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Orgasm Tips: The Technique That Will Make Your Partner Orgasm Like Crazy!

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Orgasm tips can often lack what you need to REALLY make your girl have a powerful orgasm. However, this “triple play” technique just might make your partner SQUIRT!

I hope you’re excited, because today I’m going to reveal what is perhaps my VERY BEST technique for making your girl orgasm like crazy!

It’s called the “Triple Play” – because it involves stimulating her in 3 special spots at the same time – and creating a “pleasure trifecta” that will have her squirting like crazy in no time!

How To Do It

  • Using techniques to build ANTICIPATION, get to the point where you have her panties off and are about to go down.
  • Begin gently licking her clitoris VERY lightly! Remember, you WANT to be a tease!
  • Take the middle finger of your right hand, and begin touching her below where your tongue is, getting your finger nice and wet. Then, gently put your finger inside of her while you continue the soft, light tongue stimulation. Your hand should be facing upwards, so your finger is rubbing on her upper wall, towards the back – right on her g-spot.

Here’s Where The “Magic” Happens!

  • Take your left hand and put it ON TOP of her public bone, and using the fingers of your left hand, rub the spot on the OUTSIDE that is directly on top of your fingers on the INSIDE – so both are hitting the same spot! Rub in a soft, circular motion. You are now stimulating 3 of her hottest spots at once!
  • Go light at first, and pay attention to her body and her breathing. As she gets more and more exciting, slowly increase the pressure of your fingers (both hands), along with the speed and intensity of your tongue.
  • Now for the Grand Finale!!! Once her body is quivering and she is moaning and thrusting her hips, put your mouth OVER her “love button” and gently suck on it while still stimulating it with your tongue. Then, WATCH HER ORGASM LIKE NEVER BEFORE!! I guarantee you have NEVER seen your girl orgasm like this!!!

After she’s had an amazing orgasm – or 2, 3 4, or 5 (she’ll let you know when she’s had enough by motioning for you to come up), give her a passionate kiss, and lay down next to her. After experiencing the intense orgasms this technique creates, she’ll need to rest a bit before she’s ready for anything else.

But once she’s rested up – WATCH OUT! A girl who’s just had some VERY intense orgasms is going to be VERY ready and eager to please you!

So there you have it, my very BEST orgasm-giving technique! Go try this TONIGHT while it’s fresh on your mind – but be warned: After you get your girl off like this, it’s very likely she’s gonna want to have sex ALL THE TIME.

4 MORE Reasons Women Hate Blowjobs

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Oral sex can be challenging for a girl – there are many reasons why she doesn’t want to give you a blowjob. Here are four things that keep her from giving head.

1. Good Girls Don’t Do That

This one often comes from a religious or conservative upbringing where she was taught that giving head is a “sin” or something that “good girls” don’t do. And guys actually make this WORSE by treating a blowjob as the “holy grail” of sexuality or trying to PRESSURE her into doing it.

Getting over the “good girl” stigma is actually pretty easy. Just keep reading.

2. She’s Scared To Swallow Or She Doesn’t Like The Taste

I blame porn. A lot of guys have this unrealistic expectation that women should be EAGER to swallow. In the real world, women that really LIKE doing that are pretty rare (and treasured like the beautiful unicorns they are.) For now, I want you to take swallowing off the table completely. That’s not what we’re going for yet. Once you get more advanced you can learn some techniques for getting her to want to swallow and maybe even enjoy it. But you’ve got to crawl before you can skateboard.

3. She Thinks You’re A Hypocrite For Asking

She just might be right about that.

I can’t even tell you how many emails I’ve gotten from women saying “Mike, I give my husband slow, deep, wonderful blowjobs but he REFUSES to go down on me! What do I do!”

Plain and simple, if you want your woman to get into the idea of giving you oral sex on a regular basis (and really getting INTO it) you’ve got to be willing and EAGER to do the same for her.

Yeah, I know, some guys “hate” doing that, don’t like the smell, think it’s not “manly” or whatever. And my advice to you is to GET THE #@$@ OVER IT. If you want to get, you have to give. And you have to give REALLY well. So next time you and your woman are going at it, kiss your way down her stomach, pray to whatever gods you worship and get to work. It’ll be worth it, I promise.

4. She Doesn’t Think She’s Any Good At Oral Sex

This is actually huge.

When I was doing my research for this training I heard from woman after woman that one of the biggest reasons they didn’t like giving head was because they didn’t think they were any good at it.

Fact is most women have “low blowjob self esteem” and are petrified that you’re going to tell them what they’re doing “isn’t as good as your ex girlfriend” or “ doesn’t measure up in some way.”

(Tangentially, this low self esteem is a huge part of the “sex problem” I see in so many relationships. The woman doesn’t feel truly sexy, desired or “good” at sex, so she takes it off the table. This sometimes happens due to no fault of the guy at all.)

A huge part of what you need to do is to start BUILDING up her sexual self esteem (both around blowjobs and around sex in general.)

It won’t take long and your woman will feel worlds better about her ability to please you, will actually ENJOY giving you head and will actually have improved her sexual skills by leaps and bounds.

3 Reasons Women HATE Giving A Blowjob

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A blowjob is something that men cannot possibly understand. Here is exactly why women really hate giving them and how to overcome the hurdles for a fulfilling relationship.

1. She thinks “It’s Degrading To Women.”

It seems a little old fashioned to me, but a lot of women still think that giving you a blowjob is degrading to women. Due to cultural stereotypes, things they’ve seen in porn or feminist theory, they see fellatio as a way for men to show their domination and power over women.

And you know what? To some degree they’re right. Yeah, yeah, I know. I’m not supposed to say that, but on a deep and primal level getting a blowjob (or GIVING a blowjob) is about power, connection, service and submission. It’s about one person doing everything they can to make another person feel good. And done right it can be a hell of a boost to the ego of both people in the equation.

This might sound unbelievable depending on how often you get oral sex, but a lot of women actually LIKE the submissive aspect of giving blowjobs (more than you’d probably think.) And I don’t know about you, but I definitely DO feel powerful and virile and just plain GOOD when my girlfriend is going down on me.

I mean, there’s a reason we guys LOVE getting blow jobs in the first place and it’s not all physical. There’s a damned good mix of power and fantasy mixed in there as well. So while I agree that a first blowjob really can be about power (both your power over her and her power over you) I totally reject the idea that a blowjob is “degrading” to women.

When we get to the “step by step” part of this manual I’m going to show you how to “flip the switch” on how your woman thinks about blow jobs so instead of seeing it as something “degrading” and “humiliating” she sees it as a way of exerting her sexual power over you.

For now, I want you to do two things:

Accept the fact that getting a blowjob is about more than just physical pleasure for you. Deep down in your subconscious there’s a part of you that gets off on having a woman “worship” your penis and be completely dedicated to your pleasure. And you know what? That’s just fine. I’ll tell you right now, if you’re in any way “ashamed” about your desire for a blow job it’s going to be a lot harder to make this work.

So just accept it. You want a hummer. In fact, you want a great, eager, fun, toe curling hummer. It’s cool.

Stop thinking of a fellatio as something she “does for you” and start thinking of it as something you can SHARE together. We’ll get more into this later, but on a conscious level I need you to start seeing blow jobs as a POSITIVE thing that you and your woman can do together that you BOTH should enjoy.

2. She Thinks It’s “Dirty Down There.”

A lot of women don’t like giving oral sex because they think guys are dirty, disgusting pigs. And they’ve kind of got a point. If you haven’t taken a shower in two weeks, are wearing the same underwear you had on during the Bush presidency and think soap is “some kind of commie plot against masculinity.”

Well, there ain’t no way you’re getting head. Listen: In this manual I’m going to teach you EXACTLY how to get your woman to LOOK forward to giving you head and ENJOY it as much as you do. But if you don’t do some “basic maintenance” first the whole thing is going to blow up in your face.

So here’s some basic stuff you need to do:

TAKE A SHOWER. Seriously, dude. Get in there with REAL soap and clean up the whole area. Spend some time on it and make your whole undercarriage (balls, cock, ass) as spotless as humanly possible. Use some scented soap (something girly) so she can tell you actually cleaned up. (Women have MUCH more sensitive senses of smell than guys do.)

Mow the lawn. OK, I’m a big hairy guy (my ethnic background is French, Italian and Lebanese. I get hairier by the minute) so this is actually a sensitive subject for me. But I’m going to tell you right now your chances of getting a GREAT orgasm on a REGULAR basis go WAY up when you get in there with some clippers and clear out the underbrush. I mean, how the heck can she suck your penis if she can’t find the damn thing?

Be “Conspicuously Clean” And Let Her Know It OK, this is subtle but important. Make sure she KNOWS that you’ve cleaned up. Next time you’re planning on getting amorous with your lady (or before you play the “games” I teach you in the next section) do what girls do and “go freshen up.”

3. The Gag Reflex (She Chokes)

OK guys, good news and bad news. The good news is that most women really can learn to deep throat over time (and it feels great.) The bad news is that the odds are your wife is NOT Linda Lovelace.

Do me a quick favor:
Take your index finger . . .
Shove it down your throat as far as possible.
See what happens (You probably GAG and feel that vomit reflex.)

Was that PLEASANT?
Was that something you LIKED?
Of course not.

And unless your woman is an “old pro” at giving head or a genetic freak with no gag reflex, she doesn’t like it either. Most women I know HATED giving head the first couple times they did it because the guy they were with grabbed her head and made her choke. And weirdly enough that traumatic event really colored the experience for her and made it something she didn’t want to do again.

4 Ways To Get A Blowjob WITHOUT Asking

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A blowjob can be a fun thing for you and your wife or girlfriend. A lot of guys think that this is something the girl does for them after asking or begging, but there are simple ways that you can turn this activity into something you get on a regular basis. Here are a couple of basic rules and things you need to internalize in order to make this “blowjob” thing start to happen in your life.

1. Change Your Thinking

You need to permanently change your thinking around oral sex. Weirdly enough, if you want to get more head in your life you need to treat blowjobs as “no big deal.” If getting a blowjob is the “be all, end all” of your sexuality then it becomes too much pressure for her. If it’s “just something fun you guys can do” it’s more likely to happen and happen often.

2. Don’t Beg – EVER

Most women want their man to be the dominant but respectful one in the sexual relationship. That means you CAN NOT BE ASHAMED OF YOUR DESIRES. If you ever act embarrassed by something you want sexually your odds of getting it go WAY down. Whether you want her to go down on you or put on a sexy clown costume and juggle your balls, you need to OWN your desire and have confidence about it. This can be hard to pull off, but it’s incredibly important.

3. Don’t Be Misogynistic

This whole method is based around loving and respecting women. In my own life I’ve discovered that the more I respect and adore women the dirtier, sexier and weirder things they’ve been willing to do with me. Even if you really want to be dominant with a woman, the best way to get there is to have a sincere desire to give her pleasure and to have FUN with her.

4. Make It About BOTH Of You

You need to start thinking of blowjobs as “something you guys SHARE” instead of something she does for you. This is a really important distinction. Once you internalize this concept you’ll both start having a lot more fun with your sexual fantasies. It’s got to be fun for both of you.

3 Dirty Sex Moves Men Crave In Bed

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Every guy craves dirty sex. Most of them are hesitant about asking their partners to do certain things in bed for fear of offending the other person, or being judged. However, most  crave a few “naughty” things in between the sheets, even if they are afraid to ask for it. Spice up your sex life by anticipating the “taboo” things your man wants to do to you and give him dirty sex tonight!

Orgasm Inside Your Mouth

Every porn video he has ever seen contains a variation or two of this oral sex activity. Since he has spend a lot of time fantasizing about “cum in mouth” and “cum on face” scenes, he might want to try these when you’re having sex. But some women are offended at the thought of swallowing a man’s sperm. She may also feel affronted at the thought of a man’s semen spraying all over her face. But if your man cannot do these things with you, who else would he do it with?

Save him the trouble of him asking by telling him to orgasm in your mouth. If he asks why you feel like doing it this time, just say you want to taste him in the most intimate way possible.

Analingus

Being the recipient of oral sex should tell you how sensitive the skin around your anus is. It’s called the perineum, where the skin is thinner than anywhere else around your pubic area. For women, it’s the patch of skin that stretches the most during sex. If you felt all sorts of pleasurable sensations when your man caresses that area, you should know that it’s the same for guys. But some women feel grossed out at the thought of licking their partners there, so men usually don’t ask.

While you’re blowing him, slide down to that place and don’t slow down. He might feel surprised, even shocked, at your daring but the pleasure will overpower him after a few minutes of analingus. Slide your tongue over his anal sphincter to intensify the sensation.

Anal Sex

Anal sex on you is something that you and your man might have tried. But have you ever thought about doing it to him? Like rimming, he might be craving for you to shove your tongue or your finger up his ass but never knew how to ask.

Once you’ve graduated from rimming, you can proceed with exploring his anal region with your fingers and your tongue. However, be prepared for some sort of resistance, as straight men who have never tried this before may feel like they’re getting violated.

If your man shows signs of detesting the act because it feels “gay,” remind him that a woman is doing it to him so he shouldn’t feel that way. It’s probably better to discuss the possibility of anal sex on him before you proceed. A man needs to prepare himself mentally and physically for the act.

There are women who can do the things I mentioned effortlessly, but there are women who don’t want to do these things because these activities are “dirty,” literally. If you’re one of these women, you can easily solve this problem by doing it in the bath or under the shower.