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Sex Positions: 3 Ways To Sixty-Nine Your Partner

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While there are lots of different sex positions you can use to give your partner great oral sex, the sixty-nine position is the favorite of many couples. Why is that? One of the greatest things about oral sex is that you’re giving your partner a gift for them to enjoy and for them to enjoy alone. However, the sixty-nine position allows both partners to recieve oral sex at the same time and experience levels of pleasure that can’t be reached when one partner is performing oral sex on the other. Here are 3 ways to get it on in the sixty-nine position so you and your partner can experience the pleasure of receiving and giving oral sex together.

Traditional Sixty-Nine

In the traditional sixty-nine position, the woman is on top with her vulva positioned over her partner’s face as he’s lying on the bed, while positioning her own face over her partner’s penis. Her legs will be beside his head, while his legs are stretched out on the bed in front of her. This is one of the easiest ways to sixty-nine with your partner, because usually the woman is smaller and lighter in weight than the man and it is more comfortable for her to be on top. Another benefit to the traditional sixty-nine position is that the woman’s head is not restrained at all and she has full freedom of movement when giving her partner a blowjob. She can slide her mouth up and down her partner’s penis without having to fight with the bed to move her neck. This position also allows her to press her vulva into her partner’s mouth as she becomes more aroused, and both partners can easily rock back and forth as they get closer and closer to orgasm.

Inverted Sixty-Nine

This oral sex position allows the man to be on top while the woman lies underneath her partner. This position is a little more difficult than the traditional sixty-nine position, but may work better for women who are larger or men who are more comfortable on top. This position will allow the man to thrust his penis into his partner’s mouth as he licks her clitoris, however, this can be a bit difficult for the woman if she has a strong gag reflex or hasn’t deep throated before. It can also be difficult for the woman to breathe while she’s giving her partner head, because often a man’s scrotum will rest right over the woman’s nose. She may need to use one hand to hold her partner’s scrotum out of the way so she can breathe. If you and your partner want to try sixty-nining with him on top, make sure you have a non-verbal signal (such as a strong pinch or slap) that will let him know that she is having trouble breathing or gagging. Agree beforehand that if she uses the signal, he must stop right away.

Sideways Sixty-Nine

The sideways sixty-nine sex position is probably the easiest position to use for simultaneous cunnilingus and fellatio. Instead of one partner being on top of the other, both partners are lying on their sides while giving and receiving oral sex. This can be much more comfortable for both the man and the woman than other sixty-nine sex positions, because one partner doesn’t have to have the weight of the other on top of them. The sideways sixty-nine still allows each partner to fully reach their partner’s genitals and both partners will have plenty of room to move around and pleasure each other orally. Make each other even more comfortable by placing a pillow under each of your heads, so you and your partner can sixty-nine all night long!

Simultaneous Orgasms

Going down on each other at the same time, no matter which position your in is a great way to connect with your partner physically and emotionally. It will also help open up the opportunity for you to experience a simultaneous orgasm with your partner. It’s easy – if one partner is getting too close to orgasm, they can continue giving their partner oral sex while their partner goes slower or stops giving them head until they catch up. If you have never experienced a simultaneous orgasm with your partner and have tried doing so through intercourse without success, you can definitely increase your chances of having an orgasm together through sixty-nining in any position. However, to make sure that both partners get pleasure out of sixty-nining, each partner must be comfortable. Try a new sixty-nine position if one isn’t comfortable enough to allow you or your partner to recieve pleasure.

5 Things You Didn’t Know About Cunnilingus

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Cunnilingus is the “fancy” term for giving a woman head. It may not always be your favourite sex chore (like some women don’t like blowjobs), but it’s a worthwhile skill to learn if you want to satisfy your partner. Women expect men to go down on them during sex. And, cunnilingus has often become the only way for some women to orgasm even before actual sex.

Are Women Able To Orgasm During Cunnilingus?

Yes. Although the chance of orgasm via cunnilingus is still dependent on the man’s skill, most women can climax when they’re being eaten out compared to penetration. This has a lot to do with the way their clitoris get more attention via cunnilingus.

Is It Necessary To Touch The Clitoris When I’m Giving Her Head?

Yes. The clitoris is one of the major factors that contribute to a woman’s pleasure. But how you touch it matters. Some women have a totally exposed clitoris, especially during full arousal. It may be painful for the woman if her clitoris is rubbed directly by a dry finger so what you need to do is to lubricate your hands before you touch her there. If you’re using your tongue, make sure you start licking around her clitoris until she’s used to the sensation before licking the pink tip directly.

I Like It When A Woman Nibbles Lightly On My Member During A Blowjob, Is It The Same For Women?

Unfortunately for the natural nibblers out there, the clitoris is more sensitive than the penis and any grazing of teeth will make it sore and then numb. The penis is often exposed to fabric and the air (when you go to the bathroom to urinate), which contributes to the slight desensitization that continues daily for men. A woman’s clitoris, however, is hidden from view and protected by plump skin for protection. Exposing it to too much sensation, like biting, will only result in pain.

Do All Women Smell Down There?

A woman’s scent down there takes some getting used to, and there are a lot of men who have been traumatized by their first oral sex experience because they are not ready for the smell. Don’t immediately assume that her hygiene is poor if she smells down there, as her diet and a lot of other factors affect her chemical make up.

Some women have a more pleasant smell down there especially if they washed well before jumping into bed with you. But there is still a certain musky odor that no soap or fragrance can mask, because most of the odor comes from the love juice that spews out of her as she gets progressively aroused.

How Do I Deal With The Smell?

You can lessen the exposure to the smell by letting your fingers take charge of her vaginal hole and keeping your mouth on her clitoris. But the best solution is to suggest that you shower together so you can eat her out under running water if the smell is too overwhelming for you.

Q&A: How To Give A Better Blowjob

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It’s no secret that guys love getting a blowjob. Getting head is probably one of your guy’s favorite ways to be pleasured sexually, so you should definitely learn how to give great head if you don’t already know how. And chances are, even if you’re a blowjob pro, you could use a few tips to spice up your routine. Giving a guy head sounds simple, but there are a lot of things that girls miss when they’re going down on their guy. Here are some simple tips to help you give a better blowjob.

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Be In A Comfortable Position

Being uncomfortable is one of the main complaints that women have about going down on their guy. Many women avoid giving their guy a blowjob at all just because they can’t find a comfortable position to do it in. If you’re not in a good position while going down on your guy, you’ll find that you tire more quickly and easily, your neck will start to cramp and your jaw and hands may get tired fast. You can give much better head if you find a position in which you can be comfortable during the blowjob. The best sex positions for pleasing your guy orally are usually if you are on your knees with him either sitting or lying down.

Start By Slowly Licking Him Up And Down

Most women don’t like it when their partners perform oral sex on them and just dive right in. They’d prefer if their guys started a little slower, kissing and licking lightly before starting the real show. Guys are the same. Your man doesn’t just want you to put his whole penis in your mouth and watch you start sucking like a madwoman. He’d love to see you lick slowly up and down his penis, getting him warmed up before you start going fast and using your hands as well as your mouth.

Tongue, Mouth, Hand And Fingers

Most girls’ mouths aren’t wide or long enough to completely take in all of their partner’s penis, especially if he has a big penis or a very long or wide one. So when giving your guy oral sex, use your hands and fingers in addition to your tongue and mouth to really make the blowjob great. Since you probably can’t take him completely into your mouth when he’s erect, keep your mouth on the head (which is one of the most sensitive parts of his penis) and use your hands and fingers to caress his lower shaft and testicles. Experiencing all the different sensations your hands and mouth create during a blowjob will make it truly amazing for him!

Show Him You’re Really Into It!

Guys don’t want to see a girl giving a blowjob like it’s a chore. So show your man that you’re really into it and you’re getting something out of it too. Make eye contact with him occasionally and don’t forget to make some noise. He doesn’t want to hear only himself! You can also touch yourself during the blowjob, but do so only as you’re getting him warmed up. When he gets close, all your focus needs to be on him. If you don’t mind his hands on your head, he’d love to put them there. If you do, just let him fondle your breasts during the blowjob instead. Afterwards, let him know how much you enjoyed giving him pleasure with your mouth!

Communicate With Your Partner

There are lots of things that men enjoy when getting head, and there are a few things that will make him cringe – such as using your teeth, for one. Don’t be afraid to communicate with your partner about what he likes and what he doesn’t like when you’re giving him a blowjob, because not all guys like the same thing when recieving oral sex. If you’re too shy to ask, pay attention to his non-verbal cues instead. If he really likes something, his eyes may roll back in his head or he may start breathing faster or moaning louder. He may grasp the sheets or the arms of the chair, or he may buck his hips towards you. When that happens, just keep doing whatever you’re doing! If you stop or change to doing something different, he’ll stop exhibiting these behaviors and he’ll come right back to the real world. When you find something he really likes, whether he told you or showed you that it was great, keep doing it! Chances are, it won’t be long before he reaches orgasm.

10 Easy Ways You Can Make Sex Better For Her – And You!

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Making sex better for her is the key to making sex better for you. If she’s satisfied, you’ll have better sex more often rather than going days or even weeks in between having sex. Here are 10 easy ways you can make sex better for her – and yourself – so you can start spicing up your sex life tonight!

Oral Sex Techniques

Lick her clitoris. Start slow, and then build up speed until she’s literally shaking underneath you! One great trick is to use what is called the “alphabet method.” Lick the letters of the alphabet on your partner’s clitoris slowly, and go faster as her body responds to what you’re doing. Bet you don’t make it through the alphabet twice!

Finger her while you go down on her. Many women really enjoy having both g-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation at the same time. In fact, this is one of the best ways to give her a “blended orgasm” or a g-spot and a clitoral orgasm at the same time!

Explore every inch of her vagina with your tongue. Too many men focus only on the clitoris and forget that the rest of the vagina is sensitive as well. Lick up and down her vagina with your tongue, switching from a pointed tongue to a flat tongue that “laps.” You can also practice “french kissing” her vagina. Wrap your lips around her folds and “kiss” her like you would kiss her mouth. She’ll love it!

Kissing Techniques

Kiss her slowly and deeply. Women love kissing, and it helps them to feel physically and emotionally connected to their partners. Also, deep french kissing can be a teaser to what you’re going to do next when you eat her out!

Kiss her body. Involving her whole body in sex is a great way to get her mind completely involved in sex as well. Don’t allow her to lay back and let the day’s to-do list occupy her mind. Instead, get her whole body involved with your mouth like you can’t get enough of her.

Intercourse Techniques

Let her be on top. It is easier for a woman to reach orgasm when she’s on top versus when you are on top. This is because she controls her muscles, the movement and the positioning and can control her climax.

Go slow. It takes time for a woman to build up an orgasm, especially through intercourse. If you start out hard and fast, it’s likely she won’t have time to have an orgasm at all. Instead, go slow until she reaches climax and then you can go as hard and as fast as you want.

Push your pelvis forward. Provide your partner with clitoral stimulation during intercourse by pushing your pelvis forward to grind against hers. You can also add a dollop of lube just above your groin to make the sensations even better for her.

Using Your Hands

Touch her everywhere. Don’t just focus on the hot spots! Instead, run your hands up and down her body as though she were made of silk or cashmere. Make her feel like she is made of silk or cashmere!

Hold her hands during sex. Whether you’re going down on her or having sex, hold her hands and make her feel cherished. Feeling emotionally satisfied from sex is as important to a woman as feeling physically satisfied.

Do Tongue Piercings Improve Oral Sex?

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You’ve probably heard that tongue piercings make make oral sex better, but is it true? How much of a difference does a tongue piercing really make when it comes to giving a blowjob or going down on a girl? Here’s the downlow on oral sex and tongue piercings and whether you should get one to please your partner.

Tongue Piercings And A Blowjob

Depending on the style of tongue ring worn, a tongue ring can definitely improve the sensations a guy feels during a blowjob. One of the most sensitive parts of a man’s penis is on the underneath, just below the head where the head meets the rest of the penis. The position of a tongue ring, even just one with a small ball on the top of the barbell is perfect for titillating this most sensitive spot and can really drive a man wild. Of course, the tongue ring will also stimulate other parts of the penis as well, and can provide tons of new sensations than just the tongue alone can. Other styles of tongue rings can be worn to create different sensations, such as “doorknocker” style tongue rings. These consist of a ring attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and the ring can move freely in a variety of ways. However, with the right skill set, a woman with or without a tongue ring can blow her partner’s mind during a blowjob!

Tongue Piercings And Cunnilingus

Tongue rings also have the potential to improve cunnilingus when a guy has his tongue pierced. During oral sex, the tongue ring will move around with the tongue, stimulating different parts of the vulva such as the clitoris while the tip of the tongue is stimulating an entirely different place. A man can use a tongue ring to drive his partner wild and give her incredible orgasms, even if he’s not schooled on how best to give a woman an orgasm through cunnilingus. There are many styles of tongue rings that are great for going down on a girl, however, the most interesting and titillating is the vibrating tongue ring. There are many tongue rings available that have a small vibrator attached to the top ball of the tongue ring and will vibrate as you lick your partner’s clitoris! Many women have trouble reaching orgasm through oral sex alone, however, a vibrating tongue ring can definitely put an end to that!

Should You Get A Tongue Piercing?

While there are many benefits that a tongue ring can bring to the bedroom, there are also risks involved as with any body modification, such as with genital piercings. Tongue piercings can get infected and cause major problems, and can also chip the backside of your teeth and reduce your gum line. Fortunately, piercings are removable and non-permanent so getting a piercing for your partner isn’t quite the committment getting their name tattooed on you would be. However, make sure you’re willing to go through the pain, swelling and healing period that comes with a tongue piercing and that you’re willing to take proper care of your piercing and keep it clean and infection free. Find a reputable, sterile piercing studio that has experience with tongue piercings and never, ever try to pierce your tongue yourself.