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8 SUPER HOT Fresh Takes On The Missionary Position For Guaranteed Orgasms!

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Sex positions can easily spice up your relationship, but make sure to follow the instructions closely. A small shift in your lover’s hips, body or where she distributes her weight can mean the difference between discomfort and pain, or pleasure and climax. Remember my recommendation for sex furniture if you’re having a hard time getting the angles right. There’s nothing wrong with a little extra help!

1. The Coital Assignment Technique

Most sex experts suggest this position as a regular staple to ensure your climax, because it focuses on giving you lots of clitoral action at an angle beneficial for deep, highly enjoyable vaginal thrusting which strokes the clitoral complex. This positions is also great for intimacy. When you can master this subtle but oh-so-effective movement while on your back, you can try it in all sorts of sex positions to enhance the experience.

Start by lying flat on your back. Open your legs to accommodate your lover’s body while he’s putting his penis inside of you. Take your partner’s hips and pull them towards yours, while tilting your own hips upwards like you’re trying to touch your navel to your partner’s pubic mound. Your back will round and you may need a pillow under your hips for comfortable support. Next, have your lover move his body up as much as possible while still keeping his penis inside of you.

You want the weight of your partner’s body propped up by his hands and your pubic mound grinding into his. With each thrust, have your partner focus on rubbing the fleshy part of his body just above where his penis meets the flesh along your vagina. Most women find this action and angle rhythmically pleasing and just enough pressure to come.

2. The Arch Opener

While lying on your back, have your partner place himself over you. Open your legs and have him lie on top of you like he would in missionary style. Once he’s inside you, raise your hips up so that you’re almost in a crab position. Your lover’s body weight rests on your feet, shoulders and the length of your arms.

When you are comfortably raised, put your arms up around your head,  and have your lover hold your wrists to make a box-like shape with your upper limbs and shoulders. You can now use this frame as leverage to push back against your partner, in order to better grind your pelvis into his body for more clitoral action.

3. The Sit Up

When in missionary style, prop yourself up on your elbows so that it lifts your back off the bed. If you needs a bit of help, have your partner support your back with his hands by wrapping his arms around you. As he thrusts in and out of you, sit up even more, tilting your pelvis upwards, and then slowly laying back down again on your back. You’ll essentially perform continuous, assisted sit ups!

4. Legs To the Side

Pretend you’re having sex missionary style, but put your legs straight up in the air instead. It might be easier for you if you place a pillow under your head, but it’s not mandatory. Kneel down and just before your partner enters you, and take both of your legs and push them to the side, keeping them straight as possible. Your partner can use his hands to support himself if need be, or he can place his hands on the bed with his elbows out so you can rest her legs on them occasionally.

5. The Pretzel Cue

Lay on your back and lift your legs, pushing them back toward you a bit so that your knees are around your ears – keep in mind, only the most flexible women will be able to get their legs back this far, so take it easy. Have your partner push back slightly so that your back is off the bed yet still curled up.

Have your lover get comfortable between your legs, and he will press his knees up underneath you against your back, to help prop you up even higher. Have him Lean in and press his body against the backs of your thighs; you may want him to hold onto your legs for support and to keep you both in position. When he penetrates you, start to rock slowly, without him putting too much weight on your body from above, which could injure your lower back.

6. The Countertop Toe Curler

You’ve likely had sex already while you’re lying on something other than the bed, but this position takes things to a whole new level. You’ll see what I mean when you’re in this position. To perform it, lie back on a firm place: a couch, countertop, car hood or even a raised bed works. The tricky part is that when the man stands up straight, you want his pelvic region about a foot higher than yours if you’re lying flat on your back.

Have him get down on his knees if you need to, prop yourself up with pillows, or have him bend his  knees a bit to make sure the height difference works. While you’re lying flat on your back, have him move himself in between your legs. Put your ankles on his shoulders, and tilt your pelvis up towards the ceiling so your body is like a flat plank.

Sex furniture is great for this sort of positioning, especially if  you’ve never moved like this before. Only your shoulders and ankles should touch anything, with the rest of your body perfectly straight. He can grab under your hips to hold onto you while he thrusts into you, giving you both some leverage and support to keep elevated.

7. Legs Together Now

Start off in traditional missionary position. Have your lover keep his penis inside you with his body off the bed and his legs spread. Maneuver your legs in between his, while he focuses on staying inside you. Eventually, both his knees will sit outside of yours, and he’ll be crouched over you with your legs straight underneath him for better sex.

This is a shallow penetration position although your lover can increase the depth of thrusting by lying on top of you and using his arms to prop himself up. This hot sex position offers fantastic clitoral stimulation and a really tight fit for the both of you.

8. Two Chair Ride

You need two high-backed chairs to attempt this sex position, ones with firm armrests that offer a bit of padding for you. Place them side by side, close together, with a few inches between two of the arms. Stand between the two chairs, facing one with your back to the other.

From here, have your lover support you so that you can lean back, your shoulders resting on the arm rest furthest from your body, and your hips braced against the other arm behind you. Have him leave one leg on the floor between the chairs to brace you and add tension, while his leg that is closest to the backs of the chairs splays across armrests in front of you in a comfortable position.

To complete intercourse, he will lie with you so that his upper body is flat against yours. Have him brace his hands against the chair if need be, and have him lift the leg closest to the back of the chair to meet yours. Intertwine legs so that you can use his leg to push against while he’s thrusting.

5 More Female Orgasm Myths You Think Are TRUE

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A female orgasm is associated with a lot of myths. Here are 5 of the most common myths that men think are true.

1. Women Can Only Reach Orgasm Through Vaginal Intercourse

This is a myth that has caused many men and women over the years to take the sexual needs of a woman for granted. This myth was actually started by Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis. Through his research, he discovered that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

But Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile, as he believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms. The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis.

As a result of Freud’s determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods and devices were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure, many of which failed.

2. Only Women Fake Orgasms

It’s important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. As a result, women aren’t the only ones faking things. Studies show that about one-fifth of men admit to having a fake orgasm with a partner at one time or another.

Their reasons were the same as women’s: they didn’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings, they were tired and wanted to get it over with, etc. Orgasms don’t always come easily in a partnership. Even though masturbation often results in an orgasm every time, it’s important to remember that it’s simply because you’re already feeling aroused (which is the reason you’re masturbating in the first place) and you also know your body and what gets you off.

3. Men Only Care About Their Own Pleasure

This myth was probably true at some point in the past, but today more and more men worry about their role as lovers. Many strive to give their partners a sexual experience that’s just as pleasurable (if not more) as what they hope to experience themselves.

The only reason this myth continues to persist is a lack of understanding of female climax and how to help women achieve them. This isn’t something men and women are taught in sex education classes. And even if you asked your father, you’d probably still be left in the dark.

Every woman’s body is different, so even if you figured out how to give one partner mind-blowing orgasms, those same techniques might not work with another.

The key to knowing what’s sexually stimulating to your partner is communication. In an honest, caring relationship, the easier it is to share your thoughts and feelings, the easier it will be to experience a pleasurable sex life.

4. Most Couples Have Great Sex Every Time

Why does everyone else’s sex life appear to be better than yours? It could be because you’re at different stages of your relationships. You can’t compare sex from a six-month relationship to a six-year-been-there-done-that relationship. Our nervous system is designed to become desensitized to things that we routinely receive stimulation from. That’s not to say that long-term sex can’t be as pleasing—it’s just different.

If you and your lady know all the right buttons to push with each other (and you should after all that practice!), orgasm is often guaranteed and sex can still be very loving and passionate. My guess is that you wouldn’t be able to hold down a job with the amount of energy it would take you to sustain such a sex life.

5. Sex Is The Most Important Part Of A Relationship

Couples can only spend so much time in a relationship having sex. So if you love someone for more than just sex, you have no choice but to relate to each other on other levels. Sex is, indeed, a very important part of a relationship. However, most people (including men) have other needs, usually divided equally.

When you look at it this way, although sex tends to be a man’s number one need, it still accounts for only 25% of what he needs in life to be happy. Based on a variety of surveys and studies on long term relationships, approximately 20% of men believe that mind-blowing sex is “crucial,” whereas the other 80% look at it as “the icing on the cake” of a healthy relationship.

Female Orgasm TRUTH! How Age Affects Her Climax

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The female orgasm is extremely elusive. It may be easy to assume that because you have an orgasm most or all of the times you have sex, your wife is having a smashing time as well, but statistics also show that only about 44% of adults are happy with their sex life. While you are more likely to be concerned with frequency – 41% of men are – your wife and I are more concerned with our feelings. Only 29% of women want more sex, which means the chances are that your wife is not entirely satisfied with the quality of your sex life, rather than the quantity

How She Comes

The most frequent sex act reported by couples is by far coitus, yet only 6% of women report being able to orgasm from penile stimulation alone. Even with clitoral stimulation or vibration, only 29% of women are able to orgasm every time they have sex. Your hands may not be the most obvious sex organ, but the science is clear – 34% of women say that masturbation with their hands or rubbing up against something is their preferred way to reach orgasm.

In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means. Tradition says that variety is the spice of life. Switching to your brand new “swirly whirl” technique just as she’s about to come will probably stop her dead in her tracks.

Trying new sex positions and different stimulation keeps things interesting, but when it comes to making her come, all the tricks in the book can’t replace the dexterity and strength required for the consistent movement that will bring her over the edge. She has had decades of practice at this subtle movement. If you don’t learn to mimics her own masturbation, she’ll be left wanting. In the heat of the moment, when she is panting from your foreplay and begging for more, your penis isn’t necessarily what she means.

One Way or Another

Do you have a defeatist all-or-nothing attitude when it comes to sex? Do you pass up the chance to get down and dirty for the sake of scheduling, or do you take the time to play when the opportunity arises? When I used to wake up in the morning and try to cuddle with my husband, he would always push me away.

We were so busy that he didn’t think we had time for all the hard work he would have to put in to getting an erection and having an orgasm, so he didn’t even want to bother touching me. Making love is supposed to be an emotional, shared experience and shouldn’t be relegated to goal-oriented time slots when you can run the full routine.

Foreplay, intercourse and orgasm are a great combination, but each activity is also enjoyable on its own. Sometimes my husband and I have time to kiss and fondle, sometimes there’s only a few minutes for a rushed quickie, and other days we may have a long, luxurious afternoon to tease and please each other.

Don’t push away the chance to make your wife feel good because you’re worried you won’t get off in the process!

The Dirty Thirties

While people in their thirties tend to be a bit more adventurous, they are also on average much busier than their younger (or older!) counterparts. Young children are incredibly demanding of both time and energy, and according the sexpert Tracey Cox, the average parenting couple have sex around once a month and if that frequency rises as the child ages, it does not start to for several years.

This kind of physical rift in a relationship can cause long term emotional and physical problems that permeate the later years of a marriage, especially if cuddling, kissing and foreplay disappear with the all-or-nothing approach. Paradoxically, a woman’s capacity for orgasm rises dramatically during this time period as well.

While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent climax, mostly during masturbation.

The Fighting Forties

As a result of the sexual dysfunction of an earlier decade, both men and women in their forties begin a downward swoop on the roller coaster that is sex and marriage. While only 23% of younger women come on a regular basis, 90% of women over thirty report frequent orgasms, mostly during masturbation.

More than half of all men develop erectile dysfunction and this number only rises steadily from age 40 on up. People in their forties also drop way off on their rate of sexual activity – 69 times a year compared to 86 times the decade earlier.

The numbers regarding fidelity are not much more encouraging. In fact, it doesn’t take much for someone to cheat – somewhere between 25% and 40% of people have been unfaithful to their partner, and not all those people were unhappy in their marriage. Those who were “pretty happy” were twice as likely to cheat as those who were “very happy,” and those who were “not too happy” were three times as likely as their very happy peers.

How To Last Longer In Bed & Give Her Better Orgasms TONIGHT!

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How to last longer in bed is one of the most common concepts on the minds of many men. And if you’re reading this, you probably wonder about it too, don’t you? Ask any guy the reason he wants to know how to last longer in bed, and chances are, he will tell you that he wants to maximize his lover’s pleasure. So does having better stamina really give her better a female orgasm?

In short, it DOES. In fact, a lack of sexual stamina is one of the major causes of unfulfilled sex lives. Lasting longer will give you a great shot at triggering female orgasms. Out of evolutionary needs, Mother Nature has pre-conditioned the average man to be able to endure only 5 minutes of sex before climaxing.

Give Her Constant Stimulation

On the other hand, most women need ten to fifteen minutes of CONSTANT stimulation in order to be sufficiently turned on and achieve an orgasm (and you can certainly see how it does not add up!). The simple truth is that getting women to orgasm quickly goes against the need for men to spread their seeds and multiply in numbers.

And how times have changed! Instead of having sex just for reproductive purposes, women now look (and crave) for fulfillment when they make love. Hence, the longer you are able to last, the greater the chance of inducing an orgasm in her. For most women, a man’s improved sexual stamina works almost like a charm in giving her incredible, longer-lasting sex.

What If She Can’t Reach Orgasm From Penetrative Sex?

But, some women just cannot get an orgasm from penetrative sex, no matter how long it lasts. And I can tell you that if she cannot get that big “O”, the constant thrusting can be a painful experience for her. So what do you do if your lover cannot climax from intercourse?

Well, you just got to do things a little differently. Use clitoral stimulation. Mother nature made the clitoris for only ONE purpose – for women to enjoy orgasms. So you need to focus on this small, super sensitive area. The way you have sex will be important here.

For example, if you are in the missionary position, gyrate your hips in a circular fashion during penetration so that your pelvic bone rubs against her clitoris. Taking your time and going slow is an excellent tip for how to last longer in bed. If she prefers “rear-entry” on all fours, use your free hands to stimulate her clitoris even while you are penetrating her. This will give her sufficient clitoral stimulation and ensure that she gets the orgasms you know she deserves!

7 Anal Sex Sins You Do All The Time!

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Anal sex can be a great way to spice up your sex life. For generations, anal sex has been considered a no-go by women out there. But although this “national epidemic” is widely reported, the reason that the situation is such escapes most men.

The fact is that women, as much as men, are telling researchers more and more often that they would like to experience anal sex. e most men that come to me with the frustration of having been rejected to not give up. When your girl has doubts, it’s your job as a guy, who innately hates to admit defeat, to try to prove her.

1. You Aren’t Prepared

When it comes to first time anal sex, you don’t just rely on your instincts, on what nature taught you unknowingly. You need to come prepared, with your lessons learned, if you want it to be an awesome experience for both of you, the first time and many times that will follow. Anal is not just sticking your penis inside her bootie and shaking it all around.

You should be aware of her anatomy, how her body works, what you can do to stimulate her at the right time, etc. If you don’t enter the situation sufficiently informed, you are not going to have hot sex. But you will convince her that “no” was the right answer after all.

2. Your Manual Is Porn

Another thing that confuses you and stops you from performing at your full potential is the misinterpretation given by the porn industry. What we’re getting is a whole new order of sex positions, involving a different order of experiences. These things are beginning to reach into our lives and change the interior design of our sexual fantasies.

We’ve got to recognize that what one sees through the window of the TV screen is not as important as what we are bound to experience in our real lives. Anal sex is not as easy to master and straightforward as you see it in your XXX collection.

Professional porn actresses are either stretched out or they are using a numbing cream or gel to dull the pain. Another possibility: they start filming after having injected tons of lube inside her bootie and after she’s been aroused to some extent, so that the act seems real and doable. Don’t believe those that are trying to convince you that it’s not a big deal, because, in fact, it is.

3. You Don’t Talk To Her Beforehand

Women are scared. Yes. They get cold sweats and shivers when they think about it and the only thing that would mend this is just a few words of encouragement from your part. Not the “you’ll see you’ll like it” whispered by surprise, when you’re having sex, not that one. That doesn’t count as the talk.

Approach the subject in a non-sexual environment, and make sure you give her all the support, promise of protection and patience she needs. Take your time and assure her that it will be ok, it will feel good and it won’t hurt. Talk it over.

Find out exactly what makes her hesitant to try it and then see what you can do to belie her fears. Communication is a big deal for women; you ought to know that by now.

4. You Don’t Stimulate Her Enough

It is important that she is very turned on before you even go near her derriere. When she’s really heated up, her body is much more open to you than if she is only mildly turned on. She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. Otherwise, instead of giving you the moans and groans, she’ll just respond with a tense grimace. Rub her body all over with lube, get her relaxed with kisses and caresses, maybe a good dose of cunnilingus.

5. You Lose Focus

Once the hardest part is over and you find yourself inside her, you need to continue to be highly aware of every move you make, since being too rough can cause her considerable pain. You cannot thrust into her anus as hard as you would into her vagina.

Take it easy and pay attention to how it is making her feel. If she tells you to stop, then stop. If she tells you to get out, then get out. If you get selfish and focus on your pleasure over her potential pain, this will probably be the last time you’ll have anal sex with her.

6. You Don’t Let Her Set The Pace

A big part of the fear that women feel when it comes to anal sex is that they are helpless in this game of power play. If you want her to agree to it and also love the experience, let the action happen on her own grounds. Let her hold your penis and guide it slowly inside of her anus.

Even if it takes her half an hour to insert an inch, let her do it. If you surprise her with a sudden movement, the thought of having lost the control will make her even more scared. Just talk to her while she’s doing the job, seduce her mind and she’ll really let loose.

7. You Neglect Her Other Lady Parts

The sensation of touching the anus or rectum alone may feel uncomfortable for your girl, but couple it with penetration or oral sex, and suddenly it’ll feel much better. If you keep her mind busy with an awesome female orgasm, she won’t mind the back action that much. For example, while you’re fingering her anus, kiss her really deep on the mouth, so that she feels you’re still connected.