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How To Keep Her From Getting Bored With Sex

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Sex CAN get boring after awhile if you’re not working hard to introduce variety into your sex life. Here’s how to stop her from yawning when getting it on.

It’s Not Easy To Give Her The Big O

As you have probably noticed, making a woman orgasm is not as easy as they make it look on TV. The one spot that you’re sure will lead to climax is the size of an eraser, and it won’t get all worked up over just anything. You’re a man. You’re used to the penis which works like a rifle: load it, point it, shoot it.

A woman’s trigger is far more difficult than that. You have to find it, but you’ll never find it if you don’t prepare her first. Once you do find it, it’s inexplicably moving all over the place on you, and you get frustrated because all the blood you need to make your brain function correctly has rushed into your penis. How on earth are you supposed to please a woman if you can’t even figure out her body?

Keep Trying!

There is one technique that will help you through this: don’t give up! I’m not saying that every single time you must work until you make her orgasm. That can be irritating. However, if the both of you are consistently giving up on her orgasm, it’s red alert time, pal. The more she doesn’t reach climax, the more the idea of having sex with you becomes a chore.

She understands that sex is an important part of a relationship’s function, so she will do it even if she doesn’t get much out of it. Additionally, if she’s having sex with little pleasure, you may feel closer to her, but she will be frustrated with you. Perhaps the stereotype of the harpy wife isn’t so much to do with the fact that women are lunatics as it is that men grow lazy in the bedroom over time? How nice are you when you haven’t gotten off in months?

How To Get HER To Want It From YOU

Think about it this way: you know that working out is vital to your health. However, when you are out of shape, it’s all you can do to make yourself get to the gym. When you’re strong and fit, you like to work those muscles out, and you look forward to physical activity. It’s the same with sex.

If a woman’s clitoris is not getting a consistent work out, there is not much incentive to have sex. When she’s coming on a regular basis, then her clit can’t wait to be touched! If you give her the proper stimulation, she may actually be begging you for sex every once in a while!

3 Foreplay Strategies That Will Leave Her Breathless

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Foreplay is the #1 thing that women need to have great sex. Learn these three foreplay techniques that will make her putty in your hands.

Women seem to have an amount of sexual self control that men just can’t wrap their minds around. They can tease and play to the point where you are sporting some serious blue balls, and she hasn’t even gotten wet. Guess what, you can beat her at her own game. You just need a good game plan. Here’s a quick guideline to driving her mad for you.

The Prize

Guess what, buddy, you are the prize, and you probably never hear that. Women’s magazines are inundated with advice about how to love yourself. It’s practically all Oprah talks about. However, men don’t often get the same encouragement. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t hear it. You have something to offer. Sex with you is unlike sex she has had or will have with anyone else. Keep this in your mind on the way to the bedroom. There is nothing more arousing than confidence. If you’re unsure or apologetic, she will sense it, and it will make everyone uncomfortable.

The Strategic Back-Off

So you are at the point where you are definitely going to have sex. A man’s first instinct is to get in there, and get the job done. Yes, this is fun. For you. For around three and a half minutes. However, you can make it better. For the both of you. Instead of ripping her clothes off and diving in penis first, ease into it. Pull the straps of her dress down, and kiss her shoulders. Then push her straps back up, and kiss her mouth. If you’re about to head downstairs, pause to nibble around her belly and inner thighs. A woman’s sexual experience is multi-sensory. Every touch, caress, and kiss sends shocks through her body. You can drive her to near insanity.  Isn’t it more fun for her to beg for sex?

The Payoff

The Payoff is really, really good sex. It’s not just good sex for her, but for you, as well. When you tease her, you are teasing yourself. You may want to lick her lips or suck her breast more than anything, but if you wait until the point where you just can’t hold off anymore, the taste of her mouth and her breasts is even sweeter. If you’re running your lips across her inner thigh, savoring her flesh before you pleasure her, then your own sexual energy builds and builds. The more it builds, the more it releases, giving you a more intense, satisfying orgasm.

How To Be The Most Confident Lover She’s Ever Had

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Sex is something men love.  That’s hardly news. But what is the difference between getting it on and having the best intercourse ever? Use your brain. Yes, that is the answer. Your brain is the greatest powerful sex organ you have. Thinking about intercourse and understanding what you like is an important but commonly overlooked, step in being great at sex.

When Sex Is More Than Just Doin’ It

Men tend to react simply and physically to arousal: “I see a hot girl. I want to have sex with the hot girl.” Transforming that into mind blowing intercourse means getting to know yourself, and I don’t just mean manually. Understand who you are as a sexual being. These days, men are bombarded with sexual imagery. Porn is readily available. Half-naked girls are constantly bouncing across your TV screen and through the pages of magazines. As a result, men tend to take their sexual cues from outside sources. While new ideas are always welcome, it is important to explore the real reasons behind your arousals, and thrilling ways to satisfy them.

Expand Your Ideas About Sex

Let’s take the hot girl from before. You already know you want to get it on with her, but what is that going to look like? Ask yourself some questions:

  • How do you want to touch her?
  • How do you want her to touch you?
  • What are you hoping to achieve during your encounter (besides orgasm)?

What Turns You On?

Understand what turns you on and why, and learn how to communicate it. Being great at sex works in both your favors. For example, if you love performing oral sex, your partner has the benefit of being in bed with someone who is completely engrossed in the task at hand. She may reach orgasm several times before you’re done. However, if that is something you’re not into, your partner will sense it, and that is uncomfortable for everyone involved.

Getting to know yourself sexually is valuable in understanding your own comfort zone. The kinkiest of kink may be intriguing on screen, but that doesn’t mean it translates well into real life. Understanding your sexual boundaries and how to communicate them to your partner will help you avoid unsatisfying encounters.

The brain is a powerful organ. Your body only reacts the way the brain instructs. When you understand the satisfaction of the intercourse you’re having in your mind, you can bring it to the bedroom. You will be a more self assured with sex, allowing you to satisfy both yourself and your partner better than ever.

Top 10 Best Dangerous Places To Have Sex

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Sex can be a lot of fun when you have it in different places – moving out of the bedroom can be all you need to bring back the spark between you and your lover. Many people love the thrill of having public sex, and some even love the idea of having sex in dangerous places. Here are the ten most danger filled places to get busy.

**Disclaimer**

Sex in the places named in this article can be very dangerous and could result in you or your partner getting very seriously hurt or dying. Proceed at your own risk.

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High Up In A Tree

Take hunting to the next level by having sex in a tree stand. Or, if you really like to rough it, just make your next tree climbing adventure a little more sexy! Be aware that you could fall out – which can really hurt if you’re high up! Bonus points if you have a tree house to spend the night in.

On Top Of The High Diving Board Over An Olympic Size Pool

The views from a high dive are amazing, and having sex on the high dive can make you feel like you’re floating above the pool with almost nothing holding you up. This one can end badly though – if you have rough sex or get going too fast, you may very well fall off and into the pool. A back or belly flop may not be the worst thing, but if you hit the concrete, you’re in trouble.

While Rock Climbing

If you really want to connect with nature while feeling the thrill of having sex in a dangerous place, try having sex while rock climbing. Don’t try this on your first rock climb though – get to know the area and become experienced with rock climbing before trying to get busy on the ropes. If you do, make sure you and your lover are completely harnessed and that you have a third party around to call an ambulance if things end badly.

While Skydiving

You probably can’t get much more than a handjob or possibly oral sex in while skydiving, but the thrill is the same nonetheless. Again, don’t try to do this on your first skydive. Get a feel for it before you decide what can and can’t be accomplished on a dive.

In A Bucket Truck As High As The Bucket Will Go

This one is a little safer than some of the other suggestions here, but still carries risk with it regardless. If you know someone who owns a bucket truck, ask if you can borrow it for a few hours to “cut a tree limb” in your yard. Push the bucket up as high as it will go and join your partner for a sexy romp in the sky. Make sure to harness yourself in with the proper equipment!

On The Back Of A Pickup Truck While Going Down The Freeway

This one is just plain risky and can end very badly if there’s a wreck or the hatch in the back falls down. Bring a blanket with you and find a way that you can tie or belt yourselves in if you absolutely must try it.

On Top Of A Moving Train

Again, this one is very, very risky. There’s really no way to make this safer, because you can’t belt yourself in or use safety harnesses in any way. If you must have sex on top of a train, try doing it when the train is at the station and you can just pretend you’re moving.

In A Window Washing Basket

If you really like the idea of having public sex, a window washing basket is going to be right up your alley. There is some risk associated here, so make sure you’re strapped in properly before getting it on. The idea of doing it right in front of a window with no holds barred can be extremely erotic!

On The Ledge Of A High Rise Building

Much like having sex on a moving train, there really is no way to make doing it on the ledge of a high rise building any safer. Try doing it up against the window and looking out at the street below instead – or you may just fall off the ledge and be falling towards the street below head first!

In Your Car In The Summer With The Windows Up

Sweaty sex is good sex, but there’s a line that is crossed when you consider having sex in your car in the summer with the windows up. You could definitely experience heat stroke and pass out, dying of heat suffocation before you can come to. If you must have sex in your car in the summer, crack the window!

Dirty Talk Done Right

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Dirty talk can spice up your sex life, but it’s hard to know what to say and when to say it. If you say the wrong thing, it’s easy to turn a woman off or offend her. Sometimes you can rectify a mistake like that and sometimes you can’t. It’s much better to avoid the blunder in the first place. Here’s how to do dirty talk – the RIGHT way!

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Girls Love Dirty Talk

Believe it or not, almost all women love dirty talk. They may blush or shy away, but in all honesty, they really do like it! Some women may prefer a more romantic style, while others want to hear hardcore details and expletives. Regardless of what style a particular girl prefers, almost all women love hearing something while doing the dirty.

The right language in the bedroom will help a woman to open up mentally and emotionally, which is necessary for her to become really turned on and reach orgasm. So learning the right things to say to a woman while you’re getting it on is going to benefit both you and her!

How To Tell What She’ll Like And What She Won’t Like

Not every girl is going to like the same thing when it comes to dirty talk. In fact, some phrases that will turn a woman on without you even touching her may be something that another girl is completely offended by. Don’t assume that the dirty talk phrases that worked for one woman is going to work just as well for another.

Get To Know Her

This is one of the biggest benefits to a long term relationship or marriage. When you really get to know a girl, you start to understand the way her mind works. You’ll begin to understand what she does and doesn’t like in the bedroom and why. This will help you to find the right things to say when using dirty talk during sex.

How Does She Normally Talk?

Pay attention to how she speaks. Does she use a lot of expletives or does she talk more demurely? Does she speak differently to you than other people? Does she show you a side of her that is different than what she shows her parents or co-workers? Take your cues directly from her. If you’ve never heard her say a swear word, she’s probably going to be pretty offended if you drop the F-bomb in the sack. However, if she likes to get a little wild with her language sometimes, she’s not going to enjoy you talking about what you’re going to do to her “vagina.”

How To Get Started

Experiment with different words in the bedroom (or wherever else you like to have sex) and gauge her reaction to them. If you’ve already gotten to know her and have taken your cues from the language she usually uses, you’re probably not going to strike out here. Still, you want to gauge her reaction to see if what you’re saying to her is actually turning her on, or if it’s turning her off.

A great way to get started is to tell her what you want her to do to you. Lead by example first, and describe to her what you’d like her to do – either with soft or explicit language, whichever you feel she will respond best to. Then later, you can try flipping the tables to see if she will do the same for you. After you lead her into it, she may get incredibly turned on and start talking dirty too!

Does She Like To Talk Or Listen?

While most women do enjoy dirty talk, not everyone is going to enjoy both talking and listening. She may just enjoy one or the other. Get to know her to determine what she likes better, or if she really does like both. This is part of feeling it out as you get started. You’ll notice her respond better either when she’s doing the dirty talking or when she’s listening to you describe in detail what you want her to do to you or what you’re going to do to her.

Take The Risk

Dirty talk is a lot of fun and if you pay attention to your girl and really read her, it’s unlikely you’re going to say the wrong thing. It’s definitely worth the risk – so take it! You’re never going to know how much you can turn your partner on with dirty talk until you actually take that first step and do it!