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9 Handjob Techniques That Will Make Him Beg For More

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A handjob is often severely underrated by both guys and gals. Guys assume that if they can masturbate, why do they want to have their woman do it for them? Especially if he can have a blowjob or have sex instead? Girls often assume that guys don’t want a handjob for the very same reason. However, a handjob can be absolutely divine if done correctly. Here are nine handjob techniques that will make your man beg fore more.

Hold His Scrotum Right Before He Is About To Orgasm

Right before your man is about to have an orgasm, lightly grab hold of his testicles, cupping them in your palm. If he enjoys firmer pressure, feel free to grasp more firmly or tug a little, depending on what feels best for him. Having this extra stimulation on his scrotum will intensify his orgasm, as well as allow you to feel his ejaculation from beginning to end.

Have Him Thrust With His Pelvis

Instead of moving your hands alone while your partner sits or lies and receives his handjob, have him thrust with his pelvis while you hold your hands still. Not only does this make getting a handjob feel much different for him, it will also make him feel more in control of his climax. He may be able to reach orgasm faster this way, and it may be a technique you want to use if he takes a long time to reach climax through manual stimulation.

Form “Rings” With Your Thumb And Forefingers

Take your thumb and forefinger and touch them together, forming a “ring” with your fingers. Apply a generous amount of lube to your partner’s penis, and slip the “ring” over his shaft, moving it up and down. Tighten your fingers together as much as is pleasurable to your man. Doing this softly or firmly will change the sensations and you can mix it up between the two for different feelings. You can also increase the pleasure factor of this technique by using both hands – two “rings” instead of one.

Rub Only The Tip Of His Penis

This works well if your partner is uncircumcised or has a very sensitive penis. If he doesn’t and requires firm stimulation of his shaft or scrotum to reach climax, this technique will not work as well. To do this, place a dollop or two of lube in your hand and rub your palm in circular motions over the head of his penis. Hold his shaft with your other hand (or have him hold it for you) so that his penis stays in place. This technique can also be applied to a blowjob as well by simply keeping your mouth on the tip of the penis.

Use Both Hands

Instead of using one hand to give your lover a handjob, why not try using two? Rub the tip of his penis with one hand as indicated above, while massaging his scrotum or stroking his shaft with the other. He’ll love the sensation of two hands on his penis, because the majority of men only use one hand on themselves during masturbation.

Blindfold Him

While it’s true that men are visual creatures (duh – that’s why porn exists), sensory deprivation can be just as hot. Bring this element in to a handjob to make it extra sensational by blindfolding him when you start. The idea of not knowing what is coming next or exactly what you’re doing to create the sensations he’s feeling will get him hotter than ever.

Masturbate – With His Penis

To give yourself pleasure while you’re pleasuring him, try rubbing his penis against your clitoris. You can rub the length of the shaft on it or simply just rub the head of it against you. Either way, it will feel absolutely divine for both you and him. Just make sure you use lots of good lube so everything is nice and slippery.

Describe The Handjob To Him As You’re Doing It

Dirty talk is a great way to spice up just about any sex act, especially a handjob. Describe what you’re going to do to him before you do it, what you’re doing as you do it, what it feels like for you and how much you love it. Use lots of sensual, descriptive language like “hard” or “throbbing.”

Bring In Props

Don’t be afraid to bring a few sex toys into the bedroom when giving your partner a handjob. Male masturbators feel absolutely amazing for guys when used with lube, and cock rings can prolong his erection and make each sensation much more powerful. Experiment with different sex toys to change up the different styles of pleasure you can give him with your hands.

10 Foreplay Tips That Will Thrill Him Again And Again

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Foreplay is far from overrated – in fact, most guys wish their girlfriends and wives would give them more! Instead of giving your guy the usual blowjob before hopping on top of him for a quickie, bust out these new foreplay moves that will excite your guy and have him begging for more. These sultry foreplay tactics are fresh and fun, and will turn the heat up on your sex life!

The Wet T-Shirt

Throw on an old white t-shirt and panties (bonus points if the panties are white too) and hop in the shower for a few seconds. Make sure your t-shirt gets nice and wet so your nipples and the curve of each breast shows through. Tell your honey that you’re “freshening up” and that you’ll be right out. Watch his face as he catches a glimpse of his wettest fantasy.

Finger Yourself – While He Fingers You

When your man fingers you, start touching your clitoris. Then, move your hand down until your fingers are touching his. Slide one of your fingers into your vagina so it’s touching his. He’ll love the feel of your fingers moving together to bring you to orgasm!

Keep Your Hands To Yourself During A Blowjob

While grabbing at your man or running your hands all over his body during a blowjob is definitely hot, it can be even hotter if you keep your hands to yourself. Tie your hair back if you have long hair and go down on him with your hands behind your back. Make it even naughtier by allowing your honey to tie your hands himself.

Give A Handjob…With Gloves

Sure, giving a handjob with lube is great fun, but you can mix it up by using a pair of silky gloves instead. Your partner will love the feel of the soft satin or silk on his penis. Bonus points if you want to turn it into a fantasy dress up sex game – wear long evening gloves and a pearl necklace…and nothing else.

Undress In Front Of Him

While you may be too shy to give him an all out strip tease, let him see you undress after work. Leave the door cracked open and make sure you announce to your partner that you’re going to go change into something “more comfortable.” When you feel his eyes on you, undress slowly and deliberately, giving him a show that he thinks he’s getting on the sly. Give him a run for his money by changing into lingerie instead of your usual pajamas!

Playing Footsie

You may think that playing footsie with your partner is outdated, but it is most definitely a foreplay move that needs to make a return appearance. When out on a date with your lover, slip your stilettos off and run your toes up and down his leg. Look him deeply into the eyes and let him know exactly what you mean without saying a word. If you do want to say something, slip in some dirty talk about what you want to do to him when you get home.

Forgoing Underwear

Never underestimate the power that going commando will have over your lover. Even if you’re simply out at the grocery store, trim or shave your bush and leave your panties in the drawer. Make sure you bend over and let your partner get a glimpse before telling him that you must have “forgotten” your underwear at home when you got dressed. You’ll be on his mind until he can get your pants down and see the missing goods for himself!

Sucking On His Fingers

Give his fingers a licking next time you want to let him know you’re interested in giving him oral sex. Mimic what you do during a blowjob only using his fingers instead of his penis. Let him watch and make sure that you make plenty of eye contact with him. It won’t be long before he’s begging you to unzip his pants for the encore!

Public Foreplay

Public sex is a great way to ignite a fire in your sex life. You may think that if you have sex outside the comfort of your bedroom (or even your own home) that you’re bound to get busted, but the truth is, you’d be surprised at how many places in public there are to get busy without getting caught.

Sexy, Soapy Fun

If you’re not ready to venture outside the house for some naughty fun, why not try it out in the shower? Shower sex is amazingly different from regular sex – there’s nothing like feeling the hot water run down your body as your partner gives you oral sex!

Master His Secret Sex Zones – 6 Ways To Push His Pleasure Buttons

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Foreplay is absolutely essential for a woman to reach orgasm, but most men can reach orgasm simply through sex alone. That doesn’t mean that foreplay won’t drive him absolutely crazy though! Most women think that giving a quickie blowjob or a handjob is enough to get him warmed up, and most of the time it is. However, you can really take sex to the next level if you spend a little more time down there on the special spots that even he doesn’t know about. Learn how to push your man’s pleasure buttons with these simple techniques that will send him to the moon. He’ll be begging you for more before the night is through!

The Prostate Gland

The prostate gland, also known as the “male g-spot” is usually only accessible through the anal canal or by pressing on the perineum (the area between your partner’s scrotum and his anus) pretty firmly. Stimulating or “milking” the prostate gland during sex will heighten his sexual pleasure and may even cause him to have an orgasm immediately. An orgasm with prostate stimulation is incredibly powerful and is often considered the “best.” Try using a very small anal sex toy to stimulate his prostate gland during a blowjob, or you can use a finger if that is more comfortable for him. Remember to use lots of lube!

The Cremaster Muscle

The cremaster muscle is the muscle that draws the testicles in when your partner is cold and relaxes when he is warm and comfortable. You can stimulate this muscle during a blowjob or handjob by gently tugging on your partner’s scrotum while stimulating his penis. Make sure to communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t, because it isn’t hard to get a little too rough with his boys. Let him know that it’s ok to speak up if something doesn’t feel right – but especially if it feels good!

His Anus

The appeal of playing with the anus during sex is that it’s considered so “taboo” to do so. In addition to the psychological pleasure created by anal play, the anus is packed with nerve endings and can create great physical pleasure when stimulated. Some men are a little nervous about anal play or aren’t comfortable with it at all, so make sure your partner is ok with you touching his anus during sex or oral sex. Start by simply brushing your fingers lightly over the outside of his anus. If he wants you to insert a finger or a toy, make sure you have lube on hand.

His Earlobe

Many girls know that a man’s earlobe is a sensitive spot that shouldn’t be missed whether you’re kissing or having sex. Start turning him on by whispering what you want to do to him sexually, or simply just sigh heavily in his ear when you hug him. Flick the bottom of his earlobe quickly with your tongue before drawing it into your mouth and sucking lightly on it. This will drive him absolutely wild! He won’t be able to wait long until he wants you to do to his penis what you’re doing to his ear.

The Seam Of His Testicles

On a man’s scrotum, there is a line or a “seam” that separates the two testicles from each other. While this sensitive spot is packed with nerves that respond well to licking, touching and caressing, this spot is often missed by women everywhere. Take advantage of this spot when you’re giving your partner oral sex and lick up and down the seam while you’re gripping his testicles or the base of his penis. Try licking the seam while you’re giving a handjob at the same time if you really want to push his pleasure buttons!

His F-Spot

The F-spot is a little known but very powerful spot on man’s penis that can create waves of pleasure that will run up and down his body when stimulated. To find the F-spot, look on the underside of the penis where the head of the penis meets the base. This should look like an upside down “V,” and the F-spot is located at the point of the “V.” This spot is best stimulated while giving him head by flicking your tongue firmly against the spot while moving your hand up and down the base of his penis. The F-spot is a great way to pleasure your partner, but don’t try to stimulate the F-spot alone – it could make the rest of his penis feel left out in the cold.

4 Things NOT To Do To Your Man In The Bedroom

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There are tons of sex tips out there that tell you what you should be doing in the bedroom, what you need to try and how to make your sex life hotter. But there aren’t a lot of tips out there that tell you what not to do to your guy in the bedroom and many girls end up making some serious sexual mistakes simply because they don’t know any better. Rarely will these mistakes cost you a guy, but it’s possible. Here’s what to avoid in the bedroom so you can keep things going smoothly.

Spanking Or Slapping (Or Biting) Without Permission

Lots of guys love spanking, slapping and biting during sex and lots of girls love it too. But there are definitely some guys that think spanking, slapping and biting should never enter the budior. How can you tell if your man likes or doesn’t like getting a little slap on his tush as he’s thrusting without straight up asking him? You can’t. You might be tempted to try it in the heat of the moment, but doing so can definitely backfire on you if he’s not into whatever you did. In fact, it could kill the mood right then and there. If you want to try spanking or even biting, ask permission first. Let him know that it really turns you on and you’d love to try it with him. Chances are, he’ll give you the green light and enjoy it, but you definitely don’t want to suprise him out of the blue with something like that.

Calling Him Weird Names

Ok, most girls know this one but here it is for the few who aren’t sure. Don’t ever call him “Daddy” in the bedroom. Ever. Really, ever. And the same goes for strange names for him or his penis, including “manmeat, man sausage, horse penis, etc.” You get the picture. Although many of these strange names for different parts of his anatomy or nicknames for him crop up in erotic novels or porn, they actually don’t do that well in the bedroom in real life. Seriously, do you want him calling your vagina a “love hole” or telling you that he enjoys licking your “love juices” off your thighs? Instead, find better ways to tell him what you like or talk dirty to him. If nothing comes to mind, a few simple moans and groans will suffice. Anything is better than calling his member “man sausage.”

Forgetting To Use Lube

Believe it or not, lots of girls forget to use lube when giving a handjob or even when they’re having sex. Sure, when having sex, the vagina will naturally help lubricate things (rarely is it enough though) but forgetting to use lube when giving a hand job is a carnal no-no. Your guy might be too shy to tell you that it doesn’t feel good or even that it hurts, making you think that you’re doing fine when you’re actually ripping the skin off his penis. Ok, not really, but you get the idea. Handjobs without lube hurts. Sex without a good amount of lube hurts too. It’s much better to be safe than sorry, so keep a bottle of lube by the bed or a travel size bottle in your purse. It may sound silly, but you’ll be so glad you did. And so will he.

Forgetting How To Spit (Or Swallow) Discreetly

When giving a blowjob, you have to find something to do with his semen once he ejaculates. There are several options for you to choose from, however, it’s important to decide what you want to do before it actually happens. If you freeze up when he ejaculates because you don’t have a plan, you may very well ruin his orgasm. If you like to swallow, go for it. This is the easiest way to go and it’s virtually mess free. Just keep a glass of water by the bed if you do. If you want to spit, come prepared with a towel and do so discreetly after he’s enjoyed his orgasm. If you don’t want semen in your mouth at all, come prepared with some flavored lube that you can use when he’s close you can back off for a handjob when he’s about to have an orgasm. Whatever you choose to do, make sure you know what you’re going to do beforehand and come prepared. You could be the best blowjob giver in the world but if you choke when it comes to finishing him off smoothly and seamlessly, you really could ruin everything.

The Best Way To Please Your Man Sexually

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I often read about couples struggling with sexuality issues. In particular, I often encounter situations wherein the man gets blamed for the woman’s inability to reach orgasm during sex. Sometimes, the man passes blame on the woman by calling her frigid or a “dead fish” (ugh, I hate that term, it reminds me of something smelly). The truth is, both parties contribute something to the sexual encounter, and they should work on pleasing each other rather than coming up with reasons why sex wasn’t good.

One of the biggest challenges for women is how to be great in the bedroom. The modern woman knows that she should not be lying there waiting for the man to please her if she really wants hot sex. In a sense, sex is only good if you’ve done your share of pleasing. And, that’s what this article is all about.

Use Your Hands

Have you ever tried blowing your man and feel like your neck is going to give after a few minutes of bobbing up and down? So many women don’t realize that there’s an easier way to set the rhythm when they’re going down on a man. Letting your mouth do all the work is not the best way to do it.

Use your hands to set the rhythm. Grasp the base of his shaft with your dominant hand and slowly pull up and down, or use a twisting motion. When giving him a handjob, tightening your grip around the base of his penis is both exciting and pleasurable.

Your rhythmic movements, as well as the creative way you use your left hand (stroke his balls, play with his nipples etc), will make him climax faster.

Use Your Tongue

Your tongue is the wild card in the blowjob equation. When you’re using your hands to establish a good rhythm and your mouth is simulating the moist warmth of your vagina, your tongue can be used to increase stimulation from the inside.

Without missing a beat, dart your tongue across the head part of his penis. Repeatedly do this whether or not you’re taking him in your mouth or you’re just giving him a hand job.

Control Your Sucking

Too much sucking can be painful during oral sex, believe it or not. You see, a man is used to the gentle sucking movements of your vagina during penetration, and if you suck too hard during blowjob, it will hurt him bad. Moreover, if you suck to hard that the most sensitive part of his penis hits your teeth, he will bleed.

Use a soft sucking motion to draw him in, then continue to increase the sucking pressure gradually as you caress him with your hands and your tongue.

When you’re in bed with your man, watch out for instances when he moans loudly, or when he’s extra pleased with what you’re doing. Your man may not be the most expressive type of guy, so you have to rely on your intuition and power of observation to figure out what works for him.