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3 Oral Sex Tips That Will Drive Her Wild

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Every man wants to be able to give his partner orgasms that will simply drive her wild and have her begging for more. How can you make her toes curl in the bedroom and forget everything but what you’re doing to her and how close she is to having an orgasm?

These three tried and true tips from Daniel Rose’s Sex God Method will teach you the most simple and basic techniques that will have the biggest impact.

Every wish you could last longer in bed? Is it all over too fast? These proven tips are guaranteed to help you last longer in bed!

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Preheat The Oven

The biggest complaint that women have about oral sex is that their partners just dive right in, without any foreplay. Technically, oral sex is considered foreplay to the main event, but it’s important to have a little smaller foreplay before getting into oral sex with a woman. A woman isn’t like a blowtorch – she doesn’t fire up as soon as you hit the button. Women are more like ovens – it takes them time to preheat before they’re ready to bake. If you want to give your girlfriend the most amazing oral sex she’s ever had, take some time to kiss her body, nibble her thighs and really work up to going down on her before you start going for the gold.

Be A DJ

Another complaint that women have about oral sex is that their partners start out too fast, even if they’ve had a little pre-oral sex foreplay to warm them up. Once you’ve completed step one, you’re work isn’t done yet – you’re still not ready to dive right in. Pretend you’re a DJ at a night club – you want to play slower tempo music as the people are arriving, and then really get into the jams once the people are ready to party. Oral sex is the same way – play some softer “music” while beginning to go down on your partner, with slow licking and soft kissing. When she’s heated up, feel free to rock out with your cock out (no pun intended)!

Slow And Steady Wins The Race

Well, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to actually be slow (although she may like that) but the idea is “steady.” As your partner gets more and more heated up and is ready to approach climax, stay steady. Don’t change what you’re doing – women hate that! It takes a great maneuver to be repeated over and over to bring a girl to orgasm through oral sex, so once you find that sweet technique, simply stick with it. You’ll hear how her responses turn from tickled gasps to breathtaking screams as she gets closer and closer to orgasm.

Part of giving your girl a great orgasm through oral sex is experimenting with different techniques and communicating with your partner about which techniques work better and which ones don’t. Don’t be afraid to let each other know what you like and don’t like – that’s truly the key to absolutely, positively mind blowing sex! The other trick to giving your girl a mind blowing orgasm through oral sex is to act like you want it – not that it’s a chore. If you really want to go down on her, let her know how much!

Blowjob Tip: How To Make Her Want To Give You More Oral Sex

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Men want blowjobs – it’s a fact of life. Some women enjoy giving blowjobs, but others don’t. What if you’re a guy with a gal who you wish would give you more oral sex? Does she not do it enough? Does she not do it at all? Either way, you wish she would go down on you more. How do you get her to want to give you head?

Most guys just wish there girl would give them more oral sex – call it a blow job, giving head, or going down on him – fact is there are a lot of women out there who just don’t do it. Here are some things that you can do to actually help her enjoy the process so that she’ll want to do it more. Come on… You’ve just got to give a little to get a lot!

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Getting Her To Want It

That’s the key statement right there – getting her to want to give you a blowjob. There’s nothing that turns a woman off more than a man who wants to “make” her give him oral sex. Have you pressured your woman into giving you a blowjob? Have you tried to make her do something she doesn’t want to do? We bet you didn’t get very far, did you? The trick is to help her to want to give you oral sex. Pressuring her to do it, or complaining or whining about how you don’t get enough oral sex…well, that’s just not going to get you very far.

Lead By Example

The best way to get your partner to give you good oral sex is to give her good oral sex first! There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman, and if you give her the orgasm of her life by going down on her, it’s only natural that she’ll want to return the favor. Read a few female orgasm tips to help you get in the mood to give her oral sex, and try some of the new, fun techniques that she’s never experienced before. She’ll be putty in your hands before too long! After you’ve given her excellent oral sex, relax and let her take the bull by the horns.

Make Blowjobs For You Fun For Her Too

A woman won’t give a blowjob twice if it’s not good for her too. That doesn’t necessarily mean pleasuring her while she’s pleasuring you (although that’s not a bad idea sometimes), but it does mean that you have to make giving you a blowjob less like a chore and more like something fun for her to do to pleasure you. Make sure you’re clean – a sweaty, smelly penis is no fun to go down on. Trim if you’re hairy, or shave if you want to give her a real surprise. The best way to make a blowjob fun for her is to let her know how crazy she’s making you! Give lots of good feedback. Before she gives you a blowjob, make sure to tell her how excited you are that she’s going to do it, and how much it turns you on to think of her giving you head.

While she’s going down on you, give her plenty of verbal and non-verbal feedback, such as groaning, shifting your hips, grabbing her head (if she likes that) and really getting into it. Don’t fake it – she’ll be able to tell. Just let yourself go in a way that you might normally do. After the blowjob, make sure to tell her how good it was for you, how much you love her and how happy she made you. She’ll definitely want to do it again!

Foreplay 101 for HIM

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When it comes to foreplay, most articles out there are on foreplay tips for the benefit of women. However, you should know that if you treat your boyfriend/husband/lover to some great foreplay tricks of your own, you’ll be a sex goddess in his eyes because his orgasm will be extremely more powerful than before!

So, the next time you guys have sex, don’t be one of the women out there who ‘nag’ they don’t get enough foreplay. Instead, surprise him with pre-play moves that will make him treat you like a sex queen.

Foreplay Tip #1: Peak-a-Boo

Men are such visual creatures. Show them a nude photo, and blood gushes to their member. Hmmm, so what about presenting him with not just a nude photo of yourself but simply you, 100% nude.

How best to do it: Let us count the ways… try any of the tips below.

  • Just as he’s nice and comfy in bed, walk into the room in your birthday suit. (By the way, make sure your nipples are erect when you do this. Instant hard on!)
  • While fooling around in bed, straddle him and then slowly but surely, take off pieces of your clothing. You can torture him further by say, removing your bra, giving a glimpse of your nipples and then covering yourself up again. Agony!
  • Give him something to REALLY look at. Why settle for WALKING around naked when you can bend, twist, and turn yourself in various ways that he won’t believe what he’s seeing even if you’re right in front of him.

For the last tip be sure he gets to see everything but won’t be able to touch. Feed his eyes and maybe even his sense of smell… but don’t let him touch you. At least, not until he begs for it.

Foreplay Tip #2: Breathe On It

I bet you didn’t know how sexy and arousing your very own steamy breath on his exposed skin can be. The reason behind this is that your warm breathe will cause a temperature change on his skin, which in turn increases sexual arousal.

How best to do it: Engage in foreplay. When he’s already warm and aroused, go down and position your slightly parted lips to a sensitive area of his body such as his inner thighs, belly button, or the side of his neck, and then exhale your warm breathe on that spot.

You can also try the link-and-breathe approach. For example, lick the side of his neck and then exhale lightly on it. (Personally, my boyfriend loves it when I lick his lips and then exhale on it.) Another thing to try this trick on: lick his nipples and blow on it!

Now, go down and with his erect manhood standing mighty proud in front of your face, blow a steady jet of warm breath on his penis from top to bottom. Mind-blowing!

Foreplay Tip #3: Hustle!

Ok, so by now you know that both men and women will benefit greatly with a lot of foreplay. However, there is a difference; while women tend to go for slow seduction foreplay techniques; men tend to want more vigorous pre-play sessions.

I guess this is because most men tend to look at women as the ‘shy’ or ‘less animalistic’ one in bed. As such, if you unleash a more ‘raw’ you in bed, your man will be turned on all the more by this new, slightly more sexually aggressive you. You see, men take female aggressiveness in bed as assign of pure lust, which further fuels their desire. Besides, it’s A LOT of fun to be the one in control in bed every now and then, right?

How best to do it: Tonight, don’t be the timid one. Be the one to approach him and initiate sex. Be the one to kiss him roughly. And last, but definitely not the least, be the one to command what sex positions you guys should engage in.

For example, if he’s angling to go down on you, change sex positions and go down on him instead! OR maneuver in bed in such a way that he doesn’t go down on you but you sit on his face instead. Further, if he’s angling for the missionary, go ahead and beat him to it by going woman-on-top. And don’t just do the usual woman-on-top (where you face him), do reverse cow-girl where you face his feet.

I guarantee he won’t know what hit him in bed… but he’ll like it!

Foreplay Tip # 4: Tantalizing Touch

True, all men desire to have your lovely hands on their members but your lover can also receive a few other types of touches not just down there but all over his body. You see, men require a lot of hands-on stimulation and it should not necessarily all be focused on his penis.

How best to do it: Tonight, mix up your touchy feely moves. Flatten your palms and grope him all over. The warmth of your palms should make him feel warm all over too. Feel free to grab him too. For instance, run your palms all over his chest, reach down, reach back, and then grab a handful of his buttocks!

When he’s already undressed, run your palms slightly roughly across his chest and then very gently caress his erect nipples with your flat palms. The rough and then gentle approach will surely drive him wild!

You can also opt to need his back with long hand strokes or graze his sides gently with your fingernails. Mix up the sensations and he’ll be sexually dazzled he won’t know what to expect.

Foreplay Tip # 5: Push Him to the Brink

Nothing can be more sexually mind-blowing than ALMOST reaching a climax, ebbing, and then being brought up to that ‘almost there’ high again. Yes, tease your man tonight until he literally begs you for release.

How best to do it: Show him how romantic you are by drawing an imaginary heart shape over his groin with your lips! Trace the outline of his groin slowly by planting kisses and/or using your tongue. This will make him focus and pay sole attention to his groin. Now, perform fellatio. Just when you sense he’s nearing his release… let go of his member and go back to your lazy heart shape drawing again!

To up the ante, ride him for all you’re worth. And just when he – or you! – are about to come, let go and engage in some hot, passionate kissing. Then go back up on that horse again for the next round!

For Added Pre-Play Pleasure, Try These Toys

Following is a list of unusual sexual stimulants that you may want to try too to add more fun to your foreplay.

Snapshots. Let him play with is camera and snap a picture of you… naked… while on top of him.

Wigs. Walk into the bedroom with nothing on but a completely different wig. He’ll think you’re somebody else… and you get to be somebody else in bed too.

Stockings. Bondage sounds such a harsh word. Tonight, wear a sheer body suit and as he peels it off your body, whisper something like “honey, why don’t you tie my hands and show me who’s my daddy?”.

RED, very red lipstick. I know what you’re thinking, draw lazy circles and cute heart shapes all over his body, right? You can do that… OR write down dirty words all over his body. I bet your man prefers the latter!

4 Mistakes On How To Give Head To A Guy

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Would you like to have a crash course on how you can master the art of fellatio? As you may already know, being good at oral sex is a skill that most women would like to develop – but it’s quite intimidating once you’re down there.

What if your teeth graze the skin of his penis while you’re giving him a blowjob?  What if you accidentally suck too hard because you don’t know the right amount of pressure to apply?  What if your gagging reflex is triggered?

Learning how to give head to a guy properly would normally involve mistakes – especially if you’re new at it. But don’t worry, practice makes perfect. In order for you to be a better lover, take a look first at the top 5 mistakes that most women make when going down on a man – and these are the things that you should steer clear of.

Mistake #1: Not Being Enthusiastic Enough  

For both men and women, being with an unresponsive lover is a definite turn off. The same thing applies to a woman who considers giving blowjobs to be a chore.

When you’re going down on him, show him how much you love what you’re doing. Maintain eye contact, don’t be afraid to slobber a bit and make the moans and groans that you would usually make when you’re having penetrative sex.

Your enthusiasm would be a huge turn on for him and help him achieve an orgasm real quick.

Mistake #2: Not Allowing Things To Get Really Wet

It may sound distasteful for women, but most men agree that the more saliva or lubrication you use while giving him head, the better the feeling is for them. Before you move your mouth up and down his penis, wet it with your saliva.

Better yet, be a bit on the creative side and swallow a bit of warm coffee or some cold water before taking him into your mouth. The sensation of the liquid combined with the sucking motions that you will make should send him through the roof! 

Mistake #3:  Grazing Him With Your Teeth

Although some men would not mind feeling a bit of a graze from your teeth while receiving head, it is not a sensation that everyone enjoys.  The rule of no teeth while giving blow jobs should always apply – so keep those fangs covered with your lips.

Mistake #4:  Not Communicating With Him 

Just like every other aspect of your sex life, it will greatly improve your ‘performance’ if you will have a talk with him about what he likes when you’re giving him head.

Be extra attentive to his moans and groans while you’re down there, take a cue from how his hands are moving on the back of your head and how he is moving his hips. By avoiding the top 4 mistakes that women make when giving head, you will be on your way towards mastering your skills at fellatio and be the best lover that you can be.

Now that you already have an idea about the top 4 mistakes that women make when learning how to give head to a guy, visit our site to get a load of tips, tricks and techniques that you can use to be a maser at giving mind-blowing head.

3 Mistakes From How to Give Head Videos: Sex Lessons To Learn From Adult Videos About Giving Head

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If there’s one thing about sex that men and women do not agree on, it’s the fact that men do like their porn – so much so that some seem to think that their sessions in the sack should mimic an adult film.

Although women do not find hardcore porn to be as arousing the way that men do, are there any ‘lessons’ that they can learn from something like a ‘how to give head video’? First, let’s try to check on the top mistakes that women make when giving men some oral love.

Mistake #1: Not Giving His Equipment All Your Attention

If there’s one thing that women should learn from female adult film stars, it’s the fact that enthusiasm counts for a lot. When you watch an adult film which features a woman giving head, you might be amazed at how enthusiastic she is – and keeps going at it for minutes and minutes!

There’s probably the fantasy factor added on to the mix – but the one lesson that you should learn is that men wouldn’t be watching these films if they’re not a major turn on.  As such, take a cue from the adult film stars and give his equipment all your attention – and look like you mean to go on giving him head until he reaches his boiling point.

Mistake #2: Not Being Open To Different Positions  

Visit any sex guide on the Internet and you will see that there is more than one position which will give you comfort – and give him the ultimate pleasure – while giving head. The next time that you see a unique position from a sex video, make sure to try some of the positions out.

Mistake #3:  Not Trying to Take It All In

Being able to deep throat is like the Holy Grail of a woman’s sexual skills – and it is something that you should try at least once. If you find out that you’re unable to do it, that is perfectly fine because taking it all in should never be a requirement when giving head.

Now that you know about the top mistakes that women make on how to give head, you can probably take a cue from these adult videos so that you can amp up your own sex life.

Basically, the lessons that you should learn from something like a ‘how to give head video’ would be to appear enthusiastic while you’re going down on him; take your time in pleasuring a man while you’re down there and to use a combination of your hands, mouth, tongue and lips to give him sensations that will send him shooting though the roof!

Since you already know about the top mistakes that women make when watching a how to give head video, wouldn’t you love to learn exactly how the proper way of going down on him is done?  Visit our site to get a step-by-step guide that you can use to improve your oral skills and give your man a mind-blowing time in bed!