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How To Make A Woman Climax

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Unfortunately for us, women take longer to climax than men. While it takes the average guy less than 5 minutes to finish, it could take a girl more than 30 minutes to get off during sex, if at all.

You might ask, it doesn’t matter how long it takes her to get there as long as she does, right? That’s a good point, but here’s the thing. A certain proportion of women in the world fake orgasm during sex because the men they’re with lack the skills to help them reach orgasm. In fact, you’d be surprised to learn just how many women around have never really experienced the big O.

When it comes to making a girl climax, you have several options. You can make her climax while you’re having sex (penetration), you can do oral sex with fingering, or you can help her masturbate. There’s a key technique involved in each of these options .

How To Make Her Orgasm During Sex

When you’re having sex, you should remember that you might be feeling more pleasure than your girl. Why? This is because your most sensitive organ is conveniently wrapped in all that warmth and comfort. However, a girl’s most sensitive area (namely, her clitoris) is left alone during sex.

Some guys think penetration (thrusting in and out) is enough to make a woman climax, without knowing that a simple shift in weight to press on a woman’s frontal vaginal region can make all the difference as far as her pleasure is concerned.

Here’s what you can do. Make sure you touch your girl’s clitoris during penetration, either by using your fingers or by pressing more on her mound when you thrust.

How To Make her Orgasm By Oral Sex

When you’re going down on a woman, remember that the center of sensation is the clitoris and the outer parts of her labia. Most guys simulate penile thrusting during oral sex, which could prolong her orgasm further. A stroking motion with your tongue over her clitoris and labia will push her over the brink and make her orgasm faster. If the girl insists on penetration during oral sex, use your fingers.

How To Make Her Orgasm By Fingering

Fingering a girl doesn’t always mean you have to do it alone. Invite her to join in. You can take charge of penetrating her with two fingers and she can stroke her clitoris, or vice versa. Another way of doing this is allowing her to masturbate while you caress her other erogenous zones. The additional stimulation from other sources will make her climax intensely and rapidly.

Don’t get caught up with the “right” techniques to make a woman climax. You can mix and match techniques and experiment with variations of these techniques until you find a combination that works for you every time you’re in bed with your girl.

A Review Of Love Making Methods That Are Sure To Please Your Woman

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As silly as it may seem, a lot of men tend to forget the basics of lovemaking when the urge to release takes over. Imagine you’re with a girl and you’re really turned on. You start out slow then the desire to release takes over and you start focusing only on what would feel good to you. It happens to every man, so don’t think that you’re the only one who does this during sex. However, if you really want to be the girl’s best lover ever, you’d better not forget the basics of how to please a woman.

When you’re about to lose it, take a deep breath and recall all the fundamental methods of lovemaking that I’ll list here.

French Kissing

Every time you make out with a girl, you should never forget to kiss her lips. In fact, kiss her whenever you can, even when you’re already in the middle of sex. A kiss is more than just a physical gesture to get her aroused, it builds an emotional connection with the girl you’re having sex with.

Eye Contact

Not many women will admit this, but one secret fear that every woman thinks about during sex is that the guy could be thinking of another woman. Keeping eye contact will make her feel that you’re with her, you’re not just using her for your pleasure and that she’s the only one you’re thinking of during sex.

Fingering

I’m sure you know the basics of fingering, but it helps to remember that proper fingering technique involves imagination and sensitivity. Just remember that you can do more things with your fingers than you can do with your member. For starters, you can crook your finger, move it around more often and you can use it to reach every nook and cranny of your partner’s hot spots.

Oral Sex

Oral sex on a girl is not a thirty-second affair. Even if you’re not into it (because of the smell or because you’re just squeamish about going down on a woman), you’d better make it a point to stay there for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Remember, you don’t have the right to ask for a 30-minute blowjob if you can’t promise to return the favor.

Sex Positions

If you stick with the same old sex positions every time you make love, your lover will get bored quickly. Make sure you know at least 3 more sex positions besides the Missionary. Some girls are quicker to climax with certain positions, which means you need to experiment with a lot of them to find those that work for your girl.

Any man can stick it in and be done with it. It takes a certain type of guy to consistently create magic during sex. Be the guy who can rock a girl’s world every time by never forgetting the fundamental things that really get women off.

Targeting Her Pleasure Buttons: How To Finger A Woman’s G-Spot

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From a man’s perspective, there are a lot of issues about sex which may bring you insecurities especially if you’re not so confident about your skills as a lover. Did she reach orgasm when during your first time together or was she faking it? When she has one of those ‘girl talks’ with her friends, do you think that she raves about your skills in bed or does she portray you as a lousy lover?

In order for you not to feel any insecurity in this department, the best that you can do is develop your skills as a lover. Remember to always be sensitive to a woman’s sexual needs, always take her pleasure into account instead of always looking for your own pleasure, take your time and learn new sexual tricks every now and then. This way, your wife or girlfriend will feel satisfied about the way that your sex life is going.

A Woman’s Pleasure Buttons: Differentiating the G-Spot from the Clitoris

For men, the erogenous zone is pretty much concentrated on the area below his waist and above his thighs. For women, however, there is a pretty wide area which can be considered as her pleasure zones. The breasts, her thighs, her waist, the back of her neck and even the not-so-erotic curves of her body can bring her pleasure when stimulated. And of course, there’s the center of all her pleasure zones which is her vagina.

Now, if you want to be a master lover, there are two aspects of a woman’s sexual organ that you need to learn the map for: the clitoris and the G-spot. Target these two pleasure buttons and you’ll surely be able to bring her multiple orgasms. To make the distinction between the two, here’s a crash course on the basic things that you should know about the clitoris and a woman’s G-spot.

First, the clitoris is the sole organ in the female body which is dedicated to physical pleasure. Think of the sensation that she feels down there as comparable to the pleasure that you feel when the head of your penis is being stimulated. The clitoris is a nerve-packed ending which is sensitive to the touch, and it is located just above the opening of her vagina.

Second, there’s the G-spot or the Gräfenberg spot. This is actually a bean-shaped tissue which has a spongy texture, located about a couple of inches back from the opening of her front vaginal wall.

Confused? Don’t worry, the G-spot is something that even women themselves find difficult to locate. But once you do manage to find it and bring her mind blowing orgasms by stimulating her G-spot, she’ll practically be under your sexual spell for life!

How to Bring Her Mind Blowing Orgasms by Fingering Her G-Spot

So how exactly should you stimulate her G-spot? Just as it is when you’re introducing a new sexual position to her, the best way to start stimulating the G-spot is by easing your way into it. Always start slow and be sensitive to her responses.

Don’t scrimp on the foreplay since this is one of the best ways to prepare her for the G-spot stimulation. The best way to go after her G-spot initially is by using your fingers. Once you’ve mastered the location of her G-spot, that is the time that you can target this particular pleasure button using your penis during penetration.

To do it, face your partner while she is lying on her back. Then, insert your index finger or your middle finger into her vagina as far back as it will go. Since the G-spot is located near her front vaginal wall, you should crook your finger along the top of the vagina. Do this gently until you feel an area which is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. Watch for her reaction – you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot from the way that she will respond.

Don’t be afraid to communicate during the process of searching for her G-spot. Since she knows that it’s her ultimate pleasure that you’re after, she will surely cooperate.

The best way to make her reach an orgasm by fingering her G-spot is by using a firm tapping motion with your finger. Other women prefer G-spot stimulation during intercourse and the best position for this is when she’s on top or when you’re on a rear-entry position.

If you haven’t yet mastered the art of using a ‘helping hand’ to reach and stimulate her G-spot, don’t feel frustrated – try again and experiment. In due time, you are bound to reach that oh-so-elusive G-spot and use your finger to stimulate a woman’s ultimate pleasure button and bring her an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon.

The Lazy Man’s Guide to Great Sex

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Everyone wants great sex, but because of a busy lifestyle that include kids, work, bills and a list of other everyday stresses we have to deal with, not everyone has the time or energy to give 100% during their lovemaking sessions.

Sometimes, we want to have mind blowing sex, but want to get it over with sooner than later, so we can get some sleep and get up for work the next morning!

Well, I’m here to tell you that you can have your cake and eat it too 🙂

The tips & techniques I’m about to show you are simple and energy-efficient. They’re great to use when you’re feeling tired, lack the physical stamina to do the karma sutra sex positions, don’t have the time to engage in all-night honeymoon-like sex, and most importantly, they are EFFECTIVE.

You’ll learn:

  • The best sex position for simultaneous orgasms
  • The best way to finger a girl
  • 1 simple ingredient you can add to oral sex that will give her goose bumps

Best Sex Position

Do you know what the best sex position is for giving you and your partner the feelings of intimacy? And at the same time, increasing your changes of simultaneous orgasms?

Before I share that with you, let me share something with you…

In many sex surveys, one of the most favorite sex position chosen by women is the missionary position.

At first I was a bit surprised to hear this; after all, there are other positions that can allow for greater feelings of physical pleasure. But after hearing the reason why women like this position, I can understand.

Here’s why: Women like the missionary position because of the face-to-face contact it provides. In other words, they liked the feeling of intimacy…

Even though this position isn’t ideal for female orgasms, it’s still a favorite among women.

Well, I’m sure you know exactly how to do the missionary mission, so I’m not going to teach you that 😛

But, the key idea here is this feeling of “Intimacy”.

Now, how can we better grasp this concept of “intimacy”? In other words, how can we increase the levels of intimacy, at the same time, increase the chances of female orgasms?

Enter the C.A.T

The Coital Alignment Technique (or CAT for short), is by far the best position for female orgasms.

Why?

Because this position is designed to maximize clitoral stimulation during intercourse…something that most other sex positions can’t!

The CAT position looks like the regular missionary position, but with a slight adjustment.

The main difference is that the male will penetrate from a higher angle (compared to the standard missionary position). And instead of thrusting in and out, the movement is more of a rocking or rubbing action.

Why The CAT Position Works

A woman can have an orgasm quickly and easily because the CAT position allows a woman’s clitoris to be stimulated. The stimulation from the base of the penis & pubic bone on the clitoris, combined with the rocking/rubbing action of the pelvis will allow a woman to reach orgasm. But it doesn’t end here… It’s a great sex position for men too. The woman’s legs are closer together, making the vagina feel “tighter”.

WARNING: The feeling of tightness might make men orgasm quicker than normal!

Combining the enhanced clitoral stimulation, tighter feel of the vagina, and face-to-face, body-pressed-on-body intimacy…achieving orgasms at the same time has never been easier!

How To Do The Coital Alignment Technique

Step 1: To get in the CAT position, slide your body 2-4 inches forward from the typical missionary position so that your pelvis is directly over hers.

Step 2: Your body should fall flat on hers (make sure that you support your body enough so you don’t crush her!).

Step 3: Both of your spines should be straight, and your bodies should be parallel to each other.

Step 4: You can be in between her legs, with her ankles wrapped around your calves. However, I’ve found from my experience that if she keeps her legs close together and you place your legs OUTSIDE of hers, it will produce a better response.

Step 5: Instead of thrusting in and out hard and fast like you would in the regular missionary position, what you’ll do is slowly and gently rock your hips. The base of your penis and your pubic bone will naturally rub up against her clitoris. Also, because you’re moving in a rhythmic rocking motion, you won’t be stimulate your penis as much compared to a thrusting motion, allowing you to last longer during sex.

Tip:

  • The pleasure will build gradually, and the both of you will have orgasms that are much more intense and intimate compared to the missionary position.
  • As you sense an orgasm coming (from her or yourself), don’t speed up! Just maintain the gentle rocking motion and the orgasm will come naturally instead of being chased.
  • When you feel the sensations getting stronger, don’t speed up the rocking movement! What you want to do is continue at the same pace, and allow the orgasm to overtake you. I know this sounds hard to understand, but trust me on this one.

Best Way To Finger A Girl

I’m going to teach you an awesome way to ‘finger a girl’. Actually, this technique doesn’t involve vaginal penetration, so technically, it’s not fingering. But no matter, it still works pretty well 😉

It’s actually a “technique” that women use all the time. When masturbating, some women will start from the position of using her first and fourth fingers to spread open her labia, while the middle finger strokes her clitoris.

You can modify this for your purposes by using one hand to hold her open and the other hand (middle finger only) to tease and rub on her clitoris.

In the woman-on-top sex position, she can incorporate this technique by stimulating her own clitoris while you’re making love.

Here’s how to do it:

Step 1: Locate her vaginal opening with the tips of your index and pointer fingers

Step 2: Slide your fingers directly upward along and between the inner labia of her vagina until you find her clitoris

Step 3: Spread your fingers apart so that your index finger is holding her left inner labia and your small fingers are holding her right labia away from the clitoris

Step 4: Your middle finger should be directly over the clitoris or within easy reach

Step 5: Begin light but circular strokes on and around the surface of the clitoris

Step 6: You can also occasionally dip your fingers down to the vaginal opening and stroke upward from the opening to the base of the clitoris

Step 7: Pay attention to how the clitoris responds to your touch As the clitoris becomes more stimulated and aroused it will swell and become harder and harder

Step 8: Use your sense of touch to determine the best angle, stroke, Pressure and timing for your partner. Let her responding clitoris be your guide.

Chew On This Before You Eat A Girl Out

You can enhance the pleasure of just about any oral sex technique with this one ingredient.

For this one to work, you’ll need to buy a box of Altoids Peppermints.

After you’ve eaten her out for a while, put one in your mouth and crunch it, letting the peppermint get on your tongue.

Go back and give her a few long slow licks covering her entire vulva. You want to spread the peppermint oil on her genitals…this will give her a cool tingling sensation.

Now, combine this with a “Cool Breath” by gently blowing onto her vulva.

Alternatively, you can try using cough drops, or even an ice cube to produce a similar effect.

BONUS TIP: When she’s performing oral sex on you, have her crunch down on an Altoid before hand. Trust me; you’ll like it just as much as she did!

Here’s What To Do Next

There you have it; now you know how to have time-pressed, great sex with little effort!  However, although these techniques are effective and efficient, you shouldn’t be using them all the time.  Especially when you DO have time to devote 100% to lovemaking and have all-night, “honeymoon-like” sex.

To get you started, I’ve compiled a PDF preview copy of The Female Orgasm Black Book.  It’s filled with TONNES of techniques (oral, manual stimulation, positions etc) just to give you a small taste of what my book is about.

Also, it has pictures!

To see them, visit the The Female Orgasm Black Book, tell me where you want your PDF preview copy, and I’ll send it to you.