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3 Standing Sex Positions That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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With most standing sex positions, at least one of you will require a fair amount of strength and/or stamina to execute it properly. Most that I came across were either ridiculously difficult or they didn’t provide enough stimulation for the female partner to conceivably orgasm.

That’s why there are only a handful of positions in this section but all of them are great ones to try out and come highly recommended from my clients, fellow experts and readers alike.

1. The Door Is Ajar

Have your lover stand with her back against a door jam and lean her head back. Stand upright and facing your partner, so that your legs are between hers and your back is against the other side of the door jam. In tandem, scoot your legs forward until your penis and her vagina meet; you’ll likely need to bend your legs, and she’ll sit on them slightly. Enter her and grasp her bum firmly. Have her hold onto your shoulders or put her arms around your waist or neck if she’s feeling off balance or wants some support.

Have her push her back firmly against the door jam while you thrust up and push her back and forth along your pelvis. To get out of this position, as it’s a bit trickier than the others, bend your knees until you’re squatting down. When her legs reach the floor again she’ll be able to hop off effortlessly.

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This is a hard position to sustain for any length of time. If her legs come off the ground because of a significant height difference, you can make it easier on both of you by squatting down more. You can also have her bend one leg and drape it over one of your elbows, then lean to the opposite side slightly and put her foot on the ground. It will open her up more as well so you can penetrate even more deeply.

Whatever you do, don’t let on that the position is a difficult one for you. If it is, move on to another position after you give it your best shot for a short period before you try something else. The feeling of weightlessness is a huge turn on for most women, but knowing that you’re struggling will bring her back into reality when all you want is for her to let go. If she wants to move around more, or feels like she’s not getting enough clitoral or G-Spot stimulation, suggest she lean back even more and move her hips in a circle, grinding herself into you and rubbing around to find more G-Spot pleasure.

2. Kneeling Face To Face

Face your partner and kneel on the floor together. Scoot forward so that you are extra close to one another. Place your opposing legs flat on the ground with your knee bent, and slowly inch forward until your privates touch. Lean forward to connect your penis to her vagina. To move, take turns lunging forward.

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There are few better positions than this one to even out the odds between you. With this move, you are both in the exact same position, performing the same moves. Provided you are about the same height and are both doing the same amount of work, plus both your arms are free to roam and play, perhaps to tweak nipples, coddle her clitoral head or pinch her buttocks. There won’t be a lot of heave-ho in this position, but because you are so snug against one another, she’ll get tons of clitoral stimulation grinding up against you, and even better eye contact to slide towards orgasm.

3. Get A Leg Up

Are you ready for this? Get your partner to do the splits mid-air, so that one leg is on the floor and the other is lifted as high toward the ceiling as it can go. Walk up to her and hold the outstretched foot, bending down slightly to enmesh your bodies. When you start having sex, you can use the one hand on her hip and the one on her leg as leverage to move. If her leg gets tired, have her bend it at the knee and lock it over your elbow instead for a rest.

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She’ll be off balance in this position, which isn’t a bad thing if you want to catch her arousal off guard. Just make sure that she’s supported well enough so she doesn’t fall over, and she’ll be able to enjoy the unusual angle and experience. Pull her close when you want to rub up against her clitoris, or ask her to finger herself if she’d prefer. Make sure your knees are bent to offer her enough clitoral and G-Spot stimulation, as you won’t thrust terribly deep in this position.

When You Actually Need To SKIP Foreplay!

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Foreplay is something that is essential for every sex session, right? Or can you forgo it and get busy right away?

DEFINITELY NOT!

Acts of foreplay don’t have to come before anything as they can be enjoyed in and of themselves. And so, there will be times when F can be the worst thing.

In these situations, it’s best to simply tear her clothes, pin her against the wall and do her right then and there. Don’t delay – do her immediately. Ravage her at will because she definitely wants you to.

When is that feasible? When is teasing not even funny?

Know When There’s Urgency

It is during the week-long honeymoon when couples are rabid hot. Passion takes the form of intense, fanatic longing and the moment the lovers’ shadows meet, they commence sexually harassing each other. The slow, gentle, “Take your time” nature of foreplay doesn’t work in situations where passion is in the form of “Take me, right here, right now” – there’s just no time for that, not enough brain cells even to light scented-candles. No chance for slow dancing in this case.

That’s ok, the couple is on the same page and they know what they want.

Such couples get to enjoy acts associated with foreplay, only after some serious sex. It’s that calm after the storm as lovers bask in the ambiance of their orgasms – the only real opportunity to luxuriate and slow things down.

Another time to definitely skip foreplay-smorplay is during quickies. There’s just no time. No time to heat the oil, or find that R&B CD. No time to gloat over your partner’s hot body, or engage in any talk. Just get those orgasms, put your clothes back on, fix your hair… then go back to work!

Part of the turn-on is the boldness of simply doing it without thought for feelings. There’s something so animalistic and intense about it – such rawness that finds its way in many of women’s fantasies.

These situations still make for great sex as foreplay becomes unnecessary delay, both partners don’t want it.

When NOT To Engage In Quickies

First, make sure it doesn’t become a pattern. Quickies are exciting, but they lose punch when it’s quickies all the time. Pretty much the same thing gets old pretty fast.

Second, make sure both of you are on the same page. You wish to do her now? She wants you to do her now? Fine, run like the wind. Of course, the situation’s a lot different when the other just wants to lie there gazing at the stars. Then you’ll probably have to take full advantage of foreplay’s side-effects to jump-start things.

6 New Places In Your House To Get It On

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Sex tips can improve your sex life and make it hotter than ever before, and you don’t even have to go out your front door to do it!

Having sex in your house can easily get monotonous when you are married or have been together for a while. The bedroom can seem like a hamster wheel of the same old same old. Your sex life doesn’t have to be like this. You can easily mix things up by utilizing the other rooms in your home.

Some couples find that they have better sex in other rooms than they do in their bed. The other rooms in your house can also be a great source for different positions and better sex. Here are some new places in your house to get it on.

1. The Bathroom

The bathroom is one of the best alternatives in your home to have sex in. There are a lot of different possibilities in your bathroom. The most common use of the bathroom is having sex in the shower or bathtub. These are great because there is no mess to clean up. A lot of couples start out with a massage in the bathtub. This can be great foreplay for sex. If you are going to have sex in the shower, you should invest in some silicone based lubricant.

The shower can wash away the natural lube on the woman and this is a great way to keep both of you comfortable. The bathroom sink is another great place to have sex. Put your girlfriend or wife on the bathroom sink and enter her. The angle that you penis goes in will naturally massage her g-spot.

2. The Living Room

While the living room might not be the best place all the time, it can prove to be an excellent alternative to your bedroom. The living has some great pieces of furniture for different positions. The couch can allow the girl to get on top or get into doggy style fairly easily. The couch does not allow as much movement as a bed, but there are other significant advantages.

The couch is a great for the spoon position. You will have a backrest that you can brace yourself up against. This is also great for standard missionary style with the guy standing and the girl lying down. Make the guy get on his knees and give you oral sex without him having to lay down himself.

3. The Guest Bedroom

While you might find it eerily similar to having sex in your own bedroom, the guest bedroom can be another great alternative. Guest bedrooms are not as familiar as your very own bedroom. They often resemble hotel rooms, which can be extremely kinky. The next time that you want to have sex, drag your partner into the guest bedroom. This change of scenery can definitely lead to some very kinky experiences.

4. The Kitchen

The kitchen is one of the most frequently used rooms in the home. This is where meals are prepared, eaten and then cleaned up. If your kids aren’t around or if you don’t have kids, the kitchen can also be utilized for some hot and heavy action. Put your wife or girlfriend up on the kitchen counter and give her oral sex.

Lick and suck on her inner thigh while she braces herself against the cabinets. Push her up against the countertop and have sex doggy style. Just make sure that you are wiping down every part that your body touches. The last thing that you want is sex juice on your food or countertop.

5. The Dining Room

There will definitely have to be some cleaning after this one, but the dining room can be a lot of fun too. Some houses don’t have a dining room, however, if your home does, don’t miss out on this. Dining rooms tend to have very formal themes. The formality of your dining room can be the aphrodisiac that you’re looking for to put some spice in your relationship.

If your dining room table will hold you, engage in some missionary or girl on top. If the table will not hold the both of you, try doggy style oral sex while your partner is sitting or lying down.

6. The Basement

Need a little kink in your sex life? Go down to the dank, dark basement for some fun middle school style. Remember when you were in middle school or high school and you played spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven? Use the basement for the adult version. Depending on your basement’s furniture, there are endless possibilities to what you can do.

5 Sex Rules You Need To BREAK!

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Sex tips are fairly common for all men and women. Whether you think that you should not fake an orgasm or that you should last for hours on end, the rules of nookie are similar to a lot of rules in life: they are made to be broken.

Following those tired old rules of only doing it when you’re in the mood or conducting exactly five minutes thirty five seconds of foreplay before you engage in intercourse can be a burden.

1. Time Matters

One of the biggest misconceptions about nookie is that it is best when it lasts for hours on end. This is not always the case. Yes, you can have an all nighter and it might be the best sex you’ve ever had. However, you can have an amazing quickie with your partner at the drop of a hat.

Having sex quickly can be even more exciting than have a long session. Some men think that they have to be seductive and build up. While this is true in most cases, your wife or girlfriend can easily reach climax as quickly as you do. Don’t get hung up on the amount of time that you spend getting it on.

2. He Always Has To Initiate

A lot of women think that it’s the guy’s job to initiate. While it is fairly traditional for a girl to be more submissive than dominant, she doesn’t have to be one who is always waiting. If you’re a woman and you want sex, make the first move yourself. You will find that you have more control over the situation and the change of pace will work to your advantage. Taking control over your partner can also work wonders for your confidence levels.

The next time that you feel the need for nookie, don’t wait for the guy to make the first move. Make it yourself and you will be glad that you did.

3. Fantasies Are For Porn

There are a lot of men and women that do not explore their fantasies when it comes to getting it on. While there are a lot of different fantasies that have made their mark on the porn industry, they are there for a reason. Exploring fantasies with your partner can be a great way to not only shake things up, but take things to next level.

Exploring fantasies with your husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend can build intimacy and show them a vulnerable side. A lot of people forgo this because they are afraid of their partner rejecting the idea or thinking that they are strange because of their inner desires. Be open to what you partner wants without judgment.

4. We Both Have To Climax

Another misconception that couples commonly face is whether or not they both have to have an orgasm for the sex to be good. There are a lot men and women that take more pleasure out of pleasuring their partner than actually getting pleasure themselves. If you think that you both have to have an orgasm in order for the nookie to be great, then you’re wrong. Some women do not reach orgasm very easily.

This doesn’t mean that they don’t enjoy climbing in between the sheets, it just means that they do not climax with as much ease as men do. This also doesn’t mean that they do not enjoy the intimacy that comes from having sex. Great nookie doesn’t even have to be sex. You and your partner can derive the same amount of intimacy by just using foreplay. Try to focus on the journey rather than the destination when you are with your partner.

5. We Should Always Orgasm Together

If you think that you should always orgasm together then you should really take a look at your relationship. There are going to be times when you have a lot on your mind or when your partner has a lot on their mind. There are going to be times when you just can’t get there. It takes a lot of work for a couple to climax together even 50 percent of the time.

Don’t treat your sex life like it’s a transaction where the both of you get exactly the same amount out of it. If one of you has an orgasm before the other then it’s fine. There is always oral sex, manual stimulation and other methods to get your partner or yourself off.

4 Ways You’re Touching Her Wrong

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Foreplay is something you never, ever want to skip before sex but what if you’re doing it wrong? Could you be wasting your time when it comes to foreplay?

Your partner can tell a lot by your touch, including exactly how you feel about touching her. Whether you’re nervous, unskilled, aggressive or ignorant, your bad touch will speak louder than any words. Here are 4 ways you’re messing up the foreplay.

1. The “Nervous Nelly”

This kind of hesitant, unsure touch paired with “Is this good? How does that feel? What about this? Should I do a bit more of this? Or maybe that other thing!” will drive any woman mad, and not with pleasure. What does a nervous touch tell a woman?

That you don’t know what you’re doing and are too busy worrying about what she thinks of you to focus on making her feel good! You’re not between her legs to craft some dissertation on the poetry of her beauty. You’re there to be the best sex toy she’ll ever enjoy. Get over yourself and get to work.

2. The “Man-Handler”

Unfortunately, confidence isn’t enough. If you barge on ahead but are so caught up in enjoying yourself that you forget that the breasts in your hands are attached to a warm body, you are probably manhandling your girl. I can guarantee that’s not enjoyable for anyone.

Man-handling simply tells her that you don’t have the experience to touch her like you know what you’re doing, or the knowledge to notice that you aren’t hitting the right buttons. Don’t let it dissuade you unnecessarily; she already knows that you are a man and didn’t grow up with the same body she already knows. Calm down, take a few deep breaths and try to pay attention to her reactions when you touch her. Tease, tantalize – this is art, not construction.

Discover the answer to the question, “What new way can I touch her that makes her feel even better than I’ve ever made her before?” Do it by asking her to show you with her own hands. If you’ve never watched her body speak before, why would she expect you to already be fluent in her language? Take the time to learn by not being scared about using the wrong word. If you make a mistake, she’ll tell you.

3. The “Rough-And-Tumbler”

Feel like you have something to prove? Maybe you think you’re being aggressive or dominant, strong or sturdy, but getting rough without the clear go-ahead can be scary and can put the person you love in a pretty awkward position.

This kind of attitude tells her that you don’t respect her body or her boundaries. If you tend to “grab-on-tight and don’t-let-go,” it’s time to loosen up and enjoy the If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal, listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath.

4. “The Hokey Pokey”

Your lover is not a pot roast, you don’t get to “stick a fork in her” to see if she’s done. Poking and prodding, whether trying to elicit a reaction, or determine arousal levels, can only lead to deflated desire. Poking the girls to make them cry stopped being an effective courting technique when you were eight.

Time to give up that juvenile attitude towards your body’s ability to speak the female sex language. A little dance like this sends the clear message that you can’t read her responses and that you are impatient to “get to the point.” If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal and pay attention to her body language. listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath. Feel the heat of her skin and listen to her voice. If you must ask, just don’t spend more time asking how she’s doing than you do listening to what she’s saying.