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How To Identify REAL Female Orgasms

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A female orgasm gives off specific physical signs. Her pulse quickens, her breathing shortens, and her blood pressure increases. Her vaginal opening also gets smaller while the length can increase up to two inches to accommodate something larger than a finger. The entire length of her clitoris both internally and externally fills with blood and gets hard, in the very same way your penis gets hard when you are aroused.

The G-Spot also sticks out more so that it can be easily felt, and the clitoral head starts hiding again so that it doesn’t get too stimulated before reaching peak. You may even notice her labia majora and minora getting tighter and darker, as they stiffen because of the extra blood flow and sensitivity.

Stage 1 – Prior To The Orgasm

Just before orgasm, your partner’s body will increase the intensity all on its own, by ramping up her blood pressure, skin flushing, heart beat and blood flow to a frenzied pace, one that can’t continue for any length of time. Peaking occurs during orgasm, where all of the built-up tension explodes out through the muscles and fibres of her body.

Contractions overtake her sexual organs, and they pulse rhythmically until she has exhausted the energy and they slow to a stop. Some women will continue to feel these contractions for up to twenty minutes after orgasm, or continue the intense orgasm on throughout your intercourse!

Stage 2 – During The Orgasm

During a female orgasm, her vaginal walls vibrate strongly in tandem with her pelvic floor muscles at a rate of approximately once per second. As her pelvic area contracts, oxytocin flows through her system, especially her uterus, and increases her feelings of comfort and satiety. Some women will experience female ejaculation with some clear, milky fluid along with each contraction, either in a strong gush or a slow trickle, especially with G-Spot stimulation.

The length of time that she can continue to have a female orgasm can range from a couple of seconds to several minutes, with half a dozen contractions on average. Having said that, some women will orgasm very quickly and without many contractions at all, while others have reported orgasmic experiences of an hour or more!

Stage 3 – After The Orgasm

After the orgasmic contractions are finished, the last stage of the process is her body’s release of the frenetic tension from the events building up to the climax. She will get back to her normal state relatively quickly, or with the right kind of touch might be able to start the whole process over again, bypassing the foreplay stage if things get heated again right away. This is where men and women tend to differ the most when it comes to sexual release: gents usually require some downtime to recuperate after climax, and can’t nearly as often sustain an erection after ejaculation.

The only thing you can bank on when it comes to orgasm is this: if you want to get your partner from a non-aroused state to climax, you’ll have to give her consistent, rhythmic sexual stimulation and increase the tension throughout the experience, appropriate to the phase she’s in. This attentive devotion is what will get her all the way to the Promised Land.

I’m A Girl But….Did I Just Ejaculate? 5 Ways To Tell If You Squirted During Sex

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Female ejaculation happens, but it may come as a surprise to many women. Not every woman is aware that they can ejaculate and many women have never experienced it before. The first time you have female ejaculation, you may be left sitting in the soaked bedsheets wondering what the heck happened. How can you tell if you just squirted?

1. You Peed Right Before Sex

This is actually the best way to tell if the fluid you expelled during sex was actually urine or ejaculate. Since the fluids are fairly similar in consistency (ejaculate can be thinner than urine, but sometimes it is just as watery), it’s hard to judge whether you peed or squirted by going on the consistency alone. If you urinated right before sex though, you can be almost positive that any fluid you expel during sex is ejaculate, unless the sex has lasted hours.

For example, if you ejaculate during sex about fifteen to twenty minutes after you used the bathroom, it’s not urine. Your body doesn’t have enough time to make that much urine in that small amount of time, unless you drank a gallon of water before you started having sex. So if you want to be sure the next time you soak the sheets that you haven’t just pissed the bed, cut down on your water intake a few hours before you plan to have sex (make sure you drink all the water you need before that – don’t dehydrate yourself!) Then, urinate right before you get it on. If you still gush, it’s a squirting orgasm.

2. It Came Out On Its Own

Sometimes, when a woman doesn’t know she can ejaculate, the fluid will come out on its own during involuntary muscular contractions when you have an orgasm. It may feel like you need to pee when you ejaculate (hence all the confusion on whether the liquid really is urine or ejaculate), and if you bear down and flex your muscles, you can push the ejaculate out. This is what seasoned squirters do. However, many women who have never experienced female ejaculation aren’t aware of this. So when the muscles contract involuntarily during orgasm, the ejaculate may seem to come out on it’s own. It can be a few drops or even a cup full of liquid, and it can either leak out or squirt in a huge gush.

3. It Doesn’t Smell “Too Much” Like Pee

If it’s not urine, then it won’t smell a whole lot like urine. Really, the only exception to this rule is if you drink A LOT of water and your urine is almost always clear anyways (or you drank a lot of water right before sex for some odd reason). Since female ejaculate does come out of the urethra, it may mix with a little bit of urine that was left over – so if it has a “light” urine odor, don’t be too alarmed. If it really smells like pee, it was pee. If it doesn’t and you haven’t drank your weight in water, then congratulations – you’ve just experienced female ejaculation.

4. Your G-Spot Was Being Stimulated

Often, the g-spot needs to be stimulated firmly (very firmly) in order for a woman to achieve female ejaculation. Light tickling or barely touching the g-spot isn’t going to produce female ejaculation. It takes a surprisingly firm touch to stimulate the g-spot to the point of female ejaculation, and the woman usually has been really aroused first too. So if you or your partner engaged in a lot of foreplay, you’re super turned on and your g-spot was really getting massaged right before your gushing orgasm, then you can be pretty sure you just squirted.

5. Your Orgasm Was Killer

A squirting orgasm is intense. REALLY INTENSE. Many women who can’t squirt cannot do so simply because they have the inability to really “let go,” which is necessary to experience female ejaculation. If you’ve been consumed by the moment, maybe forgot where you are (or heaven forbid who you’re with), and just totally let go during your orgasm and expelled a ton of liquid, then you can be pretty sure you actually squirted instead of peed. If your orgasm was AH-MAZING and you’re totally and completely exhausted afterwards (and are so sensitive down there that you couldn’t even stand it if your man lightly blew air on your clitoris) then yes, you squirted.

How To Make Your Girl Ejaculate During Sex – 7 Explosive Steps To Heavenly Orgasmic Pleasures Exposed!

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Squirting is real alright – and it’s not just pee. Here’s how to turn your lover into a squirting queen!

This might be new to you but contrary to popular belief, women do experience the release of ejaculation just like guys do. Kudos to the men who can make their ladies “gush” and attain the ultimate in sexual ecstasy! For those who want their women to climax with ejaculation during your intimate moments with her, the following steps will come in handy!

More Foreplay Builds Up More Fluid

Make the foreplay hot and steamy for her. Start out with small bites on her ear lobes and along the contours of her neck, followed by smooth and tender sucking on her nipples. Give light touches along her torso with your fingertips. Do these until you come into contact with the inner part of her thighs. Let her be the one to guide you once she is prepared to take the exploration to another level.

Oral Sex Will Get Her Primed

Start off with a few easy oral sex techniques. You can begin by sliding your tongue along the vulva to her clitoris and along the borders of her vagina. The upward and downward motion of your tongue should be done repeatedly and unhurriedly. Use the broad part of your tongue for best results.

Touch Her Lightly

Allow the tip of your tongue to travel along her labia minora. To make this more pleasurable for her, let your tongue slide along this minute mound together with some momentary sucking.

Next Stop Is The Clitoris!

Tenderly suck on her clitoris. You can move your tongue in various directions. Make your hands busy at the same time. Gently caress her breasts and have the tips of your fingers give light touches on her nipples and on the most sensitive spots of her body.

Roll That Tongue!

Curl your tongue into a tube-like shape and insert it into her as gently as you can. This step may be a little tricky especially for first-timers, but with enough practice, you can make her go wild.

The Power Of Fingering

Insert two fingers into her vagina with your palm facing upward. Find her G-spot – a mound of flesh inside her vagina, about one to two inches in size. Lightly touch and add pressure on the G-spot using your fingertips. You will feel this flesh swelling up and become more rigid as you continue to stimulate it.

The Wildest, WETTEST Orgasm She’s Ever Had!

At this point, she will most likely reach the peak of sexual excitement and be able to experience the “gush” of ejaculation. However, before she ejaculates, she may have a tingling urge to urinate. Assure her that it perfectly safe for her to let go. Act natural and make her feel that you are totally at ease with her because this way, the sexual encounter becomes a lot more special. And with this, she will surely ask for more!

4 Ways To Make Squirting Even HOTTER!

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Squirting can be a lot of fun – letting go like that can mean the difference between having an “okay” orgasm and having a mind blowing, sheet soaking orgasm! If squirting is something you’ve just learned to do, check out how you can make it even BETTER!

Don’t Worry About The Sheets

Have a change of sheets on hand, and if you have to, put one of those plastic bed protectors under your sheet (or just a bunch of towels). Sheets can be thrown in the wash and if you know you’re not going to ruin your mattress by squirting, you can really let go! (Yes, there are tons of women who have been unable to let go and ejaculate, simply because they were afraid of making a mess or ruining the bed).

Of course, you can still role play the incredible “I’m-such-a-bad-girl-and-I-made-such-a-big-mess” fantasy, even though you know you can clean up by just throwing the sheets in the washing machine.

Ask To Squirt In Your Partner’s Mouth

Hey, he wants you to swallow, right? Why not let him do the same to you? If the idea of squirting all over your partner’s face and in their mouth turns you on, you’re not the first woman (nor the first man) to find the idea attractive. Heck, you wouldn’t be the first person to find the idea downright hot.

You don’t want to be squirting in your partner’s face if they’re not expecting it though – because they might not be down with it. You don’t like it when a guy ejaculates in your mouth when you’re giving him a blowjob without fair warning first, right? And if you’re a girl who really doesn’t like to swallow, you’re going to be pretty pissed (and possibly very nauseated) if a guy ejaculates in your mouth without letting you know first or giving you the opportunity to finish him off with a handjob.

So talk about this first, and see if it’s something that your guy thinks is hot too. Chances are, he will. Guys can be pretty freaky like that.

Hold A Mirror Up

If you’re just learning how to squirt – or you’ve been squirting for awhile but you’ve never seen the action before – grab a large mirror and have your partner hold it up so you can see yourself ejaculate. If you’re lucky, your squirting session will be good enough that it ends up all over the mirror!

The best way to do this is during masturbation, so your partner can hold the mirror. If you don’t have a partner and still want to watch yourself squirt, find a way to prop the mirror up. Make sure the mirror is close enough that you can ejaculate on it if you’re able to (yeah, that’s totally hot), and because it’s just not going to look as good if you’re too far away from the mirror.

Through masturbation, you have control over both your orgasm and your ejaculation, so you can make it as good as you want it to be! Extend your masturbation session to build up more fluid if you want stronger squirting!

Videotape It

Another alternative to watching yourself squirt in the mirror is to videotape it. Be careful to whom you give a copy of the tape to though! You might just end up finding a video of yourself on YouPorn.

Either have your partner hold the camera or put it on a tripod (this is the better idea) and get busy. You’ll probably want to make sure you’re nice and groomed down there first, whether you shave completely or trim. If this video does get out, you want to look your best, right? Of course, you also want to look great so that you (and your lover) can enjoy watching your squirting video again and again.

Again, videotaping your squirting while masturbating is probably the best way to go here because it allows you the most control over your orgasm and ejaculation, however, if you’re a squirting pro, you can probably still achieve – and tape – your ejaculation while having sex with a partner. Don’t be afraid to pan in with the video camera and get lots of great close up shots if you’re able to. In fact, many of the hottest squirting videos end up with the woman’s ejaculatory fluid all over the camera!

Remember the key to great squirting is really letting go. Don’t care who watches, what people think or anything else. Just focus on how good it feels and how WILD it will be when you gush all over the place!

6 Leg Shaking G-Spot Techniques That Will Make Her SQUIRT!

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G-spot orgasms can be earth shattering and make your girl soak the sheets – when done the right way. Learn five ways to give her a gushing orgasm TONIGHT!

Come Hither

If you’ve ever found the g-spot, it’s likely you found it with the “come hither” motion. This movement is an excellent way for a man to stimulate a woman’s g-spot either alone during fingering or during oral sex. It’s easy to do and can be done fast or slow.

How To Do It: Insert one or two fingers – preferably your index and/or middle fingers – into her vagina with your palm facing up. Move your fingers in a “come hither” motion, as though you were motioning for someone to come to you. The g-spot is about two inches in and on the upper wall of the vagina (the stomach side, not the butt side), so this technique is the most commonly used to find and stimulate the g-spot.

Tapping

Tapping the g-spot can provide faster stimulation than other techniques because it requires less movement of the hand and fingers, which enables the hand to be moved faster. If you have strong hand and finger muscles without arthritis and have some stamina, you can get a very fast pace going, almost like your fingers are “vibrating” against it.

How To Do It: If you want to “tap” the g-spot, you’ll want to slide your fingers into her vagina in the “come here” position. Instead of moving your fingers in the “come here” motion, you’re going to “tap” it instead. This will involve slight bending of your fingers, but not near as much as if you were going to do the complete come hither motion.

Circles

Circles are an excellent way to go slow and put firm pressure on the g-spot. Most girls can only tolerate firm pressure very slowly in the beginning, before she’s fully aroused.

How To Do It: You’re again going to insert your finger or fingers into your lover’s vagina with your palm up. Once you feel her swollen erogenous zone, you’ll be able to rub it slowly with the pads of your fingers in circles. Start out doing this lightly, and then progress to firmer pressure. Pay attention to your partner’s responses and body language to determine your speed and pressure.

Side To Side

Most of the time, the front and back of the g-spot get all the attention when a man uses the “come hither” motion when fingering her. If you want to pay attention to the sides of the area (and the sensitive, nerve packed sides of the vagina), you want to use the “side to side” technique.

How To Do It: With your hand in position and your palm up, simply move your fingers from side to side. You’ll be using your wrist mostly to control the motion, and the fingers stay only very slightly bent. This maneuver is easy to switch to if your hand or fingers get tired using any of the other maneuvers. This is a great technique to use during cunnilingus!

“The Hook”

“The Hook” technique is a variation of the “come hither” motion. This technique allows you to put very firm, concentrated pressure on her sweet spot.

How To Do It: With your hand in the “come hither” position, curl your fingers towards you. Instead of flexing your fingers back into the position where they are only slightly bent, you’re going to keep them curled forward. Then, you will flex your wrist, moving your entire hand in the “come hither” motion. This allows you to push harder and deeper into her g-spot.

Push Her G-Spot Towards Your Fingers

Sometimes, the g-spot is tucked away and is difficult to find and stimulate with just your fingers. You can push her g-spot towards your fingers so that you can stimulate it more firmly. This is where the squirting orgasms come in!

How To Do It: With Your fingers inside her vagina, put your other hand – palm down – on her lower stomach, just above her pubic bone. Press down as firmly as is comfortable for your partner. This pushes the g-spot towards the fingers.

A Note On Squirting

If a woman has never squirted before, it can take a few times to actually get her there. It requires a woman to fully let go and surrender to the sensations, and this can be difficult for some women mentally and physically because the firm pressure on the g-spot that is required for a woman to squirt actually makes her feel like she has to pee. Put a towel down, encourage your lover to relax and let her know that if she does soak the sheets, it’s going to be totally hot!