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Deliciously Steamy Foreplay Moves To Use On Your Girl TONIGHT!

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Foreplay is an incredible way to make sex hotter than it ever has been before. So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend, wife or lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do.

Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you don’t know what you’re doing. For instance, you may have seen movies where he ‘tweaks’ her nipples HARD. Well guys, you know what? That HURTS and you’re not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!

Don’t Forget The Neck

Often, guys think of foreplay as ‘kissing’ and making love as ‘having sex.’ Sorry guys, that’s way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, don’t just kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms, legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.

Engage Her Mentally

Mentally ‘sex her up.’ It’s a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally put ‘in the mood.’ So if you’re planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during the day so she’s already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.

For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So don’t just say “I’m going to have sex with you tonight.” Instead, say “You know babe, I’m horny now so when we get back home, I will lick your clitoris so good that….” I think you get my drift by now.

Rub Up Against Her

Dry hump her. In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about ‘increasing the sexual tension’ so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, what’s more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!

Slow Dance Butt Naked

Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your erection against her. Hot!

Go “Under The Table”

I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and here’s another one. One time, while Jill (name changed for privacy) and her husband were having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to ‘play footsie’ under the table. This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her – without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex and the best orgasm she ever had!

Try this one tonight and don’t worry if she’s wearing pants. Just rub your face against her mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.

Extend Foreplay As Long As Possible

Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean it’s intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your manhood all over her vagina – especially her clit – and trust me, she’ll go wild with passion!

I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your ‘foreplay moves’. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly to her clitoris and lick away. This way, you’re Mr. Surprise and sex with you is the best experience she’ll ever have.

3 Hot Spots EVERY Guy Forgets About!

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Foreplay is something all girls want during sex, but a lot of men can’t deliver. Are YOU missing these three orgasm buttons?

So you know where the clitoris is. Congratulations, you’re head and shoulders above the average 14-year-old boy. However, there is so much more to pleasing a woman than just stimulating the clitoris. In fact, dive straight for the sweet spot, and you may be down there for hours. Unlike you, she cannot be ready to go in 2.2 seconds flat. But fear not, her whole body is covered in trigger points you may not even be aware of. Here is a guide to some erogenous zones you may have forgotten about.

Her Ears

Nibbling on her little ear lobes is just the tip of the iceberg. Anywhere you lick her ears will be exciting for her – although, full on tongue in the ear hole should only be saved for special occasions. Lick her just under the lobe, and then gently blow on the spot. It will send shock waves directly to her genitals. Also take the time to whisper something dirty while your mouth is that close. If you’re in private, tease her nipples with your fingers for added effect.

Her Neck

Once you’ve conquered the ears, you can move down to the neck. The places you want to concentrate are along the jaw line and just above the collar bones. If you apply pressure to the larynx, she may feel like she’s being choked. Kissing along her jaw will relax her, allowing her mind to focus what you’re doing. Stroke her collar bones lightly, and then kiss or lick in the hollows just above the collar bones, and in the sternal notch – the dip in her throat right above the breast bone. Her whole body will tingle with the sensation.

Her Lower Back

The part of the back that meets with the buttocks is full of little nerve endings. If you lightly caress her there, you’re bound to run into one of her little ticklish spots. However, if done correctly, it can be an erotic ticklish. Before you venture into tickle territory, you should make sure she is good and relaxed.

If she’s all riled up, it’ll make her jumpy instead of aroused.  Your efforts will be counter productive as she’ll squirm with every touch. However, if she’s mellow, these little sensations will give her a thrill. Don’t over do it! Run your fingers over her without aggravating the tickle reflex too much. Otherwise you’ll have another squirmy girl on your hands, and you’ll have to go back to square one to calm her down.

Fingering – How To Make Her SQUEAL!

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Fingering your lover’s clitoris can give her orgasms like she’s never had before. Learn how to make her gasp with delight using these awesome techniques.

Everyone likes a good massage. It’s relaxing, and it loosens the muscles. However, did you know that there’s a different kind of massage you can use during sex? It’s the vulva massage. That’s right, you massage her vulva. I’m not talking about that “warm apple pie” nonsense that has misled men for years, I’m talking about taking care of her genitals in a way that makes her responsive to your touch.

Before we continue, let’s do a refresher on what exactly the vulva is. In it a nutshell, it’s the lady bits. The major parts of the vulva include the labia majora, the labia minora, the clitoris and clitoral hood, the vagina, and the perineum. All of these are utilized in a good vulva massage. They all provides sensations superior to vaginal penetration alone. Let me repeat this concept for effect: vaginal penetration alone does not get a woman off! You must learn to utilize all parts of the vulva for optimum satisfaction. Here are just a few of the many techniques that may be applied.

The “Hello” Technique

This is named aptly for two reasons: it mimics a wave, and it’s an excellent technique to use in your approach. With her legs spread, face her sitting between her legs or to one side. Raise your hand as if you’re waving, and cup her entire vagina with it. Move your palm in slow, gentle circles. Whether you do so in clockwise or counterclockwise motions is up to you and your partner. This move gives indirect stimulation to the clitoris, amping up her arousal.

The Labia Glide

This is a two-handed exercise, and can be done with either full palms or just your thumbs. With one had on each of her labia majora (aka the big lips), you want to glide your palms or thumbs up and down along the labia. This can then be broken down into two sub-categories:

  1. Move your hands together. If you stroke up, both hands stroke up. If you stroke down, both stroke down. She will feel your hands rubbing along the sides of her clitoris.
  2. Move your hands in opposition. This provides more indirect stimulation of her clitoris. The labia will rub against it as they rub against each other, making for some very sweet friction.

The Spread And Squeeze

This technique is to balance the Labia Glide. Still concentrating on the labia majora, take them in between your thumb and forefinger and pinch them together. Then use your fingers to spread them apart. Repeat in a slow, rhythmic motion. It is best used if you position this technique directly over her clitoris. If she is super sensitive, this may even make her orgasm!

Aphrodisiacs Don’t Work For Me And My Partner! Help!

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An aphrodisiac is a love it or hate it kind of thing. Unfortunately, most couples are a mix of both!

Here’s an example – let’s call this couple Cindi and Sam. Cindi is all for romance and aphrodisiacs and even went to great lengths to prepare a 5-course aphrodisiac dinner – do you know how hard that is? Well, Sam appreciated the dinner alright – then went to the living room and turned on the TV!

Sam is completely aphrodisiac-challenged, while Cindi is the hopeless romantic so to say that there’s tension in their relationship is an understatement.

Where Cindi Went Wrong with Her Aphrodisiac Dinner

What Cindi did wrong here is that she was trying to force romance. There was no ‘primer’ whatsoever. No hints or anything during the day that she wanted to be sexed up that night. So as far as Sam was concerned, it was simply ‘dinner time’. When asked if Sam didn’t get any hints since he was being served a 5-course dinner, he said “Cindi loves to cook. She cooks all the time! I thought she just got it in her head to be elaborate that day.”

Cindi also prepared a meal with aphrodisiacs that SHE believed in and may not necessarily be good for Sam. For instance, when pressed for details, Sam actually said he didn’t like the salad Cindi prepared because he hates arugula (rocket)!

Tips to Help Aphrodisiacs Work For You And Your Lover

Make sure you use aphrodisiacs that you think/know your lover will appreciate. Remember that the goal is to ‘increase his/her sexual desire’ for you so you should use aphrodisiacs that will work on him/her, not on you! As such, stop listing things YOU like and think of your lover.

For women, don’t focus on the chocolate, that’s mostly aphrodisiac stuff for you. Remember, men are ‘visual’ creatures so food that looks like genitalia is better! Go oysters. If budget is a concern, go for clams or mussels instead. For veggies, go for carrots (UN-chopped!) and asparagus as they resemble the penis.

Here’s another trick: use only green asparagus because they’re more appealing to look at and more sturdy after being boiled. Then, I dip the tips in butter and arrange them in a tall glass. What a visual treat! The glistening and dripping tops of the asparagus lend themselves to some horny fantasies!

Give Your Lover Hints

Drop hints during the day. Ok, for people who are not into all this aphrodisiac stuff, you need to aid them here, folks. So why not engage in some active foreplay during the day so your lover is more inclined to be in the right mood and frame of mind when you present your aphrodisiac treats?

Setting Up A Romantic Atmosphere

Compliment aphrodisiac foods and drinks with a romantic setting. Trust me, no type of aphrodisiac will bring about love and naughty thoughts if the washing machines is blaring in the background, if the kids are running and shrieking all around the table and if the dog is barking like the devil himself.

What you need is a relaxing, soothing, and sexy setting. So tidy up the house, dim the lights, put on a Barry White CD and light candles all over the house. Your lover will be in the mood for sex even BEFORE he/she takes a taste of your aphrodisiac treats.

Learn how to drop hints DURING the aphrodisiac meal. For those who have lovers that are truly aphrodisiac-challenged, don’t fret; simply drop hints while serving the aphrodisiac food and drinks.

For women, while serving those asparagus tips, start to put one in your mouth and then casually put it in and out as if you’re simply tasting the salted butter and then say ‘mmmm!’ When your lover turns to you, say “Hey, aren’t asparagus said to be aphrodisiacs?” as if the thought just occurred to you.

For men, DO bring out the chocolates! But instead of simply popping them in your mouth, start to lick it. Make really wet, lapping noises. THAT will get her attention in no time!

Aphrodisiacs HELP in increasing sexual desire, they’re not a magical cure you can administer and simply get results. But with the tips above, you’ll get more success each time you use them!

How To Find The G-Spot And Give Her Sheet Soaking Squirting Orgasms!

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G-spot stimulation has the power to give women incredible squirting orgasms – if done the right way. Lots of guys make the mistake of fingering a woman and never reaching her g-spot, or if they do, they have no idea how to stimulate it to give her an orgasm. First you have to find the g-spot, which is much, much easier if she’s aroused first. Once you find it, you have to stroke her just the right way to bring her to climax. It’s easy to do it too soft or too hard, and you need just the right amount of pressure to really get your lover to squirt. If you want to learn how to make your partner orgasm so fast and so hard you’ll have no choice but to change the sheets afterwards, here’s what you need to do.

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Make Sure She’s Turned On And Well Lubricated

G-spot stimulation can feel extremely pleasurable for a woman if she’s turned on and well lubricated before you insert your finger. The g-spot is actually quite difficult to find if your lover isn’t aroused, so you want to spend plenty of time on foreplay first, before you head down south. When she’s aroused, the g-spot actually engorges with blood and “plumps up” so to speak, so you can feel it much more easily with your fingers. You also want to make sure she’s plenty wet enough to start, because if she’s not, the dry friction can really be uncomfortable or painful for her.

The Key Is Foreplay!

The key to giving your lover incredible squirting orgasms is making sure you’re spending enough time on foreplay before getting started on her g-spot. Women need lots of warm up time, and they need to be mentally, emotionally and physically relaxed and open before a squirting orgasm will ever happen. If you spend enough time on foreplay, by the time you get down to her vagina, she’s going to be begging you for release! Here are some great foreplay ideas:

  • Oral sex. Women love oral sex and you can actually give her one or two orgasms this way before beginning to finger her g-spot. Remember that women have a shorter refractory period than men do, so she’s actually closer to reaching an orgasm with g-spot stimulation if you’ve given her an orgasm with her clitoris first.
  • Deep, passionate kissing. Make her feel like you’ve got to have her. This will begin to stimulate and arouse her mind, which is critical for her to be able to relax and let go.
  • Sex toys. Tease and please her with a vibrator before you begin to finger her g-spot. She will love that you’re not afraid to use sex toys on her and that you want to watch her receive pleasure from them!

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

This is actually one of the most common questions guys ask when it comes to sex and female orgasms. To find the g-spot, of course, you want to have her turned on and aroused before you go looking for it. It’s located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the top wall (the stomach side, not the butt side). You can most easily reach and stimulate the g-spot by inserting one or two fingers about 2 inches into the vagina with your palm facing up. Curl your fingers in towards your body like you’re making a “come hither” motion. You should feel a spongy, textured spot on the top wall that your partner responds to when you rub it or put pressure on it. This is the g-spot!

How To Give Your Lover A Squirting Orgasm

When you find the g-spot, you’ll want to use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Start slowly and softly, and gradually work your way up to faster and firmer pressure as your lover shows that she’s enjoying it. Make sure to pay attention to her body language – if she’s scooting away from you or doesn’t seem to be actively enjoying it, you’re most likely not in the right area and are causing her pain or discomfort.

Encourage her to communicate with you and give you direction. Let her know that you want to know if it’s too hard, too soft or if she wants you to stimulate her in a different way. Be open to her suggestions and do them without taking it personally like you’re doing something wrong! Let her show you where and how to touch her!

The Big “O”

For some women, reaching a g-spot orgasm feels somewhat like she has to pee. This feeling may be very intense, and this is most likely when a girl will have a squirting orgasm. When she does climax, her vagina will contract and clamp down hard on your fingers -but don’t let up! You want to stimulate her all the way through her orgasm with the exact same speed and pressure as you had going when she first reached the big “O.”

While you don’t want to put too much pressure on her g-spot to avoid hurting her, giving her a squirting orgasm may take a little more pressure than you originally think. And it may not happen the first few times – keep practicing. You need to practice your skills and your girl needs to practice letting go. It ca be very difficult for a woman to let go enough to squirt wildly, so encourage her and give her praise if she does!