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3 Common Dating Mistakes You’ll REGRET If You Make Them!

Dating tips are commonly focused on the conversation, but the actions that you make can completely outweigh whatever conversational chemistry you have. These actions can also involve you self-image. Here are the 3 most common mistakes that ruin a date with a “10.”

1. Not Thinking About Style The Way Women Do

A lot of guys think that they are in-style because they are wearing something that their guy friends think is cool. The truth is that most women do not have the same taste as your guy friends. For example, here’s a few things you should NEVER wear on a first date, or basically ever.

Affliction or Ed Hardy-style clothing (anything with dragons or skulls screams “douchebag” to a woman), athletic jerseys (unless you are actually AT the game), any type of MMA clothing (Hit Man Fight Gear, Tap Out, etc.), excessive jewelry (keep it to your watch and maybe ONE other tasteful piece), Tevas or, God forbid, Crocs. Wearing any one of these things will kill your chances with a fashion-conscious woman, which is what nearly all “10’s” are.

2. Not Making A Move

Listen up! As a man, it’s YOUR JOB to make the first move to get physical – and if you don’t – you will end up in the friend zone, for sure. And here’s something else you need to know: A woman would much rather you take the chance and go for a kiss at the wrong time then have you not go for it at all!

With that in mind though, the best time to go for a kiss is NOT necessarily at the end of a date.In fact, that’s often a BAD time for a couple reasons: It’s a “high pressure” moment, and all of that build-up can make things awkward If you start kissing her earlier in the night – the two of you can be kissing the entire time – not just once at the end! So when you are planning your date, think about a good way you could start kissing part-way through.

This is why I love taking girls out for a drink at intimate wine bars or cocktail lounges instead of restaurants. Find a place where the 2 of you are sitting close to each other, and when conversation is going great, lean in and go for it! You’ll be surprised at just how much more willing a girl is to kiss you in the middle of the date during some great conversation versus waiting until that awkward moment at the end like most guys do.

Bonus Tip:

As a good way did get things started, break up the conversation with a sincere compliment, then go for it. For example, after she finishing talking, say, “Wow, you look gorgeous right now” and maintain eye contact. Then lean in to kiss her. If she gives you the cheek, that’s totally fine… it’s all part of the game. You see, most 10’s aren’t gonna kiss a guy the first time he tries! (They don’t want to feel too easy.)

Don’t be afraid of rejection. If you get “the cheek”, go ahead and kiss her on the cheek, then pull back and keep the convo going strong like nothing happened. Then, give it another shot a little bit later. You’ll be surprised at how often you start kissing passionately on the 2nd try!

3. Not Taking Action

This is perhaps the BIGGEST mistake guys make when it comes to women and dating is not taking action to get that part of their lives handled. I know, because I used to be absolutely TERRIBLE with women. I was a virgin until I was 24 years old. You want to be an alpha male.

For a while there, I just accepted that as my fate, and figured things would always be that way. But then a few years ago, I made the decision to figure this stuff out once and for all. It took me a long time before I started dating the 10’s. I started by dating 3’s and 4’s! I then worked my way up to hotter girls. And it was then I found that the HOTTEST girls were totally different than all the rest.

And after a few more years of trial and error, I figured out how to land those ultra-hot model girls as well. I’m still just a regular dude. I live in 2 bedroom apartment that I share with a friend, I drive a 6 year old car, and I’m no Colin Farrell when it comes to my looks. But these days, I’m able to get most any girl I want – and do it without rejection, and without wasting a lot of money or time. The difference is, I TOOK ACTION!

Why Confidence & Eye Contact Will Make Or BREAK Your Date

By romymorgan

Confidence is one of the most important aspects of dating. It doesn’t matter if you’re going on a first date or a fifth, maintaining great confidence and eye contact with your date shows that you are interested in what they are saying and that you are listening. While eye contact is not going to replace the actual words that you say to her during the date, it can have a negative impact if you’re constantly looking away as she is trying to tell you something or as you are talking to her.

Talking to a girl you find attractive can be intimidating. Maintaining eye contact through your intimidation is vital to keeping her interest in you as a potential date. Here are a couple of dating tips as to why you should maintain eye contact throughout each date.

Earn Her Trust

Trust can be a big issue with women when they are with a guy that is constantly looking all over the room. There is nothing more obvious than a guy who will not look you in the eyes when you are talking to him. In order for the girl to gain your trust look her in the eye whenever she is asking you a question or whenever you are delivering an answer. If you do not look her in the eye as she is asking you a question she will probably think that you’re not listening.

If she thinks that you are not listening then you are not going to get a second date. If you do not look her in the eye as you ask a question, she might pick up on your nervousness and brush you off as insecure, ruining your first date. Looking her in the eye is one of the best dating tips that you can get.

Do Not Stare At Her

Just because we say that you should look her in the eye does not mean you should stare down your date at a serial killer. When she’s asking you a question you want to look her in the eye, however, the last thing you want to do is focus too much on your eye contact and forget to actually listen to what she’s saying. Listen to what she’s saying and have animation in your face while she’s telling you her story or about how her day was. If she’s telling you something funny be sure and give her a smile, but don’t break the eye contact.

Don’t Look Down

Looking down as one of the telltale signs that you are either not interested in her or you are too insecure to look her in the eye whenever she is talking. One of the hardest things to do is to keep from looking down if you run into an awkward spot in the conversation. All singles hit a couple of speed bumps along the way, but you should maintain eye contact instead of looking down and leaving her hanging.

While she is telling you a story, take mental notes so you can refer back to the information and ask more questions about the topic. If you are having dinner with her, it’s only natural to look down at your plate and your food but do this in a natural manner instead of in a reactive manner when the conversation goes silent.

Use Your Eye Language

Yes, there is a language that you can speak with your eyes. Your eyes are going to tell your date what you think about her. While you can lie with your words, your eyes and your facial expressions can often be deciphered by any date. Before you go out on your dates stand in front of a mirror and have a quick conversation with yourself.

Ask yourself what you did today and then answer the question with a lie. You should be able to notice lines across your forehead and that your eyes open a little more. Now recall a funny situation that you were in and laugh. Take notice of your eyes as you laugh and you should be able to see the difference.

The language that your eyes speak whenever you are lying is very distinctive. Have confidence in yourself and make sure that you are not lying to your dates or they will notice via your eye language. Also make sure that you’re not over-animating whenever you think something that is funny.

How To Take The Awkwardness Out Of The First Date

By romymorgan

Online dating has become as mainstream as traditional dating over the last couple of years. If you are considering online dating, there are a lot of advantages that you can benefit from. Being able to easily find somebody that you’re interested in that has the same goals in life is essential to building a great relationship.

The problem with online dating lies with the first meeting. Meeting an online date can be awkward and disastrous when not handled properly. However, there are a few things that you can do to make your date go smoothly. Here are a couple of tips to making your first meeting with an online date go well.

Be Specific With The First Date

It’s all too easy to send out a message to get together while missing out on key details for the first date. The last thing that you want to do is show up for the date wearing something inappropriate for the occasion. Whether you’re going out to a nice dinner or just grabbing a drink, make sure that you know exactly what the date is going to entail beforehand.

This can help you avoid the awkward feeling of showing up wearing jeans and a T-shirt when a girl is expecting an elegant night on the town. Be specific whenever you message a potential date to let them know what you intend on doing.

Get REAL Pictures Of Her

Getting pictures of your date is essential to making sure that you are physically attracted to her. Although physical attraction is not everything in dating, physical attraction is important for every relationship. Online dating sites are notorious for having a crop feature. Cropping allows women and men to center the picture on their face. While they might have a pretty face, not being aware of what their body looks like can easily lead to a frustrating and awkward first date.

Make sure that you get pictures of your date and that you are posting pictures of yourself through your own online dating profile. It is never recommended to be deceptive or online dating. If there is anything suspicious about the girl’s profile make sure that you cover all of your bases before you meet her. Meeting a girl that you are not physically attracted to will not lead to a relationship.

Ask The Important Questions

One of the easiest tactics for having online dating success is to ask questions during the initial date. Not only will this allow you to gain further knowledge of the girl, it will also make the time go by faster. Have a few questions in mind before you go on the date so that if the conversation lulls you will be able to easily steer it back without complication. Asking her about her job, education, where she grew up, favorite music and movies are some fairly good staples of first dates.

Getting her to talk about her passions in life will easily help you avoid any awkward moments. Avoid trying to sound like you’re giving her a job interview. No woman wants to be hounded during a first date. Keep it casual and the first date could lead to a second.

Don’t Get Physical Unless Called For

Physicality is important for every relationship. It bridges the gap between friendship and a significant other, but this doesn’t mean you should instantly have sex with her during the first date. If there is clearly chemistry and you feel like you should get physical with her, or that she wants you to, then by all means go ahead. However, trying to go in for the first kiss is usually not recommended as it could lead to a very awkward moment if she turns you down.

Wait at least until the second or third day before you try to kiss her. The reality is that she may not even want to go back out with you. End the date with a hug and skip the kiss. If you get the handshake, you’re probably not going to get a second date.

Don’t Be Awkward During The Date

One of the best tips that anybody can give you is to simply not be awkward. While this may seem like an all too obvious piece of advice, there are ways that you can avoid awkward moments through body language. Smiling as you meet her and maintaining eye contact throughout the date can easily avoid any awkward moments throughout.

If you’re constantly looking away from her, checking the score on the TV behind her or allowing the conversation to dive into awkwardness then you’re asking for trouble. Maintain eye contact throughout the date, smile when she tells you something mildly funny and pretend that you’re having a great time even if you’re not. While this might be a little deceptive, it can get you through the evening and out the door before you know it.

4 Dating FAILS You Need To Avoid!

By bobbybradshaw

Dating doesn’t come without its share of failures, but you want as few of them as possible! Steer clear of these dating mishaps for guaranteed success.

Mistake # 1 – Taking Her Out To A Fancy Dinner

Yes, you read that right. A lot of guys think you need to take a woman out to fancy dinner in order to woo her. But I’ve actually found that it’s a HUGE mistake!

It’s one of those things that SOUNDS good in theory, but if you think it all the way through, it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. First off, women see dinner as a BIG time commitment. A super attractive woman leads a busy life. And it’s hard for her to justify giving up a night she could otherwise spend with her friends.

Because of this she is much more likely to say “No” when asked out to a dinner than she would be if you ask her out to lunch, or to grab a happy hour drink.

Or worse, she might say, “yes,” then flake on you the night of.

Why?

Well not only is it a night away from whatever else she could be doing, it’s also a lot of time to commit to spending with someone she barely knows. You see, since most guys are so LAME, she’s probably had a BAD dinner date in the past.

So when your date with her is coming up, she might remember a bad dinner date she had in the past, get cold feet and decide to flake on YOU! Ask any girl you know and she’ll tell you – this happens ALL THE TIME!

Also, if you offer to take her to a “name” restaurant, you look like you are trying to “lure” her into hanging out with you because of WHERE you are taking her, and not WHO she is going with! And yeah, some girls might say yes just because they want to get a free fancy meal, but is that what you really want?

So save the trendy restaurant for a night out with your friends, and offer to meet her for lunch, or for a quick drink at a cool, eclectic spot. You’ll not only save yourself from looking like you are trying too hard, you’ll also increase the chances of her saying yes, and the chances of her showing up! Not to mention saving some dough!

Mistake # 2 – Being Too Eager To Hang Out

There are few ways to turn a woman off faster than being TOO eager to hang out with her.

We’ve all seen the movie Swingers where the guy calls the girl the same night and leaves her 6 messages in a row (go see it if you haven’t!) but there are other less extreme ways guys do this that turn a woman off just as fast.

A few examples are:

Calling her or having a text conversation with her more than twice a week
Changing your plans around for her
Showing up at places where you know she’ll be (so many guys do this that women are totally on to it!)
Any type of behavior that says you will drop everything to hang out with a woman makes her see you as DESPERATE and turns her off instantly.

Mistake # 3 – Trying Too Hard Impress Her

Another MAJOR mistake men make that sends women running is when they try too hard to impress her.

Any type of bragging about your job, your car, your business, trips you’ve taken, or name-dropping just REEKS of insecurity. In fact, too much bragging can cause even a confident guy to look bad in a woman’s eyes! It makes her think that you don’t feel your personality is enough to attract her… which no matter how confident you are, makes you look absolutely not confident to her.

Not good!

Mistake # 4 – Being Too Friendly And Not Flirty!

We all know about the dreaded “friend zone,” but do you know what makes a woman put a guy there?

Well, it’s usually because he is too friendly and not FLIRTY! So avoiding it is simple – flirt whenever possible! The above example is a good one, and here’s a couple others:

If she asks you how your day is going, say, “Well it would be better if you and I were at a secret make out spot but other than that it’s okay.”
If she asks you what you are doing that night, say, “I’m going to XYZ restaurant – why, are you going to surprise me with flowers there?”

Don’t be afraid to be over-the-top! You’ll be amazed at just how much women love to play along with these flirty conversations – and best of all, you’re letting her know right away that she should see you as more than just a friend.

First Date Success Checklist

By loveandsex

A first date can be nerve racking if you aren’t prepared. Too many dates go into the gutter because the guy is not prepared for the evening. If you have a first date coming up, there are a few things that you need to take into consideration before you walk out the door. First dates are first impressions. We all know how much a first impression counts so you want to make this as smooth as possible. Here is a first date checklist to help you get through the evening without incident.

Schedule The Date

Sounds pretty simple, right? Well, too many dates fall prey to guys forgetting times, where the girl lives and or what day the date is supposed to be on. Don’t miss out on an opportunity for a future relationship because you have forgotten pertinent information. Once you have scheduled the date, write it down on a calendar or set a reminder on your phone. Hopefully, the girl is good enough that you won’t forget any of this information. However, times and dates can get lost in translation. Make sure that she knows when the date is supposed to occur also.

Make Reservations

This might not apply if you’re simply going out for a drink or heading out to the lake for a day of hiking, but if you’re going to a restaurant, get a reservation. The last thing that you want to do is show up on a Saturday night to find out that there’s a 45-minute wait for a table. Double check the reservation the day of the date to make sure that the restaurant has not made a mistake. You’ll be glad that you did.

Invest In A GPS

How many times have you tried to wing it when looking for a store? This isn’t something that you want to do on a first date. Use a GPS and key in the address an hour before you have to be there. The GPS should give you the estimated time of arrival for the location. This can keep you on schedule. Plan on being a few minutes early. Don’t be 15 minutes early, but a couple of minutes gives you time if there is traffic or accident on the way.

Have Mints/Gum On Hand

It doesn’t matter if you’re going to a restaurant or just a walk. Being fresh is key and you’re breath can deteriorate over time. Make sure that you have something to combat this situation. The last thing that you want is to have a sewer system in your mouth when you lean in for a good night kiss.

Remember Your Wallet

You would think this is a given, but there are time when we get so flustered that we rush out of the house without our wallet or our credit card. Make sure that you have your wallet and all of the pertinent methods of paying for the date with you before you leave the house. If you have recently cancelled a credit card, take it out of your wallet. The last thing you want is to have the waiter come back saying that your card was declined.

Dress Appropriately

The date will really determine what you are going to wear. Are you going to a swanky concert or a find restaurant? Dress accordingly and make sure that the clothing is clean. Iron your shirts and pants if needed. Be aware of details that will make you stand out from previous dates she’s had. Don’t choose a shirt with a ring around the collar. Wear a tie if needed. A sport coat is a great way to show that you know how to dress for a formal date. Make sure that she’s aware of any specific attire that she needs. If you’re taking her paddle boating, make sure that she is wearing sneakers. If you’re going to a nice restaurant, make sure that she knows it so she can dress accordingly.

Make After Date Plans

If everything is going well, you might want to have a plan in place for after the date. Dinner is a great way to spend some time with a date, but the restaurant is going to want their table back at some point during the night. A change of venue is exciting anyway. Have somewhere that the two of you can go after the initial phase of the date if it’s called for. Choose something that you will both enjoy. Something as easy as a cup of coffee at a local brewer can work well.

First dates can be dreadful if you aren’t prepared. By following these guidelines you should be well on your way to a second date.