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3 Things All Men Need To Know About The G-Spot

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If there’s one topic about sexual health which is controversial, that is none other than the female G-spot. Some experts say that there is such a thing as a G-spot which brings a woman earth-shattering orgasms when stimulated. However, there’s this other part of the spectrum wherein skeptics say that the G-spot does not even exist. Tantric sex practitioners believe that this ‘sacred’ spot is like the Holy Grail when it comes to the erogenous spots which turn a woman on.

But whether it exists or not, what’s important is that men can use the G-spot to bring their partner to the ultimate in sexual heights. Read on to find out more about the G-spot.

The G-Spot, and Nothing But…

First, let us try to delve deeper into what this controversial G-spot is all about. This is actually named after gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg who discovered the part within a woman’s vagina which is able to bring her to the peak of sexual heights way back in 1944.

The G-spot is more of a zone than just one particular spot – and it’s located right inside the vagina, about one to two inches within the frontal wall. If you insert a finger within the vagina, you should make a come hither motion and look for a bean-shaped tissue which feels rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall.

The sensations that a woman is bound to feel when her G-spot is stimulated actually depend on the individual. For some women, the G-spot is indeed the Holy Grail of all her erogenous zones which can provide hours of mind-numbing pleasure. For some, stimulating the G-spot too much may produce a sensation like you need to urinate – while others do not seem to be sexually affected by the G-spot at all.

Now, from a man’s perspective, it might be a bit difficult to bring your partner to great sexual heights through her G-spot if she herself does not know whether she has it or not. So communication is an essential key here. Just as it is when exploring a different aspect of your sex life, familiarizing the both of you with the female G-spot should be a fun and shared experience that will bring you closer together.

The Top 3 Things That Men Should Know About The G-Spot

So here are the top three things that men should know about the G-spot:

1. What to do with the G-spot

Now that you already have a basic idea about where the G-spot is located, the next thing that you need to know about is what exactly you should do with it. Basically, the best way to stimulate the G-spot is by stroking it directly or making a tapping motion using your fingertips once you’ve managed to locate it.

As mentioned earlier, you can use your forefinger and make a come hither motion once your finger is inserted about a couple of inches inside her vaginal wall. It should be pointing towards the direction of her belly button.

2. How to feel the G-spot during intercourse

The next thing that every man should know about when it comes to the G-spot is how to feel it during intercourse. Since your penis does not have the dexterity of your fingers, you would need the help of a woman in order to be in a position wherein her G-spot will be stimulated.

A woman-on-top position, a rear entry position and the doggy style position are all geared towards giving her a G-spot orgasm. These sexual positions will benefit you, too, in such a way that the variety will be as much of a turn on as knowing that you are both working towards each other’s pleasures.

3. The role that G-spot stimulation plays in female orgasms

Finally, it helps for men to know just how important a role the G-spot plays in female orgasms. A lot of women claim that they experience female ejaculation or female orgasms when the G-spot is stimulated.

All in all, familiarizing yourself with the G-spot is just one of the many aspects of sex that you can explore together as a couple. Whether your female partner thinks that she has it or not, what’s important is that the process of discovery will be highly, sexually stimulating for the both of you.

How to Finger A Girl

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There’s a real, hot sexiness to being able to bring your woman to a climax by just using your fingers.

Consider the fact that her body is – literally – under the command of your fingers and that you are able to WATCH her intently as you bring her to writhing pleasure.

Now, isn’t that sexy and hot?

Here are some tips on how to finger a girl:

Pre-Fingering Foreplay

Surprisingly, not all women like to be fingered by their lovers. This can be due to many reasons such as issues about hygiene, trust and may be even fear.

If your partner has some of these issues, it may be wise to pre-discuss the topic of fingering beforehand just to ensure that she’s at least open to the idea of it happening. Otherwise, you can slowly introduce fingering as you make love.

But before that, here’s rule No. 1: engage in foreplay! Foreplay ensures that you and your partner are in the right sexual frame of mind and body needs, making her just possibly a bit more open to being fingered.

Explore The Landscape Gently

If this is your first time to finger her, then ensure that you do everything you can to avoid any hang ups. For instance, ensure that your nails are cut and that your hands are clean (takes care of the issue of hygiene).

But more importantly, be gentle in your finger exploration. A woman’s body is all warmness and softness, right? As such, don’t go in there like an excited teenager. Instead, be respectful of her body as you go in and explore.

Also, using your fingers to simulate a woman’s genitals is not just about insertion. Be sure you pay attention to her labia (genital lips) and clitoris too.

Experiment With Different Textures, Pressures, And Movements

Not all parts of a woman’s genital area can be stimulated in the exact same way. For instance, a lot of women like their labia to be gently caressed, their clitoris to be rubbed and their G-spots to be tapped.

Now – again – not all women are the same so find the right combination that your lover finds the most sexually stimulating. And of course, as you try all these different sexual stimulation combos, don’t forget to pay attention to her! Moaning is good, jerking is not.

Time Is Of No Consequence

Don’t go about fingering your woman with a certain time frame in mind. You may ‘hit the jackpot’ right away, maybe not. Just give both yourselves time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the journey is as good as the destination.

How To Deal With Fingering Fatigue

In the course of your exploration, you might find yourself getting a tad tired but don’t give up and especially, don’t just stop and leave your lover in the cold! If you’re feeling a bit tired, try any of these: switch hands if you can, stop finger stimulation and go oral for a few minutes, stop finger stimulation and use a sex toy for a while, and others.

More Tips on How To Finger A Girl

  1. Lube, anyone? Finger stimulation works best if your partner is really wet. If not, ensure you have a healthy backup of lube ready for use.
  2. Learn and be a voyeur at the same time. Not sure how to please her down there? If so, ask her to masturbate in front of you so that you learn how to pleasure her exactly the way she wants it.
  3. Learn when to stop. As you become more and more enthralled about bringing your lover to an orgasm just by using your fingers, it’s equally important to know when to stop trying. Too much friction can actually numb her genitals and when that occurs, reaching a climax is almost next to impossible so better stop now… and start again another day.
  4. Learn effective fingering techniques! Head over to the link below to learn 2 step-by-step “Advanced Fingering Techniques” to bring your lover to multiple escalating orgasms.

4 Fingering Methods That Will Get Your Girl Off Every Time

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Fingering your girlfriend will probably take you back to high school. However, fingering can be one of the most erotic ways to give your girlfriend or wife an orgasm. Sometimes using your fingers can make your girl orgasm even harder than using your penis or your mouth. If you have never been the best at fingering a girl, there are a few things that you can do to put a smile back on her face.

Knowing the right amount of tempo, speed and the amount of fingers to use while you are performing this act is essential to pleasure. While there are a lot of techniques that you can use there are five that are almost guaranteed to bring your girl to orgasm.

1. The Clitoral Rub

The clitoris is the main point of stimulation for every woman. The clitoris is located on the outside of the vagina at the upper part of the lips. The clitoris looks like a small bean and you may have to push back her lips in order to find it.  One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is giving her a dry rub.

Have you ever had a girl give you a dry hand job? How did it feel? More than likely you were begging the girl to stop within a couple of seconds. The same goes for women. Before you start to rub her clitoris, make sure that you wet your fingers. If she is already wet, you can use her natural lube. If not, use a little bit of your own spit. Rub it slowly to begin with and then work your way up to a quicker motion. Gauge her response and you will be in the clear.

2. The Standard

Fingering is typically two fingers inside of her vagina going in and out. While this isn’t the most creative way to get her off, this is a standard for a reason. Use your index and pointer fingers to enter her. Make sure that your fingers are wet and use lube if needed. Spit works well too, but lube is a great way to speed up the process of getting her wet, especially if you think that you’re going to have sex after you finger her.

Don’t shove your fingers all the way inside her. Make sure you are working your way inside and touching the top of her vagina. Curl your fingers inside her so that you are kind of scraping the top of her vagina. Do this about 3 inches in and you will be touching her G-spot. The G-spot is known to give women some of the deepest orgasms of their life. If you have never found the G-spot, it’s a fleshy patch of skin about 3 inches inside and on the top of her vagina. You will know when you start to touch it.

3. Two Hands

Using both of your hands to finger her is another method that works extremely well. This is basically the standard method while rubbing her clitoris with your other finger. This is going to take some practice. Knowing how to use both hands together is not something that you are going to get right off the bat.

It’s best to start out with the clitoral rub and then work your way up to the standard method of fingering her. You want to be careful when you are using this method. Some women will find that they love this amount of stimulation, however, other women will not like having this much stimulation to the vagina. Everyone is different and they like different things. Starting out slow will give you the ability to gauge how much stimulation your girlfriend actually likes.

The Two-Hand Alternative

The two-hand alternative can come in handy with women that feel too much stimulation from both hands being used on their vagina and the clitoris. The basic method of fingering with the two-hand alternative is to use your tongue on her clitoris. While this might be seem like oral sex, using your fingers on her vagina while licking her clitoris is still a method of fingering. Most women can reach orgasm through oral stimulation or vaginal stimulation alone.

However, some women need both to reach their orgasm. By giving them both of these methods you should have no problem getting your girlfriend off. The reason that you’re going to use your tongue instead of your hands for clitoral stimulation is that the tongue has a different texture and is not as hard as your finger.

Your tongue can easily feel much better to her without the hardness of your index finger. Lick the clitoris in circles while you make the “come here” sign with your fingers inside her gently brushing up against her G-spot.

How To Make A Woman Climax

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Unfortunately for us, women take longer to climax than men. While it takes the average guy less than 5 minutes to finish, it could take a girl more than 30 minutes to get off during sex, if at all.

You might ask, it doesn’t matter how long it takes her to get there as long as she does, right? That’s a good point, but here’s the thing. A certain proportion of women in the world fake orgasm during sex because the men they’re with lack the skills to help them reach orgasm. In fact, you’d be surprised to learn just how many women around have never really experienced the big O.

When it comes to making a girl climax, you have several options. You can make her climax while you’re having sex (penetration), you can do oral sex with fingering, or you can help her masturbate. There’s a key technique involved in each of these options .

How To Make Her Orgasm During Sex

When you’re having sex, you should remember that you might be feeling more pleasure than your girl. Why? This is because your most sensitive organ is conveniently wrapped in all that warmth and comfort. However, a girl’s most sensitive area (namely, her clitoris) is left alone during sex.

Some guys think penetration (thrusting in and out) is enough to make a woman climax, without knowing that a simple shift in weight to press on a woman’s frontal vaginal region can make all the difference as far as her pleasure is concerned.

Here’s what you can do. Make sure you touch your girl’s clitoris during penetration, either by using your fingers or by pressing more on her mound when you thrust.

How To Make her Orgasm By Oral Sex

When you’re going down on a woman, remember that the center of sensation is the clitoris and the outer parts of her labia. Most guys simulate penile thrusting during oral sex, which could prolong her orgasm further. A stroking motion with your tongue over her clitoris and labia will push her over the brink and make her orgasm faster. If the girl insists on penetration during oral sex, use your fingers.

How To Make Her Orgasm By Fingering

Fingering a girl doesn’t always mean you have to do it alone. Invite her to join in. You can take charge of penetrating her with two fingers and she can stroke her clitoris, or vice versa. Another way of doing this is allowing her to masturbate while you caress her other erogenous zones. The additional stimulation from other sources will make her climax intensely and rapidly.

Don’t get caught up with the “right” techniques to make a woman climax. You can mix and match techniques and experiment with variations of these techniques until you find a combination that works for you every time you’re in bed with your girl.

A Review Of Love Making Methods That Are Sure To Please Your Woman

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As silly as it may seem, a lot of men tend to forget the basics of lovemaking when the urge to release takes over. Imagine you’re with a girl and you’re really turned on. You start out slow then the desire to release takes over and you start focusing only on what would feel good to you. It happens to every man, so don’t think that you’re the only one who does this during sex. However, if you really want to be the girl’s best lover ever, you’d better not forget the basics of how to please a woman.

When you’re about to lose it, take a deep breath and recall all the fundamental methods of lovemaking that I’ll list here.

French Kissing

Every time you make out with a girl, you should never forget to kiss her lips. In fact, kiss her whenever you can, even when you’re already in the middle of sex. A kiss is more than just a physical gesture to get her aroused, it builds an emotional connection with the girl you’re having sex with.

Eye Contact

Not many women will admit this, but one secret fear that every woman thinks about during sex is that the guy could be thinking of another woman. Keeping eye contact will make her feel that you’re with her, you’re not just using her for your pleasure and that she’s the only one you’re thinking of during sex.

Fingering

I’m sure you know the basics of fingering, but it helps to remember that proper fingering technique involves imagination and sensitivity. Just remember that you can do more things with your fingers than you can do with your member. For starters, you can crook your finger, move it around more often and you can use it to reach every nook and cranny of your partner’s hot spots.

Oral Sex

Oral sex on a girl is not a thirty-second affair. Even if you’re not into it (because of the smell or because you’re just squeamish about going down on a woman), you’d better make it a point to stay there for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Remember, you don’t have the right to ask for a 30-minute blowjob if you can’t promise to return the favor.

Sex Positions

If you stick with the same old sex positions every time you make love, your lover will get bored quickly. Make sure you know at least 3 more sex positions besides the Missionary. Some girls are quicker to climax with certain positions, which means you need to experiment with a lot of them to find those that work for your girl.

Any man can stick it in and be done with it. It takes a certain type of guy to consistently create magic during sex. Be the guy who can rock a girl’s world every time by never forgetting the fundamental things that really get women off.