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How To Turn A Girl On Sexually

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Men who are just starting their dating life, and even those who have been in a long term relationship for years, sometimes fall into the trap we call a sex rut. It’s not that you’re not in the mood to make love. The problem is that the woman you’re with is somewhat lackluster in her response to your lovemaking.

So, what gives? Are you incompatible sexually or is there something lacking in your technique? Sometimes it’s a combination of incompatibility and inability to push her sexual buttons. Most of the time, men just ignore the problem, until it gets too big to handle and the sexual frustration starts to affect the relationship.

Instead of wishing that you were still in that stage when your relationship was sizzling and you’ve just hooked up, find out how to please your woman in bed so that she will never think of leaving you.

Daytime Foreplay

With the way our lifestyles are nowadays, it’s no wonder that some couples feel the romance is dying as soon as the routine of daily life sets in. You have to figure out how to find the time to romance each other enough to keep the flame burning. The solution is to romance each other during the daytime so that the sexual tension builds and carries over to when it’s time for bed.

For instance, give her a lingering kiss when you meet for lunch or caress her waist as you’re walking out of the house and into your car. Softly whisper that you’re looking forward to later. Whatever you can do to arouse her feelings of sexuality during the day, do it.

Tell Her You’re Going Down On Her

Some women assume that guys aren’t enthusiastic about giving a girl oral sex. You may even think about it now and discover that you can only do it for a while (because she might not go down on you if you don’t). If you tell her that “you’re hungry for her taste” or that you’re craving the sweetness of her womanhood, you can arouse her to a point of frenzy. What happens is that her imagination will do the work for you, and that’s a good thing. Make sure you tell her this when she least expects it, for best results.

Intimate Touching

Expressing your feelings through lovemaking is more than just sticking it in and going for it until you are done. If you think about it, people don’t need much to get aroused, while women will always need more. Don’t hesitate to touch your wife or girlfriend everywhere when you’re alone. Don’t rush when you’re exploring with your hands, so that she won’t feel like you’re just doing it because you want your gratification sooner.

Sex is the best way to replenish your love during a busy week. It doesn’t have to be monotonous and you can add as much romance to it as you want.

Q&A: Sex Positions – Putting A Pillow Under Her Back And Hips

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Finding good sex positions that both you and your partner find comfortable – and pleasurable – isn’t always as easy as everyone makes it sound. In fact, many people struggle with sex positions, so if you’re trying to find the right one, you’re not alone. Are there ways to support your or your partner’s body during sex without expensive sex furniture and just using items found around the house?

Question: Say she’s laying on her back during sex. Does putting a pillow under her lower back and buttocks help with anything?

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Changing The Angle Of Penetration

Propping a pillow under your partner’s lower back and buttocks when you’re in the missionary position (whether you’re on top or she’s on top) can drastically change the sensations both you and your partner experience. Commonly, many men prefer to be on top while their partner’s are below them, with a pillow under their buttocks. This lifts the woman’s pelvis and provides for lots of different angles. Use larger or smaller pillows based on how different you want the angle of penetration to be. Experiment with different sizes of pillows until you and your partner find a position that you both really enjoy! You can also use pillows underneath her lower back and buttocks if you want to reach the g-spot more easily with your penis. The g-spot is located on the top wall of the vagina, so it is difficult to reach if you’re just in the standard missionary position.

Penetrating More Deeply

Men who have smaller penises will also benefit from using the pillow propping technique. Propping your partner’s pelvis up with a pillow will allow you to penetrate your partner’s vagina much more deeply than if you were simply having sex missionary style. This will make your partner feel like your penis is much longer than it really is and help you to reach her g-spot and other sensitive areas within the vagina. Of course, anyone who wants deeper penetration during sex can use this technique, but men with exceptionally large penises may want to go slow at first to make sure their partner is comfortable. You may be surprised at just how deep you can go with a pillow underneath your partner!

Using A Pillow During Oral Sex

Many men also prop their partner’s pelvises up on pillows when performing oral sex as well. Placing a pillow under your partner’s lower back and buttocks during oral sex doesn’t necessarily make it better for her in a straightforward manner, but most men report that it helps keep them from getting a crick in their neck. Ladies, if your man is comfortable down there, he’s liable to stay down there longer and give you an even better orgasm! Again, try using different size pillows until you find one that you are most comfortable with and gives you the best angle for oral sex.

Failing the pillow technique, you can always invest in a great piece of sex furniture. Although they can be somewhat expensive, the Tantra Sex Chair is a great way to help you and your partner get into just about any position you can imagine, and comfortably too!

How To Tackle Passionate Love Making

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Need some more tips to transform your sex life? Here’s the ultimate secret of sex gods -passion. This familiar emotion isn’t something that can be faked. It can be induced in your partner through various means, including verbal and behavioral methods. If passion is lacking in your relationship, you won’t be able to improve your sex life. So, how can you inject more passion into your lovemaking?

Passion makes sex phenomenal, but only if you know how to use it properly when you’re in the bedroom with your girl. Done right, your sessions will be hotter, steamier and kinkier than ever.

Get In Touch With Your Sensual Side

Here’s the main difference in the way men and women perceive pleasure during sex. Most men tend to rush to ‘get to the good part,’ while women want to prolong the foreplay so that they can feel comfortable enough to finally orgasm. Women want to reach climax fast, but not at the expense of the sensual side of sex (touching, kissing, fondling etc).

With that said, if you want to please your girl, you’d better learn how to patiently caress her on her sensitive areas before you let go and get your share of the pleasure. Sensual stimulation is a big part of what women consider passionate during lovemaking.

Get Acquainted With Her Hot Spots

Women love to be stimulated. During foreplay, spend some time touching her sensitive areas (clitoris, breasts and the fleshy part of her inner thighs). Some women have hot spots in other places. Heck, I met a girl who loves it when I lick her nape. There’s another girl who likes it when I kiss the crook of her elbow during sex. It’s your job to explore your girl’s body to find out what these hot spots are. Orgasm intensity increases when you do this, and that’s great if your goal is to make sure she doesn’t forget you and your time together even after that night.

Give Her Oral Sex

Did you know that most women expect men to go down there during sex? Giving her head is something that makes sex unforgettable, and you should know this. So, get to work when you sense that she wants you to go down on her.

If you’re the squeamish type, go as far as touching her clitoris with your tongue and keep it on there for a while until she reaches climax. Just kissing her down here is going to make a girl feel special. If you are always willing to go down there and make her climax in the process, you can guarantee yourself another date.

If you ever feel like skipping foreplay so that you can get your pleasure faster, think about this. A girl is less likely to do it again with a guy who shows a lack of passion for her during sex. One mistake men often make is they don’t consider what really makes a girl climax. Avoid that mistake and follow these tips for more passionate lovemaking.

Q&A: Oral Sex – My Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm When I Go Down On Her?

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If your girlfriend isn’t having an orgasm when you give her oral sex, you’re not alone. While many women love oral sex, others just can’t let go enough to get to the big “O” when their guys are going down on them. Here’s how to figure out why she’s not able to have an orgasm through oral sex and what you can do to change it.

Question: Me and my girlfriend have a good sex life but whenever I go down on her she stops me after about 5-10 minutes and tells me she’s too tired. This sounds strange to me because whenever she performs on me I don’t seem to get tired. This bothers me because she rarely reaches orgasm and she doesn’t get the full satisfaction. Is there anything I can do and is this common in women?

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Why She’s Getting Frustrated

It’s easy for a woman to get frustrated with her partner when he’s going down on her. If she’s not getting close to orgasm, or she is getting close and just can’t seem to make it over the edge, it can easily cause frustration and make her want to stop. There could be a lot of reasons why she’s not able to reach orgasm. She might not be able to relax after her day at work or school and the stress of day to day problems might not be something she’s easily able to let go of. Another reason she may not be able to have an orgasm when you go down on her is your technique. You may actually be causing her pain instead of pleasure, because a woman’s clitoris and vaginal folds can be very sensitive to too much pressure or the wrong kind of touch.

Learning To Communicate With Your Partner

Your girlfriend may be telling you she is “too tired” to continue on with oral sex because she just doesn’t know what else to tell you. She may be embarrassed to tell you that you’re not doing it right, or she may not know how to tell you what she likes when you go down on her. As a result, she may just be settling for telling you that she’s too tired and giving up on getting pleasure from oral sex all together. If you really want to learn how to pleasure her orally, take some time to talk to her and communicate with her. Don’t do it during sex, before sex or right after. Discuss with her how she feels about it and what suggestions she has for doing it differently when you are having dinner or watching a movie.

Brush Up On Your Oral Sex Skills

Don’t assume that because your girlfriend is telling you that she’s too tired for oral sex that it’s what she really means. Don’t assume that your oral sex skills are fine and that the problem lies with her. There is always room for learning and brushing up on your oral sex skills! You’d be surprised at what you don’t know about female anatomy and how a woman likes to recieve oral sex. Take our female orgasm quiz to see if you really know how to please a woman when you go down on her!

Q&A: Oral Sex – How Do I Get Him To Go Down On Me?

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Girls love oral sex just as much as a guy loves blowjobs. But many guys don’t give their partners as much oral sex as they would like! If you’re really into receiving oral sex from him but only find yourself on the giving end, here’s how to get your partner to go down on YOU as much as you go down on him!

Question: I have a question that I can’t ever seem to find an answer to. I always hear advice like “how to get her to go down on you more.” But what I want to know is how do I get HIM to go down on ME more?

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Ask Him!

Your partner may not be aware that you really love getting oral sex. He may think you love giving head more! So tell him point blank that you really enjoy it and want him to do it. Some guys need straightforward information to get a clue that you’re really into something or really want to try something. If you’re a little shy about asking him, hint around at it. Tell him how much you love the idea of oral sex period, for both men and women. Watch a sexy movie together and when a guy goes down on a girl, tell him how hot it gets you.

Find Out Why He Doesn’t Like It

There are many reasons why some guys don’t like oral sex. Find out what his reason is! Does it hurt his neck? Would sitting on a pillow or using a different position help? Or is he more receptive to trying simultaneous oral sex, better known as the sixty nine position? Find out why he doesn’t like it or isn’t doing it – without being critical towards him – and try to remedy those issues. If you’re critical towards him when he’s being open with you about why he doesn’t like giving oral sex, he’ll shut down and any chance you have of getting him to do it will fly out the window.

Hygiene And Body Chemistry

Hygiene is one of the biggest reasons guys don’t like giving oral sex. He may have had a bad experience before where smell and taste is concerned, and he may think that all girls are like that. Make sure you are clean, up to the point of taking a shower right before having oral sex. Keep an eye out for things like yeast or bacterial infections that can upset the natural pH of the vagina and cause things like odor and discharge. If pubic hair is an issue for him, consider trimming or shaving completely. It also may be a body chemistry thing. His semen has a certain taste to it, and so do your vaginal secretions. Your particular taste may not be something that jives with his own chemistry and it may not taste good to him no matter how clean you are. Body chemistry mismatches happen more often than people think. Try eating some sweet fruit like pineapple or strawberries to make your secretions taste sweeter, and avoid things like cabbage, garlic, onions or other strong foods.