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How To Give Multiple Orgasms Like A Porn Star

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Multiple orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of sex for women – if you can give her more than one, you’re golden. Porn stars are often looked at as “sex gurus” – and in a way, they are. They do it A LOT more than the average person. Adult films are known for featuring some of the hottest women on earth, but they aren’t just about showcasing women who look good on camera.

The people who are able to make a career in the adult industry are all known being abso-freaking-lutely AMAZING in bed. The top porn stars in the world are better at giving their partners incredibly intense orgasms than just about anybody out there.

Can You Have A Porn Star Sex Life?

Now, just because you might never be receiving an award at the AVN, doesn’t mean you can’t have the sex life of a porn star. Here are several very powerful ways to give your partner multiple orgasms BEFORE you penetrate her, using only your fingers.

So how do you give your partner incredible, body-shaking orgasms with nothing but your fingers? Simple, just keep reading, and take notes.

Women can have many kinds of orgasms, but today we are going to focus on two kinds: Clitoral, and G-spot orgasms. First, you are going to learn how to make her cum by each one individually, and then I’m going to show you how to combine them for something so explosive, she very well may pop your ear drums from screaming so loudly.

Clitoral Orgasms

Doctors and other sex education experts have all agreed that a woman’s clitoris was designed solely for sexual pleasure. So being able to stimulate it properly is a great way to make her shake and moan for more.

In order to locate her clitoris, take your middle finger and starting at the opening of her vagina, slowly work your way up a bit, until you feel something that feels like a tiny knot. This, my friend is her clit, and all of the thousands of amazing nerve endings in it will thank you for finding it.

Now, start to slowly make small circles with your finger on her clit (either clock-wise or counter clock-wise, it’s up to you). Once you have a nice comfortable and even pace, you’ll very quickly notice her body shaking and her breathing pattern changing. Keep doing EXACTLY what you are doing. Too many men change up their technique, and this absolutely ruins the experience for women.

You should also keep in mind that the lighter you touch her clitoris, the better. Since she is so sensitive there, touching her any harder then you would touch your laptops track pad, could very easily hurt her and ruin the experience. Just this one simple technique alone can give just about any woman multiple orgasms, very quickly.

G-Spot Orgasms

First of all, the G-spot isn’t actually a “spot,” it’s actually an entire area located approximately 2 inches inside the vagina on the upper vaginal wall (on her stomach side, instead of the anus side).

So while your partner is lying on her back, insert your middle finger in to her vagina, with your palm facing upwards. Stroke your finger along her upper vaginal wall until you find something that feels like a ribbed surface, similar to the inside of your mouth, right behind your top row of front teeth.

Congratulations, you’ve now done something that most men will never do. You’ve found the G-spot! And now that you know where it is, it’s time to learn how to simulate it properly.

With her laying on her back, and you kneeling in front of her, with your middle and ring or pointer fingers touching her G-spot, you are going to want to use a “come over here” motion.

One thing you need to watch out for is the amount of pressure you use when fingering your partner. Most men are very strong, and don’t realize just how much they are using. Remember to be gentle when you are stimulating a woman’s G-spot, because it’s hard for us to enjoy what you’re doing, if is uncomfortable.

How To Tell If She’s Digging It

Okay, so how do you know that you’re woman is really enjoying it? Well asides from the moaning, screaming, body shaking, and her digging her mails in to you; you should pay close attention to her breathing patterns.

If her breathing seems a little erratic, and almost as if she’s panting, then that’s a great clue that you are doing a good job; but you can do even better.

The Ultimate Fingering Orgasm

If you can perfect those two techniques, you will be able to do what 95% of men cannot do – give her a blended orgasm.

If you think about it, combining both techniques should be pretty straightforward right? While your partner is lying on her back, you would use your dominant hand to stimulate her G-spot while simultaneously using your other hand to make those tiny circles on her clitoris.

Well, like most of life’s greatest pleasures, this is a bit trickier then you would think.

Since you are using both of your hands to perform different tasks, the brain has a very difficult time processing both things at the same time. If you have ever tried to play the drums, you should know exactly what I’m talking about.

Practice Makes Perfect

The only way to get this technique down perfectly is to practice, practice, practice. I highly recommend waiting until you are alone in your house to do this. Start by using a pillow as if it was a woman. Lay it down flat on either your bed or couch and imagine that it is your partner’s body.

Start with the clitoris technique for a few minutes, and then switch to the G-spot one. Once you feel comfortable enough, try to do them both at the same time. Most people will find this very frustration at first, but don’t worry. Star very slowly, and then gradually speed up a little.

If you practice this for 10-15 minutes a day, you should have no time mastering it within a couple of days (a week at the most). And then think about how amazing of a feeling it will be to know that you are one of the few people alive with the ability to give virtually any woman you want simultaneous multiple orgasms BEFORE penetration?

Why Can I Only Reach Orgasm With Clitoral Stimulation?

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An orgasm isn’t always something that is easy for a woman to achieve. Getting to climax for a girl isn’t at all as easy or quick as it is for a guy – for a guy, it’s pretty much guaranteed that he’s going to orgasm during sex but not so much for a woman. In fact, many women can only have a climax by stimulating the clitoris. Why is this?

Question: I can’t orgasm while having sex with my partner. I have to help him by playing with myself. I cant orgasm by just having plain sex with him. I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy it, I love it. But I can’t seem to get into the “zone.” Some history about this is: I was a virgin about one year ago and lost it with my partner that I am with now. He is a little worried about my not being able to reach climax without clitoral stimulation. Please help!
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Needing Clitoral Stimulation To Orgasm Is NOT Uncommon

Over 65% of women actually require stimulation of the clitoris during sex to have a climax at all. This is the vast majority of women, and this doesn’t even count the number of girls who have never even experienced climax at all! Only a few women can have a climax with vaginal intercourse or g-spot stimulation alone. Usually, if a woman is going to have a g-spot orgasm, it is in conjunction with a clitoral orgasm.

Why The Clitoris Is So Important

The clitoris is actually one of the most important – if not THE most important – part of a girl’s anatomy when it comes to sex. The clitoris has over 8,000 ultra sensitive nerve endings in it alone, which is more nerves than are present in the entire penis! It is designed for female pleasure and pleasure alone, meaning that this part of a girl’s anatomy actually has no other purpose whatsoever that to provide a woman with sexual pleasure and bring her to climax!

G-Spot Orgasms

Having an orgasm through g-spot or vaginal stimulation is going to take a lot longer than having a clitoral orgasm and a woman has to be extremely aroused and mentally and physically “into it” for a climax to happen this way. A lot of men just don’t give a girl enough warm up time through foreplay to get her really good and turned on first, so then it seems like it’s impossible for her to climax through vaginal intercourse.

In reality, it IS going to take longer and a woman needs to be FULLY aroused before starting to stimulate the g-spot. Give yourself enough time for foreplay in the beginning, and give yourself enough time during sex to actually have a g-spot or vaginal climax. Many couples assume that just because it is taking a long time or that it’s not happening as fast as it does when stimulating the clitoris that it will never happen. Relax, have patience and have fun with it!

Why She May Not Be Able To Have A G-Spot Orgasm

As a woman becomes more and more aroused during sex, her g-spot is going to swell up and become engorged with blood. When this happens, the g-spot can feel friction during sex more and sex is more pleasurable. However, the enlarged g-spot also pushes against the bladder and for a girl, it can feel like she needs to pee. Thinking that she’s going to wet the bed during sex is enough to turn her off completely and make her want to stop.

Avoid this by having her go to the bathroom before having sex. Then, when she starts to feel like she has to urinate, you can both be confident that this isn’t a real urge to use the restroom – it’s simply the g-spot enlarging and pressing on the bladder. You can be reasonably sure that when she starts to feel this way, a g-spot climax isn’t far off. Encourage her to relax through the feeling and ride the waves of pleasure!

Bring In The Sex Toys

Lots of women put pressure on their partners to learn how to please them sexually, but they don’t have the slightest clue how to pleasure themselves. You’ll never be able to teach your partner to push your hot buttons unless you’ve figured out where they are first, so take some time to hit the sheets with some of your favorite sex toys and learn what you really like in bed.

If you want to have a g-spot orgasm, try out a few g-spot massagers or vibrators. A Rabbit vibrator is always a great choice, because it stimulates both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time. A lot of the time, having a blended orgasm first (both a g-spot and a clitoral climax at the same time) will bridge the gap between having just a clitoral climax and a g-spot climax separately.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are a great way for a girl to strengthen her vaginal muscles and create more friction during sex. Practice squeezing your PC muscles (the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when going to the bathroom) when you’re just sitting at your desk at work or while walking around. No one will know you’re doing them! By strengthening your vaginal muscles, you can squeeze your partner’s penis during sex so you both experience more friction during intercourse. This will increase your likelihood of having a g-spot climax!

Can A Woman Have A Double Vagina?

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Sex oddities pop up all the time, from a 12″ penis to female genitals that can hold 31 pounds. You might think you’ve heard it all when it comes to strange things about sex, but there’s more out there than you can imagine.  For example, can a girl actually have more than one vagina?

Just What Is A “Double Vagina?”

A double vagina, also known within the medical community as a “didelphic uterus,” is when a girl actually has more than one uterus, cervix or canal. It is not uncommon for a woman with a didelphic uterus to have two canals, however, it is also possible for a woman to have more than one uterus but with only one cervix and canal. Regardless of the presentation of this condition, it is not something that can be seen even when the girl is fully naked. It’s all internal. In fact, there are many women who may not even be aware that they have this condition!

Are Two Better Than One?

You might think that having a double canal would be more fun during sex – after all, wouldn’t it bring a whole new meaning to the term “double penetration?” The truth is, there is usually one primary uterus, cervix and canal and the secondary organs are much smaller. A lady with more than one canal may not even be aware that she has the condition. This is due to the second vaginal canal usually being no larger than the width of a pencil and may be hidden within the labia and folds of the vulva.

A common side effect from a double vagina is longer, more intense periods with more pain and bleeding. Some women may experience more “breakthrough bleeding” if they wear tampons – this is because often each uterus will have its menstruation at the same time and since the tampon is inserted only into the primary canal, the woman can experience bleeding around the tampon from the other uterus and canal.

How It Affects Sex

Usually, this condition will not affect sex at all since the secondary one is so much smaller. Some women may experience pain during sex due to this condition, but this is uncommon as the canal is made to stretch to accommodate a variety of different penis sizes.

During sex, the penis is usually inserted into the primary vagina, without regard to the smaller, secondary one at all. In fact, if a girl doesn’t tell her partner that she has more than one, he may never even know! Since the secondary canal is never used for penetration, a woman is still able to experience sex with as much pleasure and capacity for orgasm as any other girl. The g-spot should still be present in the primary canal.

How It Affects Pregnancy

While having a double vagina doesn’t necessarily affect sex all that much, it can be more complicated if a woman with this condition becomes pregnant.

  • It is possible for sperm to travel through both canals and fertilize eggs within each uterus separately. This can also happen at different times. A girl could be several weeks or months pregnant in one uterus, and then get pregnant in the second one. The deliveries could then be several days, weeks or months apart!
  • Each uterus is smaller than what an average uterus would be, so it is possible that neither uterus would be suitable for carrying a fetus to full term. In a study of 18 pregnant patients with a double vagina, only 67.5% of the babies survived. Most of the women required a c-section surgery to deliver the baby. However, with proper prenatal care and a doctor who is familiar with the condition, the fetal survival rate is most likely much higher.

How The Condition Is Treated

Most of the time, a girl with more than one uterus and more than one cervix or canal requires no treatment at all. Another similar condition, called a uterine septum, may require surgery, however, surgery is usually not recommended for women with more than one uterus, cervix or vagina.

How Common Is A Double Vagina?

About 1 in 3,000 women have a double vagina and many of them may not be aware of their condition. Usually, if a girl does not have any symptoms such as painful periods or excessive bleeding, she may never know that she has more than one. The condition is usually discovered when a woman sees her doctor or gynecologist with complaints of very severe pain during menstruation or pain during sex.

How To Have An Orgasm In 60 Seconds

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Orgasms can sometimes come quickly, when you least expect them, and they can also take forever to achieve if you’re not 100% in the game. If having an orgasm consistently takes you awhile, you’re probably wondering how to speed your body up and reach climax faster. Here are some great tips on how to have an orgasm – sometimes in less than a minute!

Relax

The first step to getting your body ready to have a fast orgasm is to relax. Most women (and some men) tense themselves up completely during sex, and when your muscles and body are tensed up, you’re actually going to have a harder time reaching climax than if you were relaxed. This also applies if you’re trying to have sex after work, or when you’re stressed out about something. Day to day life such as work, bills and kids can definitely wreak havoc on your sex life and make it take much, much longer for you to have an orgasm.

Take just a few minutes before you get started to relax. Breathe in and out deeply, and concentrate on relaxing your body from head to toe. Relax your mind as well and imagine all the stresses of the day just melting away. Have a glass of wine to help you along if you’re of age, or take a hot bubble bath with a scented candle. Anything that you do to relax before you start masturbating or having sex will help you to reach orgasm faster.

Foreplay

Foreplay is a huge precursor to having a quick orgasm. If you’re not completely, 100% aroused before you get started, you’re either not going to climax at all or it’s going to take you a long time to finally reach your peak. To make sure you have an orgasm faster than ever before, start with foreplay. Whether before masturbation or before sex, give yourself some time for foreplay and allow yourself to get aroused.

Have your partner stroke your clitoris (or you can do this yourself) slowly, while imagining things that really, really turn you on. A woman’s imagination is one of the most powerful tools at her disposal to help her reach orgasm quickly and easily. If you’re sitting there thinking about the bills while you’re partner is performing oral sex on you, he’s going to be down there for a long time before you’re even halfway to the finish line.

Instead, imagine whatever turns you on most – whether it’s something naughty you haven’t shared with your partner or even another person. This works especially well during masturbation, since you have the freedom to imagine whatever you want without feeling guilty like you might if you were imagining questionable things when you’re with your partner!

Sex Toys

Don’t be afraid to bring sex toys into the bedroom for yourself and for you and your partner. Most women can’t reach orgasm in less than a minute by just using their fingers, but it can happen easily for you if you use a vibrator. Sex toys are easy to use during masturbation, but a lot of women (and men as well) feel that sex toys are for solo play only and not for use by couples. This couldn’t be farther from the truth!

When you’re having sex with your partner, bring out your clitoris vibrator and let your lover use it on you during foreplay. This will help stimulate you and may even cause you to have a fast orgasm before you and your partner even get started having sex! You can also use g-spot vibrators or dildos to help you achieve climax faster during sex if you prefer deeper penetration.

Change The Time Of Day You Get Busy

Whether you’re flying solo or you’re with your partner, having sex at the wrong time of day can significantly impact your ability to orgasm quickly and easily. For example, if you’ve worked all day, come home and cooked dinner and then put the kids to bed, you’re completely exhausted before you and your partner ever get to look at each other and think about sex. If you try to have sex then, it’s going to take you a very long time to reach orgasm and you may find that you’re unable to reach climax at all.

Instead, wake up several minutes early before you have to get ready for the day. Your mind and body will be relaxed, well rested and refreshed, so you will be more ready for sex at this point than if you wait until later in the day!

The A-Spot: What Is It And How To Find It

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An orgasm can occur a variety of ways, each providing different sensations from the other. You can give an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris or the G-spot. But have you heard about the A-spot? What is it, how do you find it and what do you do to give your girl an orgasm with it? Here’s the down low on the A-spot and how you can stimulate it to give your sex life a fresh new twist.

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What Is The A-Spot?

The A-spot is scientifically known as the “anterior fornix erogenous zone” but has also been called the AFE zone, AFE, A-spot, epicenter, deep spot or second G-spot when referring to it. The A-spot is an erogenous area inside the vagina that when touched firmly can lead to possible squirting, extra lubrication and intense arousal. This can sometimes happen even when there has been no other sexual stimulation at all. When the A-spot is continually stimulated, a woman can experience an incredibly intense, squirting orgasm.

Where Is It Located?

The A-spot is located behind the G-spot, right in front of the woman’s cervix. If you imagine that the G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina on the top wall, the A-spot is simply just a little further than that. It too is on the top wall of the vagina, but to stimulate it, you definitely need to go really, really deep. It may feel very rough or textured, and you’ll be able to tell once you’ve found it based on your partner’s level of pleasure at the time.

Once you reach the right area, she may have an instant orgasm, or she may just let you know that it feels really, really good. Communicate with your partner about what hurts and what doesn’t, because this technique can cause pain if not done properly or your partner doesn’t let you know what feels good and what hurts.

What Does It Do?

The A-spot is designed to re-direct vaginal fluids (these can be considered ejaculatory fluids) that are produced during a G-spot orgasm into vaginal lubrication. For this reason, when stimulating the A-spot, the vagina will lubricate quickly and a lot of the time, excessively. Some women report that an A-spot orgasm is much more intense than a G-spot orgasm, while other women report that they don’t feel that different at all.

How To Stimulate The A-Spot

Stimulating the A-spot isn’t that much different from doing so with the G-spot. Since they’re both located on the top wall of the vagina, you’re going to insert your fingers (one or two, depending on what your lady likes during fingering) palm side up. Curl your fingers up slightly, in a “come hither” motion.

Doing so will cause the tips of your fingers to press and rub against the A-spot. You can use the G-spot as a sort of “landmark” – if you know where it is, you can think about just going a little further. If you don’t know where it is, don’t try the A-spot technique because it’s more advanced. Start with learning more about the G-spot and how to stimulate it first.

Using Sex Toys

You can also use sex toys to stimulate the A-spot, if you have trouble doing so with your fingers. Many of the vibrators and dildos that are specifically made for G-spot stimulation can also work well for the A-spot. In fact, many sex toys that are designed for this are actually better than using your fingers, because they’re longer and many of them are designed with a special bend in the neck of the toy to reach the intended area. However, you’ll probably want to find the A-spot with your fingers first, before using sex toys, so you know where it is and where you want to put the toy.

Communication And A Safe Word

Communicating with your partner about how this technique feels and whether it hurts or not is extremely important for this to work, especially considering how deep you’re going. You can easily cause pain! Make sure your partner knows that she needs to be honest with you about how she’s feeling, and encourage her to use a safe word if it hurts and she’d like the activity to stop. She can say “stop,” unless that doesn’t really mean “stop.” A safe word is better because you’ll both know exactly what she means (that she’s in pain) and that she for sure wants to stop.