your palms. With both hands, you can simultaneously or alternately fan in opposite left-right directions.

3. THUMB CIRCLES – This one’s similar to Palm Circles but is usually executed in smaller areas like the neck, shoulders, palm, ankles and temples.

4. FINGER WALKING – This involves the other four fingers. Imagine you’re playing the flute. Point & Slide. Let your fingers walk along the different avenues of her body.

5. SCRATCHING – This is not the BDSM variety. It’s simply an erotic but gentle slide of fingernails on your lover’s body. You can do this practically anywhere. Just go very, very light on the face, especially when you go over her eyes. This is before you make love.

6. KNUCKLES – Form a fist. Roll and glide those knuckles around. This is especially effective on the back. Those bony knuckles provide a more focused and slightly intense touch.

7. THUMPING – Form a fist. This time, use the underside. Gently thump this on her. This is again especially effective on her back but may still be employed to the rest of your girlfriend’s body.

Remember, the magic is not on the strokes but in the attitude – without sensual presence, there are no sensual strokes.

Touch Techniques

These are 3 moves of pure power. Unleash them on your woman’s body before sex and the pleasures that await are indescribable. You’ll be amazed with what great hands you’ve got!

A)   LOVER’S TOUCH
B)   BODY TRACING
C)   HUNDRED HANDS

The Lover’s Touch

The Lover’s Touch (LT) is like stroking a butterfly’s wings. It’s gentle and kind. Tender and light – executed by hovering one’s hand delicately just above her skin. When it lands, it barely even touches. It’s there, but as if it isn’t. The weightless caress sends a wave of happy shiver through her spine, flushing her brain with pleasure. With eyes shut, she’ll feel it even more!

The Lover’s Touch, the epitome of the slow and gentle touching, awakens her basic longings. It is a paradox in action. Very light and gentle, one supposes it’s hardly even felt, but the opposite ensues – the slower and softer one goes, the more intense the kick. This doesn’t make any sense, for it seems the stimulation is not even there.

For example, run the back of your hand and caress your partner’s cheeks – from the base of her ears to the tip of her chin. Do it very, very slowly and very, very gently. Back and forth. Light as a feather, quiet as a willow,tamed as a breeze. (Observe her breathing.)

The Lover’s Touch can be employed anywhere on the body and is a good way of hunting for moan zones.

Don’t be limited to the use of hands, the Lover’s Touch goes beyond that trusty pair – YOUR WHOLE BODY is your Hand… every last blob of it. Your hair, toes, chest, penis, butt, lips, nose, yes even your pubic hair are conveyors of LT.