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5 Tips To Make A Handjob More Exciting

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A handjob isn’t something a woman often gives her guy because he can do it himself, right? Why would he want to feel her hand on his penis when he can just as easily use his own – besides, he knows what he likes. However, a handjob given by a girl isn’t quite the same as masturbation – it can be even better. Surprise him with an incredible handjob TONIGHT with these hot tips.

Hey Dan and Jenn. I wondered if you had any advice on giving my boyfriend a handjob. Every time I do it, it’s just seems so boring for the both of us. It takes ages for him to climax and he says he likes it, but it doesn’t seem that way. It would be nice to get some advice since I don’t always feel like having sex, and I don’t feel like giving him a blowjob every time I dont feel like having sex. Thank you.

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Attitude Is Key

There’s a reason that what women do in porn flicks is so popular – because no matter what they’re doing, they act like they’re completely enthusiastic about doing it. If you’re giving your man a handjob and you’re acting like you’ve got better things to do (even if you really do), he’s not going to be as into it either. On the other side of the coin, if your attitude says that there’s nothing that you’d rather be doing besides giving your guy manual pleasure (even if there is), he’s going to get more and more into it.

Make Sure You’re Using A Good Lubricant

A handjob without lube isn’t going to feel very good at all. Make sure that when you’re giving your partner manual stimulation, that you have a generous amount of either water or silicone based lube on hand. Contrary to popular belief, saliva isn’t a lubricant.

Even if you produce enough saliva to completely coat his penis, it will dry out quickly and it really doesn’t feel that good. If you’re using a good lubricant during a handjob, it’s going to feel better for him (a lot better!) and it’s going to be much easier for you. You won’t have to work as hard to stroke his shaft up and down because the lube will make things smooth and slippery.

Use A Vibrating Bullet

Some guys don’t respond to vibrations on their penis, but some really do! Take a bullet vibrator and hold it in your hands while you give your man a handjob. It’s definitely a little different sensation, but if he likes vibrations, then he will REALLY like this! Another thing you can do with a vibrating bullet or egg is to place it firmly underneath his scrotum, right on the perineum. This will stimulate his prostate gland from the outside, which is a great option for men who are squeamish about anal sex or anal stimulation of any kind.

Remember that it’s okay to use props during a handjob – just because it’s a “handjob” doesn’t mean that you can’t use sex toys too – such as vibrators, anal stimulators, prostate massagers or even masturbation sleeves. In fact, a masturbation sleeve can feel divine for a guy getting a handjob – because so many of them feel close to the way a mouth or vagina feels – and it makes giving him pleasure completely easy and stress free.

Handjob Techniques

With the right attitude, some lube and maybe some props, giving a handjob doesn’t have to be about technique at all. However, for those women who really want a great technique to use to give their man an orgasm manually, these techniques are tried and true:

Twist And Shout

Grab the base of his penis and pull the skin tightly towards his groin. Use your other hand to stroke his shaft up and down (with lube), while rotating your wrist in a “twisting” motion. The idea behind this technique is that you’re tightening the skin and twisting – so it feels completely different than the way he masturbates himself.

Bookends

Place your palms together as though you were praying, and then slip your man’s penis in between your hands. Your hands should look like a pair of bookends on either side of his penis. Lightly put pressure on his penis as though you were pushing your hands together, and then move your hands up and down to stroke his shaft.

Add Some Great Products To The Mix

You can make a handjob even better for your man by adding some great products to the mix. For example:

  • Use a sensitizing lube to make his penis more sensitive and responsive to your touch
  • Use a male masturbator, such as the Super Head Honcho Masturbator by Adam & Eve
  • Use warming or cooling lubes to give him different sensations
  • If he really likes cool sensations, tease him with an ice cube

Remember that giving a handjob is all about having fun and giving your partner great pleasure. It doesn’t have to be perfect and it doesn’t even have to end in a climax – although, that is definitely a much anticipated bonus! Relax and have fun, and don’t worry about “doing it wrong” or things getting “boring.” Experiment with different techniques, lubes and props and a handjob will never be the same again – for you or your partner!

The Blowjob Move You’ve NEVER Heard Of

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Oral sex for men is something they really, really like – but it can also get boring . Think about it – you suck on his penis for awhile and he gets off. That’s it. You can change up your technique, but even after that, it’s pretty much the same each time. You really have to be on top of your game to keep him surprised each time you go down on him.

However, you can use this simple but never before heard of maneuver to send your guy to cloud nine. Next time you give your man head, think about doing something totally off the wall that he’ll never expect – but he’ll LOVE. Surprise your man by changing it up with this maneuver you NEVER knew about.

Start By Giving Normal Head

You’re going to start this oral sex technique by just going down on your guy like you normally would to get him warmed up. He’ll think you’re just giving him head like normal and won’t expect anything different than what you usually do. Besides, you want him to be kind of into it before you really surprise him, but honestly, what man isn’t into it from the get go?

Suck and lick his penis until he’s completely erect and is just starting to really enjoy what you’re doing. While any sex position will work for this super sultry technique, the better ones are with your partner either standing or sitting to receive his blowjob. This will give you more access and make it easier for you to effectively do the special technique.

Switch To Giving Him A Handjob

Once he’s in full enjoyment of the foreplay, switch to giving him a handjob. His penis should be plenty wet from your saliva, but you can also use flavored lube if you really want to get wet and wild. Please him with your hand for a few seconds while he wonders just what exactly you’re planning on doing next! Once you’re fairly sure he’s about to ask you what in the heck you’re doing, you can go on to the next phase of this titillating maneuver.

Then Lick His Balls

When you switched to giving your man a handjob, you probably wondered what the heck you were going to do with your mouth since this an oral sex technique and all. Take your mouth and snuggle right up to his scrotum. Lick the seam of his testicles with your tongue, and use your mouth to suck each of his balls in and out. This is a no holds barred maneuver, so don’t be afraid to get really chummy with his sack and make him think you’re French kissing it.

Do Both At The Same Time

The true trick here is to keep the handjob you’re giving to your man going as you lick and suck his scrotum and testicles. Most women handle their man’s testicles with their hands while giving them a blowjob, but you’re doing the exact opposite. He’s probably never had this done before, so it is sure to send your guy into absolute shock – he really won’t know what to do with himself!

If you’ve got a guy who also enjoys anal sex (and if you’ve got an extra hand), lube up your finger and massage his prostate too. The combination of different sensations are what will send him over the edge and into an earth shattering orgasm!

Things To Keep In Mind

Since you’re going to be up close and personal to your man’s scrotum, you’re definitely going to want to do this oral sex maneuver after he’s had a nice, long shower and has scrubbed his package very well. Make it extra special (and keep what you’re going to do a surprise) by hopping in the shower with him and scrubbing him up yourself! Why not start teasing him before you’re even ready to give him head? By the time you actually do get started giving him a blowjob, he’s going to be ready to bust!

Consider asking your man to shave his testicles if the idea of licking his balls when they’re hairy grosses you out. Let him know you have a sexual surprise for him, but you’d really like him to be soft and smooth first. Knowing that you’ve got something sexy up your sleeve will probably be enough to get any man to shave his nuts, even if he’s apprehensive about doing it. After you show him what you’ve got planned, he may just keep his testicles shaved!

How To Use A Masturbation Sleeve On Him

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Sex toys can spice up your sex life, but most of the time, people assume you’re referring to vibrators for women. In fact, the far majority of people believe that sex toys are just for women! The reality is that there are a lot of sex toys out there for guys, from cock rings to anal toys to masturbation sleeves. And not all of this is just for solo play – here’s how to use a masturbator on HIM!

Masturbation Sleeves Aren’t Just For Him

While the name “masturbation sleeve” gives people the idea that the product can only be used during masturbation, the truth is that a masturbation sleeve can actually be used during a handjob as well! If your partner has been apprehensive to the idea of bringing in a sleeve, trying it on him first during a handjob can warm him up to the idea. He may very well be surprised at just how good it feels! Instead of lubing up your hands next time for a handjob, slip on a masturbation sleeve instead and let the fun begin!

How It’s Better For You

Let’s face it – giving a handjob can be tiring. Especially if your man isn’t super sensitive. If you’re really trying to bring him to orgasm through a handjob, you could be there for thirty minutes or more pumping away. Plus, there are lots of different handjob techniques you need to learn if you really want to get good at it. Or, you can just bring in a masturbation sleeve!

  • Using sex toys on him during a handjob makes it much, much easier for you. You’ll notice that you don’t get tired as easily or that your hands and arms don’t cramp up as quickly.
  • No technique is really required when giving a handjob with a masturbation sleeve. The texture of the sleeve does it all for you.
  • Since the sensations are much, much more powerful, your man will reach orgasm much faster than if you were just using your hands.
  • It’s a great alternative to having sex if you really just don’t feel like putting out!

How It’s Better For Him

Using a masturbation sleeve on him during a handjob isn’t just easier for you, it feels better for him too! There are many benefits for him when using sex toys during a handjob instead of just your hands.

  • The soft material feels way better than your hands, especially when used with enough lube.
  • Many sleeves are textured inside to provide different sensations during use.
  • This is a good toy to use if you’re a novice, or haven’t had that much practice giving a handjob. A handjob can take forever if you’re not skilled at it, so save yourself the trouble (and make it feel better for him) by using a sleeve.
  • It’s great for him because using sex toys during a handjob will make it so much easier for you, you’re going to be willing to give him handjobs more often!

Advanced Techniques

There is so much fun to be had for both partners when using sex toys with each other. Even if it’s not a couples sex toy, such as in the case of the masturbation sleeve, you can still have a lot of fun using it on your partner and watching wave after wave of pleasure wash over them.

  • Try using it in the shower with a really thick, silicone based lube. Just make sure your toy isn’t silicone!
  • Try mutual masturbation on each other. Use the masturbation sleeve on him and let him use other sex toys, such as vibrators, on you!
  • You can also masturbate yourselves with these sex toys while watching each other. This is a great way to learn how your partner likes to be touched!

Recommendations

There are lots of different male masturbators out there on the market, and it can be confusing to find the right one. Pretty much, any masturbation sleeve is going to feel great for him, but there are some products out there that are going to give you better results.

Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Adam & Eve’s top selling masturbator. Has a wide mouth for insertion and lots of little nubs on the inside for extra pleasure. What makes this sleeve so great is that it’s super easy to clean – just flip it inside out and wash with warm soapy water or toy cleaner.

Climax Gems Crystal Handjob Stroker

Made from crystal clear Cyberskin, this masturbation sleeve will feel fantastic for him. One side is ribbed, while the other is studded, so you can flip it around for tons of different sensations. This one is also super easy to clean – which frankly, is a must for male masturbators!

Adam And Eve Pleasure Pearl Masturbator

This one has pleasure pearls deep inside that move around as you stroke this up and down the penis towards orgasm, but that’s not what makes this sex toy so unique. It is one of the only masturbation sleeves that include loops on the outside, which are slipped over the fingers and used as a handle! Guys who use masturbation sleeves know that things can get slippery sometimes!

Things To Keep In Mind

Keep in mind to use lots of good lube when using a masturbation sleeve on your partner. Check out what your sex toy is made from – silicone toys cannot be used with silicone lube. Water based lube is pretty much a safe bet for anything, so make sure to stock up before you get started. Male masturbators really can’t be used without lube!

Also, keep in mind that you will need to clean the sleeve properly after each and every use. Think about it – those things can get pretty nasty if you use them more than once without cleaning them in between uses! Most sleeves are easy to clean because you can flip them inside out, but if you choose other products such as a Fleshlight, you’re in for a little more cleanup. No matter which sex toys you choose though, the cleanup is well worth it!

How To Have Great Sex Without Penetration

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Sex isn’t all about penetration. It’s a common misconception that you have to actually have intercourse to have awesome sex, but the truth is, you can actually have wonderful physical intimacy with your partner while not bumping uglies at all! There is so much more to doing it than just “penis-in-the-vagina” – in fact, there are so many more enjoyable ways to experience your partner sexually while avoiding intercourse! Here’s how.

Why Couples Would Want To Skip Traditional Intercourse

You might be wondering why anyone in their right mind would want to skip out on the sex part of sex. There are, however, lots of couples who either can’t or don’t want to have traditional intercourse with each other for various reasons. Some couples may want to avoid unwanted pregnancy by not engaging in penetration (if they’re not using condoms or birth control) and other couples may be avoiding penetration for religious, spiritual or moral reasons.

After childbirth, women are often cautioned not to have sex for six weeks afterwards, leaving them at a loss on how to please their partners when sex is not an option. Other couples may not be a great fit physically down there and will get more enjoyment out of foreplay than actual intercourse.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is a great way to give your partner an amazing orgasm with no intercourse. Most people feel like oral sex is for foreplay only, but why not make it the main event? It is that great, after all! Take turns pleasuring your lover with your tongue and letting them do the same for you, or try the sixty-nine position and give each other simultaneous oral sex. You may not think it’s possible to feel completely satisfied after having only oral sex with your partner and forgoing intercourse, but the truth is, you might even have a better and more satisfying orgasm this way than through intercourse alone. Your partner will too!

Masturbation

If oral sex isn’t your thing or you’re just not ready to go there with your partner yet, think about masturbation. Not the flying solo kind, but the masturbating your partner with your hands kind. This is better known as fingering (if they’re a girl) and giving a handjob (if they’re a guy). Lots of people avoid this type of stimulation when they’re getting it on with their lovers because they feel like that manual stimulation is actually boring – especially since this is the kind of stimulation you get all the time when you masturbate alone.

However, you can give your partner amazing orgasms through manual stimulation! All it takes is time, a little hard work and lots and lots of great lube. Most people who don’t enjoy getting a handjob from their partner have forgotten that crucial component – lots of lube!

Sex Toys

If you’re not going to have intercourse with your partner, why not bring in some fun sex toys to play with instead? If she can handle penetration but just not with a penis (for example, if she’s trying not to get pregnant), try using a dildo or a vibrator. If penetration of any kind is out of the question, a clitoris vibrator can definitely come into play. This is a great way to give a woman an orgasm when avoiding intercourse, especially if oral sex or fingering isn’t your thing. Instead of letting her take care of herself with the vibrator (which a lot of guys do when they can’t do it with their ladies), take care of it for her and get off on her pleasure.

For the men, sex toys can also be beneficial when you can’t or don’t want to do it the traditional way. Male masturbators (also known as masturbation sleeves) can make giving him a handjob a lot easier, especially when you use plenty of lube. In fact, it will probably feel better for him too!

Kissing

If you’re avoiding sexual activity all together for whatever reason, don’t forget that you can stay physically intimate and close to your partner through kissing. Don’t just assume that the quick kiss you gave your lover before work will suffice – if you’re not having sex, take some time to have a really great and satisfying make out session with your partner.

Kiss your lover deeply and slowly, with no regard to how much time you have or what is going to come next. Simply enjoy the kissing experience for what it is and encourage your partner to do the same. When done right, kissing can be an extremely satisfying way to stay physically connected to your lover when you can’t get it on!

Is It Unhealthy To Masturbate Daily?

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Masturbation is a healthy and normal part of growing up for both men and women, but how can you tell when it becomes too much? Is it possible to have an addiction to it and if so, can you do serious harm to yourself by masturbating too much? Here’s what you want to know about masturbating and when and where to draw the line.

Question: I am 16 year old man and I masturbate once a day. I began masturbating when I was 12 – is that unhealthy or I will have problems in future? Thanks for your help!

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Masturbation Is Perfectly Healthy And Natural

Masturbation is a perfectly healthy and natural part of everyone’s sex life. Both men and women masturbate, although male masturbation is quite a bit more common than the female counterpart. However, learning how to pleasure yourself is an important part of going through puberty and can help you translate your sexual desires and preferences to your partners as you become sexually active. There are lots of benefits to self-love, including:

  • It helps relieve sexual frustration and pent up sexual feelings
  • It helps reduce unwanted erections
  • When done properly, it can help reduce or prevent premature ejaculation
  • Even daily masturbation can be helpful if you’re not addicted to it

How To Tell If You’re Addicted To Masturbation

There are many ways to tell if you’re addicted to masturbating, and they’re similar to the signs people exhibit when they’re addicted to anything, including sex, drugs, food and alcohol. If you think you might be addicted to pleasuring yourself, ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you think about it often? Is it the primary thing you’re thinking about throughout the day?
  • Do you find it difficult to focus on other things because you’re looking forward to it?
  • Do you plan your activities around the times you know you’re going to masturbate?
  • Are you masturbating so much that you’re causing your penis to become raw or painful?
  • Would you rather masturbate than have sex with your partner?

Even if you self pleasure often, that doesn’t automatically mean that you are addicted to it and need to stop. If you start noticing that all you really want to do is get it on with yourself, you’ve probably crossed the line. Masturbation should not rule your life!

What To Do If You’re Addicted To Masturbating

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions and you think you may be addicted to it, it’s okay to seek help. Addiction comes in many forms (it’s not just drugs and alcohol) and can seriously wreak havoc on your life if you don’t check out some resources that can help you tone down your addiction to masturbating.

If you’re not sure where to go to get help for a masturbation addiction, start by talking to your doctor. Don’t be embarrassed – your doctor has heard it all before and then some. Your doctor can do a thorough examination to determine whether you’re really doing harm to yourself by masturbating too much.

This will most likely only include a series of questions similar to those above rather than a physical examination unless you’ve got something going on down there (such as raw sores or bumps on the penis) that might be caused by excessive masturbation. Your doctor can refer you to someone that can help you talk through whatever issues you have that may be causing you to want to masturbate so often. Just remember that there is nothing wrong with seeking help for a problem and working towards bettering yourself!

Tips For Healthy Masturbation

If you’re masturbating once a day (or less, or more) and you’re not addicted to it, just enjoy it and enjoy the benefits that masturbating has to offer. If you’re leading an otherwise healthy and active life outside of your masturbatory activities, try not to worry too much about it. It’s a perfectly normal and healthy part of life for both men and women. There are, however, a few ways you can make it even better:

  • Use lube!
  • Oil, lotion, saliva or water are not good for pleasuring yourself. Lube is inexpensive, it’s readily available at just about any drug store or supermarket and it will make it feel so much better!
  • To use masturbation to prevent unwanted erections, stroke yourself until you’re at the brink of orgasm, then take a break. This technique will help you learn how to last longer and control your climax.
  • Try mutual masturbation with your partner so you can both get an idea of how best to pleasure the other.