Mutual masturbation is a great way to connect with your partner and learn what she likes sexually so you can give her better, more intense orgasms!
We tend to think of masturbation as a solitary event, but it can also be a great addition to any couple’s list of erotic options. Simultaneous masturbation is an all-fun/no-danger way to share enjoyment and get to know each other’s preferences. This involves you two masturbating in each other’s presence.
When Should You Engage In Mutual Masturbation?
Mutual masturbation is definitely a thing to be taken into consideration if you want to create that special bond between you and your girlfriend or wife that will allow you to take pleasure in sex. If you are in the room while she is touching and fingering herself, you can understand better what she needs and what you’re supposed to do when you’re in charge.
What Does She Like?
Does she like short strokes or long strokes? Does she rub her clitoris clockwise or counterclockwise? Does she like her genitals be touched gently or does she like it rougher? Pulling or stretching? Fondling or fingering?
All these little secrets bring you closer and help you facilitate each other’s enjoyment of sex.
In order for her to feel comfortable enough to do it while you are watching, is only fair that you do it too. She will love watching you masturbate as much as you like watching her.
Once you both get worked up, you can switch and do each other (this is called mutual masturbation). There are numerous ways you can do this, just use your imagination, your hands and your tongues. The amount of pleasure that you can both get out of this is immense. Moreover, after such an intense bonding experience, she will feel more prepared and more comfortable about sex with you.
Solo masturbation orgasms can be extremely intense, because there’s no outside pressure or presence, but they can also be, I guess, lonely, for a lack of a better word. Partner masturbation orgasms feel different, there’s more of an energy exchange going on, a wavelike exchange of energy that makes the orgasm feel bigger and more satiating.
What It Can Do For Your Relationship & Sex Life
Ultimately, shared masturbation can and must build trust. When you expose yourself to another, you must know that your sharing is welcome, that you won’t be ridiculed. Truman Capote used to say: “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” This should remain valid when it comes to simultaneous masturbation as well.
She doesn’t have to feel pressured to look or act in one way or another, but do it like nobody else was in the room. It can be difficult to convince your girlfriend or wife to agree to it, but not impossible. If she has doubts, check out the lists bellow (masturbation must have and masturbation must not) and find out what you have to do in order to assure her you’re not going to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.