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Why Delaying Penetration Can Make Sex HOT!

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Penetration is what guys look forward to during sex, but if you do it too fast, you could turn her off. Here’s why you should definitely wait!

Delaying Penetration Isn’t Easy

Get real, a moment by moment experience is easier said than done… especially when you throw in a raging boner and a naked woman. Savoring foreplay, while violent carnal forces take over your body, is a mean feat.

Women don’t get this, but delaying penetration is probably the most difficult thing a man can do. Guys see an erection as unresolved tension. It needs to be addressed. Immediately. Unnecessary delay is cruel.

While most women wish to luxuriate in this kind of feeling, men see it as torture.

Have a naked, gorgeous woman on your bed… moaning… with legs pointed to the heavens, and you’ll realize you’d rather be skinned alive than not jump her. It’s like the marshmallow experiment – only this time, the marshmallow is wickedly sexy at 120 lbs., calling out “Come and get me!” through a microphone. You don’t even see the woman, really, your vision just zeroes-in between her legs. And you would do anything, even pawn your Knicks season tickets, just to get into that magical place.

That’s why nobody’s telling you to stop a boner – you can’t. So don’t deny the urge. In fact, ACKNOWLEDGE IT, admit you wish to ravish her body. Admit that you want to be inside her, feel her warm and wet core embrace your penis. You want to plant it deep, deep into her. Acknowledge the urge.

Is It Possible To Even Do It?

Yes, it’s possible to delay penetration. Ever been so mad at someone you felt like strangling them to death? We’ll, did you actually do it? It’s the same with foreplay. Have the urge, but don’t act on it…yet. Feeling it is different from acting on it. This is where the bizarre struggle begins since men can easily blend the two. But just because you’re hard doesn’t acquit you of all the other options.

Why hurry a sure thing? Do you actually think she’ll do a disappearing act if you don’t jump her immediately?

What To Do Instead

GET BUSY. You will never get over that vaginal trance unless you fill your head with something else. Do some crunches if you got to, channel that sexual energy into some activity and accomplish something mind-blowing – great oral sex, for example. Get busy and realize that while you’re at it, keeping your mind off that battle-ready penis, you’re getting the hang of the thing that started off as distracters. Foreplay can rock… when you give it a shot.

Of course, don’t wait for kingdom come and allow your erection and arousal to shy away. Just remember a sexual reprogramming before finally deciding to ride. This next one is subtle but it could really change your foreplay game. Ready?

What Really Happens During Penetration

That moment you penetrate, the very first instant you slide that schlong into that pit of hers, think of it as: THE BEGINNING OF THE END, launching the finale – the final hurrah. You’re actually wrapping things up. Yeah that’s right, the moment you enter her, you’re actually nearing the end of the session, you’re taking the final bend of the final lap. It positions you a stone’s throw away from the inevitable conclusion.

To most guys, it’s the exact opposite. For them, that first push is like opening their box of chocolates… all the good stuff begins. They think, “Yeah, finally I get to do this!” It’s a “Yeheeey!” moment and fireworks are at long last lit up. Like the opening of baseball season – all wonderful things are up ahead.

But, without watering down the virtues of great sex, and without missing on the joys of being inside a woman, boxes of chocolates have been opened way before initial penetration. It’s not the opening of baseball season, it’s already the World Series! And as for the fireworks? They’re there for the closing ceremonies!

What You’re Missing If You Penetrate Too Fast

All things bright and beautiful didn’t begin when you went in for that first push, it started long way before that. It started when you first got a whiff of the scented candles she prepared, when you first ran fingers across her face, when you felt her tummy rising and falling from labored breathing. If you missed on those because of your anxiety to put your pelvic gyrations on display, then you missed a lot.

You missed the unique pleasures of the opening and middle game.

Remind yourself before you enter: This is the beginning of the end. Watch how this simple shift straightens things out and alter your foreplay game by giving you a wider shot of the whole sex thing.

8 Naughty Anal Fingering Techniques

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Anal fingering can be a great way to bridge the gap between regular sex and anal sex. Check out these eight hot techniques to get started!

8 HOT Anal Fingering Techniques

1. See-Saw

This is a simple move that will get her nice and warmed up, especially if you apply a bit of oil or lubricant to your hands. Put your hands together flat, palms touching, and place the outer edge between her cheeks, over her anus and perineum.

With an up-and-down sawing motion, rub this very sensitive spot to stimulate and relax the muscles.

2. Teeter Totter

Using the same exact position as above, wiggle your hands back and forth at the wrist as you slide up and down this area. Add extra lube to make her nice and slick, and to prepare for entering the rear passage.

3. Passing The Time

To stave off any boredom while working up to all the fun parts of anal play, the experts who wrote “Red Hot Touch,” Jaiya and Jon Hanauer, suggest twiddling your thumbs! Using the knuckles of each hand to spread her cheeks apart a bit, slowly circle your thumbs around each other so that the pads touch the anus as they pass. Use lots of lube and increase your speed if she responds well.

4. Making An Entrance

When your wife’s level of arousal tells you that she is ready for more, you’re going to take a hint from the earlier technique of waiting to be allowed in, this time with just a bit of pressure. Using a well-lubricated index or middle finger, put slow, gentle, pressure on her anus; don’t push, just apply steady pressure and allow her  to suck you in past the first sphincter. Rest here and let her adjust to this new and different sensation.

Tell her to breathe deeply, to relax and to focus on contracting and releasing the pelvic muscles, in particular those in her anus.

5. The Waiting Room

With your finger between the two anal sphincters, you have the perfect opportunity to stop and let your wife get comfortable, adjusting to the feeling of having you inside her in this way. If she finds it too strange, you can exit and go again with a bit more lube until she starts to get used to it.

When she’s ready to accept you further, you can put the same gentle pressure on her second sphincter, just an inch or two away from the first. Here again, you need to be accepted in, and it may be more difficult to coax the inner doorway, since it is not consciously controlled. She can’t just relax on command here.

Just remain still, applying pressure, and wait. If she doesn’t open up for you, take the hint. Move on to something new and come back again another day.

6. Check The Clock

The clock face is a great way to envision just about any erogenous zone when it comes time to explore its idiosyncrasies. In the same way that you can explore the vulva and the clitoris, as described earlier in this chapter and the last, beyond the second anal sphincter lies a space which you can explore in this same roundabout way.

Press along the outer edge of the rectum with your finger, stopping to make small circles at each hour. Try communicating with her what you’re doing and asking for her feedback. If she remembers too, it will help you to memorize which spots are her favorite.

7. Hit The Spot

I’ve explained how a woman’s genitals and reproductive organs are all intricately linked, so it may not surprise you to know that you can hit her G-Spot from inside her rectum… but it will probably surprise her!

At about three inches into her rear canal, you can crook your finger toward her vagina for easy access to her G-Spot and with a “come hither” motion might just be able to give her a G-Spot orgasm! If you can pull this off with some exterior urethral stimulation, perhaps using your tongue, you might just be able to see her squirt!

8. The Five-Finger Surprise

If hitting her G-Spot from one cavity isn’t quite impressive enough, why not try for two? This move, in fact, takes two hands to stimulate her entire genital pleasure system from top to bottom, front to back!

With one hand in the position above, stimulating her G-Spot from her anus, crook the thumb from the same hand into her vagina, pressing against the rear wall and perineum. You can begin to make come-hither motions with your finger immediately, or wait until your other hand is in position.

Insert the index and middle fingers of your other hand into the vagina and stimulate the G-Spot and A-Spot. Using the same technique as in the Three-way move, place the pad of your thumb on her clitoris, and rock this second hand back and forth, thereby stimulating her entire labia.

If you have trouble making these slightly different motions at the same time, focus on one hand then the other, seeing how she responds. Find a rhythm that works, and use it to take her all the way to orgasm!

Dirty Talk Phrases You NEVER Want To Use!

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Dirty talk can really spice up your sex life, but there are just some things that are off limits when it comes to talking dirty Never use these phrases! Dirty talk is a must have in any hot and steamy sexual encounter, from a quickie to a long term relationship. A little dirty talk can go a long way, but the wrong dirty talk phrases can take the relationship straight to nowheresville.

What She Said About Dirty Talk:

There are some sick and twisted people out there in the world that like the raunchiest, dirtiest, nastiest phrases. There are also some super sexy, highly sexual people who do not say a word during sex. I think dirty talk is something that should be explored in little steps to gauge what your partner is into. Moans are always a good way to start and then you can move on to describing what you want done or what you want to do to your partner. If all this seems to make the sex hotter then by all means take it up a notch (if it gets you hot too). But, there are a few grey areas when it comes to dirty sex.

These grey areas are lines that when crossed can make hot dirty talk turn terribly disgusting.

For starters, a dirt talk phrase that I would never want to use or hear is anything “family” oriented. This is any use of the nicknames “mommy,” “daddy,” “brother,” “sister,” “grandpa”. ICK. It’s one thing to be joking while out and call your man “Daddy.” But is something entirely different when you do it while he is banging you. There are a handful of guys who do get off on that but most likely these are also the guys that like to wear adult diapers and want to be breast fed.

Speaking of diapers, and sort of baby talk or goo-gooing is defiantly a no no. There is nothing sexy about a guy talking to you like he is a baby or like you are a puppy dog.

On the flip side, you don;t want to use dirty talk phrases that are too clinical sounding. I would steer clear of any phrase like, “Stick your penis in my vagina.” or “Lick my mammary glands” Ok, I know these samples are extreme but just in case you are a moron and don’t know any better don’t sound like a 7th grade Sex Ed class. But do feel free to role play some naughty catholic school girl and dirty principle fantasies!

What He Said About Dirty Talk:

The first dirty talk phrases you should never want to use are the ones that are deal breakers for your partner(s). Some women may be okay with being called a slut. Some may punch you when they hear that. You typically will have to have a sit down (clothes on) to negotiate the dirty talk phrases you will use. She may want to call you think you may not like and vice versa. Some compromise and give and take will happen. Sort through all that first and foremost before you do anything else.

After that, I would say the next dirty talk phrase you want to avoid using is anything that makes her feel to used and vulgar. A lot of people are into that, but you’ll want to make sure that after you’re done getting naughty she doesn’t feel cheap or used or like a whore.

While you’re doing it, that’s totally fine and even expected and healthy, but afterwards if she’s feeling like a piece of meat, that’s not cool. When she puts her clothes on, she should feel good about what you all just did and super eager to take them off again.

Also, avoid dirty talk phrases that sound like they came from a raunchy teen sex comedy or porn. You should avoid the former because they’re usually uttered by characters who don’t know what they are doing sexually and this is heightened for comedic effect. You also want to avoid comments used by the latter because there are things you can say and do in porn that just have no basis in reality whatsoever.

If you’re going to bust out your dirty talk in the heat of the moment instead of negotiating them first, I would suggest starting small, and relatively safe and less naughty. Try it and see what he/she does and how they respond. You never want to go big and bold too fast. The dirty talk phrases you never want to use are the ones the ones that will get you cut off and cut out the sexy fun time for good.

Mutual Masturbation For Beginners

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Mutual masturbation is a great way to connect with your partner and learn what she likes sexually so you can give her better, more intense orgasms!

We tend to think of masturbation as a solitary event, but it can also be a great addition to any couple’s list of erotic options. Simultaneous masturbation is an all-fun/no-danger way to share enjoyment and get to know each other’s preferences. This involves you two masturbating in each other’s presence.

When Should You Engage In Mutual Masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is definitely a thing to be taken into consideration if you want to create that special bond between you and your girlfriend or wife that will allow you to take pleasure in sex. If you are in the room while she is touching and fingering herself, you can understand better what she needs and what you’re supposed to do when you’re in charge.

What Does She Like?

Does she like short strokes or long strokes? Does she rub her clitoris clockwise or counterclockwise? Does she like her genitals be touched gently or does she like it rougher? Pulling or stretching? Fondling or fingering?

All these little secrets bring you closer and help you facilitate each other’s enjoyment of sex.

In order for her to feel comfortable enough to do it while you are watching, is only fair that you do it too. She will love watching you masturbate as much as you like watching her.

Once you both get worked up, you can switch and do each other (this is called mutual masturbation). There are numerous ways you can do this, just use your imagination, your hands and your tongues. The amount of pleasure that you can both get out of this is immense. Moreover, after such an intense bonding experience, she will feel more prepared and more comfortable about sex with you.

Solo masturbation orgasms can be extremely intense, because there’s no outside pressure or presence, but they can also be, I guess, lonely, for a lack of a better word. Partner masturbation orgasms feel different, there’s more of an energy exchange going on, a wavelike exchange of energy that makes the orgasm feel bigger and more satiating.

What It Can Do For Your Relationship & Sex Life

Ultimately, shared masturbation can and must build trust. When you expose yourself to another, you must know that your sharing is welcome, that you won’t be ridiculed. Truman Capote used to say: “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” This should remain valid when it comes to simultaneous masturbation as well.

She doesn’t have to feel pressured to look or act in one way or another, but do it like nobody else was in the room. It can be difficult to convince your girlfriend or wife to agree to it, but not impossible. If she has doubts, check out the lists bellow (masturbation must have and masturbation must not) and find out what you have to do in order to assure her you’re not going to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.

5 Sex Games For Scorching Hot Foreplay

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Foreplay doesn’t have to be the same every time. Check out these sizzling sex games for a new twist on before sex fun!

Everyone loves scorching hot foreplay. Everyone loves sex games. What is the connection between the two? Does scorching hot foreplay and kinky fun sex games really have to be separate? Not by a long shot. Playing sex games is a great way to have amazingly hot and naughty foreplay that will burn your house down! Here are some really naughty sex games that will guarantee you’ll have all the amazing foreplay you can possibly handle!

1. Time Dash

Get yourself a timer and set it for say 10 minutes. You can play it several different ways after you set the timer. You can, for example say: for ten minutes, we’re only going to make out, or you have to let me give you oral sex for ten minutes nonstop. Or you can just say, we’re going to do everything but have intercourse for ten minutes and stick to that time dash, no matter what.

You’ll have to be firm on that, no pun intended. When that timer goes off, you’ll more than likely go straight to hard core intercourse, anal sex or whatever it is you’re into from that point on, but it’s super important to stick to the time limit no matter what.

2. Foreplay Truth Or Dare

Cliché, yes. Effective? You bet your ass. Sometimes times the classics still work. Truth or dare is pretty simple. You know the game, basically, without me telling you. The main thing to keep in mind is to set up some ground rules. You want to push the erotic envelope and get partners out of their sexual comfort zones, but you don’t want to force them to do something they aren’t down with for one reason or another. Finding the balance between the two is key to having ample amounts of scorching hot foreplay.

3. Naked Twister

I have never finished a game of naked twister. Come to think of it, I don’t know how you actually finish a game of naked twister, but you get the idea. Just a matter of minutes into naked twister, you’re going straight into oral sex, if not outright intercourse. Oh, if I had a nickel for every time I had a 69 on a twister mat, I’d be rich.

4. Slave For A Day

It’s not exactly a board game, but it’s hard to go wrong with “slave for a day” or night. It’s pretty simple: you are your lovers sex slave for a day, or if you don’t want to do the whole day, or you can’t do the whole day, just do it for an evening. Start by stripping naked and getting them naked. Then do whatever your master wants you to, no questions asked (it’s always good to have a safe word as well).

Being submissive to their dominant “master” is usually pretty hot for both people, especially if you are usually in the opposite role in the relationship. The permission and trust it takes to be master or slave creates erotic energy you can cut with a knife. That’s a recipe for scorching hot foreplay if ever there was one.

5. Naked Yoga

Maybe not a game per se, but you should totally do it. You can’t go to a studio to due naked yoga, but you can totally do it in you living room. There are plenty of yoga DVD’s out there and there are now many websites that are offering on demand, streaming yoga classes.

This is awesome, and multitasking at it’s finest. You both get a work out in, and you’re gong to get hot, sweaty, horny and loosened up, all of which will be a great primer for sex.

Seeing each other naked, is hot. Everyone male or female who has gone to a yoga class undoubtedly has fantasized about seeing the person doing downward dog in front of them doing it butt ass naked. Why not give your lover the gift of making that a reality?

It’s super important to finish the entire 90 minute class. Why? The anticipation will send you out of your mind, which you probably saw coming. But regular yoga practice makes men last longer and helps women have orgasms more easily and intensely. And it preps you for sex by loosening up your muscles, tendons and ligaments.

You won’t have any tight spots, no aches and pains at least for a while after you do yoga and that will help you have better sex for longer and all of this is nothing more than scorching hot foreplay. You finish that yoga DVD and you’ll be ready to go straight to the intercourse, no more foreplay needed, but if you wanted to do some foreplay, it’ll be the hottest foreplay action you’ve had in a while.