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3 Quick Ways to Tell if You’re a Sexual Introvert

By speaksexy

Just like your innate personality dictates whether or not you’re a “social butterfly” or a “shrinking violet“, the same is true for how you express your sexuality.

We’ve all heard the stereotypical tales of very reserved, shy people suddenly morphing into uncontrollable wildcats once the lights go out. Or seemingly confident, strong individuals turning into blushing, fumbling kittens in the heat of the moment.

Sexual introverts come in all varieties, and more often than not, it’s very difficult to spot them out. Someone who is sexually introverted may be very outgoing in other aspects of their lives, but tend to close themselves off when confronted with a sexual situation.

That doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy sex, or don’t want sex, but that it’s more difficult for them to relax and to let go of their inhibitions than it is for sexual extraverts.

Being able to relax and to let go are crucial to a healthy and satisfactory sex life, so helping a sexual introvert feel secure enough to open themselves up in front of someone else is an important task for their lovers.

This is particularly true if both people in a relationship are sexually introverted, because neither may possess the necessary skills to “bring out” the other’s sexual side.

Knowing if you or your partner is a sexual introvert is often very helpful. It might be the explanation you’ve been looking for to a whole slew of seemingly “strange” sexual behaviors.

(For example, you may wonder why your partner loves to read steamy erotica before bed, but then refuses your sexual advances once you’re in bed!)

You Might Be a Sexual Introvert If:

1. You Think About Sex All the Time…

But rarely actually have it. Sexual introverts enjoy thinking about sex – a lot. In fact, for many it becomes an interesting preoccupation and lifelong curiosity. Often times they know much more about sex (its cultural history, the bodily mechanics, etc.) than do most people, but their knowledge comes from books, movies, and conversations with others rather than from real life experiences.

2. You’ve Read the Entire Kama Sutra…

But still use the missionary position every time. It’s true, you’ve probably memorized every picture, read every sexual technique book there is, and can recite passages from your favorite erotic novel. But when it comes to having actual, physical sex with your partner it’s always “the same old, same old”.

3. You Have Very Detailed Sexual Fantasies…

But are usually disappointed when (and if) you try to act upon them. Often the imagined sexual scenarios that sexual introverts create in their minds are more powerful than “real life” experiences for them.

This is by no means the fault of their lovers. It’s just that their fantasies are continuously perfected, like works of erotic art only they can see.

Because of this, real sex is often disappointing, and over time sexual introverts learn to go through the motions of sex in order to appease their partners rather than to satisfy their own sexual desires. That’s why sex with them can become so routine.

How to Spice Things Up if Your Partner is a Sexual Introvert

If you are a sexual introvert, or suspect your partner to be one, there are ways to make your boring and/or routine sex life more interesting and comfortable.

Assuming that you’ve already gained their trust, and have moved past their initial emotional barriers, the first thing you have to remember is how cerebral sexual introverts are about sex.

If you’re going to spice things up, it has to be done in an intelligent way. Don’t expect them to become our proverbial “wildcat” mentioned earlier just because you suggest trying a new position.

They’ve probably imagined what that position would feel like a thousand times, and unless you have something that surprises them out of their fantasies, they’ll stay firmly within their imaginations the entire time you‘re having sex.

And therein lies the key to unlocking their true sexual selves – Surprise!

You are not their fantasy. They aren’t controlling your every move, so use that to your advantage. Every time you do something that they’re not expecting, something they haven’t thought of before, it jolts them back to reality.

Carefully planned sexual rendezvous and little bits of added flare, like a vibrator hidden in the corner, or a sudden well-timed spank, can help them to appreciate the actual experience of having sex, rather than relying on their imaginations to turn them on.

Once out of their normal routines, those introverted sexual feelings are much more likely to come to the surface and to make their way into your real sex lives – Making both people a lot more sexually satisfied.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: fetishes, sex tips

5 Ways to Avoid Striking Out This Friday Night

By david

Are You Tired of Striking Out Night After Night?

Most guys think that women like ‘bad’ boys so they try to portray this image and simply end up looking like a jerk. What a woman really wants is a man who will keep her interest, has great confidence, who is not afraid to stand out, and is not afraid to disagree with the status quo – A guy who is comfortable in his own skin…

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Here’s a great article on approaching women from David Wygant, one of today’s most popular and successful dating coaches. David is not a ‘pick up artist’, but a real dating coach who offers good solid advice that actually works. In this article, he talks about some of the biggest mistakes that almost all men make when approaching women and how you can avoid them and actually capture her attention and create a real spark.

Most men think that they need a clever line to approach a woman, which in some cases may garner a reaction. But through all my years of coaching men and women I have found that it is not what you say that’s important, but how you approach.

Most women put more importance on visual clues to assess a man’s character. They don’t care what you say as long as you say it without hesitation and with authority. Unfortunately, most men don’t know this, so they walk over and approach a woman like a wounded animal expecting to be rejected.

When you approach like a wounded animal you will be rejected every single time no matter how clever of a line or remark you may have. Sound familiar?

With eighty percent of human interaction based on non-verbal body language, what is a man to do?

The key to impressing her right off the bat is you need to be different than all other men that are approaching her that evening in the bar or lounge. It is really competitive at night, and most women will start to lose interest in men after a few jerks have hit on them, so you need to learn to use a few of these tips to make you stand out from the crowd of drunk testosterone-laden men.

Here a few sure-fire ways to make your approach more powerful and convincing even if you are not sure what you are going to say:

1. When you see a woman that you are attracted to you need to walk right over.

Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence. Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and not slumped over. You need to keep eye contact as you approach so you do not spook her. You also need to walk directly over to her without any hesitation.

With practice, you will get comfortable doing this. Most men linger in the background like a scared animal for a period of time before they approach. When they finally do approach, the woman is quick to turn her back on him. The reason is he did not exude confidence.

Most women notice who is observing them. When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her you might as well go home and get your game on for another night or day.

2. When out on the town, avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males.

One of the biggest turn-offs for women is the “male pack” — you with five of your buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women. Yes, women make note of this childlike behavior and when you approach them with your buddies waiting on the sideline they will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later. You need to break away from the male pack and find one other guy who is like you to go out on the town with.

Save the male bonding and excessive testosterone for a sports bar.

3. Dress in clothing that gives you a strong appearance.

Make sure you’re not sabotaging your efforts with your attire. Following the steps above will fall short of projecting great body language if you are wearing a pair of baggy khakis and ratty sneakers out at night. If you look like a slob it will not matter what your body language says because you will look like every other man who put no thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women.

Start buying clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge so when you walk into a bar or lounge with the right body language women will see you. When you are dressed the part, women will give you a double take and follow your every move. Keep in mind shoes are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.

4. After you walk over you need to create a spark within her.

Most men’s conversation will center on being agreeable and non-confrontational in the hope that she likes him. The key word here is “hope” — That is the mindset of the average man. They are so jazzed that she is actually speaking with him, so they play it safe and hope that she likes him.

In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring!

So you need to spark her interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into the conversation about summer movies and she says that Spiderman III was her favorite Spidey movie so far. The typical male would agree with her even if his opinion is that the first Spiderman was superior. Instead of being agreeable, you would look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong — the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so. This will create a fun, friendly, flirtateous verbal sparring which will create a spark in her brain.

She will realize that you are not a pushover like most men and attraction will start to form in her head.

5. Maintain some tension after you meet.

Flirting with women is all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the more you will know about her. So when you call her you will have many things to speak with her about. What I like to do is, before I call I think about everything she said and then I pick the most juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it.

For example, going back to the example of Spiderman III, I would text her the next day and challenge her with this text:
I was thinking U & I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time & place & I’ll bring the DVD.

By challenging her, you are bringing her back to a moment of tension that she shared with you. She will immediately respond to the challenge and text you back. You have just learned the secret of re-creating the tension that you shared with her plus you are being totally unlike every other guy who waits three days to call her and schedule a predictable dinner date.

The secret to capturing her attention and creating that spark is do not be like everyone else. Follow the above tips and you will become the alpha male that women desire.

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: approach women, dating advice, fetishes, flirting, how to flirt, pick up lines, seduction

Can Seduction and Pick Up Tactics Work for You?

By loveandsex

If you’re a guy, you’ve certainly heard of at least one seduction or “How to Pick Up Any Woman” product.

These products are typically DVD or CD programs that claim to show you the art of seducing a woman by using subtle yet effective seduction techniques to easily approach any woman without getting rejected.

While these techniques can be very effective, will they work for you?

Watch this short video to find out…

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hl00Sdl1Uk[/youtube]

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: dating, fetishes, flirting, seduction, speed dating

Leaving the Friend Zone – How to Actually Ask Her Out On a Date

By loveandsex

At some point you’re going to have to make your move and depart the friend zone. Now, this may not be in the first minute or two, and maybe not even the first time you talk to her. The key here again is self confidence. You’ll also need a little patience.

Take your time and feel it out first. Don’t make her choose until you know she’s comfortable enough with you to give you a chance and you’re comfortable enough to take the chance.

Watch this short video to find out how to move out of the ‘Friend Zone’ and on to the next level.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gh-pW3gAxR8[/youtube]

Filed Under: Dating Tips Tagged With: ask a girl out, date ideas, dating, dating advice, fetishes, first date, friend zone, Relationship Advice, seduction

Easily Meet The Hottest Women Anytime, Anywhere, and NEVER Worry About What To Say

By loveandsex

If you’ve been around for a while, you know that we always suggest using extreme caution when applying seduction tactics.

Remember, she will get to know the real you eventually.

But if you really get stuck in those first few minutes and find yourself fumbling around like an idiot when you see a hot girl, then certain seduction techniques can help you get your foot in the door so that she will actually take the time to get to know the real you.

If you’d like to know exactly how to use the latest cutting edge seduction technology to make meeting even the hottest women, anytime, anywhere, as easy as hangin’ out with the guys, then keep reading…

This Is THE Breakthrough You’ve Been Waiting For!

By far the most popular item that we’ve seen has been a DVD product that tells you exactly how to seduce a woman – from the opening approach to the first few minutes of real conversation.

This DVD shows you EXACTLY what to say, and the 4 effective energetic "vibes", or pathways that make any of her responses turn into a YES for you.

Here’s just some of what you’ll find out in this start to finish seduction road map:

  • How to use the 4 different approach vibes in the proper combination and sequence, to ensure no matter WHAT your opening words are, the conversation will progress exactly as you want it.
  • How to get past all "compliment resistance" with the super-powered "Implied Compliment" method.
  • The exact different physical angles and approaches to use in different approach scenarios.
  • The "step back" principle; creating an interest "vacuum" to test her willingness, convey safety and power, and condition her from the very beginning to be the one coming after YOU!
  • Three magic words to make ANY opening lines 500% more effective.
  • Mastering the "put-on": how to instantly convert any observed situation or condition into a hilarious, fun, mega-icebreaker that she can’t resist.
  • The 6 Gold-Walk Up beliefs you must master and command to ensure your absolute pick-up mastery!
  • 3 steps you MUST take before you make any approach to triple or quadruple your walk-up success.
  • The 90% rule to eliminate almost any pre-approach jitters.
  • The strategic use of pacing and pauses to create hypnotic response potential within the first 10-15 seconds!
  • Structured assignments and drills to build your walk-up skills.
  • An amazing new "boyfriend ignorer", the best I’ve ever used, that also includes word for word powerful hypnotic language that turns her "boyfriend" objection into a filter of desire, lust and need that she HAS to see you through!
  • The fabulous "Snack Quiz" and "Twin Brother Scenarios": here’s how to get them to actually sit down and easily and smoothly move right into powerful patterning language!

You’ll never get stuck again on where to move things forward with Speed Seduction® language, and you’ll watch as Ross Jeffries demonstrates the power of these scenarios on lovely, young Joannie, who is visibly turned on by the whole thing.

Listen… there’s an unlimited supply of incredible women waiting for you when you’ve learned these fantastic secrets that ensure you’ll never have to worry about what to say, ever, anymore, again!

So if you can relate to what we’re saying in this post, this is the best product we’ve found to date.

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If you still have doubts, go check out Ross’s Speed Seduction website, where he’ll answer all of your questions like,

  • Does this stuff really work?
  • Will this work on older women? Younger women? Beautiful women?
  • Can I use this to get that one special girl I’ve always wanted?
  • Is this disrespectful to women?
  • Does get this course make me a loser? What are your typical students like?
  • I’m not very good at talking, how can I make sure this works for me.
  • Does this course require that I be mean / cruel / a jerk to women? I sure don’t want to do that.
  • Ross, what is your background for being able to train others in Speed Seduction.
  • Isn’t this course really expensive?

While you’re there, check out the Unstoppable Confidence Course, where you’ll discover How To Have Unstoppable Confidence and Power With Women.

Here’s what you’ll learn from this amazing course in just one week:

  • Day One: The Key To Changing Anything You Want, The Power Attitudes For Success With Women, Super-Affirmations To Super-Charge Yourself. (Hey, the power attitudes, BY THEMSELVES, are so incredible that if all you do is listen to this one side, you’ll at least triple your success with women!! But do yourself a favor, and listen to the rest of the tapes too!)
  • Day Two: Building A Thunderously Powerful Self Image: Staying Laid Back To Get You Laid Like Crazy
  • Day Three: Automatic Pick-Up And Seduction Programming!
  • Day Four: Cleaning Up Your Past: Changing Your Flub-Ups, Mistakes, and Snafus Into Powerful Guarantees Of Success!
  • Day Five: Wrap Up And Special "On The Prowl" Super-Chargers, Including the World’s Best Pick-Up Lines and Approaches.
  • Day Six: Special Bonus Side… How To Reach Through Time and Space To Find Your Ideal Dream Lover (my partner begged me not to put this in because he thought we could make big bucks off it by itself as a separate program but I told him where to stick it! Here it is, available to you now, worth your entire investment in and of itself!)  

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Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: dating, fetishes, flirting, seduction, speed dating

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