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5 Porn Star Blowjob Secrets EXPOSED!

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A blowjob is an amazing gift you can give to your partner – even better than sex. Every guy loves getting head – there’s nothing that compares to the feeling of a hot, wet mouth on his penis. However, there are far too many girls that don’t know how to give a good blowjob, leaving their men to watch porn and wish their girlfriends and wives could suck them like that. Make his fantasies come true by learning a blowjob like a porn star! Here are five porn star blowjob secrets that turn boring, run of the mill oral sex into something incredible!

Play With It First

All good porn stars know that you can’t just put your mouth on a guy’s cock and expect fireworks to happen. Guys need a little warm up time too, although they need far less than girls. So warm your guy up by playing with his penis a little first, before you start sucking on it. Rub it lightly over his underwear or over the sheet while you’re lying in bed. Rub it against your cheek, your lips and your face. Give yourself a little smack with it! Your enthusiasm and obvious love for his member will turn him on more than anything else.

Make Eye Contact & Smile

A guy really wants to see that you’re enjoying giving him head. You can let him know that you love what you’re doing by looking him in the eye and smiling when you’re going down on him. If you ask almost any man what his favorite thing about his partner is, he will likely either say her eyes or her smile – or both. When you make deep, soulful eye contact with your lover and smile while giving him a blowjob, you’ll not only make his knees weak with pleasure but you’ll also get him involved emotionally.

Deep Throat

Deep throating is hard work. It’s easy to gag and in some cases, women have vomited because their lover’s penis aggravated their gag reflex so much. (It wasn’t their fault). Men love to have women deep throat them though – in fact, many guys feel like it’s the “holy grail” of getting oral sex. Fortunately, you can still deep throat – without vomiting – even if you have a strong gag reflex. It’s a learned skill that takes practice (and breathing through your nose). Practice deep throating each time you give your lover a blowjob, and you’ll get better and better at it.

Don’t Be Afraid To Swallow

Most porn stars aren’t afraid to swallow their partner’s semen. Some seem to really, really love it! Sure, it’s an acquired taste and all, but the truth is, if you can learn to stomach it (or learn to love it), your man will LOVE his blowjob. There’s just something super sexy – and ultra naughty – about a woman who swallows her man’s spunk like it’s the most delicious thing she’s ever tasted. If you can’t manage to bring yourself to swallow, have a towel nearby that you can discreetly spit his semen in when he’s finished. If you’re acting like you can’t get enough, he’s not going to notice or care if you spit in a towel while he’s not looking.

Bring The Variety

Some girls get in a “rut” when it comes to giving a blowjob. They find a few techniques that work well and use them over and over again. Worse yet are the women that thing simply moving their mouth up and down their lover’s penis is a good blowjob. If you want to give head like a porn star and make your guy get down on his knees and beg for more, you want to learn several great techniques that you can mix and match when going down on him.

When going down on your lover, take note of his reactions each time you use a new technique. Play with it a little – this is part of the fun of giving excellent head! Try a technique and judge his reaction. Does he love it? Does he moan, grunt or thrust his pelvis towards your face? Or does he just kind of sit back, waiting for you to do something else? When you pay attention to his cues and body language, you’ll learn what he likes and doesn’t like. Then, take a mental note of what works (forget about what doesn’t) and use the best techniques in a different order and at different times to keep things fresh.

How To Make Sex Decadently Sinful With Chocolate!

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Sex games can bring the zing back into the bedroom – but forget about naked Twister! Try introducing chocolate during your sex games to make it sinfully good.

I love chocolates—and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay and sex are all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it!

Chocolate Is Actually Good For You!

Chocolates can do wonderful effects on our body. Since they are made from plants, they inherently contain natural components that promote good health. In fact, it is said that dark chocolates reduce high blood pressure. A small bar is enough to also lower bad cholesterol in the body. Eating chocolates gives an immediate boost of energy and vigor. Moreover—and also very fortunately—chocolates have also been found to have a certain effect on one’s desire for sexual activity.

They are said to strengthen a woman’s libido, resulting in an increased interest and desire for sex. As for men, chocolates stimulate passion and vitality and a remarkable increase in sexual desire can be noted. No wonder men always resort to chocolates when they date women!

A History On Chocolate

According to aphrodisiac history, the belief started with the Mayans, who drank chocolate for fertility. They would even use a chocolate drink concoction during marriage ceremonies. In very recent studies though, chocolates have been discovered to have phenylethylamine, a chemical that’s detected when one falls in love. And get this: the same chemical rises up to the brain during an orgasm!

Serotonin is also known to be present in chocolates. This chemical gives one a feeling of pleasure. These two substances are mildly addictive. But women are known to be more susceptible to the effects of phenylethylamine, thus making women more ‘chocoholic.’

If you’re still not convinced, then maybe results of a study (by Italian researchers no less!) published in The Times in 2004 will. According to that research, “Women who have a daily intake of chocolate showed higher levels of desire than women who did not have this habit. Chocolate can have a positive physiological impact on a woman’s sexuality.”

Chocolate As A Sex Tool

Now, if feeding your woman chocolates does not give you a hard-on or if she just ends up eating the whole box without even giving you a second glance, then there’s something wrong with your delivery.

That’s right. Chocolates are so common now that they don’t really conjure up images of sex right away so don’t just buy the average chocolate bonbon. Why not try Kama Sutra chocolates! That’s right; there are chocolate bars being sold online now that are shaped specifically to match Kama Sutra sex positions!

If you want to take this a step further, cook up your own Kama Sutra-shaped chocolates and incorporate them into your sex games. But this time, add some chili flakes to increase the aphrodisiac factor. Now what can be better than vanilla ice cream topped with warmed chocolate? That would be vanilla ice cream and warm chocolate eaten off your lover’s body!

Put some melted vanilla ice cream on your lover’s naked breasts and lap it up! Now, immediately follow this up with some warm chocolate sauce and suck off all of that too! Other areas you can try this are her neck (yes, her neck!) and of course her vagina!

Here’s another idea. Why not buy edible chocolate undies? Present this to your woman; urge her to try it on with one promise – that SHE will be your dessert tonight! You can also turn the tables around of course. Put on a chocolate-flavored condom and ask her to give you a blowjob. Incorporate these into your sex games and you’ll both be performing oral sex with gusto!

Another great option is edible body chocolate paint that should be applied with a very soft and tender paint brush. Imagine how she would feel as you glide that tickly, feathery, chocolate-laden brush all over her body. By the time you reach her groin, she’ll be panting like crazy!

There is truly no end to the wonders of chocolate as an aphrodisiac! In fact, I dare say that of all the aphrodisiacs that are popularly known, chocolates are the most readily available, are some of the most inexpensive to buy, are a joy to be eaten by both men and women, and are actually believed by scientists to increase sexual appetite!

So what are you waiting for? If I were you, I’d be running out the door to get some chocolates now!

4 Naughty, Forbidden Places For Great Oral Sex

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Oral sex is a lot of fun, but it can be even more titillating when you do it somewhere other than your bedroom. Here’s where to go to make oral sex even hotter.

As in most things, a little creativity can go a long way to spicing up your relationship. If you think about it, performing fellatio on a guy is pretty straight-forward, but add to that the elements of forbidden areas, stolen moment, and the fear of getting caught – well, it could be the best sex you guys have ever had!

On The Balcony

So near, yet so far. This is the feeling you guys will get when you engage in oral sex at your own balcony. Think about it. You’re still ‘home’. It’s your own place. And there’s probably a spot secluded enough so that nobody else can see you but at the same time, you guys are so ‘out there’. What if the neighbor see? Imagine the thrill!

If your woman is game with these things then lucky you! However, if she’s not that adventurous, take baby steps to convince her. For example, have an al fresco dinner and engage in light foreplay. Kiss her deeply until she feels comfortable with allowing you to place your hand under her clothes.

Take it just a little bit further each time you go out on the balcony. Soon enough, you’ll reach a stage when you both want more and this is the perfect time to guide her to go down and perform fellatio on you.

Wet & Wild – Oceanside Or Poolside?

If you have your own swimming pool, great. This would make it easier for you to engage in oral sex in your own pool. For this event, the thrill is in the fact that you guys are still in the water. If your pool is outside your home with neighbors potentially looking in, all the better! Again, use your imagination. Don’t just do it on the sides of the pool. Think pool steps or even on the diving board!

If poolside doesn’t work for you guys, then how about ocean-side? Granted, salt water does make it difficult for her to perform fellatio on you while you’re standing in the ocean but it doesn’t mean it can’t be done for a few seconds. This is especially thrilling if there are other swimmers nearby.

Of course, there are other areas where you guys can engage in oral sex. For instance, what about a secluded side of the beach? Or why not hire a raft, go out into the ocean and perform oral sex on each other there? You’ll have your own natural water-bed.

Out In The Open

Another great place to engage in oral sex is out in the open space. Take a hike one weekend, find a secluded, grassy area and have an afternoon romp. You can also try an open field. This is great if you own a nice, big piece of land but if you don’t, that’s ok, just go for a nice walk into some nearby woods or park near you. Just be careful of two things: poisonous plants and the potential presence of ferocious wildlife!

In The Kitchen

We’ve been discussing areas outside the home, but really, a lot of people can’t even make this sex fantasy come true: oral sex or intercourse in the kitchen.

Well, now is the time to take that step and fulfill this fantasy of yours. After all, especially if you’re just starting to be more adventurous, the kitchen offers a LOT of areas for comfortable oral sex: the counter, the dining table, kitchen sink, etc.

Another plus with doing it in the kitchen is that you’re near some very handy props. Admittedly, there’s less props you can use while performing fellatio (compared to performing cunnilingus) but there are some old reliable staples you can use like whipped cream, liquid chocolate, and of course, peanut butter. As these items are all literally within an arm’s reach, there’s no need to break the momentum during oral sex. And so what if it gets a bit messy? The kitchen sink and tea towels are just nearby!

All these areas aim to increase the excitement factor and makes performing oral sex on you a whole new experience for her too. So the next time you plan to ask her to perform fellatio, surprise her with just how naughty you can be with these new, hot and sexy ideas.

Shaving – It’s Not Just For Pretty Boys

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Shaving can be a hassle – but you don’t want a forest growing down there when your girl goes to give you a blowjob. Here’s the easy way to manscape.

Body hair is a sensitive topic among men -it’s sort of like cellulite is for women – but the fact of the matter is, no matter how much your wife claims to love your back hair, she would like it better if it wasn’t there. Yes, body hair shows you’re a man, but if when you two get done having sex, and she has almost as much of your body hair stuck on her, as you have on your body, it’s time to consider some manscaping. I’m not suggesting you wax yourself to the brink of looking like a bad impression of a David Beckham Armani Underwear ad, I’m just suggesting a little basic grooming.

Get Clean First!

The first step seems quite obvious, but it bears repeating – wash yourself. I know you’ve seen a bunch of movies about horny teenage boys where they say that women love a man’s sweat. Well, they don’t mean dry sweat. If you sweat at all during the day, you must wash, as bacteria and body odor stick to dry sweat. That smell does not please women. You can even take it a step further. Look at her products.

I’m sure she has some kind of body scrub. If you exfoliate, which means rub the grainy stuff all over your body, two to three times a week, it will get rid of the top layer of dead skin and even make course body hair a bit finer. That means dude grime won’t build up on your skin as quickly, and you will be softer to the touch. I know you think it sounds a little gay, but if your skin is soft, she will want to rub all over you.

Trimming Your Nose Hair? You Bet!

Now to deal with the excessive body hair. Men seem to be unable to notice when the nose hair sticks out below their nostrils, or fuzz grows out of their ears. In which case, just to be safe, put yourself on a regimen of running nose hair cutters through those areas once a week. That way you can be certain you don’t see hair because it’s not there.

The Pubes Have Got To Go!

Onto your pubic hair. You should follow the military rule of keeping it high and tight. If you have a big, thick bush filled with sweat and dead skin cells that should have been exfoliated, it is not going to make her want to put her face down there and give you oral sex. Again, you don’t have to shave it bald, just give it a courtesy trim now and then. The less hair you have down there, the less bacteria and dead skin you’ll trap – and the less it will smell.

There you have it, you don’t need any fancy procedures although the cost of laser hair removal does become more affordable every day – you just need to practice some basic hygiene. It’s just plain respectful to your woman, and you will be rewarded with more sex.

 

5 Fellatio Mistakes – And What To Do About Them

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Fellatio is great – of course, if everything goes smoothly. Here are five things that you don’t want to happen during a blowjob (but that do) and how to deal.

Unlike what you may see in adult-rated movies, sex in real life can actually be awkward and funny. Slipping, fanny farts and sloppy wet noises are ALL part of making love. You can’t escape them. The tick is of course how to deal with these situations; how you convert the seemingly embarrassing situation into one that’s not.

The same goes with oral sex. There are issues that might occur so it’s up to you guys to deal with it in such a way that it doesn’t completely destroy the sexual charge in the bedroom!

The following items are scenarios that can likely happen during oral sex. They’re not meant to discourage you and your partner with engaging in oral sex at all. They’re meant as a guide to help you guys get over potentially awkward, yet real life situations easily.

Your Pubic Hair Gets In Her Teeth

This happens more often than you think. You’re so turned on by the sexual pleasure and she’s so into what she’s doing that unwittingly, a strand of your pubic hair gets caught in her teeth and gets yanked. Ouch!

The best way to deal with this is of course to laugh it off. Now how to get that hair out? The worst thing she can do is to make a big show out of it by sitting up and trying to get the hair out with her mouth wide open and her fist in it. Instead, she should casually – almost quietly and without drawing attention to it – take the hair out from her mouth and simply wipe the hair on the bed sheet to deal with later.

Her Dentures Get Dislodged

Actually, if HE didn’t’ notice it, SHE should simply go ahead as if nothing happened. However, the problem here is that often, her instinctive reaction is of course to ‘catch’ the slipping dentures with her hand, or worse, by closing her mouth. If this happens, and if she caused you pain, she should remedy the situation by slowly, lovingly licking and caressing the injured spot.

She Accidentally  Bites You

Sometimes women get so turned on by performing fellatio that they get a tad carried away and he can feel her teeth slowly, but firmly, touching his manhood. First of all, if you feel this guys, speak up! Simply touch her hair lovingly – don’t yank because you’re in a panic – and ask her to ease up a bit. Believe me, she will understand.

The same goes if she’s using her nails, have tongue jewelry or even hand jewelry that you feel is too close for comfort. Simply speak up before the ‘accident’ occurs.

You Have Gas

If women are afraid of fanny farts, men get conscious too of letting out gas especially if their women are down there performing fellatio on them. If this does occur, what do you do? Really, the best thing to do is simply pretend like it didn’t happen.

However, if what you released was not pleasant at all, then be a gentleman and stop for a while. It’s no use for you to go out of the room as the deed was done there. However, what you can do is ask her to stop, pull her up so you guys are face-to-face and get into some deep kissing. This way, the sexual rhythm is not that shattered, yet you save her from suffering down there or worse, give her time to laugh and make fun of you.

She Gags While Deep Throating

Some women can be too adventurous and try to bring their man’s manhood all inside her mouth to deep throat him. The problem is, if her mouth really can’t accommodate him, she’ll experience what most people call a ‘gag reflex’ and this is not pleasant – for you and her. The best thing to do is for her to pause as proceeding might only push her to gag further.

However, this does not mean she should stop stimulation of your manhood altogether. She can simply take you out of her mouth and use her hand for a while to stimulate you while she catches her breath.

In the end, a good sense of humor is all it takes to get over these oral sex problems. The more you focus on them, and the longer you focus on them, the bigger the blunder gets and the more awkward the situation becomes. Don’t let this happen, as this may become a deterrent in engaging in oral sex in the future.

Have a laugh, jot it down as experience, and move on!