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Foreplay 101 for HIM

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When it comes to foreplay, most articles out there are on foreplay tips for the benefit of women. However, you should know that if you treat your boyfriend/husband/lover to some great foreplay tricks of your own, you’ll be a sex goddess in his eyes because his orgasm will be extremely more powerful than before!

So, the next time you guys have sex, don’t be one of the women out there who ‘nag’ they don’t get enough foreplay. Instead, surprise him with pre-play moves that will make him treat you like a sex queen.

Foreplay Tip #1: Peak-a-Boo

Men are such visual creatures. Show them a nude photo, and blood gushes to their member. Hmmm, so what about presenting him with not just a nude photo of yourself but simply you, 100% nude.

How best to do it: Let us count the ways… try any of the tips below.

  • Just as he’s nice and comfy in bed, walk into the room in your birthday suit. (By the way, make sure your nipples are erect when you do this. Instant hard on!)
  • While fooling around in bed, straddle him and then slowly but surely, take off pieces of your clothing. You can torture him further by say, removing your bra, giving a glimpse of your nipples and then covering yourself up again. Agony!
  • Give him something to REALLY look at. Why settle for WALKING around naked when you can bend, twist, and turn yourself in various ways that he won’t believe what he’s seeing even if you’re right in front of him.

For the last tip be sure he gets to see everything but won’t be able to touch. Feed his eyes and maybe even his sense of smell… but don’t let him touch you. At least, not until he begs for it.

Foreplay Tip #2: Breathe On It

I bet you didn’t know how sexy and arousing your very own steamy breath on his exposed skin can be. The reason behind this is that your warm breathe will cause a temperature change on his skin, which in turn increases sexual arousal.

How best to do it: Engage in foreplay. When he’s already warm and aroused, go down and position your slightly parted lips to a sensitive area of his body such as his inner thighs, belly button, or the side of his neck, and then exhale your warm breathe on that spot.

You can also try the link-and-breathe approach. For example, lick the side of his neck and then exhale lightly on it. (Personally, my boyfriend loves it when I lick his lips and then exhale on it.) Another thing to try this trick on: lick his nipples and blow on it!

Now, go down and with his erect manhood standing mighty proud in front of your face, blow a steady jet of warm breath on his penis from top to bottom. Mind-blowing!

Foreplay Tip #3: Hustle!

Ok, so by now you know that both men and women will benefit greatly with a lot of foreplay. However, there is a difference; while women tend to go for slow seduction foreplay techniques; men tend to want more vigorous pre-play sessions.

I guess this is because most men tend to look at women as the ‘shy’ or ‘less animalistic’ one in bed. As such, if you unleash a more ‘raw’ you in bed, your man will be turned on all the more by this new, slightly more sexually aggressive you. You see, men take female aggressiveness in bed as assign of pure lust, which further fuels their desire. Besides, it’s A LOT of fun to be the one in control in bed every now and then, right?

How best to do it: Tonight, don’t be the timid one. Be the one to approach him and initiate sex. Be the one to kiss him roughly. And last, but definitely not the least, be the one to command what sex positions you guys should engage in.

For example, if he’s angling to go down on you, change sex positions and go down on him instead! OR maneuver in bed in such a way that he doesn’t go down on you but you sit on his face instead. Further, if he’s angling for the missionary, go ahead and beat him to it by going woman-on-top. And don’t just do the usual woman-on-top (where you face him), do reverse cow-girl where you face his feet.

I guarantee he won’t know what hit him in bed… but he’ll like it!

Foreplay Tip # 4: Tantalizing Touch

True, all men desire to have your lovely hands on their members but your lover can also receive a few other types of touches not just down there but all over his body. You see, men require a lot of hands-on stimulation and it should not necessarily all be focused on his penis.

How best to do it: Tonight, mix up your touchy feely moves. Flatten your palms and grope him all over. The warmth of your palms should make him feel warm all over too. Feel free to grab him too. For instance, run your palms all over his chest, reach down, reach back, and then grab a handful of his buttocks!

When he’s already undressed, run your palms slightly roughly across his chest and then very gently caress his erect nipples with your flat palms. The rough and then gentle approach will surely drive him wild!

You can also opt to need his back with long hand strokes or graze his sides gently with your fingernails. Mix up the sensations and he’ll be sexually dazzled he won’t know what to expect.

Foreplay Tip # 5: Push Him to the Brink

Nothing can be more sexually mind-blowing than ALMOST reaching a climax, ebbing, and then being brought up to that ‘almost there’ high again. Yes, tease your man tonight until he literally begs you for release.

How best to do it: Show him how romantic you are by drawing an imaginary heart shape over his groin with your lips! Trace the outline of his groin slowly by planting kisses and/or using your tongue. This will make him focus and pay sole attention to his groin. Now, perform fellatio. Just when you sense he’s nearing his release… let go of his member and go back to your lazy heart shape drawing again!

To up the ante, ride him for all you’re worth. And just when he – or you! – are about to come, let go and engage in some hot, passionate kissing. Then go back up on that horse again for the next round!

For Added Pre-Play Pleasure, Try These Toys

Following is a list of unusual sexual stimulants that you may want to try too to add more fun to your foreplay.

Snapshots. Let him play with is camera and snap a picture of you… naked… while on top of him.

Wigs. Walk into the bedroom with nothing on but a completely different wig. He’ll think you’re somebody else… and you get to be somebody else in bed too.

Stockings. Bondage sounds such a harsh word. Tonight, wear a sheer body suit and as he peels it off your body, whisper something like “honey, why don’t you tie my hands and show me who’s my daddy?”.

RED, very red lipstick. I know what you’re thinking, draw lazy circles and cute heart shapes all over his body, right? You can do that… OR write down dirty words all over his body. I bet your man prefers the latter!

3 Mistakes That Women Make On How To Give A Massage Handjob

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Even if you consider you and your partner to have an amazing sex life, there will come a point when you as a woman will not be in the mood to go all the way with him.  Or, it could be that you just don’t have the time – but what if you want to help him release some of the sexual tension that he is feeling?

This is where a massage handjob comes in, well, handy. For the most part, your goal should be to stroke him using both of your hands until he reaches a satisfying climax.  But if this is your goal, why is it that there are still some women who commit blunders when trying to give their man some manual loving using their hands?

If you want to keep his fire stoked, make sure that you will steer clear of the top 4 mistakes that women make when learning how to give a massage handjob.

Mistake #1: Leading Him On Endlessly & Not Delivering The Goods

Remember that most men want handjobs to be quick and satisfying. As such, you should make sure that when you start stroking his penis, your goal is also to give him a quick and satisfying orgasm.

Sure, you can tease his body a bit first just to get him hard before you zero in on his penis – but the main event should not last forever – otherwise, he may end up wanting to be inside your mouth or to go all the way through penetrative sex.

Mistake #2: Not Being Firm Enough

When you’re pleasuring yourself, you do have a secret touch, stroke or rhythm that drives you over the edge, right? For men, the same thing applies. So if you want to give him a really good handjob, make sure that you know the exact pressure to apply to his penis.

The shaft shouldn’t be handled like it’s an expensive vase – rather, think of it as a beer bottle that you would be gripping firmly and solidly.  Better yet, let him show you the type and tightness of a grip that he wants to be applied to his penis so that you can end things quickly, with a bang.

Mistake #3:  Not Talking To Him While Doing It

Learning how to give him a massage handjob is as good a time as any to polish your dirty talking skills. Don’t bombard him with questions like “Are you about to come?”.  Instead, tease him with images of what you would like to do with him later on when you have more time to engage in some real, hot and sweaty sex.

Steer clear of the top 3 mistakes that women make when giving men a massage handjob – and he’ll practically be your willing slave once you manage to send him over the edge with highly satisfying results.

Now that you already have an idea about the top mistakes that women make on how to give a massage handjob, visit our site to get a blow-by-blow account on how you can tease and stroke him towards one of the most satisfying orgasms of his life.

How To Give A Handjob: A Quick Guide On How To Give Him Some Manual Love

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If you still think that sex is all about pumping away between your bed sheets during the act, think again. There’s a myriad of other sex techniques which will enhance your sex life and give each other the ultimate pleasure.

For women, giving men a handjob is probably a skill that they are not too familiar with.  Most of them fumble through the process while learning how to give a handjob. Otherwise, their grips are too limp, too tight, the pace is not something that men would like – in short, their techniques really need to be worked on.

Now, if you want to return the favor and be good at giving your man some love through manual masturbation, read the following guide to know exactly how you should go about doing it.

Step 1: Familiarize Yourself With His Penis

The first rule if to familiarize yourself with his penis – its length, girth, shape, whether it is curved or straight. By doing so, you will know which handjob techniques are best applied.

For example, if your man has an unusually large girth, there’s a big possibility that giving him a handjob with just one hand will not do the trick. For this, you should learn how to manually masturbate him using both hands.

Step 2: Be Somewhere Comfortable And Start Roaming Your Hands Down There

Although there’s a rule that men only need three to five minutes of direct stimulation to reach an orgasm, you don’t want things to be over for him too fast. Engage in some foreplay before roaming your hands down there.

Engage in some hot necking and petting, play with his nipples and put your hands all over his body before focusing all your attentions down south.

Step 3: Start Giving Him A Handjob

Men absolutely love it when women worship their penises – and this is a skill that you should definitely master. At first, feel the fullness of his erection and slowly let your fingers run from his balls.  Using a slow, upward motion, swirl your fingers around the head of the shaft and slide it back down.

Make sure to do the up and down movements in a smooth motion – without bumping or stalling along the way.

Step 4:  Focus On The Most Sensitive Parts Of His Penis & End Things With A Bang

Once you’ve hit a comfortable pace, bring your palm up to the top of the glans and spin your fingers around – this should make him groan in pleasure because this part is extremely sensitive. Don’t ignore his testicles – roll them up the underside of the shaft.

There are a number of ways that you can end things with a bang – but what’s important is to keep up what you’re doing until he groans in pleasure and reaches his orgasm.

Tips

When giving him a handjob, make sure to use plenty of lubricant to make things as smooth sailing as possible.

If your partner is having problems maintaining an erection, check out the many creams and lotions which are available in online and physical sex shops. The tingling sensation of the cream or lotion that you will apply should help bring him to a raging hard on.

Warnings

When you are playing with his family jewels, make sure that you never squeeze them – especially when you’re in the middle of a particularly smooth motion with your fingers. This can put a hamper on things and delay his orgasm.

3 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Brushing Up On Their Skills On How To Give A Handjob

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Whether it’s the cramps, the fact that you feel unattractive because you’re still trying to lose the baby weight, you’re PMS’ing or you just plain are not in the mood, there will come a time when you’ll say no to your man’s request to have sex.

If you don’t feel like it, why deny him the pleasure of experiencing sexual relief? If you don’t want to tangle the sheets with him through penetrative sex, you have a perfectly suitable pair of hands to help him relieve the ache.

Besides, even if you are not in the mood, learning how to give a handjob is an essential skill that every woman should learn if she wants to be great in bed. Whether it’s the main event or part of your foreplay, there are a few mistakes that a lot of women make when it comes to giving men handjobs.

Read on to find out what blunders in bed you should not commit when giving him some ‘manual’ love.

Mistake #1: Looking Bored While Doing It

Remember that men are visual creatures. If your goal is to get him to have an orgasm through a handjob, make sure that you are feeling it as well. Despite the fact that it will only be your hands which will do the participating in the major event, don’t look bored while doing it.

Watch how aroused he is getting with your hand’s ministrations. Who knows, you might get aroused by the act of giving him a handjob that you may want to join in the fun later on.

Mistake #2: Not Being Creative Enough On Where To Do It

If you want to be the girlfriend that your man will never forget, you should learn how to surprise him by being game in giving him handjobs in unusual places. The risk of being caught while giving him a handjob while in a semi-public place will add to the thrill, and will definitely amp up the level of sexual excitement for him.

Mistake #3:  Focusing All Your Attention To The Shaft

Surprisingly enough, a man’s penis has several sensitive areas that you should not ignore while giving him a handjob. Make sure that you will pay equal attention to his balls, the scrotum, the head of the shaft, the glans and the corona.

Be sensitive to his responses and if you’re both game, you can watch him masturbate himself beforehand. This can be extremely arousing for both of you, and it will give you an idea about the strokes and pace that he likes – tricks that you can use to help him reach an orgasm the next time that you give him a handjob.

Remember that sex involves more than just penetration. There are a lot of pleasures that you both can enjoy in between the act itself, and learning how to give him a handjob is one of them.

Now that you know about the top mistakes that women make on how to give a handjob, visit our site to get a step-by-step guide on how to literally handle him and give him an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

How to Give a Blowjob: 3 Steps that You can Follow to Give Him an Earth Shattering Orgasm Using Your Mouth & Hands!

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When it comes to the aspect of giving a man sexual pleasure, learning how to give head is probably the ultimate skill that you can attain. Nothing turns on a man more than the sight of a woman going down on her knees and worshipping his penis with his point of view.

As such, it would definitely be an improvement with your sexual skills as a lover if you know how to send him to an earth shattering orgasm using your mouth and hands. Read on to find out exactly how to give a blowjob to a man – and turn him into your willing slave!

Step 1: Use Your Hands & Mouth To Heat Things Up

This is probably the equivalent of a man indulging in some foreplay before getting it on with you in the sack. If you want to start heating things up, stroke his body parts and tease them with kisses, licks and love bites.

Begin with his chest, neck, abs and work your way down south. Once you reach that area below the belt, try to tease him first by staying away from his inner thighs and just zeroing in on your target when he least expects it. 

Step 2: Use Your Tongue To Get Things Going 

By now, he should already be anticipating the sensation of having your mouth on his penis. Once you finally give it to him, start by making a licking motion with the flat of your tongue on the head of his penis. Tease the underside of the shaft with little flicks and forays, before taking him slowly into your mouth. 

Step 3: Get Down On It

As you take his penis into your mouth, you should use a combination of hand and mouth techniques to send him over the edge. Whatever part of the shaft you cannot take into your mouth, use your hands to create an up and down motion which is in harmony with how you are sucking on him. This will give him a sensation that you are actually taking his entire shaft into your mouth.

Don’t forget to tease his balls – don’t squeeze, just rub them gently against his shaft. Also, use a combination of licking, flicking and hand motions to send him to a climax.

When giving a man a blowjob, keep in mind that there’s no one set of rules to follow – just use his body language as a guide to know when he’s about to come – and intensify things from there.
Tips

Men are visual creatures, so treat him to that oh-so-arousing sight of you on your knees, worshipping his penis – by looking directly into his eyes while giving him a blowjob.

Warnings

Cover your teeth with your lips – nothing feels worse for a man than to have your teeth grazing the skin of his shaft – so closely guard those fangs.