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Oral Sex Positions That Will Make Your Girl Beg For More!

By loveandsex

Oral sex positions can make cunnilingus even hotter for your lover. Try these oral sex positions tonight and watch out – she won’t be able to get enough!

Legs Up

This is probably the most popular and widely used cunnilingus position. Your partner lays on a flat surface and you place your head squarely between her legs. This is absolutely excellent for uninhibited access to her vulva and this is one that most women find extremely comfortable. The only drawback of this particular one is that it is very hard on the man’s neck to continue to pleasure his partner in this way.

Any person with neck problems or a neck that easily gets cramped up if in one position too long should try another way to not only maximize his comfort but to allow her uninhibited oral sex. If you are one of the latter gentlemen and this particular arrangement tends to cause your neck to stiffen up but your partner really enjoys it, you can try placing a pillow or two underneath her buttocks to help raise her vulva to a comfortable level for you – one in which your neck is not quite as bent.

Legs On The Bed

This is another popular move and honestly, is not quite that different from “Legs Up” with the exception, of course, that the legs are never “up,” however, they are always touching the bed. Although there are not as many variations on this move as the “Legs Up” move, it is an excellent move for women who prefer to feel more in control of the cunnilingus session. This generally is not a better angle for the neck, though, so if your neck is bothersome, continue reading to the other oral sex positions.

Your partner will lay the same way on the bed (or other surface such as a mat on the floor or the couch) and you will kneel and place your mouth squarely between her legs. This is one where you can easily lie down, if that is more comfortable to you. Keep in mind, however, that lying down in this position as well as “Legs Up” as opposed to propping yourself up with your elbows creates more of a bend in the neck and can increase neck pain and discomfort.

Backwards

This is by far the most comfortable arrangement for those of you who get stiff necks with most of the other oral sex positions. Sometimes known as the “69,” you will invert your body so that your legs are on the same end of the bed as her head and her legs are on the same end of the bed as your head. This is great for the neck because the neck retains a much more natural angle – such as staying straight or bending downwards ever so slightly – and is great for men who like to take a long time on their ladies or ladies who take a long time to orgasm. There are plenty of variations on this one as well – just use your imagination!

Generally, in this arrangment, you and your partner can choose whether or not to simultaneously pleasure each other orally by just moving your pelvis directly in front of her face or by moving it off to the side. If both partners enjoy simultaneous orgasm this way, it can be of great benefit to both of them by allowing them to feel more emotionally and physically connected. Don’t suggest simultaneous pleasure all the time, however, because while she is pleasuring you, she has less focus on the pleasure she is receiving and cannot fully appreciate your cunnilingus efforts. One of the best benefits of this arrangement is that facing her vulva downwards naturally allows for a downward tongue stroke.

Remember earlier when we said that some women (and almost all women when they’re not aroused) can find an upwards tongue stroke on the clitoris uncomfortable? This is the greatest way to combat that! The tongue naturally strokes the clitoris through the clitoral hood and in a downward motion – therefore eliminating any straight on the clitoral head discomfort. As with the closed-leg position, the backwards one does not allow for much more than clitoral stimulation as the tongue can’t reach quite to the back of the vulva and all the way to the vagina, however, it does allow more access than the closed-leg position.

Doggy Style

Yes, this particular cunnilingus position takes its name directly from the popular intercourse variation – but it does not need to be associated with the same negative connotations and criticism that the intercourse version of the “Doggy Style” position can sometimes get. With this one, your partner will place herself on a solid surface (such as the floor or a bed) on all fours, tilting her hips slightly towards the ceiling.

You will angle your face within licking and sucking distance of her vulva. The variations on this  arrangment is what make it so unique – while the woman generally stays the same way, her partner can alter his placement in regards to her vulva any which way he chooses, making each doggy style cunnilingus session different. This one is great if you and your partner are feeling especially randy – it can feel a little more “dirty” or “kinky” than a traditional cunnilingus position.

Sit On My Face

This is a great one to try if a woman is confident about her body and herself, although we wouldn’t recommend it for every cunnilingus session as it can be somewhat daunting to the male partner. Generally, you will lie down on the bed face up and your partner will “sit” on your face by setting each knee on either side of your head and her vulva just above your mouth, giving you only enough distance to breathe on and suck and lick her vulva.

A woman must be confident with her body and confident in herself to be comfortable with this arrangement because as the man is positioned beneath her, he will be looking up at her and get a very good view of her entire body, including the undersides of her breasts. Of course, for many couples this is an extreme turn-on but for some, this kind of uninhibited view can make one or both partners a little uncomfortable. Be sure and discuss “Sit on My Face” with your partner before trying it.

Of course, there are plenty of wacky, uncomfortable oral sex positions out there for you to try and you can use your imagination to think up anything you might possibly desire! Keep in mind though; you don’t have to try all kinds to impress your partner. Find a few that really work great and stick to them, unless both you and your partner are feeling particularly turned-on and the mood – then you can try some of the more kinky oral sex positions.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: cunnilingus, oral sex, oral sex positions, sex tips

Oral Sex – 11 Hot Spots Most Girls Look Over (And Why YOU Shouldn’t!)

By loveandsex

Oral sex is incredible for a guy – but you can make it even more amazing by spending time on each of these sensitive areas before getting down to business.

Yes, there are more erogenous zones than just what lies between your man’s legs. While many of these spots are accessed and pleasured during foreplay, they are often forgotten once a woman’s concentration has moved down south. After learning more about the many male erogenous zones and sensitive spots, you can decide what works best on your partner and whether you should do it before, during or after oral sex.

The Head And Scalp

The scalp can be very sensitive to the touch and a great scalp massage before oral sex can send tingles down your partner’s spine and in between his legs. You can also lightly pull on your partner’s hair during fellatio if this is a sensation that he enjoys. Run your fingers through his hair ~ regardless how much he HAS or HAS NOT!

His Face

Just as a woman wants every part of her face explored and appreciated. Kissing their eyelids, temples, nose, forehead and cheeks should all be savored, not just their lips. Spend some time enjoying their stubble and the variance of their rugged male skin against your soft, supple womanly dermis.

His Ears

Most women probably know that the ears are an excellent erogenous zone in men. Many men get excited just at the thought of having their ears sucked, licked and lightly breathed on. Use this time to lightly moan into his ear to let him know how excited you are about the upcoming fellatio. This kind of foreplay shouldn’t be overlooked.

Before you “go down south”, set the stage for what you intend to do once you get down there. Talk to him and tell him what you plan to do, then ask him, “how does that sound?” He may add to it, which helps you know just want he dreams about you doing to him.

The Neck

Not surprisingly, the nape of the neck (as well as the upper neck, near the earlobes) is a very sensitive place on a guy. You can use light pressure, such as light sucking, licking and nibbling or you can use a slightly rougher technique such as more forceful sucking or biting. It all depends on your man’s mood and what he likes! Try a few different sensations in his neck area and gauge his response – he’ll give you physical cues to let you know that he likes something.

That doesn’t just apply to his neck area though – it can apply to anywhere! Another area to not ignore is their collar bone. The skin is thinner in that area that on the rest of their chest and very sensitive.

The Chest And Nipples

It is fairly well known that men’s nipples are not quite as sensitive as women’s nipples are, simply because there are more sensitive nerve endings (pleasurable and otherwise) in a woman’s nipple. That does not mean, however, that men do not enjoy having their nipples licked, sucked and nibbled before and during an oral sex session (most men do).

If your partner does like to have his nipples licked and sucked (or lightly pinched and rubbed, for that matter), do so during fellatio. You can certainly use this as a move to warm him up before oral sex or during to enhance the sensations of your mouth on his penis. Pulling or tugging on chest hair is a big turn on for some hairy chested fellas.

His Stomach

The lower tummy (near the groin area) is perhaps one of the most sensitive places (other than the penis and surrounding structures) on a man. You will definitely want to “cross this bridge” before you begin oral sex – it will make him crazy with desire! The most sensitive and responsive site is right where the thigh joins the stomach and a little bit above. If your man is really ripped, these places will be even more defined. It is possible that this area may not be as sensitive in a heavyset man, however, you can try licking and nibbling in this area before the blowjob to see if your man gives you a positive response. If he does like it, do use it sparingly.

A few nibbles here and there are just enough to get him going. If you overdo it, the area will get a bit numb and he won’t be as giddy about being touched and licked there. Some men are ultra ticklish, so caressing, not tiny glazes should be used. If you do accidently tickle him, all is not lost. Just remember and remind him that 90% of the time, tickle wars end in sex!

His Inner Thighs

A man’s inner thighs are often a neglected erogenous zone as not many women target them. Here, most men will enjoy some massaging, stroking, licking, and even some gentle nibbling. Pay some special attention to the area where his legs join the trunk of his body. It’s a real hot ticket button for many men – just be sure to use enough pressure that you don’t turn him into a “tickle me Elmo” doll and he loses his erection from all the giggling.

His Toes And Fingers

Okay, maybe not so much toes unless your partner happens to have a foot fetish (and some do). Fingers, however, can entice your man beyond his wildest dreams if caressed correctly. It is not so much the physical sensation here; it is more the visual and the imagination. Huh? Do to your man’s finger (index or middle) what you plan on doing to his penis in just a few short minutes. He will get to see your mouth and tongue action up-close and begin to imagine what it’s going to feel like when it’s on his penis.

Don’t spend too long doing this, however, because as we said – the fingers are not sensitive in and of themselves. If done for too long, he may begin to get bored with it because let’s face it – there’s only so much you can do to a finger! If done just enough, however, you can get his brain in gear for what’s to come.

The Perineum

Also referred to as the “male g-spot“, this is the ridged area of skin between the testicles and the anus. It is a very sensual area – one that when stimulated, creates sensations that most men find irresistible. This area is closely linked to the prostate gland, which is why it is so intensely pleasurable when touched. Some men love for you to run your tongue from the backside of their testicles all over this ridge and report that it’s their favorite “point of no return” when impassioned.

The Butt Cheeks

The buttocks are a definite fun spot to play with! Kiss them, rub them, shake them, smack them, tickle them, squeeze them and pull them into you with both hands while you are giving oral. It’s great to have your hands on both of them, especially if he’s in standing, so you can control the speed and also the depth. Spanking enthusiasts tout the pleasures of the backside, insisting that a good spanking before oral sex can be the perfect foreplay for your man, if he’s into it.

The Anus/Rectum

This area is a very arousing spot for a lot of people. There are many nerve endings located just at the opening of the anus making it a very sensitive and pleasurable place to touch. Try using fingers or a small, well lubricated sex toy, since any dry entry can cause pain, which is the exact opposite reaction you’re looking for. Even stroking gently around the edge while giving oral to your man is sometimes enough to push them straight over the edge.

Of course, every man is different. Your partner may have special spots (other than his penis) that he enjoys having licked, sucked, caressed, fondled, bitten, nibbled or pinched before or during oral sex. Just like with a woman and cunnilingus, you have to get a man ready and warmed up before you begin oral sex.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, fellatio, oral sex, sex tips

Killer Blowjob Tips Every Woman NEEDS To Know!

By rochellestavi

Blowjob tips are essential if you want to give your man great head. THESE blowjob tips are ones you definitely don’t want to miss out on!

Start Out By Being Confident!

For a lot of women, oral sex is really intimidating. It can be very overwhelming having your man in your mouth. A lot of women immediately start preparing for the worst and worrying that something is going to go wrong. So many women worry that their gag reflexes are going to come into play or that they just aren’t going to be good enough. It’s time you put the worries behind you.

You can give your man amazing oral sex and you can do just that tonight. All you need is a little boost of confidence and some great knowledge. The more you know about oral sex, the more your nerves will be at ease and the calmer you will feel. If you really want to get your man going in the bedroom tonight, you need to learn these incredible blowjob tips tonight!

Start Off Slow

Just like with sex, you never dive right in a blowjob; you always start off slow with foreplay and gradually increase stimulation. The same goes for oral sex and it should be treated in the same manner. You don’t want to just take your man in all at once and then start bobbing up and down on him. This isn’t going to feel good for him because it is going to be way too much stimulation all at once. Instead, try easing him into it and easing yourself into it. Lick his penis with your tongue and trace it all over. This will ease him into feeling the warmth of your mouth and it will get the party started. Then, use your hand to stroke him a little until he is rock hard and your mouth is will salivated. Then, he can enter you and the fun can begin.

Use Everything In Your Arsenal

Just because these are blowjob tips, it doesn’t mean that you are only limited to just using your mouth. In fact, it is advised that you don’t. If you really want to maximize oral sex for your man and give him an out of this world orgasm, you have to use more than your mouth. Try doing this: use your strong hand on the shaft of his penis and stroke it up and down, use your other hand to stimulate his testicles by rubbing them and then finally, use your mouth on the tip of his penis. By following this, you are ensuring that no part of his pleasure zone is going untouched. He will feel so many different sensations and pleasure, he will easily explode.

Be Vocal!

This may sound impossible since you are going to have a penis in your mouth, making it difficult for you to speak but we aren’t talking about being vocal in the sense of dirty talking. Rather, it is a good idea for you to make some sexy moaning while you are going down on him. Your man could be feeling all of this pleasure but if all he hears is complete silence, something isn’t going to seem right to him. Men want women to enjoy giving oral sex. The more you are enjoying what you are doing to him, the more he will enjoy it.

Therefore, some sexy moans to let him know that you are really loving having him in your mouth will definitely set him off. Not only do they signal to him that you are loving it, but they also serve a bonus purpose. With your lips wrapped around his penis, and your mouth humming, you are going to send vibrations from your mouth to his penis and then throughout his entire body. This added bit of stimulation will more than likely be something he hasn’t experienced in this way before and it will feel amazing. If you really want to send chills all throughout his body, this is how you do it.

The Grand Finale

After giving him amazing stimulation and making him feel like a king, you want to finish off the main event in the right way. A lot of women can ruin oral sex in this moment and this is something that you don’t want to do. When your man is about to come, you have three choices and only one of them is the one you want to make. You can either stroke him to finish, allowing him to ejaculate on himself, you can let him ejaculate in your mouth and then spit, or you can let him ejaculate semen in your mouth and swallow.

Now, what choice do you think is the right one to make? Of course, swallowing is the sexy way to end off a killer blow job and it is a huge turn on for him. If you run to the bathroom to spit, you might as well never give him oral sex again because you are showing him that you are disgusted by it. You wouldn’t appreciate it if your man ran to the bathroom after going down on you, so don’t do the same to him. Finish off this amazing stimulation the right way and you will give him an experience he won’t soon forget.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, blowjob how to, fellatio, oral sex, sex tips

Oral Sex: How To Kiss The Clitoris

By loveandsex

Oral sex is the best way to get your partner turned on and ready for sex – but first impressions matter. Here’s how to start oral sex by kissing the clitoris.

First impressions are always of high importance, but few more so than the first moment that your mouth touches your partner’s vulva. If done correctly? It’ll take her breath away and leave her primed for arousal.

Take It Slow And Enjoy It!

Try to view your first mouth-to-genital kiss with a woman as something to be savored, not devoured. Like an expensive wine or caviar, its first blossom in your mouth is something special and memorable. Allow yourself the time to smell its bouquet, swish it around to see how it reacts, let it breathe or move on its own, and then, with delicious anticipation, take the first dip. Avoid chugging it (metaphorically) in one fell swoop; instead, appreciate every moment that leads up to your first clitoral kiss.

Here’s how to get her craving it:

  • If she chooses not to remove her pubic hair, run your fingers through it gently, or, if she has no pubic hair, tap her labia gently with the pads of your fingers.
  • Tease and tantalize the flesh surrounding the whole genital area. Kiss her thighs, lick her Mons Pubis, nuzzle her folds. Make the first contact more sweet than sexy, more tender than pressing.
  • Use your breath to warm up her privates, making sure not to blow any air inside her vagina.

NOTE: We’re talking more a gentle kiss of warm air that hits her nether regions than a forceful fan blowing. Blowing air into her vagina can be very dangerous, and can do a lot of harm. So instead, breathe on her, blow lightly, but never blow into any of her orifices.

What To Do If She’s Still Clothed

If she’s still got her panties on, lightly kiss her from her vaginal opening all the way to where her labia meets the mons pubis. Then, look her in the eye as you take her panties into your teeth, and tease her with removing them. Prolong the tease, without hurting her or ripping her panties. You can get rough another time, today is just for her pleasure.

Next, pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris, and with incredible softness, breathe on it from mere centimeters away. Let her feel you right up against her clitoris, without actually touching it.

Peel off her panties, and look appreciatively at her vulva. Now is an excellent time to remind yourself of the pleasure you plan on bringing your partner to, as well as any mental notes. This is all about assisting your partner from arousal to orgasm – keep the focus.

Incorporating Dirty Talk

If it helps, you could also tell your partner:

  • How much going down on her turns you on, and that you are as excited as she is about the process.
  • To relax and feel like she has all the time in the world. That this is meant to pamper and savor her in full.
  • That she smells divine, will taste even better, and that you’ve never seen her look more beautiful or alive than you do at this moment.

Of course, if you don’t feel any of those things, don’t say them but then perhaps take a few more moments to get into that head space, because bringing a woman to climax with oral sex is more about both of your mental states than anything else.

Imagine if you can, that you’re at an event that you’ve been looking forward to for weeks. What do you say to the hostess? These are the same kinds of things you’ll want to say to your partner now: how beautiful she is, how much you’ve been looking forward to the event, how excited you are. Use this time to really tease the senses and mind. Make her think you’re going to extend this part of the evening forever, that you’ll never actually touch her clitoris at all. That all you’re doing is teasing her, leaving her frustrated – it’ll make her go mad for you, and turn her on even more. Then, when she’s almost at the brink of losing it because of the pent-up passion!

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, dirty talk, female orgasm, oral sex, orgasm, sex tips

Ice Is Nice: Chill Out With These Cool Oral Sex Techniques

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be taken to a whole new level by introducing temperature play. Even old maneuvers will seem new when you incorporate fun things like peppermint, popsicles and alternating hot and cold. These “cool” tricks will have your partner begging for release!

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Why Temperature Play Is So Much Fun

Even with the best sex tips and suggestions, oral sex (and sex in general) can get boring, especially if you’re in a long term relationship and are monogamous with your partner. It’s important to continue to try new things in a long term sexual relationship, to make sure that you have plenty of variety and you and your lover are satisfied physically and emotionally with your sexual relationship.

Temperature play is an easy way to spice things up in the bedroom. You don’t have to invest a lot of money in equipment to get started having fun with temperature play – in fact, you can probably try some of these things tonight, with things you already have in your home! Heat or cold can make oral sex feel totally new, even when you’re using the same old maneuvers that you always have. If oral sex has become monotonous, try incorporating these fun things to help your partner experience a totally new level of pleasure!

Peppermints

Peppermint candy is an excellent beginner’s tool if you’re just starting to get into temperature play with oral sex. Some men and women are very sensitive to temperature, so starting with ice and chilled sex toys may be a little too intense when you’re just getting your feet wet. Suck on a peppermint candy for a few minutes before giving your lover oral sex, and keep the peppermint in your mouth while you go down on them.

When you remove your mouth, gently blow air onto your partner’s genitals to increase the cooling, tingling sensations. When you combine wetness, peppermint and cool air, you can create some very intense feelings! Peppermint is also a great way to improve the taste and smell of oral sex for the giver.

Ice Cubes

If you’re feeling a little more adventurous and want to go for something colder than peppermint, ice cubes are extremely inexpensive and handy! Suck on an ice cube before oral sex to get your mouth cold, or suck on one during oral sex. Start small though – ice can be very, very cold and if you start out with a huge chunk, it’s likely to feel much too cold for you and your lover. Let the ice melt in your mouth a little, or let it melt over their genitals for tingling sensations that aren’t painful or uncomfortable.

Popsicles (For Her)

Popsicles can be fun to play with when performing oral sex on a woman, because you can either slide it around the clitoris (it has an easy to use handle) or insert it into the vagina. As the popsicle melts, it will create amazing sensations, especially when placed inside the vagina. Don’t go putting just any popsicle in there though, because sugar in the vagina can cause yeast infections! Make your own popsicles with plain water, so you don’t have to worry about giving your partner a nasty infection. This is easy to do and popsicle trays can be found at almost any store.

A Glass Dildo

If you and your lover really enjoy temperature play during oral sex and sex, invest in a glass dildo – it’s much easier to use than popsicles and ice cubes. You can put it in the freezer or refrigerator to get it really, really cold, or you can place it in a bowl of warm water to heat it up. It won’t melt either, so you don’t have to clean up a big mess afterwards! However, for some types of temperature play, the ice melting can be more erotic than just inserting a cold or warm glass dildo.

Alternating Hot And Cold

If you’re playing with ice, you can also play with heat and alternate between hot and cold. The different sensations caused by heat, and then by cold can drive your partner absolutely wild with pleasure! The easiest way to alternate between hot and cold during oral sex is to keep a glass of ice water and a cup of hot tea nearby when you go down on your lover. Take a sip of the ice water and lick around a few times, then take a sip of the hot tea and put your mouth back on your partner’s genitals. They will love never knowing what is coming next!

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, cunnilingus, oral sex, orgasm

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