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How To Create Attraction Online

By davem

Online dating is sometimes more difficult than it looks. Use these simple techniques to create attraction and have online dating success!

Have you ever seen an ugly guy or a big, fat guy with a gorgeous woman? First reaction: He’s got money; that’s why she’s with him. But, there’s always an occasion where a woman is with the guy because she feels that attraction. The next question is: How does a guy create attraction? There are many different ways. You can use humor, you can tease her, be a challenge she can’t resist, take control and act as the leader, be charming and confident—there are so many different things.

Confidence

Get a list of pick up lines right now and you’ll see some that are so re-hashed that you KNOW girls have heard them all before. But you know what? Some guys still make these lines work for them. In fact, some guys can simply say “hello” and they get the women’s attention. It’s not what you say, but how you say it.

Confidence shows in the way you walk, the tone of voice you use and taking control of the situation. In other words, instead of letting her decide where you’re going to go, take control and you make the plans.

Humor

Another concept is humor. Women love funny men. Be funny, make jokes. When I’m with a girl, I always like to people watch. Women love doing this and you can always people watch and make funny comments about what other people are wearing, how they’re walking or their voices and stuff like that, just between you two.

Remember to keep it light, so that she knows you’re kidding. And most important of all, don’t get all piqued when she turns the tables on you and puts you at the receiving end of a joke. The best part of being funny is you draw out the funny side of the girl. When you’re laughing together, acting silly and exchanging pokes, you can bet she can feel the connection (and the attraction for you).

Personality

One thing about a guy that will make a woman turn her head regardless of how he looks is his personality. And “personality” has something to do with the way you set yourself apart from other men. When women find a man who has a great personality, they usually say he’s down-to-earth and easy to talk to. What does these mean?

Being down-to-earth simply means you’re not walking on eggshells around her, you’re not making her feel awkward by being awkward, and you’re not making it seem like you’re desperate to have her to like you back. At the same time, your whole demeanor will tell her that even if you are in like with her, you won’t put up with BS. If she’s acting in a way that does not seem right to you, make it clear that you’re walking out (with a smile and a wave, of course).

This kind of attitude drives girls nuts with attraction. A part of their brain panics at the thought of losing an awesome guy to another girl who’s less bitchy, more affectionate and more attentive towards him.

Be A Challenge

Another thing to avoid is kissing her ass. I hate to say it, but women throw out tests. You’ve got to have confidence and bust on them. That’s the perfect time to tease a woman. If a woman says, “Do these pants make my ass look big,” I might turn around and look and say, “Wow, really big. Whoa,” and smile because she knows you’re not being serious.

On the Internet, I might throw out something like, “Listen, I understand you’re not really attractive, guys can’t stand looking at you, they’re completely repulsed by looking at you, you’re not intelligent and you can’t carry on a conversation, so why are you on the Internet?” I’ll say it in a bit of a humorous way. It’s great because they know that I’m teasing them and I’m not kissing their ass. I’m not going to ask them all the time, “Are you okay? What do you need? Do you need anything?” No, I’m the guy. I’m the prize. She’s hanging around me. I don’t have to bend over backwards for her.

If the girl has a lot of spunk in her (and you can bet the prettiest ones out there have a lot of this), you’re almost guaranteed that she will take the bait.You’re someone she sees as a challenge, and in her head she secretly thinks it’s cute that you’re provoking her by teasing her.

Being Attractive Is Not All That When It Comes To Online Dating

Let’s face it, in online dating, being attractive is cheap. Why? Because you have a photo and a bunch of text describing yourself on your profile, and people judge you based on that. Or rather, they form an impression inside their head based on what they see. Now, we all know that you’re not going to put up a photo that doesn’t look good, right? Exactly.

The thing is, no matter how closely you resemble your photo, you will still look slightly different offline. She will either notice this or she will ignore it completely. It’s easy to figure out why women would love to go out with you regardless if you’ve gained weight since you took your bio photo or how much thinner your hair is.

On the other hand, if she sees you as a wimp, a bootlicker, a bore and a guy who’s always trying to impress her, you’d have wasted all the cash you spent on your skin (and hair) because she won’t be able to look past your bad personality or your desperation to really appreciate your looks.

For guys, we’re a little bit different. We’re more visual. They asked guys the same question and they guys all answered a body part, whether it’s breasts, legs,butt… So you see, women don’t place as high a value on looks as you might think they do, so if you’re not great looking, don’t worry.

They want somebody who’s funny, who’s a little bit cocky, who’s charming, who’s confident, who has a sense of humor, who’s a little bit of a challenge and who can put them in their place if needed. That’s the kind of stuff that women want.

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: Dating Tips, online dating

3 Online Dating Rules You Must Follow

By loveandsex

Online dating can be harrowing at times. Don’t stress though – follow these simple guidelines and you’ll soon have online dating success!

While I highly recommend that you acquire the skill of approaching women without fear in real life, online dating is another way you can start meeting women without the fear and stress of walking up to them and risking rejection.

One great way to meet women is to join some dating sites – and with millions of people worldwide looking for that perfect match, why not? Here’s the beauty of online dating sites.

  1. You join a dating site
  2. You post a profile of yourself
  3. You watch the emails come rolling in

In the past I’ve used online dating sites with great success. It’s actually pretty easy to get women to respond to your profile. You can go along with your busy life and check your emails once or twice a week, and contact the women that have already shown an interest in you. It’s a great system and one I heartily recommend, especially for men just starting out.

  1. She sends you an email
  2. You check her profile
  3. You decide if she’s someone you’d like to meet

I bet you are wondering if there are any attractive women on these sites? You’d be surprised. The Internet isn’t just for techno-whiz people any more. Nowadays, millions of people are trying out online dating services – yes, even beautiful women. There are tons of beautiful women hiding out on these dating sites.

Now, from my past experience, there are a few rules you must follow if you want to succeed with online dating sites and meet interesting women.

Trust me when I say these 3 rules are a must for online dating. I would know – I once got 3 women (all rated above 9.8) to respond to my profile in 7 days.

1. You Must Get A Paid Account

These days everyone wants something for nothing. The same goes for online dating sites. Most men think they can join these sites for free, set up a personal ad and watch the responses come flying in. Wrong! To illustrate this theory, I once did a test with two different accounts. One paid. One free.

  • The paid account got more than 7 replies in two weeks.
  • The free account had 0 views. (That means that no one even saw my profile!)

The reason you need a paid account with dating sites is because they always list the paid accounts first. Then all the free accounts show up afterwards. In fact, you’ll be lucky to get a woman to even see your free profile, let alone reply to it.

2. Never Use “Adult” Dating Websites

Thou shalt not use adult-based websites. Okay? From my own experience, these sites are full of women that seem “really” interested, but once you send them an email, you never hear from them again. You just begin to get spam emails.

I’ve found a few of these sites that actually have real women on them. So which ones are the best? The two dating sites I recommend to all guys are www.Match.com and www.AmericanSingles.com.

Match.com

Match.com is simply the biggest and most established online dating site on the entire Internet. It’s professional and it’s affordable. What I really like about Match.com is the advanced search capabilities.

AmericanSingles.com

AmericanSingles.com is a really cool site. And no, you don’t have to live in America to use this site. (Anyone around the world can use it.) What’s great about this site is the ability to see how many people have viewed your profile, and actually search through and see who each person is. With this system in place it makes it really easy to test different headlines and aspects about your profile, and after a month or so you can see which changes received the most responses – a very cool feature.

3. You Must Include Photos Of Yourself

Always include a great photo of yourself when you create your profile. It’s interesting to see how different two photos can represent you.

The problem is, guys think they know which photos women will like the most. This is a big mistake. Only women know which of your photos look the best. So why not ask them? There’s a great little site that I’ve been using for profile photos called HotOrNot.com Basically all you do is create an account, upload your photo and watch women rate it. Over time you’ll get a great indication of your best photos.

A few guidelines when choosing photos:

  • Smile in your photos. If you check out HotOrNot.com you’ll notice that most guys in their photos aren’t smiling. Get a great genuine smile that really makes you glow and look like you’re passionate about life. Confident men smile.
  • Keep your shirt on. Please! Unless you look like a super model and have an amazing 10/10 body. Don’t dress down. Most women find this hilarious not sexy. I know, I’ve asked them.

Filed Under: Dating Tips Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, flirting, online dating

What To Avoid Writing About In Your Online Dating Profile!

By davem

Online dating can be a great way to meet women in your area if you do not have the opportunities to meet them in your everyday life. However, your online dating profile should convey the proper emotions. Here are some emotions that you should avoid when creating your profile.

Don’t Use Pity

If women read about your problems, how depressed you are or how life  sucks, they want to get away. They want to close the browser, hit a video sharing site and watch a clip of Friends or Seinfeld, or do something that will erase the feeling of depression they got when they read your profile. If you  remind them that life is painful, there’s trouble around and the world will  probably come tumbling down anytime soon, you’re going to drive them away. You don’t want that. But, Dave, all I have are painful experiences. How can I avoid talking about these with online dating sites?

There’s a thin line between empathy and pity, and if you can’t prevent yourself from mentioning something painful, you have to be extremely aware of this thin line. You can “mention” a painful past, but avoid talking about it at length. Dishing the dirt about your bad experiences will make it seem like you’re not yet over them. Instead, write about how your pain strengthened your spirit and turned you into the man you are now.

You have to understand that the girl who’s reading your profile page might have gone through the same things. But, like you, she wants to get over these bad experiences and see them in a good way. Talk about the lessons you’ve learned, and how you’re progressing rapidly into a better life. Remember that strength of character and confidence is a heavy aphrodisiac to women this is what they really mean when they say a man is “strong”.

Don’t Convey Anger

Like it or not, we can’t choose who views our profile in dating sites. The girls who will find you there will be from all walks of life, and from any social level. They will have different belief systems, religions, political leanings, convictions. This means you have to take care not to mention something that will strike at a person’s inner core.

There’s a difference between being bold, edgy and unapologetic, and being downright rude will never get you a first date. If you’re unsure about which issues can anger a person, check the terms and conditions of the site you’re in, or think about the unwritten rules of the internet in general.

Issues such as hatred, violence, profanity, discrimination against race, gender and religion or political beliefs can spark a heated argument anywhere, and the virtual world is no exception. Besides, implying that you’re into these things will make her feel like she’s meeting a psycho and you don’t want that.

Don’t Be Boring

The worst emotion in the world is boredom, or ennui, the definition of which is “a feeling of listlessness and general dissatisfaction resulting from lack of activity or excitement.” When you describe yourself as average, normal, plain you will not meet women that you actually want to date.

She will feel bored and move on to find some other profile that will make her feel something, anything. Don’t get me wrong. You might think of yourself as average, normal or plain, but she doesn’t know that you feel that way.

Saying it out loud will plant the impression inside her head. Listen, women want to meet somebody who’s going to make their life more interesting and more fun.

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, online dating, online dating sites

How To Make An Incredible Online Dating Profile

By davem

Online dating should be used from a marketing perspective. Think of your profile as a brochure. I want you to think of yourself maybe  going into a Porsche dealership. Imagine you’re going into a Porsche dealership  and you want to drive this Porsche.

You go in and they get you a really nice brochure and you take it home. What you want is a profile that reveals just enough to tease a girl into being even more curious. Use these strategies when trying to meet women online.

Choose Your Headline Wisely

You need a witty headline because the headline is one of the first things a woman is going to see on your profile. Some online dating sites will call it a “tagline”, which is basically the same thing. I always use something funny as a headline. If you’ve read any other pick-up stuff, maybe you had a funny saying or a funny line you can use. I always rotate and try different things.

Here are some of them:

“I’m not feeling the connection… Do you know what I mean?”
“I think I’m going to have to break up with you.”
“I’m ex-husband material”
“I’m ex-boyfriend material”

You can say things like these and it will crack them up because these are one-liners. You can always use movie lines. I love using different movie lines. What are some funny movies that you can think of? For everybody it’s going to be different.

What’s funny for me might not be funny for you. What kind of funny movies come to mind? What kind of lines
come to mind. I always use those in my profile and in my headline because it’s starts everything off on a funny note.

Choose Bio Pictures Carefully

What I discovered is that looks don’t really matter as much as guys tend to think they do. Men like to think that women are drawn to their physical attraction, but this simply isn’t true. Granted, women especially online are paranoid about the height. The height issue is real big for a lot of women.

As far as the photos go, what I found to work really well are photos that convey what you’re saying in your profile. So if you’re talking about traveling, have pictures of you in different places because you’re conveying that. If you talk about how you love museums or you’re an artist, show you and some of your artwork in some of your pictures.

What I also found worked really well were pictures of myself in a suit. If you wear one for work, that’s great. Get a picture of you when you’re at work. Women always love a man who looks good, especially in a suit and tie. You can never go wrong with that. You probably already have these kinds of photos on your social networking profiles.

Include Group Photos

The mistake that very often cripples a lot of guys is they have all their pictures with them by themselves. Think about what you’re a conveying to a woman subconsciously. You’re conveying loneliness. You want to make sure you have people in your pictures where they’re smiling and having fun. This will give more of a chance for a first date.

You’re by yourself in every single picture so what do you think woman is going to think. You’re by yourself, you have no friends. What kind of woman wants to be with a guy who has no friends? If you’re a teacher, a photo of you with your kids at school will work great. Build a sense of confidence in your photos.

Get Your Photos Rated

One of the things I created was this system of getting my pictures rated. What I tend to think is three to five pictures is more than enough. You never want to have more than five pictures. You want to leave a little bit of mystery there. Three to five pictures should do it. What you want to do is take your pictures and go to this website called www.HotorNot.com. It’s free.

All you do is upload your pictures and women will rate your pictures from 1 to 10. You just leave it up there for a little while and you’ll kind of get an idea as to which pictures the women from all over the world or all over the country are looking at, and which ones they like the best. What better way to figure out which pictures to put up on your profile then to have women tell you.

Don’t be afraid of rejection when getting your photos rated. This is a chance to see what REAL women think about your pictures.

Make Her WANT to Contact You First

In order to do that, you need the right bait. It’s just like fishing. If you want the fish to bite, you have to give them the right bait. One of the best baits you can use is called “Desire.” When you’re writing, you want to build desire in the girl. The more you express that you’re cool, you’re funny, you have friends, you lean an interesting life and you’re carefree, the more she wants to meet you.

While doing my research on how to date online, one of the things I started looking at were some online escort sites. I found a trend. I noticed how the professional escorts would always talk about experiences. They would never say, “I’m 5’7, 110 pounds, 34DDs, I got a great ass like JLo.”

The pictures on the escort sites would convey that but the words on the page to build that desire always talked about experiences, stories, places where she could meet you, things like that you could do with her. Steal this strategy and build desire.

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, flirting, online dating

4 Rules To Live By On Dating Sites

By davem

Online dating can be a great way to get a lot of dates. But if you are guilty of these online dating don’ts, you need to correct yourself for dating success right now.

1. Say No to “Just Online” Relationships

I’m not keen on the idea of getting stuck in a “just online” relationship. You know the type of relationship that gets you chatting idly with a girl about stuff, a few hours a day for months or years? Then, before you know it, you’re getting all lovey-dovey every time she sends you an email peppered with heart emoticons.

You’re not having sex but you’re keeping the fantasy that someday, you will get the confidence to ask her out. Do NOT get stuck in an online relationship, and use dating sites to get phone numbers and set up dates. In case a girl gets coy and refuses to meet up, consider it a red flag.

There are many reasons why women start “just online” relationships, and some of these include relieving stress, getting some excitement going while the hubby is sleeping and whatever else. Remember, don’t hold out for a girl who isn’t entertaining the idea of meeting you. Don’t lose sleep over the reason why she doesn’t want to meet up, either.

2. Say No to Instant Messenger Chat

The problem with instant messenger is she knows where you are at any given point. Obviously to a limit, but she knows when you’re home, when you’re online, when you’re not online, when you’re sleeping, and when you’re out.

Plus, you’re supplicating to her. In other words, you sent her an e-mail and you asked for her number or you might not have even asked for her number yet but she responds back saying, “Hey, let’s instant message. Here’s my IM screen name.”

It’s a test. She’s testing you to see how committed you are with what you want, with your belief. If you give her your IM screen name or you IM her, you just failed that test. You’re probably going to trudge along with a “just online” relationship if you let her get away with controlling how you communicate. Rely on your online dating profile more so than an IM message.

3. Don’t Let Her Own You

She knows that you’re a wuss and she knows that she owns you. That’s something you definitely don’t want to do. At that point, you’re way too available so you want to avoid this at all costs. If she e-mails you asking for you to chat on instant messenger, ignore it. Let me say that again—ignore it! Act as if she didn’t say anything like that.

There’s another concept associated with online dating that says “Act, Don’t React”. You never want to react to what she says, you just want to act. Just keep going forward. Make believe she didn’t say anything at all and just ask her for her phone number. You could say something like “Hey, Mrs. A. Listen, I’m just way too busy to instant message.

Let’s talk on the phone. What’s your number?” Did you see how simple that was? It’s three phrases. It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that. What you’re doing is not giving her a choice. You’re telling her that instant messenger is not going to work, you want to talk on the phone, “What’s your number?” What can she do? She can either respond with her number or not.

4. Do NOT Over-Sell

I found out early on that the women who go to online dating sites receive three types of emails. Number one, they get a long email containing a novel about a guy’s sob story, a broken heart, a yearning for a woman who understands him etc. Number two, they get confessions of love from total strangers (basically, guys that have seen these women’s profile and have decided that they’re in love). And number three, email from some old men regarding money.

Filed Under: Online Dating Tips & Advice Tagged With: Dating Tips, online dating, online dating profile, online dating tips

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