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Do You Really Need To Know If She’s Faking An Orgasm?

I have had many people ask me if it really is possible to know when a woman is faking an orgasm. My answer to that question is yes, if you are extremely alert.

However, why spend so much time trying to find out if she’s faking an orgasm when you can rather spend that time learning different techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse.

More importantly, why not spend that time to learn what your woman’s sexual wants and needs are in the bedroom. By doing that, you won’t ever have to wonder if she is faking it or not.

Why Is She Faking Her Orgasm?

If your woman truly is faking an orgasm, it is because she does not want to hurt your feelings. So, the only way to make sure that she never does this again, is by allowing her to be open with you in the bedroom.

Take the initiative to be the first to open the communication channels between yourself and your partner. Make her feel totally relaxed and comfortable when she is with you. The way to do this is by showing her that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

For example, if you make a small yet embarrassing mistake during a lovemaking session, don’t just keep it quiet. Instead, acknowledge it in front of her, and then laugh it off.

By doing this, you will show your partner that if things don’t go the way they should when making love, you won’t get all upset and act like you have just lost your manhood.

Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

By not taking yourself too seriously, you will show your woman that you are open to criticism, and that if all still fails in the end, it doesn’t matter, because you are both just having fun. Once she has opened up, take the opportunity to ask her what really gets her going.

Let her know that you are open and ready to do whatever it takes to please her, and that you lay no judgment on her for showing you. Do it in a fun way so that it does not look like a science project, and never feel frustrated or anxious if you do not get it right the first time.

By applying this type of mindset, you will make it easier for your woman to be open with you. This will then allow her to openly tell you what her deepest and darkest desires are.

Think About What Faking An Orgasm Really Means

Faking an orgasm spells "miscommunication between two lovers". Both are afraid to open up to each other, because both feel the other might get upset or judge them incorrectly.

So really, if you read between the lines, you will realize that each partner has a common goal, and that goal is to please the other, even if it means not hurting the other’s feelings. Unfortunately, the outcome is disastrous, because both shoot themselves in the foot. Someone needs to break the ice, so why not take the lead and let it be you?

By spending your valuable time on being open, and learning to accept your other half for who they are, you will be paving the way for a much healthier, passionate sex life between the two of you.

So ask yourself seriously, what sounds more productive; Finding out if she is faking an orgasm in the hopes that one day you can catch her out and embarrass her, which in the end will make your woman close up even more in the hopes that you never catch her out again, or rather spending the time to learn how to prevent your woman from faking an orgasm by learning how to communicate openly and not take yourself so seriously, so that both parties can actually learn to enjoy a night of passionate sex.

You decide.

Not Having Enough Sex? Here’s The Secret To Increasing Her Sex Drive

By cynthiaperkins

One of the most common points of conflict for couples in a long-term relationship is the loss of sexual desire for the woman.

The loss of sex drive for women may occur for a variety of reasons, some of which may be physiological, but putting all those aside for another conversation, it may surprise you to learn that what I hear from many of the women I work with in my practice is that one of the primary causes for loss of desire is unmet needs.

As they tell me their story, they are not usually aware it’s their unmet needs that is the culprit of their dilemma, but it is what we uncover as we explore their situation further.

Why Women Lose Their Sex Drive

A great deal of women lose their sex drive for one very simple reason she is not enjoying the sex. When sex is not pleasurable for the woman, she responds by withdrawing and shutting down sexually. Think about it, would you want to have sex if it weren’t satisfying?

Sex is not enjoyable for many women, because not only are her sexual needs not being met adequately, but neither are her emotional needs and for the woman, both are equally important.

Why aren’t these needs being met, you ask? Because many men and women alike don’t truly understand what it is a woman needs.

A lot of couples are not aware that the sexual needs and biological responses of men and women are quite different and it is essential that they understand these crucial differences to have a sexual relationship that is equally satisfying for both partners.

Increase Her Sex Drive by Increasing Her Pleasure

Solving her sex drive problem should be a joint effort. It should not rest on his or her shoulders alone. However, if you’re a man reading this page I’d like to make you aware that there is a simple solution to keeping her sexual desires alive that is totally within your control. Take matters into your own hands and make sex irresistible for her.

Dazzle her by focusing on her needs. Blow her mind by getting to know her body better than she does. Help her expand her horizons to places she’s never gone before and you’ll be viewed as an amazing lover that she deeply appreciates. Once she sees how enjoyable sex can be, she’ll become more willing to explore and be adventurous.

She doesn’t know what she’s missing, but once she discovers it with you, she’ll be grateful that you took her on the journey and this will strengthen her bond with you. Coach and encourage her to express her needs to you and show you what is pleasurable for her.

Deepening The Connection

Fill her emotional needs by deepening your connection with her. Make her feel special, appreciated, valued and important outside the bedroom as well as inside. Shower her with affection and give her adequate foreplay,

When sex is more satisfying for her, it benefits the man as well. She’s going to be more willing and even eager to give you pleasure in the way you desire, such as more oral sex. She’ll be willing to have sex more often and you may find that she’ll even be the one initiating it.

Phrases like "I have a headache," or "I’m too tired," will no longer be part of her vocabulary. Your sexual adventures will be more satisfying for both of you. When you share a strong sexual bond that is mutually satisfying, it keeps your sex life fresh and exciting, prevents your love from eroding or diminishing and you develop a stronger and more fulfilling relationship all around.

Discover The One Powerful Skill That Will Turn You Into an Exceptional Lover

By paultony

A true master in the art of making love knows that every woman has different wants and needs. Therefore, a lover a can only really become a masterful lover to the one woman he takes the time to learn.

A masterful lover realizes that each woman will have specific tastes in the bedroom. While one woman might like her man to be rough, another might prefer her man to take the more gentle approach.

The Sexual Uniqueness of Men and Women

Yes, like men, every woman will have the same basic likes and dislikes, but that is only on the surface. Think about it, while most of us like the taste of fruit, some of us prefer an orange over a banana.

This is what makes every man and woman unique. It is this uniqueness that a masterful lover will try to discover and appreciate in his partner, thus will take the necessary time needed in order to truly know what turns his woman on.

No matter what techniques you learn, none of them will really matter if you have no idea what your woman’s true desires are. Therefore, if you want to become an exceptional lover in your woman’s eyes, it is important that you learn one very important skill;

The Art of Paying Attention To Her

In order to master the “art of paying attention”, you need to learn to listen to every moan and groan your woman makes while you are making love with her. Now there is a difference between listening and really listening. I am talking about the type of listening that is able to interpret each moan and groan your woman makes.

You have to find out if a certain groan means that she likes what you are doing, or if it means that you should stop what you are doing. This takes time, concentration, and patience.

In order to successfully interpret every noise that your woman makes, you also need to learn to pay attention to every movement she makes during sex. Is she squirming her pelvis during a cunnilingus session because she is enjoying what you are doing, or is it because she is signaling you to stop as she is feeling uncomfortable with the type of stimulation you are applying?

By paying attention to both her movements and noises, you will soon be able to get an accurate interpretation what she is feeling, and what she would really like you to do to her.

The Importance of Verbal Communication During Lovemaking

Verbal communication also plays a big part in the “Art of Paying Attention”. I am talking about the type of communication that goes on during a love making session. This is where you really have to be careful. If you ask too many questions, you will simply annoy your partner.

In order to verbally communicate with her , you have to do it in such a way that it actually becomes part of the love making ritual. There are many ways to find out exactly what your woman likes or dislikes, while at the same time using the question and tone of your voice to turn her on and keep her on that “erotic high.”

An example of this would be to seductively ask your woman how she is feeling while you are stimulating any part of her hot zones.

Keep the questions short and make them sound sexy.

For example, the wrong way to do it would be to stop what you are doing and say something like this; “Now, when I move my finger up and down like this, does it make you feel excited, or should I rather move it in a circular motion.Really, which one is better; up and down like so, or circular like so …”. At this point you might as well put your clothes on, politely say goodbye to her, and show yourself out. Don’t forget to shut the door behind you.

Communicating the Right Way During Sex

The right way to verbally communicate with your woman during sex is by continuing to do what you are doing, and while you are doing it, say the following softly in the most sensual and sexiest voice you can muster; “does that feel good?”, or “do you like that?”.

Now, if you have “paid attention”, you will realize something very important. Not only are the questions short, but they also require a simple yes or no. This ensures that your woman does not have to strain her self too much by having to pull herself out of concentration to answer your long “philosophical” questions. She simply has to say yes, no, nod, shake her head, say “hmmm hmmm”, or “mhhhh mhhhh”.

Another thing to keep in mind, as short and sexy as these questions may seem, don’t ask them after every friggin move you try on your woman. That will also bug the hell out of her. The perfect balance is to verbally ask her a question now and then, while at the same time paying attention to every noise and movement she makes. Once you have accomplished that, you will be well on your way to becoming an exceptional lover.

How to Intensify Your Woman’s Orgasms

By paultony

Ask any woman what she would prefer; multiple orgasms, or one extremely powerful orgasm? Most likely she will choose the second option.

Okay, now take it one step further; ask her if she would prefer multiple orgasms, or powerful mind blowing multiple orgasms.

Now that you see the bigger picture, let me show you some powerful techniques to intensify your woman’s orgasms to new heights;

Tease your Woman and Create anticipation

Most “sexperts” will tell you to take your time during foreplay, and they are right. However, there is more to it than just taking your time. Every bit of time spent must count. Pointlessly taking your time will only bore your woman.

However, taking your time to tease your woman will drive her crazy and keep her on an “erotic high”. All she will care about is hoping that you will make her cum, because she has such an itch for it.

You can apply this technique even before you get under the covers with your woman. Begin by flirting with your partner during the day. This will give you a feel as to whether she is in the mood for a lovemaking session or not. Once you have confirmation that she is, move to the next step of teasing her.

At different intervals during the day, do something a little naughty to her. Start off lightly by whispering sexy words into her ears. Tell her what you are going to do to her later that day. Then walk away.

The next time you brush past your partner, kiss her lightly and seductively, and when you feel she is wanting to kiss you more, pull away, but do it with a mischievous smile. Once again, walk away. This will show her how much control you have over your desires.

At this point your woman will be feeling a little frustrated, and maybe even a little annoyed. However, she will most likely be hoping that you approach her again so that she can regain some control.

When you do walk past her again, grab her a little more passionately, and give up just a little more control, but just when your partner thinks she has regained control of the situation, pull away.

By doing this, you are teasing her and building anticipation into her mind. The anticipation in turn will put your woman in a higher state of arousal. She has an itch, and she is dying to get it scratched, and she wants you to scratch that itch real bad.

The Trick To Keeping Her On The Erotic High

The trick is to keep your woman on this “erotic high”.

Once you and your partner are finally under the covers, you can continue to tease her. If you are performing cunnilingus, tease her by going as close to her clitoris as possible without ever touching it. By the time you finally do, her “erotic high” will reach a new level.

At this point you can bring your woman close to orgasm, then stop and move away to stimulate another area on her body. Continue to do this until she can’t take it anymore. When she finally reaches orgasm, she will be in a state of bliss.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique

If you have being paying attention, you would have noticed something very important. You would have noticed that the techniques you are using to intensify your woman’s orgasms are by stimulating her mind. The amplified Trigger response is a more direct example of mind stimulation.

It is important to keep in mind that timing plays a crucial part when it comes to using this technique. The “amplified Trigger Response” has to be applied just before your woman reaches an orgasm, and must continue during her orgasmic state.

This technique can be approached in two ways; by direct touch, or by what she hears. However, both approaches have the same end goal of triggering a thought or feeling in her mind that amplifies her state of arousal just before she reaches the ultimate height of ecstasy. This in turn will escalate that height of ecstasy.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Touch

This technique is especially effective when you are performing cunnilingus, or when you are fingering your partner. Before going down on your woman, mentally pick a part of your partner’s body ( preferably one of her erogenous zones) that you will avoid touching while performing cunnilingus on her.

In this example we will choose the nipples, and we will use cunnilingus as a method of stimulation.

Now tell your partner to lie back with her eyes closed and relax. During the cunnilingus session, you may let your hands freely explore your woman’s body. However, whatever you do, don’t go near her breasts and nipples. Keep doing this until you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm.

When she reaches this point, begin lightly pulling on her nipples. Keep on doing this until she has completed her orgasm. The unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Amplified Trigger Response Technique Through Sound

This technique is effective through cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse. However, we will continue to use cunnilingus in order to show an example of this technique.

Let your partner lie back with her eyes closed. Feel free to explore her body with your hands. Yes, you may touch the breasts too. Once you feel she is within seconds of reaching an orgasm, start moaning and groaning until she has fully completed her orgasm.

Once again, the unexpected yet welcomed action will trigger some erotic feeling in her mind, thus intensifying her orgasm.

Now feel free to combine the two methods of this technique to create something new. Your imagination is a powerful sex toy. By using it correctly, you can come up with many new techniques to give your woman a good time.

Men, Do You Know the 3 Reasons She’s Unhappy With Your Sex Life?

By cynthiaperkins

Many women are not having a sex life that is as satisfying as they would like it to be, because their sexual needs are not being met adequately in their relationship.

There are three main reasons that this occurs that both men and women should be aware of that will enable them to help her find more pleasurable sexual experiences.

1. She doesn’t know what those needs are

Sometimes women don’t really understand their own body and how it works. They don’t know what it is that will arouse them or bring them to orgasm.

They may have been brought up to believe it is shameful to explore their body and find out what is pleasurable for them or they don’t understand the necessity. Since she doesn’t know what her sexual needs are, she can’t communicate them to her lover or take the necessary steps to get them met herself.

She knows something is wrong in her sexual adventures, but can’t put her finger on it.

2. He has learned from the wrong sources.

Don’t believe what you hear in the locker room or the standard porn movies. Most men learn about sex from porn movies or from their buddies who are sharing misinformation they learned in porn movies. Traditional skin flicks do not portray realistic situations between people who care about one another.

First of all these types of adult movies are designed for the pleasure of men, not women. So most everything you’re seeing comes from the man’s point of view and what he fantasizes about, not the woman’s.

Contrary to what they teach, having a big penis and thrusting like an Olympic gold medalist is not going to make your woman squeal with multiple orgasms. It’s not likely to bring her to even one orgasm. Additionally, although a woman may allow her man to indulge once in a while, most women do not get off by having semen squirted all over their face.

If you watch standard porn movies, such as Debbie Does Dallas, you need to be aware that what you are watching is for entertainment purposes only. It is not the way things are in reality.

Not only do they portray inaccurate information for pleasuring a woman, but they also cause men to feel inadequate and wonder what’s wrong with them. You need to keep in mind that men in these movies are selectively chosen and are at the extreme end of the male spectrum.

Most men do not have a penis this size and most men do not have this kind of stamina and that is not what a woman is looking for.

In order to learn what a woman really enjoys sexually and have movies that simulate a realistic couple, you need to pick adult videos that were designed for that purpose. Movies made by someone like Candida Royalle are made specifically to be woman and couple friendly.

Additionally you should pick up videos and books that were made by sex experts for the purpose of education. Unfortunately, in our society, no one ever teaches any of us about sex. Most of us learn by trial and error.

With the help of a few high quality instructional videos and books, couples can dispel many sexual myths that may be preventing them from achieving the sexual satisfaction they desire and develop skills that enable them to meet their needs more effectively and become better lovers. Adult sexual education is a powerful tool for both men and women…

3. Lack of communication

Many couples find it very difficult to communicate with one another about their sexual needs or preferences and this is not only a leading contributor to her sexual needs going unmet, but the quality of the relationship overall.

A lot of women are uncomfortable or embarrassed to talk about their sexual needs. Sometimes they are afraid that their lover may perceive them as loose, easy or unlady like. Our society gives women a double message when it comes to sex, on one hand she’s supposed to be a hot little tiger in the sack, yet on the other hand she’s supposed to be pure and virgin like.

This creates an ideal that is impossible to live up to and creates a lot of inner conflict. Women need to know it’s okay to talk openly about what they need and men need to encourage them to do so with a non-judgmental, open and accepting attitude.

Sometimes the problem is that she doesn’t know how to express her needs to her lover. Both partners need to speak openly, directly and honestly.

Couples should be specific and detailed about things like where and how they need touched, how much pressure and speed is needed with each technique and what is the best timing. Share freely information about what techniques and positions are most pleasurable for you.

When something isn’t working or he is not meeting her needs, then she needs to speak up and let her lover know. Don’t suffer in silence.

If saying the words out loud is too uncomfortable, then guide him with your hands. Put his hands, mouth or hips where you need them to be and illustrate. Better yet, show him with your own hands. He’ll not only learn how to satisfy you better, but he’ll also be extremely turned on.

Men, you need to ask your woman what she needs. Don’t assume that everything is okay even if she doesn’t say anything.

Ask her what feels good, check in with her when you’re performing a technique and make sure it’s pleasurable. Ask her specific questions like, does that feel good, do you like to be touched here, is that too soft or too hard, how does that feel.

There is not a one size fits all sexual technique for women. Each woman is unique and what is pleasurable for one woman may not be the case for another woman. Get to know your woman.

Sometimes I hear that women try and tell their lover that they are not as satisfied as they would like to be sexually, but he doesn’t really hear them or they are met with resistance or indifference. He sometimes gets angry, doesn’t take her seriously or dismisses it as not important. He feels threatened or inadequate and becomes defensive.

When this happens, then she shuts down and stops trying, eventually she grows resentful and your whole relationships suffers. If your woman tries to communicate her sexual needs to you, it is not a criticism of you, your manhood or your sexual skill. Don’t take it personally.

She’s trying to teach you about her body and sharing herself with you on the deepest level possible. She’s opening herself up to you and allowing herself to be vulnerable in the most ultimate sense. It is an honor that should be cherished. Take it as an opportunity to grow closer to your woman, enhance your relationship, learn and become a better lover.