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How To Avoid The Biggest Mistake Almost All Men Make In Bed

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You can read hundreds of sex tips a day and still make this blunder – almost all guys do. No matter how great a guy may think he is in the sack, he’s probably still making this incredibly simple to avoid but still common mistake. Are you guilty? Here’s what every guy should avoid in bed if he wants to have amazing sex and why.

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Almost All Men Trying To Be Good In Bed Make This Simple Mistake

There is one simple slipup that almost all men make in the sack, and they don’t even really know what it is or why they do it! Most guys are completely oblivious to this blunder, because very few technique books talk about it. Even guys that are seasoned in the sex department will get caught doing this, and they’ll do it over and over again because they’re just not seeing it as a problem – because it doesn’t easily point itself out. Both men that are new to having sex and those who consider themselves Casanovas in the sack can be guilty of doing this, without realizing that they’re actually sabotaging themselves:

Problem: Trying Too Hard To Put On A Good “Performance” And Forgetting To Enjoy It

The problem that a lot of guys have when they get down and dirty with a woman is focusing too hard on putting on a good performance. Many men start looking to advice books and websites that give them pointers on how to pleasure a girl, but sometimes this can actually do more harm than good. Guys can become so focused on technique – like exactly how to perform oral sex or what sex positions are the best for g-spot penetration – that they forget to actually enjoy the simple act of having sex!

Why Is This Bad?

When you struggle to put on a good show when you’re in bed with your partner, you’re forgetting to enjoy it and you’re also forgetting to make sure that your partner enjoys it too. Being too focused on technique can cause you to become more withdrawn from the emotional aspect of having sex, which is pretty much the exact opposite of what women want their guy to do. Almost all women want to become more emotionally involved in sex, rather than less.

Remember when you and your current flame first started having sex, weay back at the beginning of your relationship? Remember how great it was? This was because you were less focused on the “how to” aspect of doing it and completely absorbed in the experience of having it with someone new.

How To Fix It

There’s an easy way to fix this problem and make you and your partner feel more connected to each other during sex. Commit to using no “techniques” for a month straight, and focus only on enjoying the experience of having sex. This is much like first time sex, when you nor your partner really know what you’re doing and you’re just going with the flow. You can re-create that by going with the flow now, and forgoing trying to perform certain techniques or use certain sex positions.

Instead, just do what feels good and encourage your partner to do the same. After you’ve spent a month just enjoying the experience of having sex with your lover, then you can bring back in the techniques and use them to make it better. You’ll be more apt to know which technique to use at what time, because you’ll be more in tune and connected with your lover. Even the best sex tips just won’t work until you’ve built that foundation of learning to have sex and enjoy the experience with your partner without all the fancy stuff.

Use This Anytime You Need To Spice Up Your Sex Life

If making love with your partner starts to get boring again, repeat the above steps to bring the fire back into your sex life. Going a month without using any kind of special sex tips isn’t something that will just benefit your sexual relationship with your partner once, it can be used again and again to add a “fresh” feeling to it when it gets boring or mundane over time.

You can also try taking a break from sex all together for a few weeks or even a month. That saying that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” also works with your groins too! Watch how just taking a break from using special techniques or from it all together will make your sex life explode!

What Women REALLY Want During Oral Sex

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Oral sex is something almost every woman loves – but many girls can be afraid to tell a man how they truly like it and what they want their guy to do when he’s down there. Next time you go down on your lady love, give her what she truly craves. Here’s what to do to push every single one of your girl’s hot buttons with oral sex and make her melt in your mouth.

Slow And Sensual

Many guys assume that because girls enjoy using vibrators while masturbating that they want their clitoris licked hard and fast. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Giving your partner slow and sensual oral sex is something no vibrator can do – and your lover will enjoy it so much more.

Instead of being tempted to lick quickly, flatten your tongue out and slowly lick her entire vulva from top to bottom, pausing to flick her clitoris or put pressure on it with your tongue. Don’t be in any rush – act like you could be down there all day without batting an eye.

Lick Everywhere

The clitoris is extremely sensitive and when stimulated, it can bring a woman to an incredible, leg shaking orgasm. However, just because this is the most sensitive spot on her vulva, it doesn’t mean that you have to keep your tongue there and only there. A woman secretly wants a man who isn’t afraid to put his tongue everywhere – in every nook and cranny. This is also a great way to get your girl to last longer – you can lick other parts of her vulva while she comes down from the brink of orgasm, after which, you’ll lick her clitoris again to get her close.

Instead of keeping your tongue in one area when going down on your lover, take your tongue and use it to explore every fold down there. Point your tongue and slip it into her vagina, and then lick up and down her labia. When combined with a slow and sensual approach, this will blow your lover’s mind.

Be Enthusiastic And Enjoy It

You don’t like getting a blowjob that seems like a chore for the girl doing it, do you? Of course not, and your girl doesn’t want to get half-ass oral sex either. Even if you’re not totally into it, at least put on a good show and act like you’d rather be doing nothing else in the whole world than bring your partner pleasure with your mouth.

When licking and sucking your partner into orgasmic frenzy, pretend as though you’re savoring something extra delicious. You can use flavored lubes or even dabs of chocolate or caramel sauce to make it more enjoyable for you. Show your lover that you’re totally into it and that you’re enjoying going down on her – not just to give her an orgasm, but because you just enjoy it.

G-Spot Stimulation

A blended orgasm can easily be achieved during oral sex by simply slipping your finger into your partner’s vagina and stimulating her g-spot. Since you’re licking her clitoris and rubbing her g-spot at the same time, she’s much more likely to have a blended orgasm than just a clitoral or g-spot orgasm alone.

Don’t start stimulating her g-spot right away. Give her oral sex for a few minutes first to get her nice and warmed up – this helps make her g-spot much, much easier to find. When you start fingering her, back off from using your tongue for a few minutes while you use your hands. Then, begin to lick her clitoris and stimulate her g-spot at the same time. This technique increases her chances of having a blended orgasm because she has time to feel each sensation individually and then together.

Anal Play

While some women don’t enjoy anal sex at all, others absolutely love it. If your girl enjoys anal sex, try to incorporate a little anal play next time you go down on your lover. You don’t necessarily have to use a sex toy or even a finger for insertion – the nerve endings on the outside of the anus are sensitive enough that licking or touching the outside of the anus during oral sex will send your partner over the moon.

If you’re not averted to trying analingus, make licking her anus part of the “licking everywhere” technique. If you’d rather not put your tongue down there, try simply rubbing it or pushing against it with one of your fingers while you lick her clitoris.

How To Find The G-Spot And Techniques To Drive Your Partner Wild

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G-spot orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of all the female orgasms, although women are capable of having clitoral orgasms as well. But finding the G-spot and knowing how to pleasure it is the hard part! Here’s an A-to-Z on everything you need to know about the G-spot!

How To Find The G-Spot

First of all, the G-spot is actually a zone, rather than an actual ‘spot.’ The G-spot is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) You’ll know when you’ve found it because it feels like a ribbed bump, like the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth.

Stimulating The G-Spot

While most men would love to satisfy their ladies with penetration, it’s not always the best idea. Why? Because it depends on factors like the position, her level of arousal, and penis and vaginal shape and size. In short: using fingers is the easiest way to reach orgasm with the most chance of success.

Warming Her Up First

In most cases, women need to have their clitoris stimulated before stimulating the G-spot. But once it’s fully stimulated, the clitoris is often too sensitive for direct contact. Ask your lady. Otherwise, the G-spot may feel dry and uncomfortable. After this point, you can move onto the G-spot.

The Best Sex Position To Use

To really stimulate the G-spot, you’ll need to be in sex positions that give you great easy access to work your magic. Here are two suggestions:

  • Your lady lies on her back while you lie next to her, using your stronger arm.
  • She sits in doggie-style position, while you sit and pleasure her from behind. Actually, if you want even more passion and excitement, try changing from one position to another over the course of your stimulation.

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

The motion you want to use is the “come over here” gesture, using your fingers. Keep in mind that the G-spot is different from the clitoris, which means, in most cases, you’ll stroke it slightly harder than the clitoris. Start by massaging it lightly and work your way up to a point she finds incredibly satisfying.

How To Tell If She’s Enjoying It

First of all, remember that the best feeling will vary for every woman. Alternate between two very slight movements or spots to find what she likes best. You’ll know what she likes by her breathing or when she firmly grips you. Having said all that, there is a way to make this experience even MORE pleasurable.

The Missing Piece To A Powerful Orgasm

Did you know that prolonged foreplay is said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. However, men often focus so much on “performing” that they forget about spicing up their lovemaking with new and exciting things. Let’s face it; most of us are guilty of this. You take your clothes off. Away you go, and, within a few seconds or minutes, the routine is over. But as the bedroom magic fades, it becomes harder and harder to make woman achieve orgasms.

Why? Because women long for variety in their sexual experience. The very best way to please women long-term is to have an entire ‘bag of ideas’ ready to pull out whenever they’re needed. I cannot stress the need to keep your lovemaking fresh and exciting in every way. That’s the secret to fulfilled lovemaking.

G-Spot Orgasms – Tantalizing Tips To Give Her Sensational Sex

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The G-Spot is present in every woman and what a man should do is to take extra measures in stimulating it and give their partners a steamier sexual experience. Even if you know where your woman’s G-Spot is, you must also know what to do once you are in contact with it in order to give your partner a series of explosive multiple orgasms.

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Let your fingers perform circular movements after you insert them into your lover’s vagina. In order to pleasure your partner even more, make sure the touch of your fingertips against this soft gland is constant. Stop moving your fingers inside it and start an inward and outward motion and then occasionally swivel your fingers while they are inside the vaginal canal, applying an even tempo at the same time.

G-Spot stimulation can be even more exciting for the woman if you let yourself perform oral sex using gentle tongue movements on the clitoris. An eventful release will surely come its way to your lady!

When stimulating the G-spot, always bear in mind these 3 things that will put your partner on the path towards orgasmic ecstasy:

  • Take your time in hitting the G-Spot so as to put your lover into a sexual mood.
  • Always be aware of your partner’s preferences especially with regards to what satisfies your girl the most.
  • Do not forget to stroke the G-Spot whenever your fingers penetrate the vaginal canal.

Penile Stimulation Of The G-Spot

It is not only your fingers that can work wonders. The penis may do a better job in stimulating the G-Spot! This works exceptionally well if your penis is slightly bent when erect, as this enables it to reach this sensitive mound of flesh.

But don’t lose hope, just because your penis is not capable of making a bow shape – there are other ways to stimulate the G-Spot.

What you can do about this curving problem is to try out different sex positions. Move your body so that your penis is directed towards the north since it is most likely that you will reach the G-Spot in this way.

If your penis arches towards the left or right, lie down on the bed, let your woman sit on top of you and allow her to control the penetration movements. If your penis draws downwards, try letting your woman lay on top of you with buttocks facing you.

Aside from using your fingers and your penis, sex toys such as vibrators are also very useful in making the G-spot more responsive and giving your partner intense orgasms.

Communication Is Key Too!

Communication has always been an integral part of an intimate relationship. Although there are many obscurities with regards to the G-spot, it is still important that both parties relate to each other whatever gives them sexual gratification. Let your partner guide you through what is most pleasurable for your significant other, and all you have to do is accomplish what she tells you to do!

Put these tips to good use and a hotter and spicier sex life will await the both of you! You will also feel appreciation for all the wonderful things you have done!

Give Her G-Spot Orgasms During Sex With This 1 Easy Move

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Finding a woman’s g-spot is hard enough, let alone knowing what to do with it when you do. There are lots of g-spot stimulation techniques that work well, such as the “come hither” technique, but most of them are performed using the hands and fingers. What if you want to give your partner a g-spot orgasm during sex with your penis? Many men think it’s impossible, but it’s really not. Here’s how you can give your girl a toe curling, headboard banging g-spot orgasm using only one simple move – and it’s so easy, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it before!

The Move

Have your partner lie on her back in the missionary sex position with you on top. You can have her raise her legs a little for deeper penetration if you wish, but it isn’t necessary to perform this move. As you’re thrusting your penis in and out of her vagina, place your hand on her lower stomach, just above the bone of the pelvis and press down gently. Make sure your partner uses the bathroom right before having sex, because this trick can often make her feel a little like she has to urinate. The sensation of having to pee when you’re stimulating the g-spot is actually her body filling itself with female ejaculate – you can tell that it is ejaculate and not urine because it is not possible for the kidneys to fill the bladder that quickly right after using the restroom.

Why It Works

What this special g-spot stimulation technique does is press the g-spot lower towards your penis, allowing your penis to rub up against it more firmly. Many women aren’t able to acheive g-spot orgasm through penile penetration because the g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, about two to three inches in. Because of the angle of the g-spot, it can be quite difficult for your penis to rub up against it during sex. By pressing your hand down on her lower stomach, you are pushing the g-spot closer to your penis. This will allow you to stimulate her sweet spot with your penis, allowing you and your partner to possibly reach simultaneous orgasm together. You can also try using this technique when you are fingering her to increase the pressure on the g-spot and decrease the amount of pressure you have to use with the hand that is doing the fingering. Experiment with different variations of this technique to find out which one your partner likes best!

Female Ejaculation Through G-Spot Stimulation

Every woman can ejaculate, but not every woman knows how. Deep, firm g-spot stimulation is required for a woman to experience female ejaculation (also called squirting), making this technique one of the best ones to use if you’re trying to get your partner to actually ejaculate when she reaches orgasm. When a woman is about to ejaculate, it may feel like she has to urinate. If she’s used the bathroom right before sex, you can reassure her that she is not about to wet herself – instead, she is about to have an amazing orgasm! Encourage your partner to let go when she experiences this feeling and bear down into the orgasm. It may take some practice, but using this g-spot stimulation technique is a great way to teach her how to ejaculate!

Using The Move For Multiple Orgasms

All women have the ability to reach orgasm over and over again, and having multiple orgasms is one of the best ways to truly satisfy (if not exhaust) your partner. It is rare for a woman to have more than one orgasm through stimulating her clitoris, but using clitoral stimulation will make her g-spot easier to find. This is because after orgasm, it is engorged with blood and the nerve endings are primed for sexual pleasure. Give your partner a clitoral orgasm by performing oral sex on her, and then move on to penetration. Use the above mentioned technique and place your hand on her lower stomach, pushing the g-spot firmly up against your penis. She will already be primed for orgasm from you going down on her, so it won’t take long for her to reach orgasm number two. Using this technique, you may even get her to have three or four orgasms, but take heart if it doesn’t happen right away. If she’s never experienced a g-spot orgasm before, she may need some time to figure out what her body is doing and how to go with the flow.