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Mutual Masturbation For Beginners

By loveandsex

Mutual masturbation is a great way to connect with your partner and learn what she likes sexually so you can give her better, more intense orgasms!

We tend to think of masturbation as a solitary event, but it can also be a great addition to any couple’s list of erotic options. Simultaneous masturbation is an all-fun/no-danger way to share enjoyment and get to know each other’s preferences. This involves you two masturbating in each other’s presence.

When Should You Engage In Mutual Masturbation?

Mutual masturbation is definitely a thing to be taken into consideration if you want to create that special bond between you and your girlfriend or wife that will allow you to take pleasure in sex. If you are in the room while she is touching and fingering herself, you can understand better what she needs and what you’re supposed to do when you’re in charge.

What Does She Like?

Does she like short strokes or long strokes? Does she rub her clitoris clockwise or counterclockwise? Does she like her genitals be touched gently or does she like it rougher? Pulling or stretching? Fondling or fingering?

All these little secrets bring you closer and help you facilitate each other’s enjoyment of sex.

In order for her to feel comfortable enough to do it while you are watching, is only fair that you do it too. She will love watching you masturbate as much as you like watching her.

Once you both get worked up, you can switch and do each other (this is called mutual masturbation). There are numerous ways you can do this, just use your imagination, your hands and your tongues. The amount of pleasure that you can both get out of this is immense. Moreover, after such an intense bonding experience, she will feel more prepared and more comfortable about sex with you.

Solo masturbation orgasms can be extremely intense, because there’s no outside pressure or presence, but they can also be, I guess, lonely, for a lack of a better word. Partner masturbation orgasms feel different, there’s more of an energy exchange going on, a wavelike exchange of energy that makes the orgasm feel bigger and more satiating.

What It Can Do For Your Relationship & Sex Life

Ultimately, shared masturbation can and must build trust. When you expose yourself to another, you must know that your sharing is welcome, that you won’t be ridiculed. Truman Capote used to say: “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” This should remain valid when it comes to simultaneous masturbation as well.

She doesn’t have to feel pressured to look or act in one way or another, but do it like nobody else was in the room. It can be difficult to convince your girlfriend or wife to agree to it, but not impossible. If she has doubts, check out the lists bellow (masturbation must have and masturbation must not) and find out what you have to do in order to assure her you’re not going to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, female orgasm, foreplay, masturbation, mutual masturbation, orgasm, sex advice, sex tips

5 Places Never To Miss When Giving A Handjob

By loveandsex

A handjob is an incredible way to give your lover an orgasm without getting anything but – well, your hands – involved. Here’s how to give a great handjob!

First, let’s explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your handjob will be.

1. His Scrotum

The scrotum (the sac where his balls are held) is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs.

You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.

2. The Perineum

This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do.

Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lube down there first! Things will slide right along!

3. His Inner Thighs And Lower Abs

These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the handjob to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing.

Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.

4. The Anus

Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.

Here is how one of my readers described it:

“She would lube up her middle finger insert it in my ass and massage my prostate. Well you orgasm very quick and when she is massaging the walnut you darn near levitate!! Very powerful!”

And another one of my reader’s says this about the anus:

“Most guys will not admit it but a man’s anal area adds great sensations.”

5. His Penis

Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, foreplay, handjob, masturbation, orgasm, sex tips

6 Tiny Sex Toys To Carry In Your Bag

By serenapaige

Sex toys don’t just come in the form of giant dildos you have to keep stashed under your bed. Try slipping one of these teeny treasures in your purse!

Sex toys can be a great way to get you through a dry spell or bring you and your partner closer together through better sex. However, when you’re traveling or you’re looking for a way to make your sex toys portable, there are a few models that are manufactured for discretion. Whether you are looking to surprise your boyfriend after a date with a kinky new vibrator or you just want the option to have an orgasm when you’re in bind, there are a few options out there. Here are a 6 tiny sex toys that you can carry in your bag.

1. LELO Nea

The LELO Nea is a shapely clitoral vibrator that has been designed to give you a discreet option when you’re on the go. This tiny vibrator comes in a sleek black color with a delicate cherry blossom design, giving it an ultra feminine look. This vibrator is not manufactured for insertion so you will need another device if you’re not just looking for clitoral stimulation. The LELO Nea looks like a tiny computer mouse, and is curved to hug your body just right. This makes the device very easy to conceal in your handbag while you are on the go.

2. First Time Mini Vibrator

The First Time Mini Vibrator is the perfect vibrator for on the go G-Spot stimulation. One of the best features of this vibrator is the different functionality that you can get out of it. This vibrator features a variety of vibration speeds that are easily controlled with a simple twist dial, so you can control the amount of stimulation to your G-Spot or your clitoris. Another great feature of this tiny vibrator is the fact that it is waterproof. This allows you to take into the shower or bathtub. Just one AA battery powers this sleek, soft vibrator and it’s crafted from ABS plastic to give you a silky soft feel that is still body safe.

3. Petite Treats Micro Bullet

The Petite Treats Micro Bullet is a great sex toy to take around with you. The controller fits in the palm of your hand and the bullet is super tiny – perfect for intense orgasms on the go. The controller is actually an interchangable Doc Johnson version, so you can switch the controller if you see fit. The bullet is only one inch long and less than half an inch wide, but you’ll be surprised at the power this mini bullet can provide. If you’re looking for a mini bullet for compactness, this is definitely worth the money.

4. Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator

The Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator is definitely designed for discretion. This vibrator comes with nubbed and wavy texture to give you amazing vibrations. While this vibrator does not come with many features, it is definitely a compact toy that will fit in your handbag without anybody knowing. Simply slip the ring over a finger and use the vibrator wherever you like. The soft nubs feel great against the clitoris, but will also work well for nipple stimulation too. A simple on/off switch makes the Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator easy to use during solo play, but you can also use it with a partner when you want to mix things up.

5. I-Vibe Pocket Rocket

The I-Vibe Pocket Rocket is a super small vibrator that comes in a variety of jeweled colors for ultra fun and feminine style. This vibrator has a nubbed and studded texture with simple to use controls that make it easy for you to achieve your orgasm no matter where you are. One of the best things about this vibrator is that it only takes 1 AA battery. This is a very quiet vibrator that every girl will like!

6. Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator

The Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator is a great vibrator for business trips or the unexpected family obligation. This vibe looks almost exactly like a real tube of lipstick and is primarily used for clitoral stimulation. Even if someone were to come across your vibrator in your purse or pocket, you need not be concerned that they would automatically know it’s true function. It’s cleverly designed to look like a tube of lipstick and it’s real purpose will only be revealed by someone who is really looking for it. This makes the Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator one of the more discreet vibrators you can own! It’s perfect for travel, because it can easily be concealed rather inside your handbag or purse.

Filed Under: Sex Toys Tagged With: female masturbation, female orgasm, masturbation, orgasm, Sex Toys, vibrator

5 Sex Positions For Fingering

By loveandsex

Fingering isn’t just something high school kids do – it can be a legitimate form of hot, steamy foreplay and it can be an incredible addition to penetrative sex. In fact, many girls won’t get off on just penetration alone – they need some extra stimulation to their breasts or clitoris in order to reach orgasm. Using your fingers during sex can be extremely exciting for her! Try these sex positions for the ultimate fingering!

The true fingering aficionado doesn’t need to take a break just to get his hands into the mix. There are several different sexual positions from which you can extend a helping hand and touch your girl’s naughty bits, so get ready to get funky with these legendary moves.

1. Missionary

From the missionary position, you have your choice of easy access points, if you can keep your balance by kneeling or propping yourself up on one arm. Kim Cattrall recommends a pinkie in the pink. Reach around and while you are thrusting slow and shallow, place a well-lubricated pinkie finger against her anus and apply steady pressure. From this position, you can hold her tight and thrust away. Each movement will rock her insides just right!

Try spreading her outer labia as you thrust, or squeezing them gently around your shaft. If you want to get even greater access to her back door from the missionary position, have her bring her legs together up over her head, then bend at the knees to press the soles of her feet against your chest. From this position she has great leverage to lift up her butt, and you can explore some anal play.

2. From Behind

Whether you are kneeling on the mattress or standing up on the floor behind her, this position is not only super sexy in that primal sort of way, but leaves your hands totally free to play and explore with any erogenous zone you can reach!

Reach around and massage her breasts, hold on to her shoulders, run your fingers down her spine. If she is into it, you can get a good grip on her hair and give it a bit of a tug. Make sure you grasp it close to the nape of her neck, and get all of it in your clenched fist at once. Gentle tugs will stimulate her scalp and might just play into some kinky fantasies of hers too!

For an extra stimulating surprise, try angling away from her body a bit on one side, so you can reach your hand, palm down, underneath your penis. In this position, you can enter her with both your penis and one, or maybe two, fingers, crooked toward the mattress so you can hit her g-spot!

If you are coordinated enough and have enough reach, you can even use the other hand to stimulate her clitoris, or to ask her to rub herself while you penetrate. This is also a great position to use your thumbs for exploring her back door, so be sure to have lots of lube handy.

3. She’s On Top

When it comes to intercourse, studies conclusively show that the woman-on-top positions are the best for getting her to orgasm. This gives her the chance to set the pace and depth, but also gives you the complete use of your hands, with which to make her feel good.

Try just spreading her lips as she bounces on your shaft. If she doesn’t move too much, you can also try twiddling your thumbs over the sensitive nub, or massaging her labia. If she turns around to face your feet in this position, you’ll have great access to her rear passage, and if you sit or prop yourself up a bit, you can fondle her clitoris and breasts at the same time!

4. Side By Side

If what you really need is encouragement to slow down and escape from all the high impact thrusting, a luxurious, relaxing, side-by-side position is perfect for keeping things calm. While you are thrusting in this sex position, just about all of the earlier exercises described above in the “looking-at-her-feet” category can be used. Try resting the heel of your hand on her mons, to stimulate her labia and clitoris while you thrust.

5. Standing At Attention

It’s pretty daring, but sex standing up can be absolutely amazing. If you want to be able to use your hands for anything other than holding her up, have her bend over and put her hands on a table or chair to support herself, thereby leaving you free to use any of the “from behind” positions above!

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, clitoris, female orgasm, fingering, foreplay, g spot, masturbation, orgasm, sex tips

6 Super Naughty Fingering Tips

By loveandsex

Fingering isn’t played out – at least these hotter than fire tips aren’t! Here’s how to engage in fingering with your girl and give her a WET orgasm!

1. Stirring The Pot

Another great all-round stimulator, this little trick allows you to stimulate the circumference of the vaginal wall at just about any depth, and is another type of sensation she may have never before experienced.

With one or two fingers inserted, slowly begin to make clockwise circles around the entire vaginal canal – bottom, left side, top, right side. You can change which direction your finger pads point to mix things up, or switch directions. Try to keep it up while thrusting!

2. Twist & Shout

A very special move using two to three fingers, this one allows you to stimulate her G or A-Spot, her clitoris, her urethra, her inner and outer labia; her entire vulva, in fact. A favorite in our house, this one has just the kind of sensations that are guaranteed to bring me over the edge after some stimulating massage and stretching.

Using your index and possibly your middle finger, penetrate and find the G-Spot, (or A-Spot, depending on how deep it is and how long your fingers are) thereby creating a “C” shape out of your hand, so that your thumb curls around to cover her clitoris. The sensitive inner webbing of your hand will cover her inner labia, and can stimulate her U-Spot here as well.

Once in position, slowly begin to twist your wrist from side to side, keeping your arm stationary. Not only will this rock back and forth inside her, causing her to lubricate and possibly squirt, but the changing pressure on her clit at just the right rhythm is certain to be a show-stopping favorite.

3. Upping The Ante

If you’re feeling extra frisky, you can add a second digit to any of the moves described above, either massaging her perineum and anus or fingering her clitoris. If you can figure out using multiple fingers and your tongue at the same time, you’re golden!

4. Three, Four And More

As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two. As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation, which is where these more complex moves come in. If you are still learning to read your wife’s reactions, take your time here to work up to them. She needs to be communicative; not just to ensure her pleasure here, but to avoid any unwanted pain.

5. The Three-Way

You can modify the Twist & Shout position above, with two fingers inserted to hit her G-Spot and A-Spot at the same time, along with her clitoris and possibly her urethra. Doesn’t that sound like the kind of party you want to get in on? As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two.

As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation. With your two fingers inserted deeply, trace your middle finger toward you, along the front wall of the vagina, until you find the A-Spot. Keep the finger in place as you crook your index finger closer yet, finding the G-Spot just inside the vaginal opening. Now that you have both spots in hand, you can reach your thumb for her clit.

In this position, you can both twist at the wrist as I mentioned earlier, and thrust very gently with your inserted fingers in the come-hither motion to stimulate all her special spots!

6. The Pubic Press

This movement actually puts a bit of pressure on her uterus and ovaries, giving you an opportunity to stimulate these internal reproductive organs from inside her vagina. Some women may find this a bit uncomfortable, if they aren’t used to it, so go slowly and gently and get lots of feedback. With your fingers inside her, let the heel of your other hand find her pubic bone.

Just above her mons and below her abdomen, you can press down to gently move her internal reproductive system closer to the vaginal canal, and the clitoral tissue that surrounds it. Thrusting in this position can be incredibly pleasurable.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: better sex, female orgasm, fingering, g spot, masturbation, orgasm, sex tips

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