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The Real Reason Why He Didn’t Call Back

Dating tips are essential if you want to understand how men operate when they start going out with a girl. Here’s how to tell why he won’t pick up the phone.

Why He Didn’t Call You Back

You’ve talked to all your friends.

You still get no answers.

Now it’s been about three weeks and he still hasn’t called.

You’re thinking, “What should I do. How come he hasn’t called back?”

Here’s the deal: he didn’t like you in the way you needed to be liked. Sometimes it’s tough to hear that, but look at the evidence:

You text him and he doesn’t text you.

You call him and he doesn’t call you.

It wasn’t anything you said. It wasn’t any conversation that went wrong. It just wasn’t there for him.

What You Can Do About It

We get so offended in life when someone doesn’t respond to us the way we want it to. The reason why we do that is because we just don’t meet enough people. We stay in our little bubbles and then get upset when our social lives aren’t what we want them to be.

Most women will just go out and meet a few men and that’s it. Most women won’t go on many dates, so the reason why women get so upset about the man not calling back is because they’re not going out and meeting men every single day.

They’re not living from a place of abundance, so they stress over the insignificant few.

It’s an abundant world. There are men everywhere.

The issue is that we all too often separate our normal lives from our dating lives. So instead of chatting up the cute guy at the grocery store, you ignore him and then wait for Friday night out with the girls.

You only give yourself those few hours to meet someone, and ignore the other 98% of your life!

Women don’t realize their feminine power. A woman in touch with her sexuality, who isn’t afraid to start conversations and be flirty, will not have to worry about men not calling her back.

If you meet men every single day, you will not be obsessed about that one guy. You’ll just say “he wasn’t into me” and move on. Plus, you probably have other prospects on the horizon. The real reason why he didn’t call you back is because he wasn’t into you. But that doesn’t matter.

Realize that there are men everywhere for the woman who knows how to flirt, knows how to initiate conversation, and knows how to get what and who she wants.

Follow these dating tips and be that woman!

What To Talk About On The First Date

By loveandsex

The first date is pretty nerve wracking because often, you’re not sure what to say or how to keep the conversation going. Check out these easy first date tips!

Create A Simple Environment

Your first date with a woman should be in a quiet place where you can communicate one on one. This is the time to prove that you’re a catch. You need to project this by successfully flirting with her.

DON’T FORGET: Just because the woman has committed to a first date doesn’t mean she’ll become your girlfriend. Some guys “go weird” once women decide to have a first date. Realize that there’s a big different between getting a first date and a second date. You need to leave a darn good impression. The best dates for first dates are:

Coffee shops
Bars / Lounges

Your first date is not a job interview. You don’t need to know all the demographics about your date, and she doesn’t need to know all that stuff about you either. Save that stuff for when she really likes you. When she bugs and begs you to answer this type of question, you’ll know she’s interested.

There are many interesting areas of conversation you should focus on; likewise there are also some topics you should never talk about during early dates.

Good Topics To Use

The best way to make a woman feel comfortable and close is to get her to share experiences and information about herself. Ask about her passions, dream-life, and what she wanted to be when she was a little girl. Talk about current TV shows, Hollywood gossip, and anything in the entertainment industry. Don’t forget to throw in some playful teasing behavior during the dates to keep the interaction interesting.

REMEMBER: If you get too caught up in facts you’ll certainly come across as boring. You’re in complete control over what you talk about, so make it interesting. If you do talk about factual stuff, spice it up with things like, “You’re such a dork,” “I’m watching you missy,” or “You know I have eyes in the back of my head. I can see everything.”

Deadly Topics

Politics, propaganda, religion and negative experiences such as deaths, ex-partners or the state of the world are all topics you want to stay away from. People associate the time they’ve had with someone to the feelings they experienced during their time together. If you’ve spoken excessively about topics that have no hope of being humorous, you’re in trouble.

If you find yourself moving into one of these directions just say, “Let’s talk about (insert new topic),” then quickly interject, using one of the topics above to save yourself from a depressing date. Don’t say, “Can we please change the subject,” just go ahead and talk about something more fun. You’re the leader, so make sure you guide the conversation in a positive direction.

The 10 First Date Commandments

By dicksinthecity

The first date is crucial – it can determine whether you will be seeing this person again or not. Here’s the ten essentials you CANNOT ignore!

What She Said:

First Date Commandments 1-7

1. Thou shalt not keep your phone on the table.

You need to give your full attention to your date. Do not text, call or check your email. If you must text a friend, do it in the ladies room.

2. Thou shalt ask him questions about his family

You are an extraordinary creature and so is he. Do not spend the whole date talking about yourself, makes sure you ask him questions and get to know him on a more personal level.

3. Thou shalt offer to pay half

Chivalry is not dead and its super sweet when a guy will pay for the tab but common sense isn’t dead either and you should never expect a man to pay. Even if he did ask you out, a woman should offer to pay or buy a round of drinks or leave the tip.

4. Thou shalt not talk about your ex boyfriend

Or any past relationships for that matter. A first date is a time to start new and fresh. The guy does not want to hear how your past relationships went sour or hear you bad mouth your ex. Past relationships is more 3 or 4th date material.

5. Thou shalt not get drunk

A drink or two might be just what you need to calm your nerves but getting smashed on a first date is never a good thing. By all means, have fun but do not get to the point of slurring your speech or misplacing your items, keep it classy. Besides, few first dates that end in puking have a second date.

6. Thou shalt brag about oneself

There is a huge difference between being cocky and being proud of you. A first date is a great time to share with him some of your accomplishments, career and socially. Show him that you have a pride in yourself and what you are doing. Also share what you hope to achieve in the future.

You don’t need to rattle off your resume, but you should be an alpha male. A girl who has a passion for something is always a turn on.

7. Thou shalt not treat a date like a therapy session

Maybe your roommate is a slob, or your mom yelled at you or your co-workers are lazy. A first date is not the time to vent all of this. You want to keep the conversation lively and positive not negative. You also don’t want him to think that he needs to somehow make things better or fix you.

What He Said:

First Date Commandments 8-10

There’s only ten first date commandments in the article, and she takes six. Is that the most sexist thing ever, or is the most sexist thing of all time? You decide.

8. Thou shall not read into everything.

Yes, first dates are basically interviews. With alcohol. And sex appeal (hopefully). And while it is only natural to evaluate your potential romantic partner and be aware for red flags, it shouldn’t feel like they’re sitting across the table from an IRS auditor or a CIA operative.

Try not to turn this date into an interrogation. Don’t let this feel like it’s a bank loan application, you know? You need to know a little about the person, not a lot. You aren’t filing taxes jointly, you’re just trying to figure out if you both want a second date.

9. Thou shall not be yourself.

Look, no one wants to date you. You can’t be yourself and expect to get laid or get a second date. You need to be your best self if you want the guy, the girl, and/or the booty.

Being your best self, doesn’t mean you’re lying to them or pretending to be someone or something you’re not, it means that you are on your best behavior, using confidence and at the absolute top of your game. If you’re not, why bother?

10. Thou shall not over-complicate things.  

Men are not women. They do not have a hidden agenda. They want to find out if they want to bang you, and if you’re cool enough to be around when they’re not, and if it’s going to be too much trouble or if they will have to jump through too many hoops to get in your pants. That’s it.

Women are slightly more complicated, so to speak, but you’re not building the space station here. You’re trying to evaluate the other person and see if you want to move forward.

It’s just a date. If it’s good, or bad, it’s just a date. Do not be afraid of rejection. It should be fun, above all else, and if this one doesn’t go well, there’s always the next one!

How To Survive A Blind Date And Actually Have FUN!

By romymorgan

A blind date can be a stressful and hectic situation that, if not handled properly, can lead to disaster. Most blind dates are set up with good intentions by friends or coworkers. However, the majority of these dates are more stressful than fun and they run the risk of ruining your reputation with the person that set you up.

If you are being set up on a date, there are a few things that you can do to make the process as painless as possible. Blind dates do not have to be excruciating. They can even be fun. Here are a few dating tips to get through the date and enjoy yourself along the way.

Meet Up First

Going on a blind date with somebody that you don’t know can be extremely awkward. Unless you hit it off right from the start, you could be in for a long night with weird silences and bad flirting. One of the easiest ways to go on one of these dates is to not go on one of these dates. Convince your friend to go out to an event with you and have the guy meet you there before you go on a one-on-one date.

This way you can use your friend as a buffer between the two of you to gauge whether or not you would really want to go out with this person via a solo date. You can even make it a double date. Double dates take all of the pressure off of not knowing the person while combining a familiar face.

Keep Things Simple

Blind dates are not meant for extravagance. If you’re going on a date with somebody that you’ve never met before, keep it simple. Meeting up for a drink is one of the best ways to gauge whether or not you actually have chemistry or a connection with this person.

Going out to an extravagant dinner with somebody that you do not even know can set your bank account back while making him feel obligated to pay the expenses. Keeping things simple is a low investment in yourself and in the person. While this might seem a little impersonal, you should understand that there is no obligation to this person and it is a first date.

Be Yourself

There’s no reason to go on a blind date with somebody if you are not going to be yourself. While being yourself is one of the most common dating tips out there, it’s there for a reason. Never lie to a date, especially if they know a friend or coworker.

Lies will eventually get back to your friend and could even get back to the date, making them feel bad about themselves.If you really like the date and feel the need to lie about your credentials, stop yourself.

If somebody doesn’t like you for you then that’s just the way that things are. More than likely they will see you as the fun, open-minded woman that goes on a date with somebody they’ve never met before and they will take notice of your best qualities. No guy will ever want to be with a girl who is putting on a show, so if he says something you don’t like, call him out on it.

Have An Escape Plan

One of the best tactics for singles is to have an escape plan. More than likely the guy is going to contact you asking you to either grab dinner or drink. Before you respond, put an escape plan into place. One of the best escape plans out there is to tell the guy that you are meeting up with friends later but you would like to get together to grab a drink or dinner.

This gives you a built-in time frame for if the date goes sour. This will also give me an excuse to look over at your phone to see what time it is without seeming rude. Tell the guy that you are meeting some friends two hours after the date is planned. For instance if you meet for dinner or a drink at 8 be sure to tell him that you are meeting friends at 10.

This way the date actually only has to last about an hour and a half because you’ll need enough time to go meet your friends. If the date is going really well, you can always tell him that you can be late or that you are having more fun with him than you would be with your friends.

How To Become Irresistible To Women Right NOW!

By loveandsex

Dating tips are needed by even the greatest daters at one point or another. Find out how to literally become irresistible to women by honing in on unconscious attraction.

Provide And Protect

Women bear children, men don’t. So while a man’s selection criteria are motivated by the potential health of his future children, a woman’s selection criteria are completely different. Men don’t need to be physically attractive, because women aren’t looking for “health signs.”

A woman is looking for her man’s ability to protect her and provide for her, increasing her chances of raising children that will be protected and provided for after they’re born.

Women are responsible for giving birth to healthy babies. Men are responsible for protecting and providing for their babies and family. Thus, unconscious decisions by both sexes are made to meet these needs when deciding on whether or not to go on a first date. When we think of women’s needs in this context it becomes easier to figure out what they unconsciously want.

Prove Your Masculinity

Think about this. If a man is unable to ask a girl out, show his sexual interest, and prove his masculinity, why would she have the slightest interest in him? The sooner that you realize the needs of women are completely different from their own, the sooner you’ll be successful in dating them.

What many men fail to realize is that their physical attractiveness is not very important to women. “What?” This is often a hard concept for men to grasp, but it’s true. As people we try to relate to situations using our own personal experiences.

Relate To Women And Understand Their Needs

Because men are primarily attracted to a woman’s physical beauty, they make the mistake of assuming that she is also attracted by physical beauty. To further demonstrate this point, let’s what women thought was most ‘physically’ attractive. To find out these results I asked many women during my travels of becoming more successful when trying to meet women.

Here are the results:

Sexy, small butt
Slimness
Flat Stomach

Of course physical beauty can influence a woman’s decision, but it’s not the deciding factor.

Do Not Misinterpret A Woman’s Desire For Physicality

Men often sit with groups of women and watch them point out great looking guys, giggle, and express desire for these men. Sadly, men misinterpret this as first-hand evidence that women value a man’s appearance above all else.

While witnessing these situations, most guys miss out on a vital piece of information – a man’s physical beauty will get him only so far. When a man introduces himself to a woman, but doesn’t possess the most important qualities a woman is looking for, any interest she may have in his physical beauty becomes irrelevant.

Now do you see why focusing only on your physical “look” is not very productive?

And of course, you may be asking yourself, “But don’t women say they like funny, entertaining and helpful guys?” The main reason most men are confused about what women want is because most women don’t know what they want.

Understand The Two Levels Of The Human Mind

To explain this further, let’s talk about the two levels of the human mind: unconscious and conscious. On a conscious level, women love funny, caring and sweet guys. But on an unconscious and purely instinctive level, they desire men that confidently pursue them without the fear of rejection.

The reason a woman may find it difficult to leave an arrogant and selfish boyfriend is because she’s magnetically attracted to him. This guy may not be “nice” but he’ll greatly benefit her children by passing on his confidence, leadership, and decision-making skills. And her unconscious brain reminds her of that.

Everything comes back to reproduction. If you possess the right masculine qualities (you’ll learn about them very shortly), you can still have the sweet, caring, and romantic, more feminine qualities. In fact, having the perfect blend of the two – masculine and feminine – will help you to keep any woman you want.

Displaying confidence is essential in making a good first impression on a woman, in the same way that physical attractiveness stirs a man’s interest. Confident men take action, control situations and show no fear. Once we finish talking about these fundamentals, you’ll learn how to communicate and flirt with women in a way that naturally attracts them by projecting these qualities.