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Q&A: How Many Sex Foreplay Options Can We List In 30 Seconds?

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Foreplay, for many couples, is the cornerstone of their sexual experiences. However, many couples just don’t engage in enough foreplay! For most of them, a lack of good, fresh ideas is what keeps them from really exploring foreplay with their partner. What are some new foreplay ideas that you can share with your partner?

Foreplay (Wikipedia) – is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people meant to create and increase sexual arousal, in anticipation of sexual intercourse.

Can be anything from flirting to playful teasing, to physical stimulation and beyond.

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Physical Stimulation

Many foreplay options include physical stimulation. This is the most direct route to get your partner turned on before sexual intercourse. Touching your partner all over their body, especially in their erogenous zones, can heat things up in the bedroom pretty quickly. Physical stimulation during foreplay can include anything and everything from oral sex, kissing, genital massage and much, much more. Sometimes, just physical stimulation isn’t enough when it comes to foreplay. Oral sex and hand jobs can only go so far time and time again. Although these things are pleasurable, our bodies and minds desire something fresh and new in the bedroom every once in awhile. Get creative with sex toys and come up with new ways to turn each other on physically before sexual intercourse.

Psychological Stimulation

A big part of foreplay, especially for women, is the psychological factor. A person’s mindset plays an important role in the quality of sex, and for many people, being sufficiently turned on mentally is a huge prerequisite for great sex. You can have psychological or mental foreplay with your partner all day if you want. Send sexy text messages to each other, make a naughy phone call or simply give your partner those bedroom eyes to let them know you are turned on and you want it at the soonest possible moment. You can turn your partner on this way well before you even get to the bedroom! One great way to turn your partner on psychologically is to watch pornography with them, or read a steamy novel or erotic book together. All you have to do is use your imagination a little bit and you can come up with dozens of ways to turn your partner on without laying a finger on them.

Making Foreplay A Bigger Part Of Your Sexual Routine

No sex life that doesn’t incorporate at least some degree of foreplay is a good one. While quickies are certainly satisfying sometimes, nothing can take the place of some good old fashioned creative foreplay in the bedroom. Both men and women enjoy foreplay and most of them report wanting more of it – so why isn’t everyone doing it? Foreplay takes time and these days, we’re lucky to have a few moments to ourselves to use the restroom in between work and kids. So foreplay often gets crossed off the list of “Things We Wish We Had More Time For.” Here’s the thing – you’re going to need to make time for more foreplay. The quality of sex with your partner will greatly improve because of it!

Best Blowjob Tips Of 2009

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Men love getting a blowjob. It’s a fact – some men even enjoy blowjobs or getting head more than they enjoy sex! Many women know how to give great fellatio – but many still don’t! If you want to get your man wrapped around your little finger, the secret is giving him amazing head – but it’s not all about technique! In fact, many women make blowjob mistakes or fail to do the few crucial things that make getting head so great for a guy! If you want to give your guy the ultimate blowjob, check out our favorite blowjob articles of 2009 so you can get a “head” start on 2010!

Blowjob Tip #2 – She’s In Charge, Here’s Why…

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If you’re learning how to give a great blowjob, one of the best tips you can employ is being in charge and being confident of your abilities to give great head. Even if you’re new at it, being in charge can be pleasurable for both you and your partner. Here’s why!

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Why It’s Good For Him

Since most men take control during sex and even during a blowjob, logically, it doesn’t make sense that they would want to give up control, does it? But get this – most men take control during sex because they have no choice. Many women don’t know how to enjoy themselves during sex and end up lying there, making the man do all the work if he wants anything to happen. Guys are actually aching to give up control! What better way to get pleasure than to have a woman worship your penis and be completely devoted to giving you pleasure? It’s awesome! He loves it when you take control, let him lie back and enjoy the ride.

Why It’s Good For You

Taking charge when giving head is good for you because you get to do what you want to do. Don’t like a certain position? Try another one. Getting a jaw cramp? Switch to using your hand for a little while. Deep throating make you gag? Lick it like a lollipop instead. Of course you want to take his verbal and non-verbal feedback into account when using different techniques and do what he likes best, but you want to be comfortable and enjoy giving him head as much as he enjoys getting it.

Why You Need To Be Confident

It’s important to be confident – or at least appear that way – when you’re going down on your guy. Nothing ruins a great blowjob than a passive girl asking, “Am I doing this right?” or “Did I do something wrong?” Sure, you want to ask your man questions. But you want to use positive, confident phrases that assert your control, such as “Do you like this?” or “Does this feel good?” or even, “Tell me what feels good.” Your demeanor can actually make all the difference during fellatio. You want your man to relax and let go, feeling good about leaving you in the driver’s seat. Who wants to enjoy the ride with a driver who’s constantly worried they’ll wreck and asking you if they’re hitting the brakes right or accelerating properly?

A blowjob works much the same way – a guy just wants to know that you know what you’re doing (or at least perceive that you know what you’re doing) and get lost in the feeling of getting great head. So be confident and take charge! You’ll both like blowjobs a lot better if you do.

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Blowjob Tip #1 – Why It’s a Gift, Not an Obligation

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Men love to get blowjobs – in fact, many men prefer getting oral sex to vaginal intercourse and sometimes, it’s their favorite type of stimulation of all time. Naturally, women who want to please their partners want to find out the best blowjob tips and advice so they can be an oral sex master – here’s what you want to know on how to give the best blowjob!

Oral sex is one of the most intimate gifts we can give one another. When a woman gives a man oral or manual stimulation, you are giving him a very special gift. That means you’re in charge! Here are some tips to make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.

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The Greatest Sexual Gift

When a man gives a woman oral sex, he does what he thinks will make her feel good. When a woman gives a man oral sex, she let’s him take the reins and shows her how he likes it, even to the point of physically manipulating her to maximize his own pleasure. Not only can this be uncomfortable for a woman, it doesn’t allow her to give head as a “gift” to her partner. One of the great things about oral sex is that it’s one of the best sexual gifts you can give. Since oral sex provides the giving partner no physical stimulation whatsoever, the focus is totally on the receiving partner and their pleasure. So to give oral sex to someone means you’re focusing on their pleasure and their pleasure alone. When a man takes the reins when she’s giving him a blowjob, that takes away from the fact that she’s “giving” him a sexual gift, making her feel more used than treasured.

Women In The Driver’s Seat

If you’re going to go down on him, it’s time to sit in the driver’s seat. Let your partner know that you’re in control and that you’re giving him the gift of oral sex – so he just needs to sit back and enjoy it! Blindfold him and tie his hands behind his back if you have to (which can, of course, add to the fun) but it’s important that he doesn’t try to take control while you’re giving him oral sex. If he’s not the submissive type, it may be an adjustment, but in the long run, allowing you to enjoy giving him the gift of oral sex – instead of making it an obligation or making you feel used – will give him more pleasure. He’ll like watching you enjoy it and he’ll get blowjobs more often!

Listen To His Feedback

It’s essential that you listen to his verbal and non-verbal feedback when you’re giving your partner fellatio. While you get to pleasure him how you’d like, listening to what makes him feel good is important. For example, if he lets you know verbally what he likes, make sure you incorporate that into your blowjob routine. You can also listen to your partner’s non-verbal feedback. For example, if your partner is quiet or doesn’t seem to be getting into it, change what you’re doing. If your partner starts making noise and showing that he’s really enjoying what you’re doing, keep doing what you’re doing! Otherwise, your partner should lie back, relax and enjoy your oral sex gift!

Think You Know How To Give A Great Blowjob? Take the Blowjob Quiz and find out!

Female Orgasm Tip #6 – Clitoral Circles

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Whether you’re jumping in to our orgasm tips series now or have been following us since Tip #1, this next tip is going to be one of your “go to” moves in the bedroom. Tip # 6 is all about the clitoris – which almost every woman loves! While the g-spot can be difficult to find, the clitoris is usually not, and is one of the most sensitive areas on a woman’s genitals. In fact, the clitoris’ only job is to provide pleasure for a woman! It does absolutely nothing else. So watch this video and make this easy tip one of your partner’s favorites!

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Why Circles?

The clitoris is extremely sensitive – which is a good thing. But it can pose a problem if you’re angled the wrong way, because too much clitoral stimulation can be painful. For example, a tongue or finger stroke upwards from the bottom of the clitoris to the top is probably one of the worst moves you can make (except if your partner is very turned on and well lubricated). This move actually lifts the clitoral hood and exposes the sensitive inner clitoris, which can become painful if your partner isn’t turned on and for some women, it’s always painful. Clitoral circles provide stimulation to the clitoris without lifting the protective clitoral hood, giving your partner a great feeling without overdoing it.

Varying Your Strokes

All you have to do is move your tongue or finger in circles around your partner’s clitoris. It’s that simple and it’s a great technique to use during oral sex. If you’re looking for a more complicated, blow-her-mind-move, all you have to do with this stroke is vary the pressure and width of your circles. Start slowly, with wider, softer circles, and graduate to firmer, smaller circles right on the clitoris. Mix it up a little in between if you feel like it! Just remember that if you’re using your hands or fingers to make sure your nails are clean and trimmed and you use a generous dab of lube. Hangnails can hurt!

Why It Will Be One Of Her Favorite Moves

The clitoral circles technique will soon become one of your partner’s favorite moves and rightly so – it’s a fantastic feeling for her and easy for you to do! She’ll love it because she’ll get stimulation everywhere on her clitoris (and her vagina too if you use wide circles in conjunction with smaller ones) including the top, bottom and sides. Many clitoral maneuvers stick to just one area or side of the clitoris, providing pleasure but only in one spot. Clitoral circles will practically envelop her in pleasure! You can also use this technique in conjunction with clitoral sucking (not too hard) and g-spot stimulation. Don’t forget to utilize our other techniques as well while you’re using Tip #6, such as paying attention and getting your partner turned on and warmed up. As we go over each tip in the female orgasm series, it’s your job to put them all together and learn how to make them work for you so you can become the master of your partner’s orgasms – and a master of the bedroom!

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