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3 Online Dating Rules You Must Follow

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Online dating can be harrowing at times. Don’t stress though – follow these simple guidelines and you’ll soon have online dating success!

While I highly recommend that you acquire the skill of approaching women without fear in real life, online dating is another way you can start meeting women without the fear and stress of walking up to them and risking rejection.

One great way to meet women is to join some dating sites – and with millions of people worldwide looking for that perfect match, why not? Here’s the beauty of online dating sites.

  1. You join a dating site
  2. You post a profile of yourself
  3. You watch the emails come rolling in

In the past I’ve used online dating sites with great success. It’s actually pretty easy to get women to respond to your profile. You can go along with your busy life and check your emails once or twice a week, and contact the women that have already shown an interest in you. It’s a great system and one I heartily recommend, especially for men just starting out.

  1. She sends you an email
  2. You check her profile
  3. You decide if she’s someone you’d like to meet

I bet you are wondering if there are any attractive women on these sites? You’d be surprised. The Internet isn’t just for techno-whiz people any more. Nowadays, millions of people are trying out online dating services – yes, even beautiful women. There are tons of beautiful women hiding out on these dating sites.

Now, from my past experience, there are a few rules you must follow if you want to succeed with online dating sites and meet interesting women.

Trust me when I say these 3 rules are a must for online dating. I would know – I once got 3 women (all rated above 9.8) to respond to my profile in 7 days.

1. You Must Get A Paid Account

These days everyone wants something for nothing. The same goes for online dating sites. Most men think they can join these sites for free, set up a personal ad and watch the responses come flying in. Wrong! To illustrate this theory, I once did a test with two different accounts. One paid. One free.

  • The paid account got more than 7 replies in two weeks.
  • The free account had 0 views. (That means that no one even saw my profile!)

The reason you need a paid account with dating sites is because they always list the paid accounts first. Then all the free accounts show up afterwards. In fact, you’ll be lucky to get a woman to even see your free profile, let alone reply to it.

2. Never Use “Adult” Dating Websites

Thou shalt not use adult-based websites. Okay? From my own experience, these sites are full of women that seem “really” interested, but once you send them an email, you never hear from them again. You just begin to get spam emails.

I’ve found a few of these sites that actually have real women on them. So which ones are the best? The two dating sites I recommend to all guys are www.Match.com and www.AmericanSingles.com.

Match.com

Match.com is simply the biggest and most established online dating site on the entire Internet. It’s professional and it’s affordable. What I really like about Match.com is the advanced search capabilities.

AmericanSingles.com

AmericanSingles.com is a really cool site. And no, you don’t have to live in America to use this site. (Anyone around the world can use it.) What’s great about this site is the ability to see how many people have viewed your profile, and actually search through and see who each person is. With this system in place it makes it really easy to test different headlines and aspects about your profile, and after a month or so you can see which changes received the most responses – a very cool feature.

3. You Must Include Photos Of Yourself

Always include a great photo of yourself when you create your profile. It’s interesting to see how different two photos can represent you.

The problem is, guys think they know which photos women will like the most. This is a big mistake. Only women know which of your photos look the best. So why not ask them? There’s a great little site that I’ve been using for profile photos called HotOrNot.com Basically all you do is create an account, upload your photo and watch women rate it. Over time you’ll get a great indication of your best photos.

A few guidelines when choosing photos:

  • Smile in your photos. If you check out HotOrNot.com you’ll notice that most guys in their photos aren’t smiling. Get a great genuine smile that really makes you glow and look like you’re passionate about life. Confident men smile.
  • Keep your shirt on. Please! Unless you look like a super model and have an amazing 10/10 body. Don’t dress down. Most women find this hilarious not sexy. I know, I’ve asked them.

3 Weird Ways To Flirt With A Guy

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Flirting doesn’t always have to be by the book to be effective. Try these odd flirting techniques on the next man you’re interested in – they WORK!

Flirting with a guy can seem like an easy task, but there are a lot of things that you probably don’t know when it comes to the way his mind works. A man’s mind works so differently from a woman’s that it’s difficult sometimes to anticipate what he’s going to react positively to and what he’s going to react negatively to. It’s no secret that every guy enjoys hearing compliments and getting little touches, but there are several weird ways that you flirt with a guy and have him wrapped around your finger in no time.

Men tend to respond different to different women. Not all women can pull off these techniques at first, but with a little practice you might be able to master them all. Throwing out clichés and overly done techniques is a must.

Most men know the tricks of the trade so you will need to spice up your repertoire to land somebody that you really care about. Here are 3 weird ways to flirt with a guy.

1. Dress “Flirty” (This Isn’t What You Think)

While this isn’t going to be direct flirting, a lot of women believe that they have to be dressed up in order to flirt with a guy. Men don’t like high maintenance women. Most of the time, a decent top and a ratty pair of jeans is enough to get him interested in you.

Women think that they always have to be wearing the latest fashions to have a guy interested in them. The fact of the matter is that men love a girl that can look great even when she’s just come from the gym. Don’t think that just because you have your hair in a ponytail and your forehead is riddled with sweat that you can’t be flirty.

Men are drawn to women that aren’t obsessed with how they look in public. This doesn’t give you a pass to meet his parents in your gardening clothes, but have confidence in yourself even when you’re not dressed to hit the town. Guys find this endearing.

2. Touch Him First And Then Pull Back

Don’t be afraid to make the first move if you like a man. Even it’s just a quick touch on the arm, touching him first is a sure sign that you’re interested in him. Most guys will try to break the touch barrier first. However, if you touch him first you will easily show that you’re interested.

You don’t want to seem over eager so follow the touch up with a snide remark. Make fun of him a little bit. Don’t call him out on something that is going to hurt his feelings.

Make sure that you’re doing this in a playful nature. Making fun of something that will hurt his feelings will definitely leave you in an awkward place.

Touching him and then making fun of him is called the “Push/Pull” method. This is typically used in the pick-up artist community for flirting with girls, but it also works well with guys.

Guys love a girl that gives them a little sass. You want the guy to wonder if you’re just toying with him or if you’re actually interested. This is builds mystery and tension.

3. Open Up Easily & Don’t Be Guarded

One thing that women try to do is put mystery into their persona. While this can work for a while, the last thing that you want is to have a guy wondering whom he’s dating after three weeks of knowing you. An easy way remedy this is to be open about who you are from the start. While you might not want to tell him things about yourself that could potentially ruin the future of the relationship, you should be as open and honest as possible. Don’t be afraid to be an open book, but do be careful about the type of things you discuss when you haven’t really gotten to know each other.

Telling him about credit card debt or a one night stand three years before is not the kind of open that we’re talking about. Let him know that you’re not a “game player” and that you’re interested in him. Being forward about what you want is sexy and guys love this. You can play coy for a little while, but you should let him know that it’s going somewhere.

Teasing him and then telling him that you would like to get HIS phone number is a great way to keep him interested right off the bat. Men like mystery, but not at the expense of knowing where or not they can trust you. Keep this in mind the next time that you are flirting with a guy and they will be enamored with you.

How To Use Flirting To Create Sexual Tension

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Flirting is the most powerful way to engage someone – but what if you want to take it one step further? Here’s how to use flirting to make things sexy.

Use Reverse Psychology

One of the most powerful ways you can attract women is by playfully rejecting them. What’s your instant reaction when someone tries to sell you something on the phone? You reject them. Dating is similar.

If you really want the woman to “make the move” and be naturally drawn towards you, then psychologically push her away.

Turning down a woman is the icing on the cake, the finishing touch to your flirting, that locks in her decision to be with you. While this form of flirting can be done early on, you need a decent amount of flirting and teasing before these techniques become effective.

FACT: People don’t reject ideas that they perceive to be their own.

The keyword here is “perceive.” Curiosity makes women think, and the more that they think about you, the more they believe they must want you.

The best way to come up with your own rejection comments is to “put yourself in her shoes” and think like she does.

For example, you might say:

“No funny business! I don’t even know you yet”

“No hanky panky.”

If she wasn’t thinking about sex with you, she will be after this statement. That’s not to say she’ll actually want to have sex with you, but all you want to do at this point is get the idea in her head.

When To Use Sexy Flirting

At Your House

These are great lines to say when you walk in the door together from a date, or after she arrives for a date at your place. Think about it. How many guys do you think she’s heard even say this? This would baffle most women straight away. It tells her that you have standards, and aren’t just looking for sex. It also tells her that you aren’t that easily impressed.

When She Gets Touchy With You 

When a woman touches your arm, leg, or any part of your body, you can say these lines and they work great. This makes the woman look like she’s being sexually aggressive.

After You’ve Piqued Her Curiosity

This is after you’ve asked a question that she wants the answer to. Slowly move away and as she tries to grab you and keep you still.

Once this has happened, a window of opportunity has opened up for you. Now continue to tease the woman about her sexually aggressive behavior.

You might say something like:

“You just want me for my body.”

“I’m not just some piece of meat you can have your way with.”

“I have feelings too you know.”

“Geez, women only want one thing.”

“I need to be careful around you.”

“I’m watching you.”

“When will women ever learn.”

“I’d prefer it if we just TALKED.”

“I may just have to get a restraining order on you.”

“For all I know, you could be a stalker!”

How To Date Two Women At Once

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Dating tips often tell you how to get a date, or how to flirt with a girl, but what if you want to go out with more than one woman at a time? Here’s how!

Dating two women at once can be a blessing or a curse depending on how you handle the situation. There are a lot of guys out there that simply do not know how to date one woman, let alone two women at a time. There can be significant advantages to dating to her more women at once, however, you must be prepared in the must know how to keep both of these women separated from each other.

If you ever get found out, it could be the end of both relationships. Hiding one woman from another should not be something that lasts a very long time. A lot of guys date 2 to 3 women at a time until they figure out who they like most, and then they make a decision to engage in a long-term relationship with that woman. If you are currently dating to women in your finding increasingly difficult to separate your life with them, here are some tips.

1. Separate Them In Your Mind

Let’s start out by saying that you’re dating two women, Julie and Danielle. Julie is kind of a sporty girl while Danielle is more of a sophisticated girl. While these two women are probably very easy to distinguish in your mind, it won’t always be this easy. If you have two girls that are fairly similar is very easy to get their hometowns, parents names, interests or job titles mixed up.

Before you ever go out on a date with one of them, right down exactly what they do, where they live, any names that are associated with them and where you had your last date with them. Writing this information down will keep it fresh in your mind for when you go on a date. One of the easiest ways to use this method is to put the information into your phone after the first date so you have notes that you can refer to the next time you go out.

2. Always Know Where They Live

You may not be able to find out exactly the apartment number of each girl, but you will easily be able to figure out what part of town they typically go out to eat in. A good rule of thumb is to never take one girl to another girls’ part of town. For instance if Julie lived on the East side of town and Danielle lived on the West side, you would never take Julie to the West side nor would you ever take Danielle to the East side.

The last thing that you want is for a girl to see you out with another one. While getting caught will not happen, it has been known to occur in smaller cities. If you are meeting for a lunch date you also don’t want to take one girl close to where another one works. It’s very easy for somebody to walk out of the office and head right down the street to pick up lunch in a hurry. Until you decide which one you actually want to engage in a relationship with, keep them physically separated at all times.

3. Avoid Your House

One of the best pieces of advice that anybody could give you is to avoid your own house when you are dating several women at once. If you believe that you are going to end the night at somebody’s home and possibly have sex, make sure that it is not your own. It is much better for you to go that to the girl’s place than it is to host her at your home. At some point she will have to see your apartment or house, but you don’t want her staying there.

The reason for this is that she might leave something at your house such as a necklace or even a pair of underwear. If you take another girl back to your home she could find this and the whole game could be over halfway through. Until you decide which girl that you really want to be with, do not allow any sleepovers at your home.

4. Pick

The last bit of advice that you’re going to get is to pick which girl you actually want to be in a relationship with. Dating multiple women is fine but aching to exhausting after about three weeks. Give each of the women 3 to 4 dates to prove themselves and then choose the one that you want to be with.

Arranging dates every Thursday, Friday and Saturday night is not only exhausting on the body, it can also be exhausting on the wallet. Taking out women every week and weekend is going to get expensive. It is worth your time and your money to choose a girl quickly and without hesitation.

How To Flirt Once You’ve Got Her To Go Home With You

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To flirt is easy at a club, but how do you flirt when the girl you like is finally at your house? Here are several good ways to flirt intimately!

Different types and amounts of flirting are acceptable in different circumstances. The flirting you do around groups of people is much different than flirtatious acts around only one woman.

In isolated settings such as your place or her place, the rules change and you’re allowed to be more sexually flirtatious. Before we explore this type of intimate flirting, you must first understand how to successfully get there.

Touch Her!

Touching a woman is a great way to build trust. If you continue to go on dates and don’t even affectionately touch a woman’s arm, at some point it becomes harder and more awkward later on.

If you haven’t hugged, kissed or touched reasonable places such as her arm or hand, then you’ll have trouble making her feel comfortable in an intimate setting because she hasn’t felt any physical contact from you before.

If you watch a couple interacting from a distance, you can usually tell how close they are just by how far apart they stand. Most women only feel comfortable with men entering their personal space when they know them to a certain degree.

To ensure a woman will be comfortable when she’s having a date at your place, here’s a guideline for what flirtatious physical contact you can possibly do.

Create The Flirtatious Mood

The flirtatious mood incorporates the same flirting used during previous dates. This involves being playful, fun, teasing and confident. Here are some examples of fun things you can do in a secluded setting.

1. Bed Push

While the two of you are talking on your bed/couch subtly move over while performing a yawn or stretch to move her closer to the edge. Once she realizes what you are doing, she’ll try to move her way back on. Whether you decide to slowly push her completely onto the floor is your choice. Depending on the size of your bed/couch and whether this action can be done harmlessly or not is up to you.

2. Bed Hog

When she tries to get back on the bed/couch or even if she’s already lying with you roll over taking up most of the space. As she realizes you’re taking over she’ll try and win her share back. If she asks for you to move back onto your side you can say, “What’s in it for me?” or “Na, what are you talking about? I’m not taking up any room at all.” Be smiley and sarcastic when you say this comment, creating an “I’m hard-to-get vibe.”

3. Soft Tickle

If she’s comfortable lying next to you and being close, you should be able to tickle her gently to get a positive reaction. Tickling her hips, waist, feet or armpits work best. If she’s not ticklish or you don’t have the right touch to make her giggle, say something like, “I’m not trying to tickle you, really I’m not.” This saves you from looking like you’ve failed at tickling.

4. Pillow Fight

To increase the excitement, grab your pillow and start whacking her softly with it. If she joins in and gets more aggressive, turn up the pace but don’t use all your strength. If you’re looking for a great way to transition into a pillow fight throw your pillow at her when she’s across the room or on the bed with you. If she doesn’t throw it back tell her to throw it back. If she still doesn’t throw it back, get off the bed, grab the pillow, and throw it at her again. Eventually she’ll join in.