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Best Masturbation Tips Of 2012

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Masturbation is a great way to satisfy yourself, get to know yourself intimately and relieve stress at the same time. Both men and women masturbate, and it’s a healthy habit to have! Also, learning to please your lover with your hands is hands down one of the best foreplay techniques. Check out our best tips of this year to take your solo time or manual stimulation to the next level.

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5 HOT Fingering Techniques

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Fingering isn’t as “old school” as you might think. If you do it the right way, you can bring your lover to incredible orgasmic heights!

There are some moves that just don’t work without a lot of lubrication, even if you aren’t penetrating her yet. A drop or two just won’t do and most women will appreciate a bit of extra lube for these techniques, even if she is already lubricating on her own.

1. The Electric Slide

Place the tip of your middle finger over her clitoris, then slide the entire length of your finger by, slowly, keeping constant contact with her little bud. Don’t move too fast. Keep a steady hand and don’t put too much pressure on her sensitive parts. She’ll let you know if she wants to go further.

You may want to separate her lips a bit to ensure more intense sensation, but remember that if you move your hand upward toward her during fingering, you will be pushing her clitoral hood out of the way. As you slide your hand back toward her feet, you will push the hood back in place, covering her up and allowing a relief from any intensity. Take your time learning which direction she loves best, and how heavy a hand she prefers.

2. The Tick-Tock Clit Clock

This fingering move is designed to give you a better idea of which sides or spots around her clitoris are the most sensitive to touch. Use a well-lubricated finger on a well-lubricated clitoris, holding her lips apart, exposing her most sensitive area. Imagining her clitoris is a clock face. Use your slick fingertip to trace a small circle around the outside of this clock, stopping and rubbing in even smaller circles at every hour. This will be a bit more difficult than with the previous exercise, working with such a small space, but you may be surprised at what you find.

3. Jack & Jill

Now don’t get me wrong here. I’m not trying to say that her clit is the same as a penis, but I am saying that you don’t have a monopoly on jerking off. Called “jacking” by a lot of men, modern day sexperts like to refer to this little move as “jilling off.” Welcome to a whole new world of clitoral stimulation! Give this a read, then go and welcome your wife.

The essential factor of jilling is to stimulate the clitoris by pumping it, through the protective sheath of the clitoral hood, which acts like a foreskin for the clit’s sensitive head. Use the outer edge of your hand, under your baby finger, to push up gently on the mons and expose the clit. From this position, you can use the thumb and forefinger from the same hand to feel for the clitoral shaft.

Probe around beneath her clitoral hood, where it begins from the crevice of her inner labia. You will be able to feel the stem protruding and should be able to gently grasp it between your fingers. From this position, massage it up and down in steady, rhythmic motions. Keep your fingers on the shaft and don’t pull the clitoral hood back too far. You may not feel like your movements are doing much, but you should be able to tell from her reaction how many nerve endings you are hitting with this one!

4. Knuckle Down

This second-last move is only for masters of jilling, really just a modification of that fingering technique. Having found that super-sensitive clitoral shaft, you have a variety of techniques available to you with this little nub in your hand. Instead of using your fingertips, this method uses the knuckles of your index and middle finger to grasp and stroke the shaft. Don’t forget to experiment during fingering! A change in speed or pressure could make all the difference in making this orgasmic.

5. Turning On

You might have a hard time jilling the shaft if her clitoris is small, or the hood is very tight, but don’t fret! Using either fingertips or knuckles, as in the last two fingering techniques, instead of pumping the shaft, you can turn it from side to side like a key in a lock. Keep your fingering rhythm and don’t try to go too hard or too fast.

This particular movement is probably the best way to mimic her masturbation technique, though you’ll certainly want to take a good look at it before you make a comparison. Either way, this kind of direct clitoral stimulation is definitely at the top of a short list of fingering moves that will let you make her come single-handedly.

How To Talk To Her About Masturbation

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Masturbation can greatly improve your sex life, especially if she masturbates. It will be much easier for her to orgasm and the overall quality of sex for both you and your partner will increase dramatically. However, not all women masturbate. This can be due to a number of reasons, but if you want to broach this subject with your girl, you’re going to have to talk about it. Here’s how to talk to her about it comfortably, without letting things get weird.

Why You Want Her To Masturbate

Female masturbation is so important is because it helps women learn what feels good to their bodies. When women can experiment in privacy and can learn their bodies better, they become more responsive lovers who can guide you in your quest to bringing them greater sexual satisfaction.

The problem is that a large percentage of women who have masturbated are ashamed or embarrassed to admit they do it. While society pretty much accepts male masturbation, it still views female masturbation as somewhat taboo. Plus, women today were probably raised in households where such things were simply not discussed. Many adult women are shocked when they finally discover that their mothers were also masturbating all that time.

Knowing this is important because you may face difficulty when it comes to talking about masturbating with your partner. Now, of course, some women have no problems broaching the subject. Others, however, are more timid. To be successful, you’ll have to feel your way through the conversation.

Sample Conversation About Masturbation

This sample conversation should give you some idea of how to begin the discussion and how to steer it in the right direction. Of course, the conversation might not go exactly like this and your lover may have different responses than the one here. However, this sample can at least give you the gist of where to take the conversation.

Also, keep in mind that while not all sex conversations should take place in the bedroom, this one may be a good one to have on the bed while both of you are feeling a little amorous. That way it will make what comes next a little easier.

You: “Can I ask you something, baby?”

Her: “What?”

You: “Do you ever get yourself off?”

Her: “What do you mean?”

You: “You know, do you ever masturbate?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you that.”

You: (keeping the conversation light and playful): “Come on, why not?”

Her: “It’s private.”

You: “I masturbate. Sometimes when I see how hot you look I, get so turned on that I can’t help myself. Don’t you ever feel that way?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you.”

You: “I think it would be really hot to watch you get yourself off.”

Her: “Really?”

You: “Absolutely! But since you don’t do that . . . “

Her: “Maybe I’ve done it a couple of times.”

You: “Does it feel good?”

Her: “Not as good as being with you.”

You: “Maybe you could show me how good it feels.”

Her: “You want me to masturbate in front of you?”

You: “I think it would be really sexy.”

At this point, your partner may or may not agree. If she does agree, sit back and watch quietly. Don’t try to get involved or to offer words of encouragement. Pay attention to how she pleases herself. For example, does she use a toy or her hand? This can be very useful information for you because if you want to provide added stimulation during intercourse then you can use whichever method she normally prefers.

What If She Doesn’t Want To?

Of course, there’s a good chance that your partner may not be eager to pleasure herself in front of you. If that’s the case, you can always offer a compromise. Instead of you watching from inside the bedroom, ask her if you can tape her masturbating. You’d be somewhere else in the house or gone completely, but the videotape or DVD would record her masturbating in private. You’d be able to see her in action without her feeling as if she’s invading your privacy.

If she doesn’t go along with that idea, then you may need to drop the subject for a little while. That doesn’t mean you can’t go ahead and start experimenting with methods of clitoral stimulation. You may also have a partner who has honestly never masturbated. In that case, she may not be able to give you much feedback about what feels good to her because she probably won’t know. That’s not a bad thing; it just means you’ll be doing a lot of trial and error.

It also means that you’re going to need good communication so when you do hit upon something that sends pleasure racing through her body she lets you know.

6 Tiny Sex Toys To Carry In Your Bag

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Sex toys don’t just come in the form of giant dildos you have to keep stashed under your bed. Try slipping one of these teeny treasures in your purse!

Sex toys can be a great way to get you through a dry spell or bring you and your partner closer together through better sex. However, when you’re traveling or you’re looking for a way to make your sex toys portable, there are a few models that are manufactured for discretion. Whether you are looking to surprise your boyfriend after a date with a kinky new vibrator or you just want the option to have an orgasm when you’re in bind, there are a few options out there. Here are a 6 tiny sex toys that you can carry in your bag.

1. LELO Nea

The LELO Nea is a shapely clitoral vibrator that has been designed to give you a discreet option when you’re on the go. This tiny vibrator comes in a sleek black color with a delicate cherry blossom design, giving it an ultra feminine look. This vibrator is not manufactured for insertion so you will need another device if you’re not just looking for clitoral stimulation. The LELO Nea looks like a tiny computer mouse, and is curved to hug your body just right. This makes the device very easy to conceal in your handbag while you are on the go.

2. First Time Mini Vibrator

The First Time Mini Vibrator is the perfect vibrator for on the go G-Spot stimulation. One of the best features of this vibrator is the different functionality that you can get out of it. This vibrator features a variety of vibration speeds that are easily controlled with a simple twist dial, so you can control the amount of stimulation to your G-Spot or your clitoris. Another great feature of this tiny vibrator is the fact that it is waterproof. This allows you to take into the shower or bathtub. Just one AA battery powers this sleek, soft vibrator and it’s crafted from ABS plastic to give you a silky soft feel that is still body safe.

3. Petite Treats Micro Bullet

The Petite Treats Micro Bullet is a great sex toy to take around with you. The controller fits in the palm of your hand and the bullet is super tiny – perfect for intense orgasms on the go. The controller is actually an interchangable Doc Johnson version, so you can switch the controller if you see fit. The bullet is only one inch long and less than half an inch wide, but you’ll be surprised at the power this mini bullet can provide. If you’re looking for a mini bullet for compactness, this is definitely worth the money.

4. Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator

The Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator is definitely designed for discretion. This vibrator comes with nubbed and wavy texture to give you amazing vibrations. While this vibrator does not come with many features, it is definitely a compact toy that will fit in your handbag without anybody knowing. Simply slip the ring over a finger and use the vibrator wherever you like. The soft nubs feel great against the clitoris, but will also work well for nipple stimulation too. A simple on/off switch makes the Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator easy to use during solo play, but you can also use it with a partner when you want to mix things up.

5. I-Vibe Pocket Rocket

The I-Vibe Pocket Rocket is a super small vibrator that comes in a variety of jeweled colors for ultra fun and feminine style. This vibrator has a nubbed and studded texture with simple to use controls that make it easy for you to achieve your orgasm no matter where you are. One of the best things about this vibrator is that it only takes 1 AA battery. This is a very quiet vibrator that every girl will like!

6. Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator

The Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator is a great vibrator for business trips or the unexpected family obligation. This vibe looks almost exactly like a real tube of lipstick and is primarily used for clitoral stimulation. Even if someone were to come across your vibrator in your purse or pocket, you need not be concerned that they would automatically know it’s true function. It’s cleverly designed to look like a tube of lipstick and it’s real purpose will only be revealed by someone who is really looking for it. This makes the Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator one of the more discreet vibrators you can own! It’s perfect for travel, because it can easily be concealed rather inside your handbag or purse.

Should You Use A Vibrator?

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Sex toys can improve your ability to reach orgasm more quickly – and it can increase the intensity of your climax. But is a vibrator something you need or not?

This is about whether or not to bring the vibrator into the bedroom with the new guy that you’re dating.

Why You Shouldn’t

The vibrator is very intimidating for a lot of men. Our tongue cannot move 10,000 miles an hour. Our penis is not designed to pulsate as well as penetrate. We’ve seen women have orgasms with the vibrator where they lose their minds, screaming at the top of their lungs, and then we’ve also had women that have had orgasms with us with nary a moan or peep.

As a man, we want to be able to make you scream with our own tools: our penis, our fingers, our hands, our mouth. We want to be in complete control of your body.

It’s our ego. It’s who we are. It’s what we’re all about as men.

We talk about it.

“God, I made her come four times!”

We count the orgasms.

We need to know that we are masters of your body when we sleep with you.

Why You Might Want To

But we do like to also have fun. We don’t mind the vibrator as long as the vibrator’s introduced as a tool to assist our penis, hands and mouth—not as competition.

We want to be able to go back and tell our buddies:

“Yeah, it was great the other night. I was licking her clitoris and then I stuck the vibrator inside and she just came so hard, in so many different ways. Then I was on top of her and she used the vibrator on her clitoris and she was screaming and just so wet!”

That’s how we like the vibrator. We want it to be a tool on our utility belt. We don’t want it to replace us.

We don’t want to see or hear about you using the vibrator and having many orgasms. We don’t want to have sex and be unsuccessful in getting you to come, and then have you look at us and say, “Don’t worry, baby, you got me to this point. The vibrator’s just a finisher.”

As a man, we want to be the only thing your body requires, give or take a little water and a few meals per day.

That’s it.

Food. Water. And our penis. Any more than that, and the insecurities kick in. Because men are insecure also—don’t let the machismo fool you.

So if you’re interested in keeping your man happy, be graceful with how you introduce the vibrator, or consider just leaving it in the drawer altogether.