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Deep Throat – A Beginner’s Guide To Taking It All In

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Deep throat is the act of putting a man’s penis all the way down your throat during a blowjob. While this might sound like a horrible act, every man and some women thoroughly enjoy it. Having the ability to fit his entire penis in your mouth without gagging or vomiting is a talent that most women have to learn.

Unless you were born without a gag reflex, this is going to take some practice. So settle in and realize that you’re probably not going to be the queen of deep throat right off the bat. If your guy has begged you to take him in his entirety, there are a few things that you should know before your next blowjob. Here are some tips to get you started.

Just Relax

One of the biggest mistakes that women make when they start deep throating is tensing up. You have to relax your entire mouth and throat if you’re going to be able to take him all the way in. When you tense up, the muscles in the back of your mouth are also going to tense up. You don’t have to get this down on the first try and your guy is going to love you practicing on him, so don’t get discouraged if you’re not a master right out of the gate. Focus on relaxing the muscles in the back of your throat before you start to give the blowjob. Take some deep breaths and salivate your mouth a lot. When you salivate your mouth, you should feel your throat muscles start to relax.

Find The Right Position

Deep throating is all about putting yourself into the right position. If you’re not in the right position, you’re not going to be able to deep throat your partner. One of the best oral sex positions that you can get into is the typical position with him laying on the bed and you on top of him. This will allow you to straighten your mouth and keep your throat straight to make it a 90-degree angle from his penis to your mouth. Another great position is to lay down on the bed with your head off the edge. Have him enter your mouth and push his penis down your throat. You’re going to want to give him a sign if you’re getting uncomfortable. This position gives him more control and takes some of the pressure off of you.

Use A Lot Of Lube

Lube is essential for deep throating. Think of deep throating as you would sex. When you are performing the act, you want it to be as lubed up as possible. The natural occurrence of the act will lead to the production of saliva, however, getting an added boost will help you immensely. Use a flavored lube on his penis before you start giving him a blowjob. The flavored lube will react with the saliva to make his penis even slicker. There are all kinds of flavored lubes on the market. Pick a flavor that you will like and you will find that the experience is much easier and pleasing for the both of you.

Work Your Way Down

Don’t start out by taking his entire penis down your throat. Work your way down the shaft until you can feel the tip of his penis in the back of your throat. While you might get enthusiastic about showing off your new talent, you don’t want to strain yourself or him. Shoving his penis down your throat can initiate a gag reflex and easily trigger vomiting. Take it slow and work your way down the shaft until you feel resistance in the back of your mouth. Hold this for a few seconds and then come back up to a comfortable position with him still inside your mouth. Remember that if you’re going to deep throat, you will probably not be able to breathe. Time your deep throating so you are able to breathe and you will find this form of oral sex a lot easier.

Deep throating is a great way to keep your guy happy. If you have never done this act before, you can easily work your way up to it by utilizing these methods. Making sure that you are prepared for the act with lube and relaxation is essential for getting the best results. Make sure that you’re not rushing anything and work your way down his penis to make it more comfortable for the both of you. If you rush the act, you could hurt him. Follow these guidelines and you will see immeasurable results.

How To Give Great Head & Please Your Guy Every Time

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A blowjob is one of the best treats you can give your guy. However, if he pulls back up every time you start to go down on him, you might need a few new tricks. Despite what most women think, if a girl gives bad head, he will typically not be interested in the act. While a girl that gives a great blowjob they can have their partner wrapped around their fingers.

A girl that uses too much teeth or doesn’t know what she’s doing down there can be a deal breaker for a lot of men. If you are worried about your oral skills, there are a few tips that you can implement to quickly abolish the learning curve.

Get Into It

A blowjob is never fun from somebody who hates doing it. Guys want a girl that wants to do it. A lot of women enjoy giving oral sex because of the power they have over the man. Being able to take him over with your lips, hands, mouth and tongue can be extremely erotic.

If you’re more of a submissive girl, let him guide you with his hands and hips. Do whatever is necessary to actually show a little enthusiasm while giving oral sex. Make your guy use a special body wash beforehand or get some flavored lube to make it better for the both of you.

Don’t Go Straight For It

Men are a lot like women. They like to be teased. When you’re giving a blowjob, make sure that you’re not going straight for his penis. Use other methods of foreplay to get him turned on beforehand. Kissing and running your fingertips up and down his stomach will easily get him primed for oral sex.

Kiss his neck and chest before you slowly work your way down to his penis. This will show him how much you love his body instead of just doing something that he wants because he wants it. Take your time and don’t rush anything. You want to spend just as much time getting him ready as you would actually giving him oral sex.

Don’t Just Use Your Mouth

While your mouth is going to be the primary means of getting him off, use the rest of your body during the blowjob to get your guy even more turned on. Use your hands, your tongue and even your hair. Your hair might seem like a strange thing to use while giving oral sex, but he will love it. Soft hair can feel like silk and it will send a shiver down his spine. Come up and rub his penis against your breasts or against your clitoris to show even more enthusiasm.

Don’t Be Boring

The whole point of the blowjob is show your guy how much you love him. No guy wants boring oral sex. When you’re performing oral sex, make sure that you are mixing things up a bit. Move your tongue up and down his shaft very slowly. Work your way up to the head and always make eye contact for more intimacy.

Use your tongue on the skin where the head meets the shaft. This is a very sensitive part on the penis. Wet your mouth with saliva and tease him by kissing the head. Play with his balls and suck on them to send him over the edge. Mix things up and you will find that your guy is always primed for a blowjob.

The Big Finish

When you feel that you’re guy is about to have an orgasm, you need to make a choice. Do you spit, swallow or jerk him off? No matter what you do, any choice can be pleasurable for him. If you’re going to swallow, go up and down on his penis as he’s cuming and swirl your tongue around the head. This is a move he will never forget. If you are going to spit out his semen, you can use the same move; just make sure that you have something around you that you can spit into.

If you aren’t into taking his semen in your mouth, make sure that you have a lot of saliva on his penis before he starts to cum. If you don’t spit or swallow, you need to get some flavored lube. Flavored lube is the best for jerking him off because it reacts to saliva. Focus on the part where the head meets the shaft if you’re going to jerk him off after the blowjob.

Why Blowjob Enthusiasm Is SO Important!

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A blowjob isn’t any good if you act like you’d rather be doing something else. Here’s why being excited about giving him a blowjob is essential!

Sure, women enjoy giving fellatio because it gives their partners pleasure. They enjoy seeing their partner in the midst of bliss and that can be exhilarating for the woman. But let’s face it ladies – very rarely does giving fellatio make women jump for joy. So how do you get enthused when giving your partner fellatio?

Putting On A Good Show

Just act like it! You don’t have to be an Oscar winner to put on a good show for your partner while giving him awesome head. Trust us; what you DON’T want to do is give your partner fellatio while acting like a wet noodle. This may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised at the number of women that give a blowjob quietly, intently listening for their partner’s moans of enjoyment.

The key to success in fellatio is to act like you want it. We mean this. If you do not abide by anything else, abide by this one and only oral sex tip! You have to act like you’re going to die if you don’t give your partner fellatio right this second. Look up at him with that hunger in your eyes and let him see just how badly you want to pleasure him. Your enthusiasm alone will get him more turned on and ready to go than anything else you could possibly do!

What To Say And Do To Let Him Know You Love It!

You can do several things to show your partner that you’re enthusiastic about giving him fellatio. You can use phrases such as “I want you” or “I want to [insert preferred phrase equivalent to giving fellatio].” If you choose to use words or phrases, make sure that you convey the level of urgency that you want to in your voice. If you’re uncomfortable with using words or phrases and if you are a bit shy, you can easily convey what you want to with sounds and noises – the more guttural, the better! Another way to get across that you want him NOW is to grab him with your hands – his back, his butt, his penis – anything you can get your hands on to draw him to you.

Use your hands to squeeze him and hold him close to you like you can’t get enough of him! He will love thinking that you are so turned on by giving him something so wonderful – and you’ll be in for quite a treat!

How Not To Overdo It

It is important, however, that you don’t overdo it on the “acting.” Of course, you want to please your partner so at least some of it is genuine, right? But you don’t want him to think he’s in a bad porn flick. Just think of it as extending the genuineness of your enthusiasm or like putting a magnifying glass on your excitement. If you overdo it on the acting and give your partner a little too much of a “show” and not enough fellatio, he will clearly see through your act and get upset for even acting in the first place. The key is to develop a good balance between the two so that you are excited, enthusiastic and thrilled without going over the top.

How To Spice Up A Blowjob

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A blowjob is great in and of itself, but what if you could make it even better? Check out these blowjob tips and you’ll soon be a PRO at giving your man head!

There are many ways that you can enhance a blowjob – it’s not all about tips, tricks and location! Use of external stimulants (the details of which we will go into) can make your partner feel divine and give things a spin when fellatio begins to get boring. In this department, imagination can take you anywhere!

Ice It Up!

The cold receptors in his genital area react greatly to ice or a cool touch. If you’re not careful, however, too much cold can cause his penis to shrivel up and disappear! Just enough cold though, and you can send your partner into oblivion! The best way to incorporate a touch of cold into your blowjob routine is to put either a small piece of ice in your mouth while you suck him, or drink something ice-cold before you do. The combination of the cold along with the anticipation of stopping and starting while you take sips of your cool mixture will send your partner over the edge.

Use Menthol

This will create a similar sensation to the use of cold drinks or ice, but without the fear of your partner losing his erection due to excessive chilliness. You can suck your partner off with a mint in your mouth or you can use crème de menthe. Anything that has menthol in it will create this wonderful effect. Altoids and York Peppermint Patties are great for popping in your mouth and working on the head of your man’s penis. Also, if you will use a toothpaste with a strong mint flavor, brush not only your teeth, but the entire length of your tongue, inside of your cheeks and the roof of your mouth. He WILL be able to feel the minty sensation on his penis.

Get Warm!

Get warm, but not too hot! Drink some warm tea or hot cocoa before you put your partner’s penis in your mouth. The added heat will drive him wild! If you really want to throw your partner a curveball, alternate between hot and cold drinks or throw a mint in the hot cocoa. The different sensations will give your partner a fellatio session to remember.

Get Saucy!

You may have heard of using things like chocolate sauce or whipped cream when fellating your partner – and this is a great idea if you want to make fellatio fun for both you and your partner! You can use a variety of things here – but make sure if you are using anything with sugar that you aren’t planning to have intercourse later. Sugary substances can change the delicate pH of the vagina and cause a yeast infection. If you’re just planning for fellatio, adding some fun “toppings” can make the night a lot more interesting! You can use whipped cream (topped with a cherry) and chocolate sauce – but don’t buy any bananas, your partner’s penis will suffice! You can also use peanut butter or caramel sauce and even ice cream! Ice cream will combine this technique with the cold technique for added fun.

For those of you who prefer to not consume the sugar, try using flavored yogurts or sugar free pudding! Not only can you use it in foreplay to paint his body with, there’s no calorie guilt!

Get Tipsy

Okay, maybe just a little tipsy. If you like liquor, you can do body shots off your partner or for a little more fun, fellate him while drinking your favorite liquor. The “burn” of a strong liquor (like vodka or rum) will warm up his penis and your night! Just make sure that you don’t overdo it – getting sick could ruin all the fun. You can also do this with beer to give your partner a tingly sensation (or soda if you prefer not to drink alcoholic beverages). For a fun trick, you can use your partner’s penis to stir your drink of choice (be it alcoholic or not) and then suck it all off! With all the flavors of liquors and schnapps, you’re sure to have fun finding some to try out on his swizzle stick!

Give Him A Hummer

No, not the car! Give him some feel-good vibrations by humming a catchy tune while going down on him. The humming actually creates minute vibrations that travel through his entire groin – bringing your blow job “full circle.” Don’t be shy – he probably won’t hear the tune you’re humming (so humming “The Wheels on The Bus” won’t be an issue) and he certainly won’t be judging how in tune you are!

Two Words: Pop Rocks

Using pop rocks during a blowjob is probably one of the best fun tricks that you can use! You know the tingling feeling you get in your mouth when you eat Pop rocks? Imagine your partner feeling that on his penis! Use only a few pop rocks at a time – the sensation will be lost if you have a huge glob of them in your mouth. You will also want to fellate him lightly while the pop rocks are in your mouth. They don’t call them rocks for nothing! Pressing down on your partner’s penis while Pop rocks are in your mouth can push them into his penis and cause him to be uncomfortable. If you do it right though, Pop rocks can be a lot of fun!

11 Blowjob Places That Will TOTALLY Surprise Your Man!

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A blowjob is fun, but it can be extra sexy when you do it OUT of the bedroom. Surprise your fella with a blowjob in one of these incredible new places!

Okay, so you can only go so far with actual blowjob tricks, tips and techniques. What do you do when you’ve exhausted your entire bag of tricks? Well, there’s always the element of the surprise fellatio session! Guys love to get fellatio when they’re least expecting it – it makes it seem like fellatio is entirely new to them! Take your partner by surprise in the kitchen for a few minutes while fixing dinner or even at his desk while he is on the computer. A surprise fellatio session during your favorite movie can rev him up and you can even take him to the bedroom for a more intimate experience. The possibilities with surprise fellatio are endless!

1. In The Car

This is commonly known as “road head.” Make sure your partner is on a slow, deserted street (highways later in the evening or at night are great because they’re so empty) and go to! Make sure, however, that your partner will let you know if it gets to be too much for him and he can pull over. You DON’T want him to have an orgasm while driving! Pull over and finish the job.

2. In The Shower

This may seem a little bland, but guys love fellatio in the shower. A lot of women do too because if her partner has an orgasm, she can easily spit out the semen and rinse her mouth without a lot of extra fuss.

3. In A Pool, Jacuzzi, Etc.

Make sure these are private (or semi-private) before you start! Your partner will love feeling the kinkiness of receiving fellatio while in a pool or Jacuzzi. Have him sit on the steps of the pool or on the ladder so that you have something to hold onto while you do your magic. If you’re good at holding your breath, disappear below the surface and you’ll fulfill his mermaid sex fantasy!

4. In A Lake Or Ocean

You can quickly separate yourself from the rest of the pack in such a large body of water. A float is a great tool for putting your man on and then as your lower body is still in the water, you have full access to him.

5. On A Bus Or Plane

This is a great one if you can manage it! If you can do this discreetly, you and your partner can have a great time giving and receiving fellatio on a bus or a plane. An airplane blowjob during a night flight can be accomplished without much notice from passengers around you since they tend to be less crowded. Move to the back of the plane and ask for a few of those complimentary blankets. Once the lights are dim and fellow passengers nod off, it’s time to wake your man up! Having him ejaculate in your mouth and trying to be quiet while doing it is an awesome experience.

6. In A Public Restroom

This is a great one, because in a lot of restrooms (such as a family restroom) can be shut and locked with just you and your partner inside. If people come knocking on the door asking to use the restroom, however, it is best if you pack up and try another bathroom. And never in a port-a-potty. Duh.

7. In The Backyard

Or the front yard if you have a fairly private place. Or in a field or open area – the feeling of a cool breeze and the grass on your partner’s naked body will thrill his senses! At night, take a blanket or quilt outside and enjoy the moon and stars together. Take two blankets if you think there is a chance of being spotted. Lie on the one and slip below the top cover!

8. In Mother Nature

Take a hike in the woods! If you’re on a highly traveled set of hiking trails, just find a spot not too far from the trail and rest his back up against a tree. Just watch for poison ivy!

Find a bridge out on a ride through the country and climb under it. Once you start looking around, with the thoughts of a “fun” blowjob in mind, you’ll definitely see spots popping up everywhere!

9. At A Sports Event

Remember stories about making out under the bleachers in high school? Take that to the next level with your partner and give him awesome fellatio in a private place at a sports event. Just make sure it’s a private place! If you’re nervous about the chances of getting caught, consider this: my readers have returned to sports complexes after hours and ‘done the deed’ in the dug outs at baseball fields on the players’ benches and also on the 50 yard line of the youth football field. They’ve even gone to a kid’s playground after midnight and used the end of on the old fashioned slides! Of course, I am not advocating anything that might be illegal.

10. In The Laundromat

This may be a little risky but if you and your partner are up for a little bit of fun, you can have your partner sit up on a washer or dryer (providing that you’re alone in the laundry mat) and go to town! This is even better if the washer or dryer is operating! Keep in mind, small town laundry mats are better than conglomerate laundry mats for this task. Turn his back to the door so that it’s not obvious to anyone walking by.

11. In A Car Wash

Pull into one of those drive-in car washes on the pretense that your car needs a quick cleaning. Go for the “deluxe” package so you’ll have plenty of time. Use the secluded, suds filled location inside your vehicle to go down on him!