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Hands Free Orgasm – Can Women Masturbate Without Touching Themselves?

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An orgasm usually happens when a woman stimulates her clitoris or g-spot – or her partner does. It’s assumed that a woman must be stimulated to reach orgasm, but everyone says that a girl’s brain is an instrumental part in getting to climax – so can a woman reach orgasm without ever touching herself at all?

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The Brain Plays A Huge Role In Arousal For Girls

You may have heard that a girl’s brain is important when it comes to sex, but you probably really have no idea just how important this organ is – even more so than any other part of her body! You might think that her clitoris is more important, or her breasts are, but that is far from the truth – her clitoris won’t even respond if her mind isn’t already engaged! Also, if a woman is thinking about other things during sex or masturbation, is stressed out or worried, it is going to be extremely difficult for her to have an orgasm. For a woman to respond really well to sex, she’s got to be mentally engaged before she ever becomes physically engaged. Which means you need to expand your definition of foreplay beyond just touching – you have to start by engaging her MIND.

It Is Possible For The Brain To Produce An Orgasm Alone

If a girl’s mind is focused on things other than sex, she’s not going to have an orgasm. That much we know. In theory, is it possible that if a girl’s mind is focused only on sex and reaching orgasm, that she will? Yes, in theory it is possible. The brain’s connection to arousal in a woman is a very, very powerful thing! There are a couple of different ways this can happen, including spontaneous orgasms (whether medicine induced or not) and actually willing yourself to have an orgasm by only stimulating your brain.

Spontaneous Orgasm

You might be wondering if this is a bit like spontaneous combustion and in a way, it is. A spontaneous orgasm happens just like that – spontaneously. It can happen out of nowhere all of a sudden, or it can also happen when a woman has been thinking about sex so much and is so turned on that the slightest brush of her clothing or pressure in the right spot will make her climax.

Anti-Depressants And Spontaneous Orgasms

Many medical professionals believe that there is a link between taking anti-depressant medication and having spontaneous orgasms, however, there is no real data out there to suggest this, simply because most women who experience spontaneous orgasms do so in public – at work, on the bus, at the soccer game – and try their best to hide it. Some of the medications that include this side effect are Paxil, Prozac, Celexa, and Wellbutrin. Discuss this possible side effect with your doctor before going on any kind of anti-depressant medication.

Can You Teach Yourself To Have An Orgasm Without Touching Yourself?

Yes! You can actually teach yourself just about anything if you really put your mind to it – and there again is proof of how much power the mind has over the body. Here’s how to do it:

  • Start with normal masturbation. Use your hand, sex toys, or whatever you normally do to masturbate and bring yourself to orgasm.
  • However, this is where you’ll want to start to bring your mind into it more.
  • As you experience each pleasurable sensation, focus on how it feels and how you feel when it happens.
  • Begin contracting your vaginal muscles.
  • Gradually back off from the toy, while focusing on what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling.

With practice, you’ll be surprised at what you can do! Your mind is incredibly powerful – with practice, you can actually will your body to reach climax with just your mind!

Hands Free Masturbation

While many women will experience a completely hands free orgasm, many won’t and having an orgasm without directly touching yourself can be as pleasurable. Try new masturbation techniques that don’t involve your hands. The Sybian is a popular women’s sex toy and it allows the woman to “ride” the dildo, with or without vibration.

Hands free clitoral vibrators are also a good choice to help teach your body to have an orgasm without direct stimulation from your hands. They are simply placed over the clitoris and held in place with straps, and are usually operated by remote control. These can be a great way to train yourself to experience “hands free orgasms” and can help you bridge to stimulation free orgasms.

Oral Sex Techniques That Don’t Involve The Clitoris

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Oral sex techniques almost always concentrate on her clitoris – here are some oral sex techniques that focus on the REST of her incredible hot spots!

Wait, what’s that? The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s body and is partially if not wholly responsible for a woman’s orgasm during cunnilingus – why not go straight for it? That’s the “orgasm button,” right? Well, yes. But also remember that it can be painfully sensitive as well – which means that direct stimulation can sometimes have the exact opposite effect that you want it to. But didn’t you do all the “preheating” with the warm bath and the sensual conversation? Of course, but keep in mind that you were only relaxing her mind and body. Now you need to get her vulva involved.

Where Else Is There To Go?

If you’re not heading straight for the clitoris, where do you go? That’s easy – everywhere else. One of the most sensual and exciting experiences for a woman during cunnilingus is to have her entire vulva explored eagerly and completely with a warm, wet mouth. Let us emphasize eagerly and completely – make a few sounds as though you were eating something really delicious (well, you are, aren’t you?) and don’t let an inch of her vulva escape your mouth. There are, however, a few techniques that you can utilize before moving directly to the clitoris.

Wide, Slow Strokes

You’ll want to spread your tongue out wide, like you were about to lick an ice cream cone. Start at her perineum (or her vagina if you don’t want to go quite that far down south or if analingus gives you the creeps) and work your way up. If you’re not pressing too hard, you can go over the clitoris – this indirect licking, if you will, wakes up her clitoris and gets it ready for what’s to come. This “wide lapping” move is a great first move – it simply feels wonderful to have a warm, wet tongue covering the entire vulva and moving up slowly, enhancing every last sensation. You’ll want to spend a good one to two minutes utilizing this technique at first, and then it can be mixed in with other techniques either before focusing on the clitoris or during primary clitoral stimulation.

In Between The Labia

This is a great move to help transition from the wide, slow strokes into more detailed cunnilingus. You can use the “wide” technique during this stroke as well, or you can mix it up and use a semi-pointed tongue. A very sharp and pointed tongue is generally not something you want to use during this particular technique – leave that to clitoral flicking, which we’ll go over later in the clitoral stimulation techniques. Remember how we said that it feels divine to have an eager tongue explore every nook and cranny of her vulva? This is primarily the technique that will give her that sensation. Use your flat or semi-pointed tongue (semi-pointed does work best) and work your way slowly in between her inner and outer labia from top to bottom. You can even nibble her labia gently with your teeth (or, if you’re concerned about your teeth being too sharp, you can use the same technique with your lips turned inward and covering your teeth) to give her added pleasure.

Again, you’ll want to avoid the clitoris for the most part during this technique; however, if your lady is getting a little antsy, you can lick between her labia and move up, brushing the side of the clitoris with the side of your tongue. This works well if she seems to be craving clitoral stimulation, but keep in mind that at this point, the clitoris is most likely still too sensitive to strike head-on. Another great technique you can use while focusing more on the entirety of the vulva (before reaching the clitoris) is what some like to call a “lollipop lick.”

This sort of lick encompasses the entire area and, similar to the motions used while licking a lollipop (and we mean those big ones you get at amusement parks and Chuck E. Cheese’s) – from the outside in. Start on the outside of her labia and work your way inward using slow and wide tongue strokes. If you wish, you can end the “lollipop” on her clitoris and begin to use the clitoral techniques outlined below.

Tongue Thrusting

This is great move to help transition from either a wide, flat “ice-cream cone” tongue or labia exploring into more focused cunnilingus. Bring your tongue back down to her vaginal opening and insert it gently, much like you would a finger if you were pleasuring her with your hands. You may find that either you or your partner does not like very deep tongue thrusting, so start out very light and gentle until you get a feel for it. Just licking barely in and out of the vaginal opening will give her a great feeling, so no need to try and reach her cervix with your tongue. This is also a great place to begin working on your flicking, which you will use later on her clitoris when she is more geared up and nearer orgasm. Her vaginal opening is sensitive as well (not as sensitive as the clitoral head or shaft) and she will get a wonderful preview of the strokes you are getting ready to use that will bring her to a delicious orgasm.

Use Your Lips

Although the tongue is the most powerful muscle in the body, there’s just nothing that compares to a soft set of lips caressing the entire vulva. This creates a soft, sucking sensation that will send chills down her spine (and you will probably receive a few moans in appreciation). You can use your lips as an icebreaker to clitoral stimulation since they are much softer than your tongue, or you can use them on the rest of the vulva, particularly the labia. Gently sucking her labia in and out of your pursed lips feels exceptionally wonderful, but make sure that if you are going to use your lips that they are nice and wet (by this time, she may already be wet enough for the both of you). If, however, you find them somewhat dry, you can lick them to moisten them and you can even incorporate this movement into the cunnilingus itself. A great way to use both the lips and the tongue together during cunnilingus is to act as though you’re French kissing her vulva. This feels great! Again, it gives your partner the sensation of having her most sensitive and private parts be fully explored, kissed and caressed. Another variation on this technique is to place your entire mouth on her vulva. You can then move into a gentle sucking or use your open mouth to gently blow warm air onto her vulva.

How To Perform Better Oral Sex And Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms!

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Oral sex can be mediocre, or it can be fantastic! Check out these oral sex tips that will leave your girl’s voice hoarse from screaming your name over and over!

Are You Boring Your Partner?

You know that you are frustrating her with boring bed rituals. Now, you can give her the hottest and steamiest sex she will ever experience. Offer her a chance for increased sexual release and let her beg for more sex. Yes, women can get disinterested even during the most private moments with their partners.

It’s time to make a move and add a new flavor to these intimate explorations – give her oral sex! What kind of woman would not want to perspire during a steamy lovemaking? Yes, you read it right. You can have your woman writhe in pure orgasmic pleasure with oral sex.

You can give the most thrilling cunnilingus she will ever experience by putting a small amount of a female orgasm enhancing cream (such as V-cream) on her clitoris prior to the sexual act. She will surely have heightened sensations with every stroke and touch that you give to this small organ. Such creams act immediately upon application, making her primed for an exhilarating time in bed.

Knowing The Magic Of Creative Oral Sex

Upon application, you can proceed to give your woman a pleasurable experience. Start off by giving her inner thighs tender and light touches using your lips. Move upwards to her vagina and allow your tongue to gently stroke the external area using an up-and-down motion for few moments.

Be playful! Stop the movements of your tongue along the external edges of her vagina and let her beg for more of what you are already doing. Place gentle kisses and soft caresses using your tongue, and make your teeth chew gently on her skin until you reach her abdomen. Go back down after paying much of your attention on the sensitive parts on her upper torso. She will surely demand that you get to the real business and that is what you will do!

Women usually reach a sexual climax due to clitoral stimulation so you should pay close attention to that mound of flesh. Imagine that you can only pleasure her through those gentle strokes that your tongue can make. Visualize yourself eating ice cream because this is how your tongue and lips should move. Don’t we just love eating ice cream?

How To Experience Her Pleasure

Allow yourself to experience the same or greater level of pleasure as what your partner feels through the following methods:

  • Perform tender strokes using your tongue.
  • Allow her to place her external genitalia on your face.
  • While your mouth is busy on her clitoris, you can try penetrating her vagina with your two fingers.
  • You may also raise her buttocks off the bed or floor and allow her lower limbs to encircle your neck. This may take some effort from you.
  • Trace the letters of the alphabet along the borders of her vagina with the gentle movement of your tongue.
  • Lastly, the circular motion around her clitoris will surely do the magic trick!

Try these proven oral sex moves and give her the kind of wild screaming orgasms that she will never forget!

5 Signs YOUR Sex Toy Is Potentially Hazardous To Your Health!

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Sex toys touch the most sensitive parts of your body, so safety is top priority! Most people don’t know they can be dangerous. Is it time for YOU to upgrade?

Sex toys are wonderful things and can enhance any sexual experience whether it’s just you, you and your partner or you and a bunch of people! But not all sex toys are created equal. Some are low quality and won’t last very long but some are actually harmful to your body. Cigarettes come with a warning label now but sex toys don’t. Consider this your warning label! Here are 5 signs that your sex toy is potentially hazardous.

It Smells Funny

Have you ever had a sex toy that smelled bad? Whether it smells like old tires, old gym socks or just plain stinks, it’s a sure sign that all may not be right with that toy. Materials such as Jelly, rubber, PVC, vinyl, cyber/real-skin varieties and even some TPR/TPE can leach out any one of the many plastic softening chemicals used to create the material. These chemicals carry a strong odor. Other causes of odd smells can be something as simple as an error in the manufacturing process – maybe they didn’t let the glue cure long enough before packaging it up; maybe they used too much cleaner during the end stages and the smell is trapped inside the packaging. If the sex toy is made from a porous material it will likely “soak up” these odors and hang on to them. Not everyone has a reaction to these chemicals; but at any given time any sex toy can contain various levels of these chemicals and there are no regulations. You could be fine with one jelly toy and then have another one leave you with a burning/itching feeling inside.

You Feel All Tingly Inside

And I don’t mean from an orgasm. If you’ve not used a lubricant, or have switched to a “sensitive” formula lubricant and still get a tingling/burning/itching feeling or visible inflammation then the culprit is the sex toy. As mentioned above, some sex toys contain plastic softening chemicals or other chemicals that can be an irritant for some people. The reaction you get might range from a vague, short-lived tingle or itch to a full-blown low-grade chemical burn that takes a week or more to heal.

There Is A Crack Or Tear In The Material

Always examine your sex toys before you use them. Any sex toy can get damaged for any number of reasons. A crack in plastic or a gash in soft material means that it is time to ditch the toy. Bacteria can harbor in those cracks and tears. Do you own a wooden dildo? They’re wonderful (and no splinters, I promise!) but if you ever notice that the varnish/shiny coating is missing in a spot or looks like old, crackly paint then the dildo needs to go. It’s the coating that keeps a wooden dildo non-porous.

It’s Made From Porous Material

A lot of the less expensive sex toys are made from materials that can be porous. The same materials that can harbor foul-smelling chemicals are also usually porous. Porous means that it can never be disinfected or sanitized from bacteria. Anyone who uses a toy anally that is porous should trade up for something made of silicone (or glass, or metal!) to keep bacteria in check. If you won’t get rid of the toy and it doesn’t have a smell, you should at least cover it with a condom for added safety.

You Have No Idea What Material It’s Made From

So you purchased the sex toy from an online reseller that didn’t list all the properties and specs of the toy. Or you went to your local “adult bookstore” and purchased a vibrator where the packaging is merely a blisterpack with a photo of a hot girl or guy and some marketing words that promise orgasmic nirvana. It’s ok, we’ve all probably done this at some point in our lives. If you don’t know what the material is then don’t buy it or stop using it.

Silicone Is The Way To Go!

Now that you’re looking at your sex toys with a suspicious eye and wondering if you should just give up on sex toys altogether let me give you some advice: Silicone. Purchased from a reputable manufacturer, silicone (as long as it’s 100% pure medical grade silicone) is the perfect sex toy material. Non-porous, it never stinks, and lasts a long time (just don’t use a silicone-based lubricant on it, that will ruin it). Silicone can be sanitized/disinfected; so can glass, hard plastic, ceramic and metal. Are you still dubious? It’s understandable since there are no regulations and manufacturers can say what they want.

A simple test to be sure that your silicone toy is truly medical-grade 100% silicone is called the “flame test.” Using a lighter, apply the flame carefully to a small spot on the toy for 5 seconds. Silicone can withstand temperatures past 500 degrees Fahrenheit, so if it melted, it is not silicone. If there is a black scorch mark that doesn’t rub off, then it’s not pure silicone. Glass and metal are also favorites of mine but can be a little scary for the uninitiated. Just be sure to keep the size down since hard materials are less forgiving.

Q&A: Sex Toys For Virgins

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Sex toys aren’t just for advanced users. Virgins who choose not to have sex yet still want satisfaction! Whether you’re a teen looking into exploring your body before choosing to become sexually active, or you’re abstaining from sex but still want to have great orgasms, you definitely want to have a great sex toy in your nightstand! However, a huge dildo probably isn’t the best choice. What are good sex toy choices for virgins or women who are abstaining from intercourse?

Question: I’m a young virgin, and I want an inexpensive sex toy that won’t stretch me out. Any suggestions?

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Clitoral Vibrators

First off, if you don’t want to deal with insertion at all, your best option is a vibrator designed specifically for the clitoris. All it does is sit on top of the clitoris and vibrate – no insertion required! This is also the perfect choice if you’re a virgin and don’t want to stretch yourself out or damage your hymen in any way. In fact, many women prefer clitoral vibrators over other styles of sex toys simply because they can provide some of the best orgasms! The clitoris was designed for sexual pleasure – and that’s it! It has no other function at all except to provide pleasure. Many women – even very sexually experienced ones – choose clitoral vibrators again and again simply because it’s one of the easiest and best ways to reach climax!

Small, Slender And Discreet Vibrators

There are many small and slender vibrators out there that are designed for insertion, but they are so slender, they’re not going to stretch you out at all. In fact, many slender vibrators are thinner than a tampon! While you definitely want to stay away from Rabbit style sex toys (those can be quite large and are better suited to advanced sex toy users) and large dildos, small and slender vibrators might just be right up your alley. Most of these types of sex toys are designed to be discreet, and can fit in your purse or may look like a tube of lipstick. These make excellent starter sex toys, especially if you’ve never had sex before and are just starting to experiment with sex toys!

Bullet And Torpedo Style Vibrators

A bullet style vibrator is a must have for every woman, simply because it is so small and versatile. A simple bullet vibe can be placed on the clitoris or in the vagina, and some of them can be inserted into cock rings and used for couples pleasure (when you get there). Torpedo style vibes are also popular – they’re generally just a longer version of the bullet vibe. Jimmy Jane makes excellent torpedo style vibrators – they’re extremely classy and barely even an inch in width. G-spot vibrators are also popular, because they typically have a larger bulb on the top, followed by very slender handle.

Remember That Your Vagina Is Made To Stretch

While you certainly don’t want to purchase any sex toys that make you feel uncomfortable or feel too big for you, keep in mind that your vagina is designed to stretch and return to it’s normal shape. It’s not as though you’re going to put a vibrator in there and your vagina is going to stretch out and never return to it’s normal size. It will! The vagina will even return to it’s normal size and shape after giving birth – and that is definitely stretching. The only thing that won’t return to normal after using an insertable sex toy if you’re a virgin is your hymen – once you break that, it’s done and over with. But also know that the hymen can be broken during a variety of non-sexual activities, such as horseback riding, gymnastics, or even inserting a tampon.

Inexpensive Sex Toys

While there are lots of inexpensive sex toys out there that are great, there are many that aren’t so great. While price is a good thing to keep in mind when shopping for sex toys, you really don’t want to compromise on quality. Make sure whatever toy you choose is manufactured with body safe, phthalate free materials (or slip a condom over it if you’re not sure) and is made by a reputable company. Buying cheap sex toys may make your wallet feel better now, but you won’t be pleased when you open the package and find that it stinks like chemicals or the vibrations are weak. If you can find actual user reviews on the sex toys you’re considering purchasing, read through them! They can really help you decide whether or not a particular toy is right for you.