making love – Page 3

The Most Sensitive Part Of A Woman

A woman sometimes fakes her excitement during sex for several reasons. You know about these times when she’s acting like she is enjoying herself but her whole body tells you that she isn’t aroused. She’s dry as a desert down there and she isn’t making an effort to touch you.

Well, there are several reasons why women just don’t feel like making love. First, the timing could be off. She hasn’t showered when you grabbed her, or she may be in a bad mood after a rough day at work. Second, she may be feeling desensitized because of some internal turmoil in your relationship (you haven’t been talking for a while, you’re in a fight, etc).

But here’s the thing. If you know where to touch her so that she instantly feels aroused, you won’t have to go out of your way to buy her jewelry or flowers to make her warm up to you again. There are certain places on a woman’s body where you can turn on her “sexual” switch just by touching.

The Neck and Ears

Just whispering softly will make a woman feel the heat of your breath on the sensitive areas of her neck, just behind the ears. Even the slightest touch of your lips on that sweet spot can turn her on. But you don’t have to stop with just letting your breath touch this sensitive spot. You can lick her ear lobes to increase her arousal, and you can take this chance to explore her body while she’s just starting to simmer.

The Chest Area

You already know about how sensitive a woman’s nipples are, but did you know that by kissing the area around her breasts, you can increase her arousal further? By kissing her chest region, you’re burning the sight into her brain so that her whole body knows that sex is starting. The trick is to caress the area with your hands and your lips leisurely, so that she can take in the sight frame by frame and increase her excitement only seconds after you start kissing her there.

Women are particularly vain about their chests, so doing this to her during sex will make her feel sexy. With this in mind, you also shouldn’t rush while you’re taking off her brassiere or her blouse. Romance her chest as slowly as you can.

Her Mound

Her most sensitive part isn’t the vaginal portal itself, but the areas surrounding it. Stroke the hairy area patiently, inch by inch, and you will be able to increase her arousal a hundred fold.

The clitoris region in particular houses a mother load of nerve endings. Even by just grazing the tiny nub during your exploration, you can create sensations she has never felt before. Be careful not to touch the nub directly, because the sensation may be painful or even shocking to her. The trick is to explore her vaginal area, wetting your fingers in the process, and “accidentally” touching her clitoris with your moving fingers.

Sex Tips For Women – How You Can Help Boost Your Man’s Confidence During Sex, Without Lying

By jessicaperez

A man’s sexual insecurities show up when he’s in bed with a new lover for the first time. Some guys think they have to show how creative and skilled they are so they think of different tricks to showcase their lovemaking know-how. They feel pressured. They are eager to please. They want to be your best lover ever.

Most of the time, women don’t have the heart to say “honey, you’re trying too hard” when he really does seem like he’s desperate to please his girl. In fact, telling him directly that you think he’s going overboard might make him feel that you’re not at all enjoying yourself no matter what he does.

A man doesn’t want to come across as boring or unskilled when he’s making love. To ease his anxiety (and to really enjoy yourself), boost his confidence and let him know that he’s doing great, without sounding fake.

5 Ways to Boost Your Man’s Confidence Without Lying

Keep Your Sense Of Humor

Show him how relaxed you are by reacting naturally when bloopers happen. Being too serious during sex will simply aggravate his already frayed nerves. Laughing good-naturedly when you hear strange sounds from your tummy or his will help him relax and be himself.

Encourage Him To Explore Your Body Without Rushing

Tell him to slow down by kissing him leisurely when he seems to be rushing. Take his hands and slide them over your body slowly so that he can really explore every inch of your body. Be patient and don’t rush him when he gets excited and starts kissing and licking your hot spots.

Moan

Stretching like a kitten and purring will encourage him to go further without feeling like he has to hurry. Verbally tell him to take his time and stroke his head, his hand or any part of his body that you can reach to encourage him more.

Touch Him

If you notice that he seems to be hiding some parts of his body with the blanket or the pillow, take note of that part and touch that spot frequently when it’s your turn to do the exploring. If he seems to be guiding your hands away from that spot, gently return to that spot when he’s more relaxed. Maybe he’s too embarrassed about his belly, or he secretly thinks his feet are too big.

Never, Ever Mention Size

Some men cannot get over their “penis size anxiety” and no matter how much you gush over how big he is or how stuffed you feel, he will still think you’re lying to make him feel better about not being big enough. Most guys won’t openly admit that they think they’re too small, so just don’t mention anything that pertains to the size of his member.

Here’s a final reminder for you…

Don’t let your own insecurities get the better of you during sex. Your man might misinterpret if you’re hesitant about letting him touch you somewhere on your body that you think is “too fleshy” or “too saggy.”

Relax and remember that sex is all about exploring your partner’s body, and pleasing each other honestly and sincerely.

Cuddling After Sex – 3 Reasons Women Love It And Guys Should Do It

By leejenkins

What is cuddling? It’s an after-sex position you get into when your girl asks you to hug her. Cuddling is done like the spoon position, but with less erotic touching and more hugging. Women love to cuddle right after sex. If you’re anything like every other guy around, you probably think nothing of falling asleep right after sex but your girl might have other ideas. The general notion is that most men don’t think of cuddling as the main after-sex activity, and it’s just another one of those things that women do to get a guy’s attention.

But men would benefit greatly if they learned the art of “post-sex” lovemaking. Here are some reasons why women love cuddling after sex and why all guys should do it.

Cuddling Adds Romance After A Session Of “Animal” Sex

Sex leaves her feeling vulnerable. Every woman wants to feel loved even after a few hours of uninhibited animal sex. She wants to know that she is adored by the man she slept with. Regardless of your relationship status with the woman, she wants to feel that she’s with someone who thinks of her as “special.” The greatest thing a man can do to show his affection after sex is to cuddle and whisper in her ear. The act of talking while cuddling becomes special because, in a girl’s mind, it’s still a part of love making.

Cuddling after sex turns into a woman’s emotional release. Having an orgasm during sex is satisfying, but the emotional gratification isn’t complete without some romance after sex.

Cuddling Helps Women Prepare For The Next Round

Unlike most men, women can go for seconds after a short while. Women are capable of multiple orgasms, but these big O’s don’t always come one after another during sex. Sometimes, a woman needs to recuperate and recharge her physical and emotional batteries before going for it again.

A show of affection by touching and cuddling can boost arousal. Think of it as after-play and foreplay for the next round. If you’ve encountered women who don’t want a second round, it’s probably because you’ve never tried the “romantic cuddle” trick to getting her to say yes again.

Women Want To Talk

Cuddling after sex is a woman’s way of saying “let’s talk”. Women treat sex like an intimate date, which means conversation before and after sex. Strangely enough, women are less prone to getting mad or sulking when they’re completely satisfied with the love making. This means the conversation that ensues will be less strained, more relaxed and more fun.

I know most guys would rather sleep right after love making, but trying to stay awake to hear her talk about her day is recommended. A man isn’t supposed to fall asleep during this post-sex talk. If you’re having trouble keeping your eyes open during this time, I suggest going to the kitchen for a snack (with her in tow) or sitting up in bed to drink water while she cuddles next to you.

Top 10 Qualities Most People Want In Their Partners

By maryannecomaroto

Aren’t you just dying to know what a potential partner wants from you? Fortunately there are books and books out there to help you figure out just that. And one of the latest ones brought to my attention is this: guys want only one quality from a girl they’re looking to get involved with – good sex. Sure, it’s important but are we really that reductionary!

My gal pal told me she read a book this guy wrote ( If I had one less scruple, I might tell you his name–for now, we’ll call him something friendly, like Penile Supremacist…PS for short. Fine–forget that, let’s just call him Jack. There! Who can argue with that?) So JACK made quite an impression on my not-so-easily-impressionable gal pal recently. She rang me straight away to give me the scoop.

“Maryanne, you’re not going to believe what @#$% says in his book!” She’s known me for 15 years now, knows that in general male/female issues have been in my top 10 list of favorite things to get bunged up about…particularly when they’re coming from downwind, let’s say. Historically, she delivers the message and then runs for cover. As she started recounting “The top10 qualities women are looking for in relationship with men.” Here’s all I can remember:

Top Qualities Women – And Men – Are Looking For

1) Presence
2) Intelligence
3) Sense of humor

But then she started in on the men’s list – which I remember every detail of. But then, it’s not difficult to remember – here you go:

1) Great in the sack
2) Great in the sack
3) Great in the sack
4) Great in the sack
5) Great in the sack…

Stop me if I’m going too fast, here. I’m sure JACK doesn’t mean to reduce all men to one silly mantra, and I must give him credit for the fact that he then asked these gentleman to rethink the question, and they did come up with some insightful, significant qualities they are looking for in their relationships with women.

But I feel I must respond to these beliefs with some beliefs of my own: We have developed skills beyond pounce and attack. How does someone who is in the position of teaching open, impressionable people get away with spouting ancient stereotypes like he was proud of the “well-known fact” that men often think with their smorgasbords?

The point is–well, one point is: Making love is an art – and it’s not just about the sex. It’s no wonder so many women think being great in the sack is a good investment of their time. How about we all revisit that list, people…take pen and paper and make your own list. Look and see what unconscious ideas you may have about the other sex…’cause when mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!

3 Reasons Why Men Need To Become Better Lovers

By leejenkins

“Was it good for her?” This is just one of the many questions which most men are hesitant to voice out after a session in the sack. Unless you’ve had rave reviews about how much of a stud you are in bed from the women you slept with in the past, it is but natural to have these insecurities.

The Top Three Reasons Why Men Need to Become a Better Lover

To start right off, let us take a look at the top three reasons why men need to become a better lover:

1. Do away with boredom in the bedroom.

Let’s say that you and your girlfriend have been going out for quite some time now. The longer that you and a woman have been together, the more comfortable you will be with seeing each other’s bodies in your birthday suit. This comfort factor can be the bane of your intimate relationship, because that’s when boredom in the bedroom occurs.
If you don’t want that special woman in your life to leave you because your sex life is not something to rave about anymore, then you should do your part in making sure that your skills as a lover is improved.

Basically, the best way to revitalize your sex life is to relive the ‘newness’ of your relationship. You can become a better lover by determining which aspect of your sex life needs improvement.
You may need to refresh your knowledge of different sex positions because the missionary and woman-on-top variations have suddenly grown old. If there’s even a doubt in your mind that she is faking her orgasms, the best way to prevent her from not doing it again is to be adept with your oral loving skills.

Or, you might just need to change the pace of your lovemaking. It could be that you’re lacking in foreplay – or you’re not giving her enough of a rush by indulging in quickies. No matter which aspects of your sex life it is that can do with an improvement, find ways to work on them so that you can be a better lover.

2. Stop suffering from humiliating experiences from women.

If you think that humiliation in the eyes of one woman that you’ve had bad sex with is the only embarrassment that you’ll suffer from if you are a bad lover, think again. For example, if you’ve slept with a woman who’s working in the same building as yours and you had really bad sex during that one time that you’ve gathered the courage to ask her out.

Word about how bad you are in the sack could leak, until it reaches such a point that you cannot ride the elevator anymore without getting odd glances from women who might have heard about your lack of skill in bed.
This is just one of the worst case scenarios that you can experience if you don’t become proactive enough in bettering your skills as a lover.

3. Be a ‘master lover’ in your own right.

Now, this is the exact opposite of the previous entry. Once your skills in bed are improved, you can become a master lover in your own right. You can make women have orgasm two, three, four or even five times a night! You can make them return the favor because you’re so good at giving her some oral love. You can have sex anytime you want to.

It doesn’t even matter whether you have a below average, average or above average-sized penis. Knowing what turns women on and how to use her multiple erogenous zones at your disposal is the best way to become a better lover than you already are.

A Final Word about Becoming a Better Lover

The possibilities that you can learn about how to be a better lover is practically endless. Kissing, foreplay, oral sex, stimulating her clitoris and G-spot – these are just some areas of your lovemaking skills that you can improve on.

At the end of the day, it’s important to acknowledge that there is always room for improvement when it comes to your lovemaking skills – so bring out those “How to be a Better Lover” guide books, brush up on your techniques and be the best lover that you can be!