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How To Tell If YOU Need A New Sex Toy!

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Sex toys can burn out over time, or you can get tired of them. Sometimes, you just want something you’ve never tried before! From time to time, you’re going to have to replace your sex toys or buy new ones, but it can be hard to part with a favorite. Here are five things to look for to tell if you need to chuck your current vibrator and go shopping for sex toys!

It Runs On Batteries

There are a lot of great sex toys that run on batteries, but there are far, far better ones that are rechargeable! They cost a little more, but in the long run, you’re paying for that in batteries anyways. Rabbit style vibrators use a LOT of juice, and if you own one, you’re probably at the store buying batteries every other week.

If your favorite sex toy runs on batteries, consider replacing it with a version that is rechargeable. If you’re looking for a Rabbit style vibrator, try the LELO Ina. Smaller bullet style vibrators also come rechargeable.

It Contains Phthalates

While jelly sex toys look really pretty, they can contain dangerous chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer. If your sex toy contains phthalates, you could be unknowingly increasing your risk for developing cervical cancer. Ditch the cheap jelly materials and get something made from body safe silicone, wood or hard plastic. If you absolutely have to have sex toys made from jelly material or any material containing phthalates, protect yourself by slipping a condom over it before insertion.

The Vibrations Aren’t As Strong As They Used To Be

When you first got your vibrator, it was perfect. The vibrations were exquisite and catapulted you to orgasm land in no time flat. But a few months later, you notice that it takes a little longer to reach orgasm, and you have to press a little harder each time to feel the vibrations. Are the vibrations getting weaker? Probably. Sex toys aren’t made to last forever. If yours constantly sounds like it’s running out of power (even if you just put fresh batteries in), it may be time for an upgrade.

It Looks Dingy Or Has An Odor

Unfortunately, not all sex toys are non-porous. When shopping for one, try to get a body safe toy that IS non-porous (like glass), but you may not have known that going into purchasing your current one. If any of the sex toys you’re currently using don’t look as clear or shiny as they used to, or they’ve picked up an odor, it’s time to throw them away. Sex toys made from porous materials like jelly can pick up bacteria during use, and body fluids can begin to soak in. When you really think about it, you don’t want that hanging around in your nightstand!

You Want A New One

Every girl should have her own sex toy – or more than one! Couples should also have plenty of sex toys to play with! If you simply want a brand spanking new toy (whether it is an exact replica of your very favorite or something you’ve never tried before), you have every right to get yourself what you want! Even if you just bought one and you’re not happy with it or want something to accompany it, go out and get another one! Get whatever you want, provided you’ve got the funds.

Get A Good One!

You also have the right to invest in a good sex toy. Go for quality materials from a reputable manufacturer. Be choosy. Consider where you want to use it and what you want it to do. Do you want to travel with it, or do you want one that is ultra discreet? Try the LELO Mia – it’s rechargeable via USB port and looks like a tube of lipstick. Do you want a clitoral vibrator that is completely waterproof and you can use in the tub or shower? Get the We-Vibe Touch.

Look for the sex toys that meet both your needs and your desires. If you really would benefit from having a vibrator that you can take with you anywhere (for example, if you travel a lot for work), or the only peace and quiet you get in a crazy household is in the shower, then spending the extra money on a vibrator that meets your needs and gives you what you want is well worth it.

How To Train Yourself To Have Multiple Orgasms

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Multiple orgasms are incredible – or so you’ve heard. If you’ve never had more than one big O during a sex or masturbation session, you’re seriously missing out. The way a woman’s orgasm works leaves her halfway to her next orgasm after she’s had the first – so every girl is capable of reaching a second, third or fourth peak. But can you actually “train” your body to have multiple orgasms?

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It’s Easier For Women Than Men

Everyone is “capable” of having multiple orgasms, however, it’s a lot more difficult for a man to reach climax more than once during a sex or masturbation session than it is for women. This is because men tend to put a lot of focus on their orgasm being tied to ejaculation, when in fact, it isn’t. Women, however, are designed a little differently. Once they reach climax once, they only come back down about halfway, instead of returning to their normal, unaroused status right away like a guy does.

Learn Your Body

Many women have not fully explored their body and all of their sensitive spots – namely because female masturbation has been labeled “taboo” for so long. Many girls have never even had one orgasm, let alone multiple orgasms! If this happens to be the category you fall into, take some time to learn your body and explore what feels good and what doesn’t.

Try Masturbation By Yourself First

If you try to experiment with multiple orgasms for the first time with your partner, it’s likely not going to happen right away or at all. There’s a lot of pressure trying something for the first time, and you’re going to feel pressure to perform and your partner is going to feel pressure to give you a climax. Instead, experiment with your body during masturbation alone. There’s going to be less pressure, and you’re going to be able to really find what you like and what you don’t like without worrying about anyone else but yourself and your own pleasure.

Use Whatever You Need To

While there are tons of sex toys and vibrators out there for women, a lot of girls are too nervous or scared to buy their own and use it. A lot of girls also avoid erotica and pornography, simply because “watching porn” is how men masturbate. But don’t be afraid to use whatever you need to get yourself turned on enough to make it possible for you to want to continue having multiple orgasms!

This is also another reason why it is essential that you try by yourself for the first few times. If you’re really turned on by watching a certain porn or reading erotic and you know that’s what will take you over the top again and again, you may be nervous doing it around your partner. So if you’re alone, you don’t have to worry about getting caught or watching or reading what you want. If you only need a tiny clitoris vibrator, go for it. If you need a larger Rabbit style vibrator, use that. Do whatever you need to give yourself that intense pleasure.

Allow Yourself To Come Back Down First

If you experience the first climax, allow yourself to come back down a little bit to the halfway point. If you try for multiple orgasms right away, your clitoris is going to be too sensitive and you’re not going to want to continue. Allow yourself a few minutes to breathe and enjoy the afterglow before you get back to it.

Also, you can try stimulating different areas – for example, if you’ve just had a clitoral orgasm, try stimulating your g-spot. This can help you get over the top again in a different way.

Relax, Have Fun And Keep Trying

You may not experience multiple orgasms the first time you try, or even the first few times. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to perform. Remember that this is about your pleasure, so just do what feels good! Relax and have fun! Continue to try if it doesn’t happen, but release any negative feelings you have about not having multiple orgasms right away. If you have negative feelings about not being able to “get there” instead of just enjoying the ride, you never will “get there.”

As you continue to try new things, different sex toys and different masturbation techniques, you’re going to become more in tune with your body and you’ll be able to figure out what you need to do to bring yourself to that multiple orgasm phase.

Q&A: Will Masturbation Affect Your Relationship?

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Masturbation is normal and healthy for both guys and gals – it’s a normal way to explore your sexuality as you go through puberty and teenage years, and then it becomes an excellent way to relieve sexual tension and stress when you can’t or don’t want to have sex with another person. It can also help you explore what you like and don’t like during sex, so you can more effectively communicate with your lovers about how you like to be touched. But can it affect a relationship and cause problems between two people? Can excessive masturbation ruin a partnership, or is it more likely due one partner having jealousy and control issues?

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Men And Women Learn About Their Sexuality Through Masturbation

Unfortunately, masturbation has a bad rap. Society teaches teens that masturbation is bad or wrong, and this gets even more oppressive in families where their morals or religious beliefs suggest that it is unhealthy. However, it is neither unhealthy nor is it wrong – it’s a natural way for both men and women to learn about their bodies and their developing sexuality. It’s a perfectly normal thing to engage in even daily from pre-teen years through adulthood.

It’s A Healthy Part Of Every Relationship

It’s unrealistic to expect that your partner be able to be around and available to satisfy your sexual needs whenever you have sexual needs. It’s also unfair to them – your partner should not be totally and completely responsible for your sexual satisfaction! Especially for men and women with high libidos, their partners may not want to have sex all day every day. Many women have issues with their male partners masturbating because they feel like he “wants” someone else sexually, or doesn’t like them for some reason. This couldn’t be further from the truth! It’s natural for guys to jerk off when they have a pang of desire, without having to ask their partners to have sex four times a day.

Another reason that masturbation can be beneficial to a relationship is that it teaches each person what they like sexually, so they can then go to their partners and communicate what feels good and what doesn’t. Being able to communicate to your partner what you like is essential to a satisfying and intimate sex life with your lover, because if YOU don’t know how to please yourself, how are THEY supposed to?

Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation is also a fun activity to do together to become more comfortable with the idea of self satisfaction in your relationship and how it can help you both to relax, stay satisfied and learn what you like sexually. Doing it together can also add another element to your sex life that keeps it from getting boring and monotonous!

Jealousy Issues

Often, one partner will be jealous over the other for masturbating. They may be upset that their lover is watching porn, or they may feel like they’re not doing enough to please their partner. Rest assured that if your lover engages in self satisfaction and watches porn that it has nothing to do with your inadequacies as a lover. It simply is a natural, healthy thing to do! There’s no reason to be jealous about it.

How Much Is Too Much?

Of course, as with most things, there’s a caveat here. It can be damaging to a relationship if it goes too far. Normal self satisfaction usually doesn’t cause problems in a relationship, but if it becomes excessive, it can.  If, for example, all you or your partner can think about is masturbating, you or your partner stop spending time together to go masturbate or you substitute it for sex with your partner. In this case, it can definitely be a problem in the relationship and you’ll want to seek help as soon as possible.

Just like with any addiction, if you or your partner are addicted to masturbating, seek help. Lots of addiction programs out there can be applied to masturbation and you can follow the same steps. If it’s taking over your life, you have an addiction and it’s time to do something about it! If it’s not, relax and don’t let it bother you. Normal masturbation is healthy and even beneficial for a relationship!

Top 10 Vibrators You HAVE To Try!

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Sex toys are something every girl should have stashed away in her nightstand. Of course, ladies like a buzz, so here are ten “must try” vibrators!

The Wild G

A scary looking purple rabbit-style vibrator that really isn’t so scary once you get to know it. It’s made of soft jelly, slips in easily and has both a rotating shaft and an attachment for clitoral stimulation. Also, the rotating beads just near the base of the shaft feel surprisingly good. The only thing the Wild G doesn’t do is knock on the back door.

How To Use It: At home, by yourself, with the door locked! The Wild G doesn’t get too loud, but if someone decides to interrupt your party, it’s going to be pretty obvious that you weren’t taking a “nap.”

We-Vibe Touch

The We-Vibe Touch is a palm sized sex toy that is molded and grooved to fit both a woman’s hand and her clitoris. With a variety of vibe patterns that require just the touch of a button to activate (yes, 1 button!) this is quite possibly the easiest to use clitoral vibrator out there.

How To Use It: In the shower – this baby is 100% waterproof. It’s smooth, it’s cordless, it’s small and portable. It fits nicely in a shower caddy too. What more could you want for wet and wild masturbation?

G-Gasm Delight

Honestly, it’s the perfect g-spot stimulator. The G-Gasm Delight is made of hard plastic, so it’s well built for hard, squirting g-spot orgasms. It gets loud – especially when you turn it upside down –  so make sure you’re covered as far as privacy goes.

How To Use It: Any way you like! This lovely vibrator also substitutes as a prostate massager, so you can use it on him too. This is probably one of the least likely sex toys out there you would think could be a couples’ toy!

Freestyle W by OhMiBod

Like other g-spot/clitoral vibrators, the Freestyle W by OhMiBod is designed to stimulate both the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time. However, this lovely toy has more to it than meets the eye. This guy is designed to hook up to your music player, and it will vibrate to the beat of the music.

How To Use It: With your iPod of course! Again, privacy is an issue here. If you get caught, you may end up showing off your toys’ cool features when they realize your mp3 player is hooked up to your vibrator.

Hitachi Magic Wand

An oldie but goodie. The Hitachi Magic Wand has been around for about 30 years and is marketed as a back massager. However, women who have used the wand know that there are many more good times to be had when using it as a clitoral vibrator than a back massager. This toy goes up to 6,000 rpm’s!

How To Use It: Alone, or with a partner. This actually makes a great couples’ toy for women who have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. He can finger her or penetrate her while she uses it on her clitoris so she can experience an orgasm with her partner.

We-Vibe II

The We-Vibe II is designed to be a couples’ sex toy. One end of the massager will slip inside the woman and rest against her g-spot, while the other end wraps up and around to the clitoris. While a woman can masturbate with the We-Vibe II, it is really designed to be worn during intercourse. It’s a great way for a woman to experience an orgasm with her partner during penetration if she usually can’t.

How To Use It: With your partner. Try it in a variety of sex positions to experiment with different levels of sensation!

Ogee Twistee G-Vibe

The Ogee Twistee G-Vibe is very like the We-Vibe II in that it can be molded to rest against both the g-spot and clitoris and worn during intercourse. However, unlike the We-Vibe II, this little guy can be twisted into other shapes as well! This is actually a great option for women who have a hard to reach g-spot or a tilted cervix.

How To Use It: With or without a partner. It’s such a versatile sex toy! Experiment with different shapes to find the one you like best. Bend it any way you like, but remember the best shapes because you’ll want to go back to those!

Lelo Mia

If you’re looking for a discreet vibrator, this is it! So tiny, the Lelo Mia looks like a tube of lipstick and fits right into your purse. It also charges via USB port, so you can charge it on the go on your computer or laptop. Just say it’s a jump drive. For busy women who want a clitoral vibe, this is your best bet. Classy and discreet, but with loads of naughty pleasure.

How To Use It: On a plane, in the car, in the bathroom at work – anywhere you want because this thing is quiet. It’s unlikely that unless you make a lot of noise, anyone will know that you’re having an orgasm. Even though it’s small, it’s powerful, so you may have a difficult time keeping your trap shut.

Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator

If you’re looking for a more traditional, dildo style vibrator, this is a great choice. It’s pretty, it’s somewhat flexible and the turn dial is super easy to use. A good choice for beginners, because it’s slim – only 1″ wide. It’s also fun for girls who are experienced with sex toys, because it just reaches those hot spots. Not super awesome at clitoral stimulation though.

How To Use It: This is yet another toy that is great to use alone or with your partner. Guys, you can use this during oral sex on her to stimulate her g-spot at the same time and try to give her a blended orgasm. Ladies, if you’re masturbating alone and need more clitoral stimulation than the Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator provides, use it in conjunction with your favorite clitoris massager.

Lelo Elise

These are luxury vibrations at their finest. Like it’s cousin the Mia, the Lelo Elise is very quiet. It’s silky smooth and just feels luxurious in your hands and in your vagina. It’s designed for insertion and curved specifically for g-spot stimulation. It’s just one of those sex toys you have to have in your toy box.

How To Use It: You can use this with a partner, but it’s much more fun to keep this gorgeous vibrator to yourself. It’s like a decadent chocolate bar that you don’t want to share. Let it be your secret.

Sex Machines – Do Women Even Need Men Anymore?

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Sex machines have clitoral vibrators, dildos and even anal attachments – way more than any guy has in his “tool box.” Even if a guy has a huge penis, he still doesn’t vibrate, does he? So do girls even need guys for sex?

What Are Sex Machines?

Sex machines are often seen in porn – especially fetish porn or other types of specialized porn. They are machines designed to simulate intercourse, penetration, oral sex and more, often at much higher speeds than can be achieved through traditional sexual intercourse or oral sex. The most popular speed is about 160 strokes per minute, but many models can do up to 300 strokes per minute without ever breaking a sweat.

There are many different varieties of sex machine, ranging from those simple in design to ones that have an attachment that stimulates almost every hot spot imaginable. Some of the more unique sex machines are:

  • A custom designed model that simulates the licking of a clitoris with molded silicone tongues that are attached to a chainsaw
  • Models for double penetration
  • Models with attachments that spray water on the clitoris and penetrates the vagina at the same time
  • A vacuum powered clitoris pump or nipple stimulator
  • A spanking machine
  • Models that are designed to penetrate two women at once

What Can Sex Machines Do?

The majority of sex machines are going to be seen in porn, used by women who are alone and masturbating. They have a variety of uses, however. They can be used by a woman for female masturbation, or by men with a male masturbator attachment. They can be used for anal sex, clitoral orgasms, nipple play and even spanking and restraining. There are many different models of sex machines out there, so whatever you like, you’ll probably be able to find a machine that does it for you.

Sex machines can also be used by couples that desire more in their sex life than just what trying different sex positions and other things to spice up sex can offer. Men who entertain a cuckold fantasy will definitely love watching their wives get banged by a mechanical dildo, while women may enjoy watching their partners be slowly pleased with a soft and squishy masturbator.

Are They Really Better Than Sex?

Orgasms with sex machines are often harder and much more intense than an orgasm that is experienced during sex with a partner. Women who have never experienced an orgasm can have one with a sex machine, and women who have never experienced female ejaculation will often squirt during sex with a machine without even knowing they can. This is because:

  • Sex machines offer intense speeds that no human could possibly replicate
  • They offer steady stimulation at the same speed, which for a woman, is necessary for orgasm
  • They are designed specifically for firm g-spot stimulation, which can cause squirting
  • They never get tired and they’re always around when you want them
  • They offer just about any type of stimulation that you want
  • Creative folks, mechanics and those good with their hands can often create their own sex machines that are designed specifically for their pleasure

Nothing Can Replace A Partner’s Intimacy

While sex machines can really deliver when it comes to the physical stimulation department, that’s not always what guys and gals are looking for when it comes to sex and lovemaking. Women who enjoy a fast and hard orgasm during masturbation with a sex machine are still going to need that emotional intimacy that only a partner can give.

Sex machines can’t give hugs, tell a woman she’s beautiful or take her out to dinner. They can’t look into the eyes of their man while they give them a slow, deep blowjob and they can’t touch and kiss softly during foreplay. While sex machines do have a lot to offer, they lack the critical emotional and physical intimacy that comes from real sex with a real, live partner.

Should You Get A Sex Machine?

They are fairly expensive, especially if you choose to get the kind of high quality models that you see in porn films. However, if you have the space and privacy at home for one, they can be a fun investment for masturbation and erotic play with your lover.

Safety Tip

Never try to turn a nail gun, a drill, a saw or a chainsaw into a homemade sex toy. If something goes wrong – like the saw cuts through the dildo you shoved on it – you can really hurt yourself or someone else. Only use sex machines you’ve purchased from a reputable company and follow all recommended safety guidelines.