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13 Brand New Ways To Make Her Thighs Quiver

Sex for a woman is often less pleasurable than it is for men, simply because it’s harder for a girl to orgasm. It takes a lot more foreplay to get a woman to warm up enough to even get close to orgasm, and many guys just don’t last that long. Either that, or they don’t have the skills to bring a girl to climax. Either way, you can use these sex tips to rev your partner’s engine and make your lover come.

Lick And Suck The Labia

Often, men either go for the vaginal canal itself or the clitoris when giving a girl oral sex. This is great and all, but the labia usually get neglected this way. The labia are actually packed with tons of sensitive nerve endings, so she’ll get a lot more pleasure than if you focus on the clitoris only. Use your tongue to lick all around the labia area and if your partner’s labia are longer, gently suck them into your mouth for a few seconds at a time. She’ll love that you actually put your mouth all over the vagina instead of sticking to one spot!

Massage Your Partner’s Pubic Area (Around The Clitoris)

The clitoris is actually quite a bit larger than it appears. Kind of like the tip of the iceberg thing – there’s much more hidden underneath. On either side of the part of the clitoris that you see, there is a channel of clitoral tissue on either side of it in a sort of wishbone shape. Massaging the pubic area around the clitoris will stimulate this tissue and bring your girl to orgasmic heights.

Place Your Tongue On The Clitoris – And Don’t Move!

This is a great way to tease your lover during cunnilingus. When going down on your girl, flatten your tongue and place it fully on your partner’s clitoris. Hold it there for several seconds without moving. It won’t be long before she absolutely begs you to lick and suck more! You can alternate doing this with flicking the clitoris with your tongue to drive your partner absolutely wild.

Explore The Vagina With Your Fingers

Most guys think fingering is just about sticking their fingers up a woman’s vagina. This alone won’t give an orgasm and if she’s not properly aroused, fingering like this will actually be uncomfortable or painful. Take some time to lube your partner up beforehand with a good water based lubricant and explore the entire vaginal area with your fingers.

Start out with soft pressure, gradually increasing your massage as she gets more and more turned on. Once you’ve massaged your partner’s clitoris and vagina and she’s really turned on, slip your finger inside the vaginal canal and use the “come hither motion” to stimulate the g-spot.

Use Different Oral Sex Positions

Even oral sex can get boring after awhile if you’re using the same sex position each and every time. Next time you want to “go down” on your lover, you don’t necessarily have to “go down” at all. Instead, have your partner come to you! Let your partner sit on your face, or go from behind and eat your lover out doggy style. The change in sex positions will make your girl feel as though what you’re doing is more taboo, and it will up the pleasure factor for your partner significantly!

Go Slow At First During Intercourse

Most guys pump away during intercourse once the initial penetration is over, and rarely can a woman have an orgasm this way. Instead, enter your partner slowly and slide your penis in and out slowly, so she can feel everything. Take your thumb or a vibrator and slowly rub the clitoris as well and it won’t be long before she’s bucking up against you with orgasmic waves of pleasure.

Bring A Vibrator To Bed

If your partner struggles with the ability to have an orgasm during sex with you, don’t be too proud to bring a vibrator to bed. Some women just need a lot of stimulation to bring themselves over the edge of climax. Try a couples vibrator that you can use too, such as one that is attached to a cock ring that slips over you and keeps your erection rock hard. This will help stimulate the clitoris as you have sex with your partner, so she will get to enjoy sex as much as you do.

Use Baby Powder Deodorant

This is one you probably haven’t heard of before, but did you know that wearing baby powder deodorant can actually help turn a woman on? This is because it plays to your woman’s need to procreate, so her mind will instantly attach you with making babies – and for you that means lots of sex. While women also enjoy musky scents that make you smell more manly, wearing baby powder deodorant is a simple way to ensure you’re going to get some! It’s also ghoing to ensure that she’s going to be fully involved and aroused during sex – which means it’s going to be better for your lover too.

Make Sure Your Lover’s Feet Are Warm

Studies show that women can reach orgasm more easily if the feet are warm. So before you hop into bed, give your lover a bit of an erotic massage – on the feet! Make sure your hands are nice and warm and give yourpartner a rubdown with some heated massage oil. You can also have your girl slip on a pair of socks. Keeping the feet toasty will make it much easier for you to give your partner an orgasm and if you massaged the feet to get them warm, the relaxing rubdown will help make your lover’s orgasm incredible.

Tell Your Parnter How Much You Love Making Her Feel Good

Women are emotional beings and appealing to your partner’s emotional side during sex will heighten your partner’s orgasmic potential. While you’re going down on your girl or fingering, look into her eyes and let your partner know how much you love touching her, feeling her and giving pleasure. This is NOT dirty talk – you’re not going to describe how “hot” she is or how you like how wet she is. Turn it around and say how much you really enjoy making HER feel good.

If you’re sincere about it (and she’ll definitely be able to tell), she’ll let down the emotional guard just a little bit. When she does this, you have the open door to give your partner an earth shattering climax.

Don’t Change What You’re Doing If You Find Something She Likes

If you’re giving your partner oral sex and she really starts gasping for breath and clinging to the sheets, do not stop what you’re doing – ever. A lot of guys are under the impression that if they find something their partner likes, they can change it up and do something that she likes even better. This completely backfires almost every time! Instead, keep a steady pace doing whatever you’re doing and once you’re sure that she likes it (as in, she’s screaming with ecstasy), keep doing what you’re doing and bring your lover over the edge of orgasm.

Try Tantric Sex

Tantra is a form of sex that allows two partners to share sexual energy with each other – by having slow, intimate contact with each other and enjoying the act of sex and each wave of pleasure it has to offer. Reaching orgasm is surely a goal with tantric sex, but it is not necessarily the main event. Take a page out of the book of Tantra and “make love” with your partner. Go slow and gaze deeply into your partner’s eyes as she experiences wave of wave after pleasure. If either of you get close, pull back and do something else until you’re ready to go at it again. Prolong the experience and when the orgasm finally hits, duck for cover because it’s going to be a big one.

Take A Shower With Your Lover – And Wash The Vagina

Whether it’s before or after sex, take a shower with you partner and ask if she’ll allow you to wash her vagina. If you do this before sex, it can be a great form of foreplay, but that is not the idea here. The idea here is to show your partner that you care for your partner by lovingly washing the genitals with no thoughts of yourself or your own pleasure. This single act of showing your lover that you truly do care for her, her health and her pleasure can make a huge difference in how she can let go of the inhibitions with you and have a great orgasm.

7 Oral Sex Tips That Will Have Her SCREAMING Your Name!

By Kaylen Jackson

Oral sex is probably one of the easiest – and best – ways to make a woman orgasm. If you’re not skilled at cunnilingus and there’s another guy who is – even if you’re better looking – the other guy will win out again and again. So shape up your game with these seven oral sex tips – they are hotter than hot!

Slow Pressure

Make your tongue as broad and as flat as you can. Put pressure on her clitoris and lick slowly – like, very SLOWLY. Mostly what you’re focusing on here is the pressure and very little movement. Let up on the pressure say, to blow air on her clitoris, and then put the pressure back on again, still moving very little – if you’re licking, you’re doing it extremely slowly. You may not think that the pressure is doing very much, but this is a great warm up technique that will prime her for more direct stimulation.

Bottom To Top

A lot of guys skip over a woman’s entire vulva during oral sex, sticking only to the clitoris. While it is possible – and probable – that you’ll make a woman orgasm just by licking her clitoris, she’s missing out on the other incredible sensations that come with oral sex. Don’t ignore her vagina or her labia – instead, lick from the bottom of her vagina, slowly, all the way up to the top of her clitoris. You can come back down with your tongue again, or you can let up and start back at the bottom if you want to tease a little more. This will create intense sensations that she probably has missed out on before now!

Tongue Thrusting

Again, this capitalizes on the fact that most guys ignore the vaginal canal during oral sex. Well, you’re not going to. Instead, you’re going to thrust your tongue in and out of her vagina, mimicking intercourse. Don’t use this move when you first start going down on your lover – save it for when she’s really warmed up and craving your tongue all over her!

Spreading Her Wide

Next time you perform oral sex on your lover, spread her legs wide first. Sit her rear on a pillow so she is more comfortable, but make her aware that you want to see, touch and lick everything. Spread her legs wide and put your hands on them to push them away from you while you’re licking her. You can also spread her labia for more intense sensations on the clitoris and inner vaginal folds.

Enthusiasm And Dirty Talk

Enthusiasm is everything when it comes to giving oral sex. If a girl isn’t excited about giving you a blowjob, do you really still want her to? Okay, the answer is probably “yes,” but the point is that enthusiastic head is better than mediocre “let’s-just-get-this-over-with” head. Don’t hesitate to let your partner know how much you enjoy going down on her, and don’t be afraid to spice it up a little bit with dirty talk. Be vocal with plenty of moans and groans (most guys forget this and just expect the girl to make all the noise) and tell her what you’re going to do and how you’re going to do it. If you act like you’re really into it, her arousal level is going to triple!

Doggy Style

Chances are, your girl has never been eaten out doggy style before and if she has, it probably wasn’t all that often. This is a somewhat “taboo” oral sex position considering the man’s facial proximity to the woman’s anus, but if your partner is very clean or this doesn’t bother you at all (heck, it may even turn you on), then next time you give your partner head, tell her to get on her knees and bend over! She will love the naughtiness of it, and she’ll also dig being able to feel and hear what is going on but not have you in her line of sight at all.

Cuddle Time Afterwards

While women absolutely LOVE oral sex, there is something about it that disconnects her from her partner. It’s most likely because she can’t hold his body, kiss him or nuzzle his neck while he’s down south. Don’t get the wrong idea though – just because she really likes face to face time with you, it doesn’t mean that she’d rather forgo oral sex. Give her the best of both worlds by following up a killer cunnilingus session with lots of sweet and romantic cuddle time. This will reassure her of how much you care, and in turn, make her more open and uninhibited the next time around!

8 Sizzling Oral Sex Positions (For Her)

By Kaylen Jackson

Oral sex can get boring for women if she’s always laying down to receive. While oral sex is great in just about every shape or form, you can really heat things up with different oral sex positions. In fact, when your partner is going down on you in a variety of different ways, the same moves and techniques can actually feel totally different. Try these new oral sex positions to make him going down on you a lot more fun!

Standing Up

Guys will often get a blowjob standing up – but because a woman’s genitals don’t “stick out” like a man’s does, a woman doesn’t often get to stand while receiving oral sex. Next time your man goes down on you, suggest that he goes “up” on you instead! Stand over his head and let him come up underneath you to pleasure you with his mouth.

Variation: Prop your leg up on a table or a chair to allow him full and total access to your genitals. He’ll love being able to really see what he’s doing down there!

Down And Dirty Doggy Style

If your guy doesn’t mind being close to your back door entrance – or if he enjoys giving you analingus at the same time he’s going down on you – doggy style is definitely right up your alley. Kneel on all fours just as you would if you and your partner were going to have sex and he’s going to enter you from behind. Instead of penetrating you with his penis, he’ll actually bring his face down there and lick and suck you from behind. Seriously though, if your guy is back door shy, stay away from this one.

Variation: Have him flip over on his back and slide up underneath you, facing your genitals. He can give you oral sex this way, without being so involved with your behind.

Sitting With Legs Spread Wide

Sit up on a couch or chair and spread your legs as wide as you can, making your entire genital area open to your partner. Have him kneel down or sit on the floor, about eye level with your vulva. He can reach you easily this way, both with his mouth and his hands – which comes in “handy” for fingering. This is actually a very comfortable position for both you and your partner, provided that you’re both at the right level. If either of you is stretching up or hunched down to get in this position, try to find another chair or place to sit where you can be more comfortable.

Variation: Try spreading your vaginal lips with your fingers while your partner goes down on you. Not only will he love having full access to your lady parts, he’ll also love how unabashed and naughty this move is.

On The Side

This too is one of the most comfortable oral sex positions both for the giver and the receiver. Lie on your side on the bed or couch and have your partner lie upside down behind you. He should be facing your rear. Lift up the leg that is not on the bed and hold it high either with your hands or with some kind of restraint (which could be even more fun with a little bondage!) He’s going to slide his head in between your legs, bringing his face around to meet your genitals. He can rest his head and neck on your thigh while he eats you out.

Variation: Once he’s going down on you, release your leg and rest it on his shoulders. This gives him less access to your vulva, but it does give your leg a rest!

A New Twist On Oral Sex “Missionary”

The “missionary” version of oral sex positions is where the woman is lying down and the man lies on his stomach with his face buried deep in between her legs. While this is an excellent way to reach orgasm during oral sex – after all, there’s a reason it’s considered a “classic” – there are different things you can do with it to make it even more fun. After you lie down, bring your legs together and then raise them up, bringing your knees close to your stomach. Your legs should still be together. This allows your man to come up underneath your legs and lick your vulva. Have him bury his tongue deep in your folds, because light licking isn’t going to do the trick here with your legs pressed together.

Variation: Rest your legs on his shoulders when you get tired of holding them up. This will make it easier for him to go down on you, and it will be more comfortable for you when you get closer and closer to orgasm.

Sitting…On His Face

You’ve probably heard of this one, but it’s not played out just yet. Sitting on a man’s face is incredibly erotic for a woman, especially if she’s into domination and he’s into submission. After giving your man a blowjob with him lying down, crawl up his body and plant your genitals right on his face. He’ll love the idea of you grinding against his face while he’s eating you out.

Variation: Do a “reverse cowgirl” sort of move and face his feet instead. This is a great way to do it if you both love anal play, or at least don’t mind it.

On The Edge Of The Bed

You can use the edge of the bed during cunnilingus easily. The bed is a great tool to use if you want to get into different oral sex positions, because it’s height, size and shape is perfect. However, remember that you don’t always both need to be on the bed to utilize it. Have your partner lie down on the bed with his head as close to the edge as possible. In fact, he may need to scoot up enough so that most of his head is actually off the bed. You’re going to come in and straddle his face while standing!

Variation: Prop one of your legs up on the bed and lower yourself down onto his face. This may be a little difficult for you to do, but the end result is worth it! He’ll love the full view of your vulva above him!

The New “Woman On Top”

While sixty-nine is a great way to both give and receive oral sex at the same time, if a woman just wants to receive (or a guy just wants to give), this is probably not the way to go. Instead, the woman will lie on top of the man facing the ceiling, scooting her genitals up to his face. Her head will probably rest on or close to his penis, but this one is all about her!

Variation: Lift up your legs to expose your anus to your partner for anal play!

5 Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make When Giving Your First Blowjob

By loveandsex

Your first blowjob should be great – not a disaster. A lot of women make mistakes when it comes to giving their guy head, and most of the time, little issues will be overlooked because it feels so good. However, if you screw it up big time, he won’t want it from you again! Here’s what you want to avoid when giving a first blowjob.

Using Your Teeth

It may seem like a good idea to graze your guy’s shaft lightly with your teeth or giving the head of his penis a little nibble (you like your clitoris nibbled every once in awhile, so why wouldn’t he?), but really, it’s not. Teeth can hurt and unless your man is a super masochist and enjoys cock and ball torture, letting him feel your pearly whites during fellatio is going to turn him off before you even know what happened.

Avoid using your teeth during your first blowjob by wrapping your lips tightly over them. Make sure your lips are well lubricated, either by your saliva or a good flavored lube. If your lips are dry, they won’t slide well over the shaft of your partner’s penis.

Sucking Too Hard

Lots of girls think that the harder they suck during fellatio, the more pleasurable it will be for a man. While a little bit of sucking, and even firm sucking if he’s close to orgasm is a good thing, if you do it too hard, you’re going to do much more harm than good. It may actually feel too sensitive or be painful for you to suck on his penis very hard, and it will turn him off when you do.

In this case, light sucking and licking is going to be sufficient here. Start out with light licking to tease him and get him warmed up (guys need foreplay too), and then progress to moderate sucking as he gets more and more turned on. Don’t cross the threshold though and do it too hard or too furiously.

Not Listening To His Cues

It’s crucial to listen to a man’s cues during fellatio. His body language will tell you if you’re on the right track or not. A man will thrust his pelvis towards your face, grab your hair or head and vocalize their pleasure when it’s feeling really good. If you’re not getting these results, change what you’re doing – you’re either hurting him or just not doing enough.

Also, don’t assume that if he likes something at first, that he’s going to like it the entire time you’re giving him head. Your technique should vary throughout the duration (seriously, who wants boring fellatio from a one trick pony?) and increase in intensity as he gets closer and closer to orgasm. His non-verbal cues will vary – he may start out gasping for breath and bucking furiously when you start a certain technique, but he may soon relax and get comfortable with it. In which case, you need to move on to a different technique ASAP.

Seeming Bored With It

Enthusiasm is 50% of a great first blowjob. Don’t ruin great fellatio by acting like you really would rather be doing something else. When guys fantasize about getting head, they often fantasize about whoever is doing it being really excited to do it. If you act bored with the act or don’t seem like you’re into it at all, he’s going to pick up on it immediately.

Some guys don’t vocalize their pleasure during oral sex, making it difficult for a woman to feel into it. Encourage him to show you that he’s enjoying it so you can get off on his pleasure too.

Choosing The Wrong Oral Sex Positions

There’s nothing more awkward than a woman trying to get into an oral sex position that bends a man’s penis a strange way. She may think that she’s being adventurous or exciting by doing it this way, but it really just takes away from his pleasure. Make your first blowjob all about your technique and pick a simple, tried and true oral sex position that you know will work.

Try giving him oral sex while he’s standing and you’re kneeling. Place a pillow underneath your knees so you stay comfortable. You can also have him lie on the bed with you cuddled up in between his legs. This allows you a little less control and makes it difficult for him to watch you, but you can prop his head up with pillows to give him a great view.

Your Blowjob Questions – Answered!

By loveandsex

Oral sex isn’t something every girl knows how to do. Most women have some things they need worked out. Here’s what you want to know about giving fellatio!

What If I Don’t Like The Taste Of Semen?

Many women are afraid to give their partners a blowjob because they’re afraid he will ejaculate in their mouths. Some girls are terrified of this simply because they’ve heard that semen tastes bad, or because they’ve actually tasted it before and didn’t like it. Either way, there are plenty of women out there that don’t like the taste of semen and either stop a blowjob well before their lovers are about to have an orgasm, or just don’t give head at all.

Not liking the taste of semen is no reason not to give your lover the gift of oral sex. If you do happen to bring him to orgasm with a blowjob, you don’t have to swallow, or even spit if you don’t want to. Make sure your guy lets you know when he’s getting close to the point of no return, so you can be prepared to finish him off with your hand. If you have lots of practice, you can also sense that he’s about to have an orgasm by the way his body begins to react to the stimulation.

When he’s about to blow his load, slide your mouth off of him and slide your hand on in one fluid motion and begin masturbating him until he’s finished with his climax. You can allow him to ejaculate anywhere you like – he may like to do so on your breasts or your face, or he may not even care if you hold a towel over his penis to avoid lots of clean up later. He may even want to finish off himself. To put it simply, there are lots of different ways to finish up the blowjob without having to get semen in your mouth.

How Can I Change The Taste Of His Semen?

Since many women are so grossed out by the taste of semen, it’s no surprise that they’re looking for ways to make their partners spunk taste better. Even if you don’t allow your lover to ejaculate in your mouth, the “pre-cum” that seeps out of the head of his penis while you’re stimulating him orally can taste just as bitter or just as chalky.

Fortunately, there are ways to change the taste of your partner’s semen, although it requires his full cooperation and it won’t happen overnight. If your lover’s ejaculate tastes really terrible, it’s likely due to what he’s eating or ingesting. Start by looking at toxins – cigarette smoking, drug usage or alcohol drinking. All of these things will make his semen taste fairly nasty, because the toxins in these products are leaving his body through his ejaculate.

Next, eliminate foods that are well known to cause gas, like cabbage and asparagus. These can make your partner’s semen taste bitter as well. To improve the taste, have him eat more fresh fruits or drink fruit juices. Fresh pineapple or pineapple juice is very popular, because it will sweeten the taste of his semen significantly with regular consumption.

If your lover starts leading a healthy life, eliminates toxin usage, eliminates eating processed junk food and cleans up his diet, as well as getting enough sleep and exercise, he’s going to have much better tasting semen because he’s taking care of himself and his body will begin to show it.

How Do I Keep From Biting Him?

Biting a man’s penis accidentally during oral sex is a very valid concern for both women giving a blowjob and men receiving one. Getting bitten or even lightly scraped by a woman’s teeth while getting a blowjob is the fastest way to completely ruin it and turn him off for the whole night – not to mention it’s the fastest way to cause pain and discomfort.

Although this is one of the biggest concerns with going down on a man, it’s also one of the easiest to avoid. Simply curl your lips in your mouth over your teeth, covering your teeth with the inside of your lips, top and bottom. When you move your mouth up and down over your lover’s shaft, he’ll actually be rubbing up against the outside of your lips and the skin there.

You can even use your lips to cushion him against your teeth so you can put more pressure on his penis, which many men really enjoy. This simple maneuver will keep you from hurting him while you’re sucking him off, a gesture he is sure to greatly appreciate.

How Do I Keep From Gagging?

Gagging is a common problem when it comes to going down on a guy, especially if he has a long penis or is particularly well endowed. A longer penis will bump up against the back of the throat and the gag reflex more easily than a shorter penis, making it more difficult for a woman to keep from gagging while she’s going down on her lover. If your partner has a smaller penis, you may not be as worried about this. However, if your lover makes you gag every time you give him head, even when you’re not deep throating, this can pose quite the predicament.

However, even if your man has a big penis, you don’t have to worry about gagging if you use certain techniques. You may not be able to fit your man’s entire penis in your mouth if he’s big, and if you try, you’ll likely stimulate your gag reflex. So don’t sweat it and use the hand-and-mouth technique. Place your hand at the base of your man’s penis and place your mouth over the top of it, with your mouth and hand touching each other in the middle of his shaft.

As you suck up and down on the top of his penis, your hand should be in sync, stroking the bottom of his shaft at the same time. You want your mouth and hand to go up and down at the same time, as if your hand were an extension of your mouth. This will stimulate his entire penis during the blowjob without you having to cram the entire thing down your throat, causing you to gag.

On the other hand, sometimes a woman will gag if her lover has a particularly strong smell down there. Ensuring that he keeps his pubic hair short and showers well right before oral sex can cut the smell down significantly, reducing the chance a woman will gag during oral sex because of the way his genitals smell.

What Is The Best Blowjob Position For Him?

A man might answer this question with the word “any,” and this is true to an extent. Most guys are going to prefer oral sex positions that allow him to see you lavishing attention on his genitals, but some guys like laying back, closing their eyes and relaxing while you go to work on them. Every guy is going to like something different! So in all honesty, the best oral sex position for him is the one that is best for you.

You need to be comfortable while going down on him, and if your neck is sore after two minutes or you’re cutting off the circulation to your hands because all of your weight is on your wrists, you’re not going to be able to go down on him for very long. Cutting a blowjob short because you’re uncomfortable is the pits for your man! Select an oral sex position that allows you to keep going for longer without getting uncomfortable as quickly (or at all if you can manage!) will make him happier, because you’ll actually be able to get into it as opposed to continuing to shift your weight around.

He’ll be able to tell you’re uncomfortable and he’ll know instantly that you’re not as into it. He won’t care what position you choose if it’s one you can throw caution to the wind in and really go to town on him.