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Masturbation – 3 Ways To Make It Feel More Like A Vagina

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If guys masturbate often (and they do) it’s not at all unusual for the same masturbation techniques to get boring. You’d like to create some different feelings, perhaps try to recreate the feeling of a vagina or just all out make your orgasms through masturbationbetter than you’ve ever had before. Here are some great things to try if you want to spice up your masturbation routine and create vagina-like sensations with using sex toys or some things you have at home!

Question: Recently, masturbating has been getting very boring for me. What are some ways I can get the feeling of a vagina to my penis while masturbating (without any sex toys)?

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Using Enough Lube

Some men masturbate without lube, and others don’t use enough. If you’re masturbating with out lube, it’s time to go get you a bottle stat! The right sexual lubricant – and enough of it – will make masturbation feel so much better than if you’re not using lube at all. Lube the single most important component of male masturbation and if you want to recreate the feeling of a warm, wet vagina, lube is going to be your best friend. In fact, a generous amount of lube may be all you need to take your masturbation to the next level! For male masturbation, silicone lube is probably your best bet, although water based lubricant is great and works well for just about anything. Silicone lube does last a little bit longer and is slightly more difficult to wash off, but that’s not usually an issue because the penis is so easy to clean.

Using Different Hand Techniques

Try using both hands when you masturbate instead of just one, or grip your penis with one hand and lay face down on the bed, thrusting into your hand as you would if you were thrusting into a woman’s vagina. The latter, with a good amount of lube, can feel warm and wet, just like a vagina. By using your body to move your penis in and out of your hand (instead of the other way around) you’re recreating the feeling of having sex rather than just masturbating. Don’t be afraid to try different hand techniques when masturbating because even the simplest change in how you hold your hand, how tight you grip it or which fingers you’re using can make all the difference in the world!

Using A Condom And A Warm Towel

Another trick to recreate the feeling of a vagina during masturbation without using sex toys is to use a condom, lube and a warm (not hot) towel. Squirt a generous amount of lube in the condom and then put the condom on your penis. Using a condom that is a little larger than your penis may benefit you here, although you would want to switch to properly fitting condoms when you have sex. You can also use a female condom if you like. Wrap a warm towel around your penis after you put the condom on, and grip the warm towel and move it back and forth when you masturbate. This is a great way to recreate the “warm, wet” feeling of a vagina. There are lots of other homemade sex toys that men have tried, such as using an empty paper towel or toilet paper roll or other items found around the house. Talk about ouch! That’s why many men choose to use male sex toys for masturbation instead of using items found around the house – it just works so much better!

Masturbating With Sex Toys

Sex toys are often used for female masturbation, but there are lots of sex toys for boys that are available too! Male masturbators are often made from soft, squishy silicone that is formed into a sleeve that slips over the penis. With a good amount of lube, the silicone sleeves create multiple sensations during masturbation. Many male masturbators are smooth and squishy, while others have textured or ribbed insides for his pleasure. If you’ve never tried using a sex toy for masturbation, you might want to consider it. There’s nothing embarassing about using the right sex toy for what you want to do, and male masturbators can take your orgasms to the next level. Most sex toys for boys are inexpensive and easy to use, even if you’ve never used one before. Many men who use a male masturbator have never gone back to regular masturbation with their hand because the sex toy just feels so good!

Best Masturbation Tips Of 2012

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Masturbation is a great way to satisfy yourself, get to know yourself intimately and relieve stress at the same time. Both men and women masturbate, and it’s a healthy habit to have! Also, learning to please your lover with your hands is hands down one of the best foreplay techniques. Check out our best tips of this year to take your solo time or manual stimulation to the next level.

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How To Teach Her To Give An Amazing Handjob

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A handjob can be exquisite if your lady does it the right way. Here’s how to teach her to stroke you to an incredible orgasm!

A Hot Handjob

If you aren’t already fluent in the language of your own anatomy, it’s time to take a bit of a lesson. Take a good look at what’s going on down there the next time you are masturbating and see if you can describe your movements in language someone else can understand. Next time, try it in front of her!

Give her a thorough demo of how you really like to be touched, taking the time to describe your use of pressure, grip and movement. If you are circumcised, be sure to use lube to mimic the gliding movement of foreskin. You can use lube if you have foreskin, too, but it’s less necessary for her to be able to get a handle on you during a handjob. If she is unsure with her grip, try holding your hand over hers so she has an idea of how hard to hold you.

A lot of women are unaware how much stimulation the penis is capable of enjoying, so make sure she knows exactly what you like during a handjob before she lets go. Give her lots of encouraging words when she does something that you like. If she goes too far and it hurts, or if you just want her to change, suggest what she can do instead, rather than jumping on her with criticism.

The P-Spot

If what you really want her to do with her hands is explore your back door in conjunction with a handjob, you should have a little conversation with her about it. Why not take her on a little sex toy shopping spree at my store, looking for fun toys to try with her? When you “happen” to “stumble” on the prostate massager category, casual bring up how curious you are about trying something like that. See how she responds to the idea of putting something other than her fingers inside you.

Next time you try out any anal moves on her, try describing what you’re doing in detail. The method for feeling up her G-Spot from her rear cavity is exactly the same as her method will be for finding your prostate gland. If she is just too grossed out by your back door, tell her to rub your perineum by pressing down from just behind your testicles toward your anus. Stroking this repetitively with the pad of her thumb with firm pressure should stimulate your P-Spot externally for an explosive orgasm.

If you don’t particularly enjoy anything around (or in!) your anus, feel free to skip this when getting your handjob. Most girls aren’t going to be terribly disappointed by this, especially if they can give you a great orgasm without going back there.

5 HOT Fingering Techniques

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Fingering isn’t as “old school” as you might think. If you do it the right way, you can bring your lover to incredible orgasmic heights!

There are some moves that just don’t work without a lot of lubrication, even if you aren’t penetrating her yet. A drop or two just won’t do and most women will appreciate a bit of extra lube for these techniques, even if she is already lubricating on her own.

1. The Electric Slide

Place the tip of your middle finger over her clitoris, then slide the entire length of your finger by, slowly, keeping constant contact with her little bud. Don’t move too fast. Keep a steady hand and don’t put too much pressure on her sensitive parts. She’ll let you know if she wants to go further.

You may want to separate her lips a bit to ensure more intense sensation, but remember that if you move your hand upward toward her during fingering, you will be pushing her clitoral hood out of the way. As you slide your hand back toward her feet, you will push the hood back in place, covering her up and allowing a relief from any intensity. Take your time learning which direction she loves best, and how heavy a hand she prefers.

2. The Tick-Tock Clit Clock

This fingering move is designed to give you a better idea of which sides or spots around her clitoris are the most sensitive to touch. Use a well-lubricated finger on a well-lubricated clitoris, holding her lips apart, exposing her most sensitive area. Imagining her clitoris is a clock face. Use your slick fingertip to trace a small circle around the outside of this clock, stopping and rubbing in even smaller circles at every hour. This will be a bit more difficult than with the previous exercise, working with such a small space, but you may be surprised at what you find.

3. Jack & Jill

Now don’t get me wrong here. I’m not trying to say that her clit is the same as a penis, but I am saying that you don’t have a monopoly on jerking off. Called “jacking” by a lot of men, modern day sexperts like to refer to this little move as “jilling off.” Welcome to a whole new world of clitoral stimulation! Give this a read, then go and welcome your wife.

The essential factor of jilling is to stimulate the clitoris by pumping it, through the protective sheath of the clitoral hood, which acts like a foreskin for the clit’s sensitive head. Use the outer edge of your hand, under your baby finger, to push up gently on the mons and expose the clit. From this position, you can use the thumb and forefinger from the same hand to feel for the clitoral shaft.

Probe around beneath her clitoral hood, where it begins from the crevice of her inner labia. You will be able to feel the stem protruding and should be able to gently grasp it between your fingers. From this position, massage it up and down in steady, rhythmic motions. Keep your fingers on the shaft and don’t pull the clitoral hood back too far. You may not feel like your movements are doing much, but you should be able to tell from her reaction how many nerve endings you are hitting with this one!

4. Knuckle Down

This second-last move is only for masters of jilling, really just a modification of that fingering technique. Having found that super-sensitive clitoral shaft, you have a variety of techniques available to you with this little nub in your hand. Instead of using your fingertips, this method uses the knuckles of your index and middle finger to grasp and stroke the shaft. Don’t forget to experiment during fingering! A change in speed or pressure could make all the difference in making this orgasmic.

5. Turning On

You might have a hard time jilling the shaft if her clitoris is small, or the hood is very tight, but don’t fret! Using either fingertips or knuckles, as in the last two fingering techniques, instead of pumping the shaft, you can turn it from side to side like a key in a lock. Keep your fingering rhythm and don’t try to go too hard or too fast.

This particular movement is probably the best way to mimic her masturbation technique, though you’ll certainly want to take a good look at it before you make a comparison. Either way, this kind of direct clitoral stimulation is definitely at the top of a short list of fingering moves that will let you make her come single-handedly.

How To Talk To Her About Masturbation

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Masturbation can greatly improve your sex life, especially if she masturbates. It will be much easier for her to orgasm and the overall quality of sex for both you and your partner will increase dramatically. However, not all women masturbate. This can be due to a number of reasons, but if you want to broach this subject with your girl, you’re going to have to talk about it. Here’s how to talk to her about it comfortably, without letting things get weird.

Why You Want Her To Masturbate

Female masturbation is so important is because it helps women learn what feels good to their bodies. When women can experiment in privacy and can learn their bodies better, they become more responsive lovers who can guide you in your quest to bringing them greater sexual satisfaction.

The problem is that a large percentage of women who have masturbated are ashamed or embarrassed to admit they do it. While society pretty much accepts male masturbation, it still views female masturbation as somewhat taboo. Plus, women today were probably raised in households where such things were simply not discussed. Many adult women are shocked when they finally discover that their mothers were also masturbating all that time.

Knowing this is important because you may face difficulty when it comes to talking about masturbating with your partner. Now, of course, some women have no problems broaching the subject. Others, however, are more timid. To be successful, you’ll have to feel your way through the conversation.

Sample Conversation About Masturbation

This sample conversation should give you some idea of how to begin the discussion and how to steer it in the right direction. Of course, the conversation might not go exactly like this and your lover may have different responses than the one here. However, this sample can at least give you the gist of where to take the conversation.

Also, keep in mind that while not all sex conversations should take place in the bedroom, this one may be a good one to have on the bed while both of you are feeling a little amorous. That way it will make what comes next a little easier.

You: “Can I ask you something, baby?”

Her: “What?”

You: “Do you ever get yourself off?”

Her: “What do you mean?”

You: “You know, do you ever masturbate?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you that.”

You: (keeping the conversation light and playful): “Come on, why not?”

Her: “It’s private.”

You: “I masturbate. Sometimes when I see how hot you look I, get so turned on that I can’t help myself. Don’t you ever feel that way?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you.”

You: “I think it would be really hot to watch you get yourself off.”

Her: “Really?”

You: “Absolutely! But since you don’t do that . . . “

Her: “Maybe I’ve done it a couple of times.”

You: “Does it feel good?”

Her: “Not as good as being with you.”

You: “Maybe you could show me how good it feels.”

Her: “You want me to masturbate in front of you?”

You: “I think it would be really sexy.”

At this point, your partner may or may not agree. If she does agree, sit back and watch quietly. Don’t try to get involved or to offer words of encouragement. Pay attention to how she pleases herself. For example, does she use a toy or her hand? This can be very useful information for you because if you want to provide added stimulation during intercourse then you can use whichever method she normally prefers.

What If She Doesn’t Want To?

Of course, there’s a good chance that your partner may not be eager to pleasure herself in front of you. If that’s the case, you can always offer a compromise. Instead of you watching from inside the bedroom, ask her if you can tape her masturbating. You’d be somewhere else in the house or gone completely, but the videotape or DVD would record her masturbating in private. You’d be able to see her in action without her feeling as if she’s invading your privacy.

If she doesn’t go along with that idea, then you may need to drop the subject for a little while. That doesn’t mean you can’t go ahead and start experimenting with methods of clitoral stimulation. You may also have a partner who has honestly never masturbated. In that case, she may not be able to give you much feedback about what feels good to her because she probably won’t know. That’s not a bad thing; it just means you’ll be doing a lot of trial and error.

It also means that you’re going to need good communication so when you do hit upon something that sends pleasure racing through her body she lets you know.