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How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Going All The Way?

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When you have sex with someone for the first time, it can be a wonderful new experience. It can also be a bit of a disaster, especially if you rush into things without thinking. Sometimes it can be hard to decide when the timing is right to become physically intimate.

In addition to the pressure you feel from within yourself, you may also be feeling pressure from your new love interest, along with the pressures of societal norms. So how can you tell when to make that next move? A little introspection, a discussion or two with your partner, and the ability to go with your gut can all help.

When Is The Right Time To Have Sex?

There is a lot of conventional wisdom out there about when to have sex. Some people think you should hold off until marriage, and others think you should just hold off until the third date. Tempting as it can be to take an established rule as your own, the truth is that you’ll only really be happy if you go for it when you feel that you’re ready.

That means that you need to do some serious thinking. Review your past sexual experiences. Do you feel that you’ve jumped into having sex too quickly before, to the detriment of your past relationships? Or has your experience shown you that there’s no need to put things off? Of course, if you have no past experience because this is your first time ever, you’ll have to turn to other methods of determining your readiness.

Deciding What Is Right For YOU

Whether you’re experienced or not, you’re going to want to further check in with yourself. As far as introspection goes, you should do a little pros and cons analysis. What are all of the good things that you’ll get from sleeping together at this particular point in time, and what are the possible negative consequences? If the negatives outweigh the positives, you should probably hold off a bit longer.

You also need to acknowledge that, once you’ve finally had sex, it may not be as spectacular as you’d hoped it would be. If it goes poorly, that could be the end of things. If you’re not ready to run that risk, you may not be ready for sex with this person, either. Some people are into casual sex, and others feel they need to be in love before they can engage in it.

It’s important for you to truthfully acknowledge which side of the line you fall on. Trying to go against your true feelings is a mistake, particularly if you’re someone that needs to be in love. You may feel regret after the fact, which will sully the experience for you.

How Does Your Partner Feel About When To Have Sex?

Once you’ve established how you feel about it and decide that you’re ready, you need to have that conversation with your S.O. Tell them you’re hoping to take things to the next level, but want to know how they feel about it. Plus, as non-romantic as it may be, you should discuss birth control and STD prevention with them.

If one of you isn’t prepared to take the appropriate measures, that person also isn’t ready to be having sex. Once the two of you are on common ground, let things happen as they may. When the mood is right, you’ll both know it. Don’t let yourself worry about what anyone other than you and your partner think, whether you sleep together on your first date or your wedding night. Clear up all of your worries in advance, and you’ll have that much more energy to focus on enjoying your first time.

9 Handjob Techniques That Will Make Him Beg For More

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A handjob is often severely underrated by both guys and gals. Guys assume that if they can masturbate, why do they want to have their woman do it for them? Especially if he can have a blowjob or have sex instead? Girls often assume that guys don’t want a handjob for the very same reason. However, a handjob can be absolutely divine if done correctly. Here are nine handjob techniques that will make your man beg fore more.

Hold His Scrotum Right Before He Is About To Orgasm

Right before your man is about to have an orgasm, lightly grab hold of his testicles, cupping them in your palm. If he enjoys firmer pressure, feel free to grasp more firmly or tug a little, depending on what feels best for him. Having this extra stimulation on his scrotum will intensify his orgasm, as well as allow you to feel his ejaculation from beginning to end.

Have Him Thrust With His Pelvis

Instead of moving your hands alone while your partner sits or lies and receives his handjob, have him thrust with his pelvis while you hold your hands still. Not only does this make getting a handjob feel much different for him, it will also make him feel more in control of his climax. He may be able to reach orgasm faster this way, and it may be a technique you want to use if he takes a long time to reach climax through manual stimulation.

Form “Rings” With Your Thumb And Forefingers

Take your thumb and forefinger and touch them together, forming a “ring” with your fingers. Apply a generous amount of lube to your partner’s penis, and slip the “ring” over his shaft, moving it up and down. Tighten your fingers together as much as is pleasurable to your man. Doing this softly or firmly will change the sensations and you can mix it up between the two for different feelings. You can also increase the pleasure factor of this technique by using both hands – two “rings” instead of one.

Rub Only The Tip Of His Penis

This works well if your partner is uncircumcised or has a very sensitive penis. If he doesn’t and requires firm stimulation of his shaft or scrotum to reach climax, this technique will not work as well. To do this, place a dollop or two of lube in your hand and rub your palm in circular motions over the head of his penis. Hold his shaft with your other hand (or have him hold it for you) so that his penis stays in place. This technique can also be applied to a blowjob as well by simply keeping your mouth on the tip of the penis.

Use Both Hands

Instead of using one hand to give your lover a handjob, why not try using two? Rub the tip of his penis with one hand as indicated above, while massaging his scrotum or stroking his shaft with the other. He’ll love the sensation of two hands on his penis, because the majority of men only use one hand on themselves during masturbation.

Blindfold Him

While it’s true that men are visual creatures (duh – that’s why porn exists), sensory deprivation can be just as hot. Bring this element in to a handjob to make it extra sensational by blindfolding him when you start. The idea of not knowing what is coming next or exactly what you’re doing to create the sensations he’s feeling will get him hotter than ever.

Masturbate – With His Penis

To give yourself pleasure while you’re pleasuring him, try rubbing his penis against your clitoris. You can rub the length of the shaft on it or simply just rub the head of it against you. Either way, it will feel absolutely divine for both you and him. Just make sure you use lots of good lube so everything is nice and slippery.

Describe The Handjob To Him As You’re Doing It

Dirty talk is a great way to spice up just about any sex act, especially a handjob. Describe what you’re going to do to him before you do it, what you’re doing as you do it, what it feels like for you and how much you love it. Use lots of sensual, descriptive language like “hard” or “throbbing.”

Bring In Props

Don’t be afraid to bring a few sex toys into the bedroom when giving your partner a handjob. Male masturbators feel absolutely amazing for guys when used with lube, and cock rings can prolong his erection and make each sensation much more powerful. Experiment with different sex toys to change up the different styles of pleasure you can give him with your hands.

Public Displays Of Affection: Where Do You Draw The Line?

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Public displays of affection aren’t at all uncommon. Love and amazing sexual chemistry can be like blinders on a horse. You’re out with your significant other, and all you can see or focus on is them. That’s a wonderful feeling to be sure, but you have to be careful about just how far you go when you’re out in public. This is not only because no one really wants to be that inappropriately gross couple, but also because you never know who might be around.

If you’re dry-humping on a blanket in the park and your boss or your grandmother happens to stroll by and see you, you are going to be in for some major embarrassment. Consider your surroundings and the likelihood of such a scenario occurring before you start getting hot and heavy.

Location, Location, Location

Engaging in appropriate levels of PDA is not unlike purchasing real estate—it’s all about location, location, location. There are loads of questions to ask yourself when you’re out with your S.O. and feeling frisky.

  • Are you somewhere that relatives or co-workers of yours often frequent?
  • Is the location the kind of place where lots of children will be around, like a playground or amusement park?

In these scenarios, it’s probably best to go no further than some hand-holding and the occasional kiss or two. Your company’s friends and family picnic is hardly the appropriate place to make out with your boyfriend or girlfriend for an hour.

On the other hand, if you’re out dancing at a club, you’ll be much more likely to get away with lots of kissing and getting handsy. If you’re on some tropical getaway where you don’t know anyone, you can feel free to indulge yourselves as well. As long as you’re not doing anything that might get you arrested if you get caught, there’s really no need to worry.

Even if someone walks down the beach at night and sees you fooling around on a lounge chair, the odds that you’ll ever encounter that person again are slim-to-none.

How Dark Is It?

Light levels are another important factor to take into consideration. If you’re out in broad daylight or in a well-lit room surrounded by people, everyone will know exactly what you’re up to. If you’re in the last row in a dark movie theater or the back corner booth at a bar with low-lighting, most of your antics will be obscured from the general population’s view.

It’s even better if you can make sure that you’re located out of the sightline of most of the people in the space you’re in. Again, the last row in a dark theater works if there’s really no one sitting near you. If the theater is packed, you might want to keep your activity to a minimum. You probably wouldn’t want to be sitting directly next to a strange girl giving her guy a handjob if the situation was reversed, so show the people sitting near you the same respect.

The Defining Question….

Perhaps that’s the most important factor to consider. If you were out and about and saw a strange couple doing what you’re about to do, how would you feel about it? When we’re head-over-heels, it can be difficult to keep a grasp on what’s acceptable or not.

It’s easy to feel that we’re different—an exception to the rule. So pull yourself out of the situation for a minute and imagine if you were the accidental observer of the movie theater blowjob or the heavy makeout session at the mall. Showing others the courtesy that you would expect will typically help you from going too far when it comes to PDA.

Ladies: How To Orgasm With Him On Top

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Most women can only reach orgasm during sex with their partners if they’re on top. This is mainly because in the woman-on-top sex position, the woman has control over the speed of thrusting as well as the depth and angle of his penis in her vagina. However, lots of guys like to be on top because it feels great for them, but does that mean you should miss out on your orgasm!? No way! Here’s how you can reach orgasm with him on top, every time!

Don’t Ignore The Power Of Foreplay

Foreplay is a very important part of sex, because very few women can reach orgasm from having sex only with no time to get warmed up first. Give your partner oral sex and let him return the favor, or let him finger you and touch your clitoris while you kiss him deeply. Without enough time to get warmed up and turned on, it’s unlikely that you’ll have an orgasm at all, no matter who is on top!

Foreplay will also help you feel more connected to your partner emotionally, and that type of intimacy is necessary for a woman to even feel turned on and to be orgasmic. Without feeling emotionally intimate with your partner, it’s going to be much, much harder to be in an orgasmic state of mind!

Masturbate

Masturbation is essential for a woman to learn how to have an orgasm. Through masturbation, a woman learns what feels best, how she likes to be touched and what doesn’t feel good. It’s kind of like learning the map to orgasm – and if you can’t bring yourself to orgasm by masturbating, how are you going to show your guy the way there?

When masturbating, don’t be afraid to take it slow and really find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Don’t make it a rush job – lock your doors and set aside some time to be with yourself when no one will bother you. Once you really learn what you like and how your body responds to pleasure, you’ll become much more orgasmic in any sex position, including him on top.

Use The Coital Alignment Technique

The Coital Alignment Technique (also called CAT) is when both partners are in the missionary position with him on top, but he aligns himself in a way that allows his chest to be closer to your shoulders rather than directly on top of you and face to face. This amazing sex technique angles his penis differently to allow for more g-spot stimulation, and it also allows for more clitoral stimulation.

Next time you and your partner are having sex with him on top, have him scoot up a bit to where he’s just a little bit above you, where his lips meet your forehead and his chest and hands are closer to your shoulders. When thrusting, instead of thrusting straight in or downward, he will thrust upwards as though he is “pointing” towards your head and shoulders. This will create more friction during sex, which is needed for both clitoral and g-spot orgasms.

Bring On The Sex Toys

Even with masturbation, foreplay and the Coital Alignment Technique, it can still be very difficult for a woman to reach orgasm with her partner on top of her during sex. If you’ve tried everything but still can’t have an orgasm in the missionary position, don’t be afraid to use sex toys to get the job done.

Try putting a dab of lube on your finger and touching your clitoris while he thrusts in and out. He’ll really enjoy watching you pleasure yourself, and you’ll enjoy the fact that you can actually give yourself an orgasm while he’s on top instead of simply going without.

If you’re not able to stimulate yourself manually enough to reach orgasm, bust out your vibrator and slip it in between you and your partner for a little stronger clitoral stimulation. This will help you reach orgasm quickly and easily, and the vibrations may make your partner feel great too!

Best Sex Toys For The Job

If you’re going to use a sex toy to reach orgasm in the missionary position, you don’t want a huge dildo shaped vibrator because it just won’t fit right. Try a slender vibrator or a bullet vibe. These are smaller and will more easily fit between you and your lover. If you want to do it hands free, try using a strap on style bullet vibrator that simply sits over the clitoris.

10 Foreplay Tips That Will Thrill Him Again And Again

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Foreplay is far from overrated – in fact, most guys wish their girlfriends and wives would give them more! Instead of giving your guy the usual blowjob before hopping on top of him for a quickie, bust out these new foreplay moves that will excite your guy and have him begging for more. These sultry foreplay tactics are fresh and fun, and will turn the heat up on your sex life!

The Wet T-Shirt

Throw on an old white t-shirt and panties (bonus points if the panties are white too) and hop in the shower for a few seconds. Make sure your t-shirt gets nice and wet so your nipples and the curve of each breast shows through. Tell your honey that you’re “freshening up” and that you’ll be right out. Watch his face as he catches a glimpse of his wettest fantasy.

Finger Yourself – While He Fingers You

When your man fingers you, start touching your clitoris. Then, move your hand down until your fingers are touching his. Slide one of your fingers into your vagina so it’s touching his. He’ll love the feel of your fingers moving together to bring you to orgasm!

Keep Your Hands To Yourself During A Blowjob

While grabbing at your man or running your hands all over his body during a blowjob is definitely hot, it can be even hotter if you keep your hands to yourself. Tie your hair back if you have long hair and go down on him with your hands behind your back. Make it even naughtier by allowing your honey to tie your hands himself.

Give A Handjob…With Gloves

Sure, giving a handjob with lube is great fun, but you can mix it up by using a pair of silky gloves instead. Your partner will love the feel of the soft satin or silk on his penis. Bonus points if you want to turn it into a fantasy dress up sex game – wear long evening gloves and a pearl necklace…and nothing else.

Undress In Front Of Him

While you may be too shy to give him an all out strip tease, let him see you undress after work. Leave the door cracked open and make sure you announce to your partner that you’re going to go change into something “more comfortable.” When you feel his eyes on you, undress slowly and deliberately, giving him a show that he thinks he’s getting on the sly. Give him a run for his money by changing into lingerie instead of your usual pajamas!

Playing Footsie

You may think that playing footsie with your partner is outdated, but it is most definitely a foreplay move that needs to make a return appearance. When out on a date with your lover, slip your stilettos off and run your toes up and down his leg. Look him deeply into the eyes and let him know exactly what you mean without saying a word. If you do want to say something, slip in some dirty talk about what you want to do to him when you get home.

Forgoing Underwear

Never underestimate the power that going commando will have over your lover. Even if you’re simply out at the grocery store, trim or shave your bush and leave your panties in the drawer. Make sure you bend over and let your partner get a glimpse before telling him that you must have “forgotten” your underwear at home when you got dressed. You’ll be on his mind until he can get your pants down and see the missing goods for himself!

Sucking On His Fingers

Give his fingers a licking next time you want to let him know you’re interested in giving him oral sex. Mimic what you do during a blowjob only using his fingers instead of his penis. Let him watch and make sure that you make plenty of eye contact with him. It won’t be long before he’s begging you to unzip his pants for the encore!

Public Foreplay

Public sex is a great way to ignite a fire in your sex life. You may think that if you have sex outside the comfort of your bedroom (or even your own home) that you’re bound to get busted, but the truth is, you’d be surprised at how many places in public there are to get busy without getting caught.

Sexy, Soapy Fun

If you’re not ready to venture outside the house for some naughty fun, why not try it out in the shower? Shower sex is amazingly different from regular sex – there’s nothing like feeling the hot water run down your body as your partner gives you oral sex!