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The Secret to Lasting Love – Better Than Flowers And Chocolate

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After you’ve been together for a while and the initial euphoria wears off, it’s easy to keep finding faults and to focus on the problems and bumps and forget the wonderful things that made you fall in love in the first place. Here’s the best way to keep the love and romance alive in your relationship, no flowers or chocolate required!

Gratitude Journal

When things get rough in your relationship, it’s important to remember what made you first fall in love with your partner. Chances are, the reasons you love your partner are still the reasons you love your partner but day to day stresses have just gotten in the way. It’s easy to focus on little annoyances when things aren’t going your way and this can often put a lot of strain on the relationship. Instead of going over and over why you’re mad at your partner or what they’re doing that really irks you, try focusing on what you love about your partner. Start a gratitude journal. Every day, write down five things that you love about your partner, or that made you fall in love with them in the beginning. Do this for thirty days and you’ll find that all those little annoyances aren’t such a big deal anymore and its easier to remember why your partner is important to you.

Create A LoveBook

A LoveBook is a great option for putting your gratitude journal into something you can give as a great gift and keep for years to come. Sign up for a free account online and start making your LoveBook right away. Pick between a hard or soft cover and choose your cover art. Then, pick from pre-made pages of things you love about your partner or create your very own page. Each page has an illustration on it to help bring the book to life. Once you’re finished putting it all together, order your LoveBook and have it sent to your home. Now you have something to look back on when you’re feeling frustrated in your relationship or give as a perfect romantic gift for birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day or just because.

LoveBook Gift Ideas

A LoveBook is a great gift for your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend or partner. This is originally what the LoveBook was designed for, and you simply can’t get any more personal or original with your gift. Forget the bland “flowers-and-chocolate-or-dinner-reservations” gifts and get your partner something really special instead. LoveBooks also make great gifts for parents and grandparents to let them know how thankful you are and how much you appreciate them in your life. Make a LoveBook for your child on their birthday or on any day to let them know all the reasons you think they’re a stellar kid and why you’re proud of them. If you use your imagination, you can give a LoveBook to just about anyone and let them know why they’re important to you and why they’re a big part of your life! Of course, giving a LoveBook to your partner is super special, and it’s so easy you can make one every year to let them know how your love for them continues to grow and grow.

Is Your Relationship Ready For Marriage?

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Marriage is a huge step, and it’s definitely not something to rush into. How can you tell if the relationship you are in is marriage material?

“Going to Fiji is not marriage, going to Costco is marriage” – Kelly Ripa.

You know you’re ready to marry someone if you are willing to endure the Hell on Earth that is shopping at Costco with that person. Seeing your significant other at Costco means seeing them at their worst: they will be angry, cranky, hungry, sleepy, annoyed, childish, and pissed off. They will try and convince you that you “need” to by industrial size quantities of some food that they know you hate (which they of course love), and you will be subjected to the sight of humanity at its fear based worst.

If you can make it out of there alive (without spending yourself stupid or killing each other), then you should probably get married. If you can go there and be so in love that you forget you’re in Hell (and by Hell I mean Costco) and not be bothered by this, then by all means run like hell to the altar.

Do You Like Them With Their Clothes On?

Sure, everyone’s tons of fun when they’re naked and doing naughty things you. And lots of sex happens when you are dating, often because you two have different homes and can get the hell away from the other. A relationship is one thing, marriage is different, because you’re always there with each other. Generally speaking, your spouse should be as much fun with their clothes on as they are with them off.

How Lucky Do You Feel?

When you’re around this person do you feel like you hit the lottery? Do they make you giddy like a school girl? Get lots of goosebumps? Then marriage is definitely in order. If you don’t, you may not want to walk down the aisle. Romance ebbs and flows but if you’re not feeling super lucky to be with them, then it’s a red flag.

How Easy Is It?

They say relationships are hard work. That’s not true. BAD relationships are work. Good relationships aren’t. If your relationship is easy like Sunday morning, then it’s time to start thinking about walking down the aisle. People love to say relationships take work. They don’t. Relationships are like a car. The vast majority of people reading this don’t know anything about brakes, shocks, struts and all the other car parts you can’t pronounce. Does that stop you from owning and operating a car? No. You don’t need to do work on your car. You just need to do maintenance.

All you really need to do is get it washed regularly, get the oil changed, and get tires every so often. That’s not doing work on your car. You put gas in the tank and turn the key. It goes or it doesn’t. If you don’t do maintenance, you’re an idiot, but you’re going under the hood either. The best marriages in my estimation are the easiest. The more work you’re doing the more problems you have by default. Sure there will be ups and downs, but too much time under the hood usually means it’s time to trade in for a different make and model.

Are You On The Same Page?

Opposites attract, but they don’t marry. If you are super frugal and your partner spends like a drunken sailor, do you really expect it to work long term? Movies always love to talk about the uptight, type A girl and the slacker/hippie type who steals her heart. That works in movies, but in real live they hook up or date but they don’t marry. Or if they do, they’re miserable. Why? Because she is who she is and he is who he is.

The more alike you are, the more you’re going to stay together, because common ground is required to build the foundation upon which the house that is your marriage is built on. The house is built on the foundation and the foundation is designed to fit the house exactly. They don’t say “well, it kind of fits, but we’ll work around it.” No construction foreman has ever looked at a foundation and said “well, I know that’s how it is now, but I’m sure it’ll change down the road.”

You’re two different people with different experiences and view points, so disagreements are inevitable, but you should be arguing because you both want to do the same thing, you just differ on how to do it. If you have the opposite problem, maybe you should just keep dating.

Secret Survey Reveals Why ALL Men Lie!

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Watch this Free Presentation to discover the REAL reason ALL Men Lie to women they love and learn how to discover how he really feels about you without him saying a word…

Relationship advice will rarely tell you WHY your man lies – and if you think he doesn’t, you’re dead wrong. The truth is, ALL men lie at some time or another and many of them do it on a regular basis! They especially do it to the women they love! This FREE video shows you the dirty secrets men have been keeping from you all these years!

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Warning: Watch the free video all the way through, but be prepared to learn things you never, ever thought could be true! You’ve never gotten relationship advice like this before. This video will reveal to you the awful things every man you’ve been with has been dishonest with you about. It’s scary, but you deserve to know! 

You’ve Been Lied To By Every Guy You’ve Ever Met

The sad truth is that no matter how chivalrous the guy may have seemed or how sweet and caring he might have been, he’s lied to you – and he’s done it more than once. 

Every man you’ve ever dated, fallen in love with or trusted with your heart has lied to you. Men you loved (or still love), men you adored and trusted with everything have looked right in your eyes, smiled at you and lied to you about EVERYTHING!

He’s lied about what he wants, how he feels about you, what he’s thinking and what he desires.

If you’re like most women, it’s driving you CRAZY! It’s kept you up at night and it’s pushed you to tears as you wonder WHY?

Why can’t he just tell you the truth?

Why can’t he just love you?

Why can’t he just be that man you’ve wanted for so long?

Why can’t he be the man you deserve?

You know what it feels like. The anger you get in the pit of your stomach. The nauseous feeling you get when you know you’ve been lied to by a man…again! The feeling you get when you have been manipulated and used.

How You Can Have An Amazing, Almost DANGEROUS Power Over Men

Our good friend Michael Fiore is a nationally known relationship advice expert who, through his extremely controversial free video, shows women how to REALLY understand men. When you watch this video, you’ll learn what really goes on in a man’s mind – what he lusts after, what he dreams about and WHY HE LIES!

Michael sent a secret questionnaire to the thousands and thousands of men and women on his email list, asking women what they truly need to know about men and asking men what they wish they could tell women but never have been able to.

Some of the questions that women asked are the same questions we KNOW you’ve asked at least once in your life:

“What does he think about me?”

“Why does he look at other women?”

“Why do men lie?”

“Is he cheating on me?”

“Why doesn’t he talk to me?”

“Why does he get so quiet?”

“Does he really love me?”

“How do I make him love me?”

Hundreds of women, just like you, felt angry, locked out and betrayed by men.

But what did the guys say?

The TRUTH That No Woman Has EVER Heard!

Michael’s survey seemed to unlock something in men, who started spilling the beans about things they had agreed to never tell women! These men broke the “man code” and put their deepest, darkest desires out there. They revealed what was really going on in their hearts and minds, and WHY they do the things they do.

They revealed how women hurt them and emotionally devastated them (and how women can do this without even knowing or trying) and why they lied to the women they loved – and why they felt they HAD to lie.

Everything that women have always wanted to know was finally poured out! And Michael took all that relationship advice and compiled an easy, 4 week training program.

Are You Brave Enough And Smart Enough To Accept This?

The hidden truth about men isn’t something just any woman can listen to and benefit from. Revealing this stuff is like giving a woman super powers! She’ll be able to see deep into the mind of any man she wants and know what he’s REALLY thinking – it’s like mind reading.

You’ll be able to:

  • Wash away decades of anger, backbiting and arguments
  • Stop stupid arguments in their tracks
  • Have the powerful, amazing relationship that you’ve always wanted (and that you DESERVE!)

The Secret Survey 4 week online training program will show you what men desperately want you to know but could never, ever tell you!

If You Can Log Into A Website (And Put Aside Your Pride) You Can Learn The Honest, Dirty Truth About What Goes On In The Minds Of Men And Transform Your Relationships With Guys Forever In Just 30 Short Days!

What you’ll discover:

  • Why men are like dogs and you’re a bad owner
  • How to use “Projective Empathy” to instantly know what is going on in any man’s head
  • Why men lie to women they love
  • The 3 reasons men lie to women
  • Simple conversation tricks to get any man to open up to you in 5 minutes flat! 
  • What men say about you when you’re not around
  • How he REALLY feels about you
  • Why he looks at other women (and how he feels about YOU when he looks at other women)
  • The truth about why men cheat
  • How to CHEAT PROOF your relationship
  • What men REALLY want in bed

And those are just the main relationship advice topics the course covers! Some other valuable things you’ll learn are:

  • How to use “Emotional Judo” to MASSIVELY multiply his desire for you!
  • Why trying to make your man happy will kill your relationship
  • How to banish insecurity from your relationship forever
  • How to seduce a man in shockingly little time!
  • How to get a man to chase you, even if you’ve been together for YEARS

Just Imagine What It Can Be Like!

No more arguments and fighting. No more backbiting. No more anger or anxiety. No more begging and pleading for him to open up to you, or asking him why he’s closed you off.

No more wondering if he really wants you or if he really loves you.

With Secret Survey, you can make ANY man happy. You can be adored by any man you want. You can have loving, satisfying relationships where you feel cherished and happy. You can be fulfilled in your love life, even if you never have felt that way before!

If you’re not ready to hear the REAL truth, then the Secret Survey program isn’t for you.

But if you’re sick and tired of being lied to, being manipulated and being shut out, it’s time to make a change!

The Secret Survey could be your only chance to really understand men, or your last chance to get the guy you love to really open up to you. This may be your last chance to create true, unconditional love!

Get in the program now, while you still can!

Relationship Advice: How Do I Know If I’ve Met “The One?”

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Relationship advice can tell you how to have a healthy partnership, but it won’t tell you if you’ve crossed paths with your soul made. So how do you know?

What She Said:

Ah, there’s nothing better than finding love – especially when it’s “the one.” Contrast and compare this list with your lover to find out if you’re on the way to “forever.”

  • You Agree On “The Big Four.” It’s important to be on the same page as you navigate your life together. Some of the biggest situations that can shake even the most solid couples include: whether or not to have kids, religion, finances and in-laws. Kids: do you both agree on whether or not to have them? Do you share similar views on spirituality? Do you share the same values about spending and saving money? What are your boundaries about each other’s families? It’s a surer sign for longevity if you’re in agreement on these big issues.
  • Attraction. Of course you’ve been attracted to other lovers, but there’s something extra special about this person. It’s indefinable, but you know it when you feel it. It’s that palpable, joyful sense that your bodies fit together like no one else before.
  • You’re Best Friends. As much as you’re having fun between the sheets, you also need to enjoy each other outside of the bedroom. When you’ve met “the one” you’ll share compatibility both in and out of the sack. You need the bond of deep friendship to carry you through the ups and downs – and you want someone who truly has your back.
  • You Love Each Other Unconditionally. The first heady months of romance are amazing – but you know you’re with “the one” when you embrace each other’s faults and stick around anyway. “The one” will love you when you’re sick or crabby – as much as he or she will when you’re presenting your best self.
  • There’s No Drama. We’ve all had those tumultuous relationships. They’re gut wrenching and often passionate – but they’re not built for the long haul. A relationship with “the one” will flow easily because you both know it’s right. Not to say there won’t be challenges – but the challenges won’t include tears of despair.

What He Said:

  • It’s More Than Just Sex. And more than making love, though you’re doing that too. The point is you like each other in and out of the sheets. The one is as much fun with their clothes on as off.
  • The Sex Is Really Good, Though. The sex should be electric. Sex includes flirting, foreplay, everything. You both should be really good in terms of sexual compatibility. If you’re kinky as hell and she’s straight vanilla, it’s not going to work. Sorry. She won’t be talked into S&M and/or swinging. Not so much. Or if she’s kinky and he’s not, still not doable. But if you’re both into S&M and swinging, that right there is a damn good time and a damn good level of compatibility.
  • You’ve Seen The “Real” Them, And You Don’t Want To Kill Them. If anything, not only should you really like who they are, all their nervous quirks and ticks should seem cute or hot or adorable to you. Granted, they will begin to drive you up the wall at some point, but that’s for later. Hopefully, much, much later.
  • You’re A Lot Alike. Opposites attract, but they rarely stay together in long term relationships. Sure, it’s natural for you to be good at things that your partner is bad at and vice versa, but if you’re a hardcore vegan and he’s Ted Nugent, how’s that going to work? Ted Nugent needed himself a gun toting, right wing, kill it and grill it type of woman and he found her. And they’re happier than pigs in mud.

Monogamy: Can I Really Only Have Sex With 1 Person FOREVER?

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Monogamy is great for some people, but not for others. How can you tell if you’re about to make a big mistake by swearing to monogamy for the rest of your life?

I’m due to get married in a couple months, but I’m starting to have doubts. I don’t feel I’m as excited as I should be about the big day. This is the last person I’m going to sleep with FOREVER! What’s the difference between cold feet and making a huge mistake?

What She Said:

What kind of doubts? Little ones like, “Will I be able to live with a man who leaves his dirty clothes in a pile by the bed?” or big ones like, “Do I love this person and will I be happy for the rest of my life with him or her?” As you can see, it’s a wide chasm between what constitutes a doubt!

Cold Feet Are Normal

Cold feet are a time honored pre-wedding condition. It’s a big commitment – and an even bigger life change – that you’re lining up for yourself. Who wouldn’t feel a little scared? Even the most wildly in love couples are capable of feeling a tad apprehensive as they approach the altar.

No one wants to think about divorce on his or her wedding day – in fact, if you’re already contemplating an exit strategy, I think you have your answer. But the thought can provide a little levity. While there’s no discounting the magnitude of this decision, it is something that can be undone if you do ultimately decide you’ve made a “huge” mistake.

Be Honest With Yourself

That said it’s time to take a deep breath and be honest with you. Weddings are notoriously stressful events to plan. Is your lack of excitement due to feeling overwhelmed with everything from whom to choose as your bridesmaid to suddenly trying to meet the every demand of your family? Or is it something much deeper? Only you can discern what’s bothering you.

Are You In Love?

A huge mistake would be to marry someone you’re not in love with. It would also be devastating to tie the knot with someone who treats you badly before you’re even hitched. A ceremony won’t make any problems you’re having as a couple go away – in fact, it will only heighten them. If you’re truly in love and in a good relationship, a case of cold feet is merely jitters that will most likely smooth out by the time you cut the cake.

What He Said:

Thinking you can do anything for the rest of your life is impossible. If you focus on doing it today, then that’s very doable. It’s attainable. Focus not on the fact that you’re only going to be screwing one person for the rest of your life but rather on having the best sex you can with that person today and go from there.

Taking It Day By Day

It’s the same process for the rest of your relationship with that person. You’re probably freaking out over the fact that you don’t know if you can be in a relationship with them for the rest of your life. Just focus on having the best relationship you can with them today. Then go to bed. Then repeat. Then repeat. And repeat. And when in doubt, repeat. See a pattern?

You probably aren’t in line for an arranged marriage. You probably won’t say “I do” against your will. And you’re probably not marrying someone two dates in. That means you’ve been doing this relationship thing for a while with them and you obviously see something in them or you wouldn’t have been doing this for this long. So there must be something good to it. So relax, take a few deep breaths and throw the bridal bouquet at a really old lady and watch all the young women trample her. It’ll be loads of fun. Promise.