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5 Sex Mistakes Men Make In Bed – And How To Avoid Them

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Most guys make sex mistakes in bed, blundering about the bedroom instead of knowing what they’re doing. The most common challenges they face when doing it with their partners is not technique or how to’s, but their own assumptions and misconceptions about making love from a woman’s point of view. Start putting yourself in her shoes and you’ll quit making rookie errors and start rocking her world and giving her an earth shattering orgasm. Here are the top five sex mistakes that a man will make in bed and how you can avoid them!

Assuming What Worked For One Woman Will Work For Another

Guys are notorious for thinking that if they did a great job pleasuring one woman – let’s say with oral sex – that the same exact techniques will work on another woman. They often will believe that because the first woman had an amazing, mind blowing orgasm, that he suddenly decoded how women work and can give every woman an orgasm if he simply just repeats what he did the first time on any other woman he ends up doing it with. This is one of the most common but jeapordizing sex mistakes a man can make! The reality is that no two women like the exact same things and discovering what a new lover likes is part of the beauty of having a new sexual relationship. Instead of assuming you know exactly what a woman wants or needs based on what you’ve done before with other women, wipe the proverbial slate clean in between each partner and get to know what they like and dislike through good old fashioned trial and error.

You Think You Offer Everything She Needs

Many women can’t reach orgasm without the aid of a vibrator or other sex toys. A lot of men share the misconception that if a woman needs a vibrator to reach climax that there’s something “wrong” with her. A lot of guys go into a sexual relationship believing that everything his new partner needs is underneath his belt buckle, but that assumption couldn’t be farther from the truth and is one of the more common sex mistakes that men can make. If your partner needs a vibrator to have an orgasm, think of the vibrator as a sort of “partner in crime” to assist you in making your partner scream your name while in the throes of pleasure.

You Forget The Lube

Unfortunately, one of the biggest sex mistakes that guys make is forgetting to bring – or use – a good, water based lube. A lot of guys think that if he just gets her turned on enough that she’ll get wet – and of course, the wetter she gets, the more he turned her on, right? Not exactly. A woman could be very turned on and not have very much vaginal lubrication at all, or vice versa. If she’s not slick enough, penetration is going to be extremely uncomfortable or even painful for her, and she definitely won’t enjoy it or have any chance at reaching orgasm. Avoid this rookie error and insist on using lube.

Underestimating The Power Of The Clitoris

A man’s anatomy and how he uses it for sex is simple, and therefore, he assumes a woman’s anatomy must respond the same way his does. It feels good to him when he puts his penis in her vagina, so it must feel good to her to have his penis in her vagina. The harder he thrusts, the closer he gets to orgasm, so the same must be true for her. This of course, is pretty much the opposite of how a woman’s anatomy really works and one of the more common but frustrating sex mistakes for women to have to deal with. Many women can’t climax at all from vaginal penetration alone and the quickest way to bring a woman to orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris. Doing this in addition to penetration will give her much more pleasure than just penetration alone.

Not Making Any Noise

Whether he’s embarrassed or just thinks that silence in the sack is better, one of the most common sex mistakes that a man can make is not making any noise when he hits the sheets. If she’s giving you an amazing blowjob, she wants to hear how great you think it is – even if all you can manage is a few moans here and there. If you’re quiet, she may assume she’s doing something wrong and start trying to do something else – which can be completely frustrating for you if she was on the right track to pleasing you in the first place. Instead of being quiet, allow your inner animal to escape and don’t worry about how you sound. Your girl will get off on the fact that you can’t hold your pleasure in!

Foreplay Tips – The Do’s and Don’ts Of Foreplay

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Many men slip up during an intimate foreplay with their women. These are three common mistakes that men make when initiating this prelude to sex.

Mistake #1 – Foregoing The Kiss

You should prolong the kissing instead! It doesn’t have to be the usual lip-locking. Women actually enjoy it when their men give tender kisses, long strokes of the tongue, and loving bites on their neck and shoulders.

Mistake #2 – Paying Too Much Attention To A Woman’s Breasts

Women are uncomfortable when men pay too much attention to their bosoms. Of course, women love it when their partners do incredible things with their breasts. But, they still prefer that their partners adore EVERY detail on their bodies.

Mistake #3 – Hurrying Through Foreplay

This is a big no-no. Always remember that foreplay should be done in the smoothest and most comfortable manner possible. Women love it when their men spend time in exploring every sensitive hot spots on the female body. At times, women are the ones who dictate when their men should proceed. However, there are moments when women allow their men to follow their own plans when pleasuring them. But you should not advance towards her inner thigh if she is not yet fully prepared for it. It can be quite unpleasant for women when they are not totally in the mood for the actual sexual intercourse.

What else can you do to give her phenomenal foreplay – one that will set her up for a powerful orgasm later? Well, the following tips will come in handy for you!

Tip #1 – Take Pleasure In Foreplay

You must be having fun during foreplay in order to become the best in what you are doing. Women can actually tell when their partners are not in the mood for sex even with the bits of action during the prelude, such as oral sex. If giving her oral sex is a chore for you, she won’t enjoy it. A man’s satisfaction in the sexual overture is a big factor in turning on a woman. Yes, it all begins in the mind! So make sure that you have the appropriate outlook when it comes to the foreplay and the main act.

Tip #2 – Open Communication

If you do not know what to do, then just ASK her. For example, ask if she wants kisses or those titillating nibbles on her skin and if she prefers gentle fondling to wild grasps. In return, be sure that you are ready to give her anything that she asks of you!

Tip #3 – Dirty Talk

Most guys do not know how effective dirty talk can be during foreplay. You may not know this but women CAN get highly aroused even with just words, especially those that depict what you plan to do to them in bed. Aside from dirty talking, try speaking to her of your unadulterated appreciation of her whole being, her beauty, and your contentment on having her all to yourself!

Tip #4 – Be Smooth

Wait for her to tell you that she is ready to move forward. Let the whole act blend smoothly into sexual intercourse. Do not skip the “appetizer” and head straight for the “main course.” Always be gracious during the prelude to intercourse!

Let foreplay lead both of you into amazing sex. Don’t skim on it. Apply the above tips and spice things up in your bedroom tonight!

Drive Him Wild With Just A Kiss – 4 Must Try Moves

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Kissing is of course a prelude to great sex, but sometimes a kiss can be all you need to drive your man wild. There are many different kissing techniques you can use, but sometimes techniques aren’t what really turn him on – it’s often the type of kiss that will send him to the moon. Here’s how to master four different types of kisses that you can use throughout the day to tease him and make him wonder what’s next after the day is over and the bedroom doors are closed!

The Greeting Kiss

You may not think that the quick “hello” kiss after you both arrive home from work is worth much, but you can definitely turn it into something that will make your man’s brain switch from regular mode to “I-Want-Sex-Now” mode almost instantaneously. When you first see your guy, before you say a single word to him, take a few seconds to look him up and down and bite or lick your lips playfully. When you have his interest piqued, plant a big kiss on him when he’s least expecting it. Make this kiss last at least several seconds, almost as though it were foreplay, and don’t be afraid to kiss him deeply with your lips and tongue. You are letting him know, “this is what I’ve been thinking about all day.” Pull back slowly and look him in the eyes meaningfully. Then say, “hello!”

The Full On Make Out

Remember when you and your guy were first together and hadn’t had sex yet? Remember when making out was so great because you weren’t sure whether it was just going to be kissing or maybe it would be something more this time? If your sex life has been suffering from the “Stuck On Home Base” syndrome and you’re just heading straight for sex with your guy because that’s what you always do, you can definitely use this kissing technique to your advantage. When you’re in the mood, set the stage by giving your guy a full on French kiss. Then keep kissing him, and then after that, kiss him some more. Make no move to go any further than just making out and if he makes a move, gently deflect it for a few minutes. He’ll be going crazy wondering if – and when – you’re going to turn it into something more! Your guy will likely be erect during the make out session, and a great deal of blood will be pumping to his penis the entire time. This will work to your advantage when you finally do give him a blowjob or a handjob, because it will make the sensations ten times more powerful!

The Just Because You Can Kiss

One of the benefits of being in a long term relationship is getting to kiss your partner whenever you want. That’s the deal, right? Take advantage of the fact that you can kiss your partner whenever you feel like it and give him surprise kisses out of the blue. They can be short or long, as long as none of them are a “quickie peck.” Make sure you mean each and every one of them. Each kiss is meant to say, “You’re mine and I can do this whenever I want and I’m going to.” He may even catch on to the idea and start giving you random, out of the blue kisses too! It also lets him know that you’re thinking of him in that moment and makes him think you just can’t help yourself!

The Goodbye Kiss

The Goodbye kiss is equally as powerful as the Greeting kiss, but it can also be way too understated if you let it. Instead of giving your partner a short hug and kiss goodbye, wrap your arms around your partner and hold them there for a few seconds or minutes. Kiss them deeply and wrap your fingers in their hair, tugging lightly. Heck, why not wrap your leg around him too? The point of this kiss is to say, “I don’t care if you’re going, right now in this moment, it’s just you and me.” Kissing him tenderly and sensually with a hint of urgency and confidence will make him forget anything exists at all except for you and him, right then and there. One of the best benefits of a great Goodbye kiss is that it guarantees that he will pretty much be thinking of you (and what he wants to do to you) the entire time he is gone. Pair this with a sensually powerful Greeting kiss and you have a recipe for absolutely explosive passionate sex!

Amazing Foreplay Tips To Drive Her Crazy! Warning – These Will Turbo-Charge Her Sexual Desires!

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How do you really give a woman great foreplay? If you’ve been in a sexual relationship for a while, you would probably notice that the same foreplay acts could draw out completely different reactions from the same woman at different times. For a guy who gets easily aroused just by the sight of a naked woman, this may be difficult to fathom. Women are just fickle, you might say. Well, that is true to a large extent, especially when it comes to sex and foreplay. Let me explain…

How Foreplay Affects Her Will Depend On Her Mood

If she is in the RIGHT mood, she can get turned on faster than you. Even breathing down the back of her neck for just 15 seconds will get her hot and panting when her emotions are right. Furthermore, once women become aroused, they are biologically wired to stay “turned on” FAR longer than men.

True Foreplay Is To Get Her Into The Right Emotional State!

Read that again. Most men think foreplay is a physical activity. It is NOT. Instead, it is a lot more emotionally-driven. If you can understand just this one simple idea, it will completely turn your lackluster sex life into a supercharged erotic experience in between the sheets.

So How Do You Connect With Her Emotionally?

Here are a few time-tested suggestions:

Getting Her Turned On

This works phenomenally well when she is already close to a sexual mood. For instance, if she has just had a nice massage, you can put her into a state of sexual arousal by continuing to touch her and taking it one step further by giving her an erotic massage. Such physical acts of teasing can supercharge her erotic emotions in a hurry.

Bringing Out The Sexiness In Her

If you can make her feel attractive about herself, this will almost effortlessly transition her into a sexual mood. For instance, when she walks, sincerely compliment on how graceful and sexy she looks, and how much that turns you on. You will know you’ve done the right thing when she repeats doing exactly what you’ve just complimented her on. This is an extremely powerful way of getting her sexually aroused.

Verbal And Sensory Seduction

A woman’s biggest sexual organ is NOT in between her legs; it’s between her ears! Her mind is the central repository of all of her sexual emotions and energy. Thus your words and the way you touch her can be the gateway to turning on her erotic emotions. Whispering sexily into her ears is a very powerful skill and a good start place to start. Speaking to her in a soft, confident manner will also bring out her wild side. Gentle, non-sexual touching works wonderfully well too. This can be something as simple as running your fingers through her hair or holding her close to you.

These are simple foreplay ideas that will get her emotionally-charged. Guys, if you want to learn how to give her unforgettable orgasms, mastering this emotional spectrum of foreplay is how you get started!

Master His Secret Sex Zones – 6 Ways To Push His Pleasure Buttons

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Foreplay is absolutely essential for a woman to reach orgasm, but most men can reach orgasm simply through sex alone. That doesn’t mean that foreplay won’t drive him absolutely crazy though! Most women think that giving a quickie blowjob or a handjob is enough to get him warmed up, and most of the time it is. However, you can really take sex to the next level if you spend a little more time down there on the special spots that even he doesn’t know about. Learn how to push your man’s pleasure buttons with these simple techniques that will send him to the moon. He’ll be begging you for more before the night is through!

The Prostate Gland

The prostate gland, also known as the “male g-spot” is usually only accessible through the anal canal or by pressing on the perineum (the area between your partner’s scrotum and his anus) pretty firmly. Stimulating or “milking” the prostate gland during sex will heighten his sexual pleasure and may even cause him to have an orgasm immediately. An orgasm with prostate stimulation is incredibly powerful and is often considered the “best.” Try using a very small anal sex toy to stimulate his prostate gland during a blowjob, or you can use a finger if that is more comfortable for him. Remember to use lots of lube!

The Cremaster Muscle

The cremaster muscle is the muscle that draws the testicles in when your partner is cold and relaxes when he is warm and comfortable. You can stimulate this muscle during a blowjob or handjob by gently tugging on your partner’s scrotum while stimulating his penis. Make sure to communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t, because it isn’t hard to get a little too rough with his boys. Let him know that it’s ok to speak up if something doesn’t feel right – but especially if it feels good!

His Anus

The appeal of playing with the anus during sex is that it’s considered so “taboo” to do so. In addition to the psychological pleasure created by anal play, the anus is packed with nerve endings and can create great physical pleasure when stimulated. Some men are a little nervous about anal play or aren’t comfortable with it at all, so make sure your partner is ok with you touching his anus during sex or oral sex. Start by simply brushing your fingers lightly over the outside of his anus. If he wants you to insert a finger or a toy, make sure you have lube on hand.

His Earlobe

Many girls know that a man’s earlobe is a sensitive spot that shouldn’t be missed whether you’re kissing or having sex. Start turning him on by whispering what you want to do to him sexually, or simply just sigh heavily in his ear when you hug him. Flick the bottom of his earlobe quickly with your tongue before drawing it into your mouth and sucking lightly on it. This will drive him absolutely wild! He won’t be able to wait long until he wants you to do to his penis what you’re doing to his ear.

The Seam Of His Testicles

On a man’s scrotum, there is a line or a “seam” that separates the two testicles from each other. While this sensitive spot is packed with nerves that respond well to licking, touching and caressing, this spot is often missed by women everywhere. Take advantage of this spot when you’re giving your partner oral sex and lick up and down the seam while you’re gripping his testicles or the base of his penis. Try licking the seam while you’re giving a handjob at the same time if you really want to push his pleasure buttons!

His F-Spot

The F-spot is a little known but very powerful spot on man’s penis that can create waves of pleasure that will run up and down his body when stimulated. To find the F-spot, look on the underside of the penis where the head of the penis meets the base. This should look like an upside down “V,” and the F-spot is located at the point of the “V.” This spot is best stimulated while giving him head by flicking your tongue firmly against the spot while moving your hand up and down the base of his penis. The F-spot is a great way to pleasure your partner, but don’t try to stimulate the F-spot alone – it could make the rest of his penis feel left out in the cold.