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Why She NEEDS To Climax During Sex

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Female orgasm is something every woman should get when getting busy. But do you know the REAL reason the female orgasm is so important? Find out now!

For sex to be really, really hot, a woman has to get sexual pleasure too. Sure, a woman can still enjoy sex with a man if she doesn’t have an orgasm, but the sex will be simply good, or “okay.” For steamy, forget-your-own-name sex, your girl has to be feeling great and well on her way to having a gut wrenching, thigh shaking climax. If you want the sex to be incredible, she’s got to get off. That’s all there is to it – but there are some other reasons why her orgasm should be at the top of your list when you slide between the sheets.

She’ll Be More Inclined To Get Kinky With You

When a woman is satisfied during sex, she feels like she is getting something out of it too – and she is. You’re giving her the incredible gift of pleasure and sexual release, so she’ll want to give you something back too. It’s in a woman’s nature – she’s naturally a giver. She wants to give you pleasure too, but she can hold back from this if all you care about is your own orgasm. She may start out by giving you great sex, good head and trying new things with you, but if time after time she fails to get off, she really won’t want to give back anymore.

Say for example, you want her to try anal sex or bondage. This isn’t necessarily something she has really thought about, but if she’s with a guy who consistently gives her an orgasm during sex, she’ll feel confident enough that she’ll come out as satisfied as you are and will be more willing to try it. However, if she’s with a guy who couldn’t care less about her orgasm and just wants to get his, she’ll want to ask the question, “What’s in it for me?” Think about it for a minute. Why would she want to try something like anal sex – something that could potentially hurt or be embarrassing – if she’s not going to get diddly squat out of it?

If you were in her shoes and were asked to try something that pushed the boundaries of your comfort zone and the likely scenario is that you wouldn’t even get off, would you do it? Probably not. Don’t be surprised when she doesn’t want to have kinky sex with you if you can’t make her come. On the other hand, however, if you always make sure she’s as satisfied as you are during sex, don’t be surprised when she wants to try everything under the sun with you. When you consistently give your girl orgasms, you unleash her inner sex vixen – and this is a side that almost every woman has.

She only lets it out when she feels safe and cared for by a man in the bedroom – and this is achieved only by putting her pleasure first. When a man has sex with a woman solely for his own pleasure, and doesn’t take the time to make sure she has an orgasm as well, doesn’t feel safe expressing herself in the bedroom and most certainly doesn’t feel like the guy cares about her at all. Once you show her that her pleasure is important to you, and you work hard to give her an orgasm every time you do the nasty, she’ll unleash her inner freak and you’ll be the guy who’s around to enjoy it.

She’ll Want To Have Sex With You More Often

This is a very simple concept, but many guys just don’t get it. If you give her orgasms when you have sex with her, she’ll want to have sex more often. Easy, right? Many guys, however, fail to make a woman climax during sex and then complain when she doesn’t ever want to have sex with him. Why does she want to slide between the sheets when it has simply become a chore for her? Another thing on her to-do list? “Cook dinner, do the dishes, have sex with John, pay the bills….”

You can’t blame a woman for feeling this way about sex when she doesn’t get anything out of it. Wouldn’t you? If a girl never gets off when she has sex with her man, she’s not going to want to have sex very often. Her body just isn’t going to desire it or want it, because truthfully, there’s nothing to desire or want! However, if you consistently give her a climax every time you have sex, her body is going to naturally crave more.

She will want to have sex with you more often, and she will rarely turn you down when she asks. She knows that when she has sex with you that she’s going to feel great, so there’s no reason for her to deny you – because she knows then she would also be denying herself. When she has a climax every time you and her get it on, don’t be shocked when you find that she’s all over you!

She Will Feel More Emotionally Connected To You

Go back to the part where she feels safe and cared about when she climaxes with her partner during sex – this is important. You already know women are emotional creatures (yeah, you can say that again!), but did you know that giving her an orgasm will help her feel more emotionally connected to you? When her partner fails to make sure she gets pleasure from sex, she feels lonely, taken advantage of and uncared for.

She feels like she’s not important enough to her partner for him to spend any amount of time or effort on giving her an orgasm. Therefore, she will begin to emotionally withdraw in the relationship. This can lead to all kinds of problems, and not just problems in between the sheets. The relationship will begin to suffer, because deep down, she believes her partner must not care for her and that he only cares about himself – because he’s demonstrated that during sex by only caring for his own pleasure and sexual release.

She begins to harbor resentment towards her partner and this usually comes out in different ways, outside the bedroom doors. When you do satisfy your lover between the sheets, however, she feels as though she’s important to her partner, and her sexual pleasure is worth his time and effort. When a woman feels confident that her pleasure is as important to her partner as his own is, she feels more like an equal in the relationship and will treat her partner as such.

They’ll still get into fights and arguements like every couple does, however, because she has no deep seated resentment towards him for not caring enough to make her come, the fights will resolve more easily and there will be less of them.

She’ll Nag You Less (Yeah, You Heard That Right)

A woman nags a man when she is unhappy in a relationship – when she is happy and satisfied, she’ll make excuses for him, or make up for his slack. This is just the way women are – they are very willing to trade household chores and other things for feeling loved and cherished. Beware, however, that failing to help around the house at all will in and of itself make her feel like you don’t love and cherish her. So giving her orgasms isn’t your get out of jail free card or anything, but it can certainly help.

You already know now that helping her get off during sex makes her feel great and makes her feel more emotionally connected to you. She feels like you love and care about her, so when you make her come consistently, she will be more willing to make excuses in her head for you when you forget to take out the trash or do the dishes. For example, say your lover absolutely hates it when you leave your underwear on the floor after you take a shower. But the night before, you gave her not one, not two, but three leg shaking,squirting orgasms after which she could barely stand up – all before you even thought about what kind of pleasure you were going to get.

It affected her on so many different levels that she went to bed completely blissed out and woke up that way too. She finds your dirty underwear on the floor, but remembers what went in that underwear and how much pleasure it gave her the night before. She throws them in the hamper and forgets about it five seconds later. Not only will she not bitch you out when you get home, she may very well attack you and rip your clothes off for an encore.

Now reverse that situation. Say you didn’t give her an orgasm the night before. You fingered her for less than two minutes assuming that would get her turned on and wet (which it didn’t, it actually just hurt and pissed her off) and proceeded to thrust into her for a total of five minutes, after which you got yours and rolled over and went to sleep. She went to bed feeling frustrated and unloved.

The next day, she finds your dirty underwear on the floor. She’s already pissed, and now this has made her even more angry, because it just adds to her belief that you are inconsiderate and couldn’t care less about her and her feelings. She remembers what went in that underwear and how it assaulted her the night before. She throws them in the hamper and absolutely does not forget about it – she thinks about it all day and stews over it, getting angrier and angrier and probably finding other things that you did wrong to bitch at you for.

When you get home, be prepared for her to light into you before you even get your work clothes off. In fact, she may very well call you on your lunch break to give you a preview of the verbal reaming you can expect when you get home.

Getting regularly satisfied during sex changes the way a woman looks at her man in a relationship, and it changes the way she thinks about his mistakes. It’s far easier for women to write off their partners’ shortcomings and focus on the things he does to make her happy – like incredible orgasms – than it is to stew over the things he does wrong.

Women prefer to make excuses for their men when they’re getting something out of the relationship. And it’s far easier for you as a man to make her come than to listen to constant nagging. By making sure your lover is regularly and consistently satisfied during sex, you’re really making your own life easier. And hers. It’s a win-win situation and the sex will be super hot.

So are you ready to learn what it takes to give her mind blowing, sheet soaking orgasms?

3 Simple Steps To Orgasmic Anal Sex

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Anal sex can be fun, naughty and super hot if you do it right. Here are three easy ways to make sure your anal sex experience is completely incredible!

1. Start With Just The Tip Of Your Penis

Once she’s lubed up and ready to go, start by inserting just the tip of the penis. First, press your penis against the anus, applying pressure. Slowly slide the tip up to the first joint. Stay still. You’ll feel the ring of muscles around the anus tighten and relax. Don’t move your penis, just let the muscles work.

When they relax again, remove it slowly and then insert it again. Tell her to try and open her anus by pushing her anal muscles outward while you penetrate. She should also make sure she’s breathing deeply during the insertion.

Using just the tip is a way to tease and build arousal before further penetration or engulfment. You can explore this with slow or quick movements, and everything in between. Try different angles and sex positions to find out how this feels best for both of you.

2. Move Gradually And Slowly

Gradually working your way to full penetration is a much more skilful and exciting way to approach this. Thus you increase sexual tension, get your energies and emotions more in touch with each other, and delight in the subtleties of the bouquet of sensations. Going slow and gradual also creates a sense of safety, which helps immensely with arousal and lubrication for women, providing a much more luscious experience for you both.

Advance centimeter by centimeter, slowly pulling out and pulling in after each move forward. Don’t go all the way in at first, in fact, many people don’t ever go all the way in. It all depends on her response, naturally.

3. Begin To Go Faster (When She’s Ready!)

If she’s not tired or resistant and she wants you in completely, grab the chance. Once you’re all in, stand motionless for a few seconds, giving the muscles time to relax and become accustomed with their foreign guest. After they do, it’s time you surrender yourself to the dance of thrusting motions.

However, keep in mind that the anus is not the vagina’s twin sibling, and go at it with careful consideration, paying attention to how her body responds. Hard action isn’t for everybody; she must be emotionally and physically ready for that kind of sex play.

Hot Tip: Experiment with the penis in the anus and a thumb or a sex toy in the vagina. Double orgasm is on the menu!

3 Standing Sex Positions That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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With most standing sex positions, at least one of you will require a fair amount of strength and/or stamina to execute it properly. Most that I came across were either ridiculously difficult or they didn’t provide enough stimulation for the female partner to conceivably orgasm.

That’s why there are only a handful of positions in this section but all of them are great ones to try out and come highly recommended from my clients, fellow experts and readers alike.

1. The Door Is Ajar

Have your lover stand with her back against a door jam and lean her head back. Stand upright and facing your partner, so that your legs are between hers and your back is against the other side of the door jam. In tandem, scoot your legs forward until your penis and her vagina meet; you’ll likely need to bend your legs, and she’ll sit on them slightly. Enter her and grasp her bum firmly. Have her hold onto your shoulders or put her arms around your waist or neck if she’s feeling off balance or wants some support.

Have her push her back firmly against the door jam while you thrust up and push her back and forth along your pelvis. To get out of this position, as it’s a bit trickier than the others, bend your knees until you’re squatting down. When her legs reach the floor again she’ll be able to hop off effortlessly.

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This is a hard position to sustain for any length of time. If her legs come off the ground because of a significant height difference, you can make it easier on both of you by squatting down more. You can also have her bend one leg and drape it over one of your elbows, then lean to the opposite side slightly and put her foot on the ground. It will open her up more as well so you can penetrate even more deeply.

Whatever you do, don’t let on that the position is a difficult one for you. If it is, move on to another position after you give it your best shot for a short period before you try something else. The feeling of weightlessness is a huge turn on for most women, but knowing that you’re struggling will bring her back into reality when all you want is for her to let go. If she wants to move around more, or feels like she’s not getting enough clitoral or G-Spot stimulation, suggest she lean back even more and move her hips in a circle, grinding herself into you and rubbing around to find more G-Spot pleasure.

2. Kneeling Face To Face

Face your partner and kneel on the floor together. Scoot forward so that you are extra close to one another. Place your opposing legs flat on the ground with your knee bent, and slowly inch forward until your privates touch. Lean forward to connect your penis to her vagina. To move, take turns lunging forward.

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There are few better positions than this one to even out the odds between you. With this move, you are both in the exact same position, performing the same moves. Provided you are about the same height and are both doing the same amount of work, plus both your arms are free to roam and play, perhaps to tweak nipples, coddle her clitoral head or pinch her buttocks. There won’t be a lot of heave-ho in this position, but because you are so snug against one another, she’ll get tons of clitoral stimulation grinding up against you, and even better eye contact to slide towards orgasm.

3. Get A Leg Up

Are you ready for this? Get your partner to do the splits mid-air, so that one leg is on the floor and the other is lifted as high toward the ceiling as it can go. Walk up to her and hold the outstretched foot, bending down slightly to enmesh your bodies. When you start having sex, you can use the one hand on her hip and the one on her leg as leverage to move. If her leg gets tired, have her bend it at the knee and lock it over your elbow instead for a rest.

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She’ll be off balance in this position, which isn’t a bad thing if you want to catch her arousal off guard. Just make sure that she’s supported well enough so she doesn’t fall over, and she’ll be able to enjoy the unusual angle and experience. Pull her close when you want to rub up against her clitoris, or ask her to finger herself if she’d prefer. Make sure your knees are bent to offer her enough clitoral and G-Spot stimulation, as you won’t thrust terribly deep in this position.

When You Actually Need To SKIP Foreplay!

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Foreplay is something that is essential for every sex session, right? Or can you forgo it and get busy right away?

DEFINITELY NOT!

Acts of foreplay don’t have to come before anything as they can be enjoyed in and of themselves. And so, there will be times when F can be the worst thing.

In these situations, it’s best to simply tear her clothes, pin her against the wall and do her right then and there. Don’t delay – do her immediately. Ravage her at will because she definitely wants you to.

When is that feasible? When is teasing not even funny?

Know When There’s Urgency

It is during the week-long honeymoon when couples are rabid hot. Passion takes the form of intense, fanatic longing and the moment the lovers’ shadows meet, they commence sexually harassing each other. The slow, gentle, “Take your time” nature of foreplay doesn’t work in situations where passion is in the form of “Take me, right here, right now” – there’s just no time for that, not enough brain cells even to light scented-candles. No chance for slow dancing in this case.

That’s ok, the couple is on the same page and they know what they want.

Such couples get to enjoy acts associated with foreplay, only after some serious sex. It’s that calm after the storm as lovers bask in the ambiance of their orgasms – the only real opportunity to luxuriate and slow things down.

Another time to definitely skip foreplay-smorplay is during quickies. There’s just no time. No time to heat the oil, or find that R&B CD. No time to gloat over your partner’s hot body, or engage in any talk. Just get those orgasms, put your clothes back on, fix your hair… then go back to work!

Part of the turn-on is the boldness of simply doing it without thought for feelings. There’s something so animalistic and intense about it – such rawness that finds its way in many of women’s fantasies.

These situations still make for great sex as foreplay becomes unnecessary delay, both partners don’t want it.

When NOT To Engage In Quickies

First, make sure it doesn’t become a pattern. Quickies are exciting, but they lose punch when it’s quickies all the time. Pretty much the same thing gets old pretty fast.

Second, make sure both of you are on the same page. You wish to do her now? She wants you to do her now? Fine, run like the wind. Of course, the situation’s a lot different when the other just wants to lie there gazing at the stars. Then you’ll probably have to take full advantage of foreplay’s side-effects to jump-start things.

4 Ways You’re Touching Her Wrong

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Foreplay is something you never, ever want to skip before sex but what if you’re doing it wrong? Could you be wasting your time when it comes to foreplay?

Your partner can tell a lot by your touch, including exactly how you feel about touching her. Whether you’re nervous, unskilled, aggressive or ignorant, your bad touch will speak louder than any words. Here are 4 ways you’re messing up the foreplay.

1. The “Nervous Nelly”

This kind of hesitant, unsure touch paired with “Is this good? How does that feel? What about this? Should I do a bit more of this? Or maybe that other thing!” will drive any woman mad, and not with pleasure. What does a nervous touch tell a woman?

That you don’t know what you’re doing and are too busy worrying about what she thinks of you to focus on making her feel good! You’re not between her legs to craft some dissertation on the poetry of her beauty. You’re there to be the best sex toy she’ll ever enjoy. Get over yourself and get to work.

2. The “Man-Handler”

Unfortunately, confidence isn’t enough. If you barge on ahead but are so caught up in enjoying yourself that you forget that the breasts in your hands are attached to a warm body, you are probably manhandling your girl. I can guarantee that’s not enjoyable for anyone.

Man-handling simply tells her that you don’t have the experience to touch her like you know what you’re doing, or the knowledge to notice that you aren’t hitting the right buttons. Don’t let it dissuade you unnecessarily; she already knows that you are a man and didn’t grow up with the same body she already knows. Calm down, take a few deep breaths and try to pay attention to her reactions when you touch her. Tease, tantalize – this is art, not construction.

Discover the answer to the question, “What new way can I touch her that makes her feel even better than I’ve ever made her before?” Do it by asking her to show you with her own hands. If you’ve never watched her body speak before, why would she expect you to already be fluent in her language? Take the time to learn by not being scared about using the wrong word. If you make a mistake, she’ll tell you.

3. The “Rough-And-Tumbler”

Feel like you have something to prove? Maybe you think you’re being aggressive or dominant, strong or sturdy, but getting rough without the clear go-ahead can be scary and can put the person you love in a pretty awkward position.

This kind of attitude tells her that you don’t respect her body or her boundaries. If you tend to “grab-on-tight and don’t-let-go,” it’s time to loosen up and enjoy the If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal, listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath.

4. “The Hokey Pokey”

Your lover is not a pot roast, you don’t get to “stick a fork in her” to see if she’s done. Poking and prodding, whether trying to elicit a reaction, or determine arousal levels, can only lead to deflated desire. Poking the girls to make them cry stopped being an effective courting technique when you were eight.

Time to give up that juvenile attitude towards your body’s ability to speak the female sex language. A little dance like this sends the clear message that you can’t read her responses and that you are impatient to “get to the point.” If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal and pay attention to her body language. listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath. Feel the heat of her skin and listen to her voice. If you must ask, just don’t spend more time asking how she’s doing than you do listening to what she’s saying.