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5 Great First Date Ideas To Get Laid

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A first date is always super special. The romance, the excitement and meeting a new woman for the very first time. For most men – and maybe you – the ultimate first date ends in a good night kiss, where you sweep her off her feet. The kind of good night kiss that makes her invite you to come in to her place and spend the night.

The real question is, how would you make it happen? How can you get a woman to invite you in after your very first date? The answer is so simple, it’s obvious: Go on a great first date.

In this article, you’ll discover five great first dates you can take any beautiful woman on so you can get laid. They’re proven winners for me and thousands of other men from around the world. And they’re fun first dates she’s NEVER been on, ever before. So you’ll “wow” her, no problem.

Check Out Her Toy Collection

Girls are silly, emotional creatures. And these silly, playful emotions are what makes her so fun when having sex. So go on a first date that gets her juices flowing. And make her laugh and smile more than any other man she knows.

Taking her to Toys R Us – or any toy store – for a first date lets you both play with stuff, hands on. So you’re sharing an activity (something most women complain men don’t do ENOUGH.) Plus, she’ll let her guard down around you. And you’ll be able to start flirting with her on a deeper, more sexual level.

Here are some great, fun activities you two can do, together, on your Toys R Us date:

  • Build your fantasy castle with Legos (some Toys R Us have block pits, others don’t. If  the local store in your town doesn’t, do it in her mind – ask her what her ideal Lego castle palace would look like)
  • Ask her what her favorite childhood toy was, and why (you can always buy it for her later on in your relationship – earning you HUGE brownie points)
  • Throw the bouncy balls back and forth (you can even carry one with you, to bonk her with, when she’s not looking)
  • Generally – if it makes her laugh and smile, you’re doing something right. And it’s impossible to go wrong, when you’re surrounded by toys.

How To Use Whipped Cream On A First Date

Take your date to a cooking or baking class, where you two can make something together. Then, once you’ve finished making the food, eat it together. If  she is creative and/or has tons of other guys chasing her, you’ll stand out head and shoulders above the rest. Not to mention, you’ll start to build “long term potential” so you’ll have less “resistance” when you two start to get intimate, later on in the night.

Where can you find these great cooking dates? Try sites like www.Groupon.com. They’ll hook you up with great deals and huge discounts.

Here are a few tips to make your cooking and dinner date even more fun:

  • Have a dessert date, instead of a dinner one (the food is lighter, so she won’t feel full and unsexy later, when she goes to take off her clothes)
  • Not to mention chocolate is a gigantic aphrodisiac (guaranteeing your woman is “in the mood” once the sun sets)
  • Paint her with food – whipped cream, chocolate sauce or tomato sauce on her nose. (Teasing like this gives you “bad boy” sex appeal without being a jerk – keep it off her clothes, though)
  • Compliment her on how well she’s doing. Giving her approval now will make her feel special and loved, making her willing to give compliments, praise and sex, to you.

If You’re Going To Do Dinner, Do This Instead

Take your date to a restaurant with a “theme.” This includes places like Ninja restaurant, the Rainforest Cafe and THOUSANDS of other, smaller bars and cafes. You’re looking for a place with a warm, friendly atmosphere. In a big city, look for places the “locals” hang out. Ideally, places with lots of character.

Piano bars are great for this. As are some diners, some cafes and any SPECIALTY coffee shop or bar. In smaller towns, this is a much harder option to find, however, you two can make a trip to the big city, together, and treat this dinner like a mini vacation. (Save traveling together for a second or third date, though)

Once you’re at a nice local place that’s “off the beaten path,” here’s how to make the most of your first date:

  • When you order, ask the server what he or she recommends. Go with one of the answers, no matter what it is. (This shows you’re open to new experiences and adventures – very attractive to women. Also, you’re able to lead others and make quick decisions. Little things like this COUNT)
  • Order her something you think she’ll like, for dessert. (Women like a man who leads, so here’s exactly what you should say, “My friend came here and said X DESSERT was great. You’ve got to try it, so I’ll order us one.” Say this right before your waiter comes over, then give him or her your order)
  • After dinner, include an activity that lets you two just sit around and talk. Sitting in a park, watching the stars and finding some place to just people watch are all great ideas. (You want to let her settle and digest, plus special “mood” and “bonding” chemicals come out right after dinner, when you sit down and relax)

Shop For Cars, Clothes & Houses

Window shopping is the be-all, end-all way to impress a woman you just met. It’s the ultimate fantasy: You take a woman to the most expensive stores you can find, or on a walk around one of the really fancy neighborhoods. And you ask her what she’d like to own. You make her imagine owning it. Then you both feel like you’ve just lived “the good life” together, making her emotional bond to you super strong.

Here are the keys to some bad ass window shopping dates:

  • Start the date like this, “I like to walk around and look at all the high quality stuff wealthy people can buy. It motivates me to make something of myself and keep on going, even when the times get tough.” (You’re showing her your motivation and your passion for life. This is a MASSIVE turn on, for her)
  • Go for the big, BIG ticket items – Window shopping clothes and jewelry is cool, but if she’s into cars, go check out Ferraris and Aston Martins, instead. (And if she’s a clothes girl, find the nicest places in town. Bigger prices mean bigger fantasies)
  • Have fun! Relax! And remember to ask: “Which one of these do you like best?” Followed by: “Why?”

Get Messy Together

This first date idea isn’t for the faint of heart. Or for the timid. Or for most women.

But if she is an adventurous, tough girl on your hands, try inviting her to a paintball match. (You’ll want to run it by her, beforehand) The adrenaline, the teamwork and the physical movement together will a) make her have tons of fun and b) get her emotions and hormones charged up for sex, later.

Plus – It’s impossible not to be flirty with someone when they just shot a paintball at your face.

Here are the key tips to great paintball dating:

  • Go for two or three games – no more, no less. You want one game on her team, one game on the other. And you want it to end before either of you get bored. Short and sweet is best of all.
  • When you are on her team, stay close and protect her. When you’re on the other, make sure to target her out. This way, you’re protecting her and pushing her buttons – both highly emotionally intense for a woman.
  • Again, always have fun! (So for this date, you’ll want to run it by her in advance. For most others, you can surprise her with it)

Online Dating: Taking It Offline – Meeting For The First Time

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Online dating seems easier than traditional dating at first, but that’s before you realize that at some point you’re going to have to take the relationship offline and into real life. You can’t have a relationship solely online – people crave intimacy and touch, whether it’s a hug, a face to face conversation or something more. If you’re really into someone you met through an online dating website, consider getting to know them in person. However, there are some safety tips to keep in mind for your first date! Here are 5 tips to help your first date go smoothly!

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Safety First!

When it comes to dating, it’s easy to let your hormones and emotions get in the way of making rational decisions. However, it’s important to remember that you really don’t know someone until you’ve had the first date and have hung out with them a few times. You may think you know them from the conversations that you’ve had through the online dating website, but your imagination will never fail to fill in the gaps and convince you that you know someone when you really don’t. Always keep safety in mind during online dating and hooking up with someone for the first time.

1. Meet In A Public Place. Always make your first date with someone you’ve met on the Internet in a public place during the day, where there are lots of other people around. This ensures that if your date was planning something sly, they definitely won’t try to pull it off in a public place during the day. If you meet someone online and they only want to meet up with you at night or in a place where not a lot of people go, you know what to do – kick them to the curb and look for someone else a little less shady.

2. Plan For A 30 Minute First Date. When making plans for your first time with someone in person, make it a short introduction at first to meet them and get acquainted with them. This isn’t where you’re going to really get to know them or learn all of their deep, dark secrets. You can still have a great relationship later on with someone, even if you didn’t spend hours talking to them on a magical first date. Set a time up to meet your date right before you have “something else you need to get to” and leave it at that. If the first date went poorly and you didn’t connect well with them, you’ll be glad you gave yourself the out ahead of time. If you do end up connecting with them, schedule another time to hook up when you have more time.

3. Tell A Friend. When going on a date for the first time with someone that you met through online dating, make sure you let a trusted friend know what is going on. Always tell your friend where you’re going, who you’ll be with, how long you’ll be gone and how to reach you while you’re there. If you turn up MIA, your friend will be able to contact the authorities right away before something really bad happens. While abductions and date rape during first dates are somewhat uncommon, don’t ever assume that it’s not going to happen to you. By taking a few simple precautions, you can be sure you won’t end up one of the statistics.

4. Check In With Your Friend. After your first date is over, make sure you check in with your friend. Let them know you’re safe and sound so they won’t worry about you – or worse, contact the authorities when it is completely uneccessary. Always take these two steps the first few times you go somewhere with someone that you met online dating.

5. Never Meet Alone. It may seem harmless, but you never want to meet someone for the first date at their home, a hotel or motel room or anywhere at night. This can be very dangerous! Again, if someone only wants to meet you at these places, they’ve probably got something up their sleeve.

When To Practice Online Dating Safety Tips

It may be difficult, but you always want to take these precautions for the first three or four dates, or longer if you’re not completely comfortable with someone yet. You’ll generally get an idea of whether someone is “for real” or not over the first few dates. If they’re making stuff up or being shady, it’s not going to take you very long to figure it out and move on to someone who isn’t wasting your time. Don’t ever go on a first date with someone you met online without taking a few safety precautions because you think nothing bad will happen to you. If something bad goes down, you’ll really wish you had. The best way to have fun is to stay safe!

The Art Of The Innerview

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Mastering the art of the inner-view is worth every effort; slowing down, taking time to get to know someone and asking the tough questions, waiting to see if someone’s answers are revealed in their actions, remembering all the while that real love cannot be negotiated and great relationships begin within. And why not? What better investment is there when it comes to the real thing; authentic connection, the foundation for a loving, lasting relationship? Unless you’re convinced posturing, playing games and being insincere in an effort to gain power or avoid being hurt is the way to go.

What To Know Before The First Date

Either way, finding out that the person you are sincerely interested in is; already in a relationship, married with 2 children, has absolutely no interest in being in a relationship with you, or just wants to use you for sex, isn’t pleasant. And if being in a great relationship were really as simple as having the right chemical reaction at the right time, stating the obvious would be way more fun (and I wouldn’t be writing this blog).

Let’s get to that one thing you should know before you head out on a first date, as promised in the last blog. We have talked about the importance of checking out who someone else is, what they are bringing to the “party,” but we haven’t really talked much about what will happen when the shoe is on the other foot; when the person you’re interested in starts asking YOU.

I was just thinking this morning, What if I were single, what would I be afraid of someone asking me, or maybe want to take my time divulging? You may not want to mention a host of things to someone you have just met, but the bottom line is; whatever your secrets, they will eventually create separation if you don’t come to terms with them. There are some things we did and have enough distance from that we can joke about; then there are things we have done that we might feel ashamed of (or still be doing) that we would rather someone not know, ESPECIALLY when we first meet. The one thing you should keep in mind before you go out on a date is the expression “If you can dish it out, be prepared to take it!” Another way of saying that is; be kind and graceful when you ask the tough questions as a rule, but also because you know there are things you yourself may still feel tender about! This is an inquiry, not an investigation. Please be graceful when asking, forthcoming when asked.

Questions To Ask On The First Date

Here are the five questions everyone looking for a healthy, fulfilling, sustainable relationship should ask (or find out) on a first date:

  1. If the person is actually single; not married, separated but sleeping in separate bedrooms, etc.
  2. If they are available emotionally available (not still recovering from the last relationship)
  3. If they want a real relationship or are only in it for the sex
  4. Have had any long-term relationships or evidence that they are capable of commitment
  5. If they want children, I know this is tough on a first date but could be a potential nightmare and heartache if you don’t get real about it right away!

So there you have it my beloveds, stay tuned for my new book coming out called DIRT, Plan B: 101 Questions That Make Or Break A Great Relationship!

Top Things Women Do To Screw Up A First Date

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Men and women are definitely equal in one way; both have an infinite capacity to screw up the first date! Embarrassing moments are far from gender specific and both men and women can make huge mistakes on the first date. So, without further ado, here’re the ladies’ top ways to ensure she never sees her crush again.

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Being Clingy

Acting clingy is a HUGE no-no, whether it’s the first date or the hundredth. Embrace your confidence, not your fear.

Being On Your Cell Phone

Same cell phone etiquette goes here. Calling your best friend in the middle of a date won’t get you support – it will likely get you in trouble after your date overhears every word.

Not Keeping Cash On Hand

Despite my previous advice, do have some cash in your wallet. It’ll save an awkward situation if the “who’s paying” agreement hasn’t been sussed out in advance. You know what they say about assuming.

Being Fake

Don’t put on the “I’m perfect” act. We all know you’re human. The guy you’re seeing should be falling for you, not a facsimile of whom you think he wants to see.

Talking Too Much

There’s plenty of time to get to know each other, if all goes well. It’s really difficult to bounce back from verbal diarrhea, as the unpleasant name implies.

Flirting With Another Guy

Flirting with another guy while you’re out on a date is not cool – even if said date isn’t going well. It’s not in good form, period. You’ll come across as rude, a game-player, or both.

Acting Like You’re In A Relationship With Your Date

Don’t act like you’re already in a relationship. Slow your roll, honey! You don’t need to play games, but don’t go picking out China patterns either.

Being Late

If you’re meeting at an agreed-upon location, don’t be late. You’re playing into a stereotype, as well as wasting someone’s time.

Being Rude

Smiles, everyone! Whether it’s a match made in heaven, or less chemistry than a turkey in a freezer, manners still count. If your companion for the evening isn’t your dream guy, you can still be graceful about it.

Lying

Lying about your age or your career? Don’t. Save the padding for resumes and bras. If you get serious about each other, your guy will find out – and he may question what else you aren’t telling the truth about. Who wants to be branded a liar?

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Forcing It

You know what you want. A boyfriend/husband/knight in shining armor/whatever. You tell your perspective partner this. A lot. He’s going to get turned off fast. Let him know where you’re at, but don’t beat him over the head with it. Don’t think you’re his girlfriend until he says so. Period.

Seeming Interested When You Know You’re Not

If you’re into him, great. If not, don’t waste his (or your) time. Go into the date with a time constraint. No first date should last longer than thirty minutes. You’ll know in the first thirty seconds if you like him or not. If you want to stay past the allotted time frame, great! Then do so, but put one in place prior to showing up, show you both can eject if it’s not happening.

False Advertising

If you’re a small chested girl, show it. If you’re a large chested girl, show it. There’s nothing wrong with either, but I should know which I’m dealing with before I get the shirt off. This goes to all aspects of who you are. If you want someone who will love you for whom you are, you’d better start of by showing him who that is and seeing if he’s interested. If he’s not, move on.

Looking For A Road Map

If you ever find yourself wondering “where is this relationship going?” that’s a bad sign. The truth? You know where it’s going, you’re just not happy with it. Love isn’t something you question. It’s something you know. Asking for a sign is in fact a sign. Not a good one.

Q&A: Flirting Tips – How To Deal With That Awkward Silence

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It happens to everyone – you know, that awkward silence  or conversation dead zone during a date where neither you nor your partner are sure what to say next. Are silences always uncomfortable, or can it be a good thing sometimes? Here’s how to enjoy the silence from time to time, but also how to plan things to ask so you and your partner can have great conversations and really get to know each other!

Question: I want to know what to say when it gets all silent when you’re talking to girl, because I really don’t know what to say next! I feel like I’ve already talked about everything. Please help, thanks!

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Silence Isn’t Always A Bad Thing

Having a few quiet moments during a date isn’t so bad, especially if you’re having a meal together. You and your partner need time to actually eat! Society conditions us to be around noise all the time, through television, radio and the Internet. Most people’s homes nowadays aren’t quiet at all – there’s always some kind of noise or talking going on in the background. So naturally, people begin to feel comfortable around constant noise and are actually made uncomfortable by being in silence. Sometimes silence is good. However, there is a big difference between that good old fashioned “comfortable silence” and the awkward kind that can go on a bit too long. Here’s how to combat the latter.

Learn More About Her

While you may be tempted to talk on and on about yourself because you’re A) not really sure what questions to ask her and B) you’re afraid of letting the conversation die, talking only about yourself on the first date is the quickest way to throw away your chance at a second date. Take some time to plan  out some different types of questions to ask your date so you can get to learn more about her. Ask her questions about her day, where she works, what she likes and what her favorite things are. Ask her what she might do in different hypothetical situations. Believe it or not, these types of questions can help you learn a lot about a person! Be prepared to answer the same questions yourself. You may find that a lot of questions open up new conversations!

Use A Cheat Sheet

 If you’re talking to your partner on the phone, having a cheat sheet full of questions you want to ask is a great way to keep the conversation going. While some dead time is almost always acceptable during a face to face date, dead time on the phone usually isn’t. Need some help thinking of questions to ask your date to keep the conversation going? Use Michael Webb’s 1000 Questions For Couples. It’s a comprehensive guide absolutely chock full of tons of questions that you can ask your partner – and not just the usual ones that you hear all the time. These questions will really get the ball rolling on a date. They’re also great questions to ask even if you’ve been in a committed relationship with someone, because many of these questions you probably won’t know the answer to even if you’ve been with your partner for years!