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Last Longer In Bed – Incredibly EFFECTIVE 3-Step Method

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Last longer in bed and become a better lover with this simple, yet adept three step system that WORKS!

Knowing how to last longer in bed really is all about strategy. If you’re reading this, the chance is you’ve just picked up a few habits that you repeat unconsciously during sex that cause you to orgasm early. And the frustrating thing is that you’re probably not even aware of these habits that are in fact NEGATIVELY impacting your ability to last long.

Here is a 3-step method you can use on how to last longer in bed that will replace most of these negative habits with empowering ones.

Use Masturbation To Condition Yourself To Last Longer

If you’re like most men then the chances are that during childhood or young adulthood out of fear of embarrassment of being “caught in the act” you picked up the habit of masturbating with the intention of trying to orgasm as quickly as possible.

Unfortunately every time you rush through masturbation you are conditioning your body to last just as long during sex, which is a habit you’ve just got to stop.

And the way to stop this is, while masturbating, when you find yourself close to orgasm just stop all the stimulation completely and wait for about a minute until the desire to orgasm subsides. When it’s gone start up the pleasure again and continue until you’re close to orgasm and then stop again. Repeat this 3 or 4 times until you’ve been masturbating for as long as you’d like to last during sex at which point you can let yourself orgasm.

This is a great exercise to recondition your body how to last longer in bed.

Thrust Slow At The Start of Sex

The first few minutes of sex are when your penis experiences an almost overwhelming amount of pleasure just by the sensation of being in the vagina. If you add fast thrusting on top of that you’ll find it very difficult to avoid premature ejaculation.

So I recommend that at the start of sex you take things VERY slow. So ridiculously slow in fact that it might seem strange to you (she won’t mind by the way, because she’ll just think you’re teasing her). After a few minutes of thrusting VERY slow your penis will begin to get used to the feelings of being in her vagina and you’ll then find it’s possible to thrust faster without the sudden need to ejaculate.

Use The Woman On Top Sex Position

One great strategy on how to last longer in bed is to get her on top with you lying flat on your back. What makes this sex position so great is that here you can fully relax your body, especially your leg and butt muscles.

The reason this is so great is because by relaxing these muscles you make it a lot more difficult for your body to orgasm. Muscle tension in your leg and butt are almost essential to experience an orgasm, so if you take that away by relaxing you can last a lot longer. And the missionary position is one of the few positions in which you can do this.

Oral Sex: 10 Hot Spots You DON’T Want To Miss!

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Oral sex involves a woman’s entire vulva – here are ten areas that you don’t want to pass up when going down on your girl.

The Clitoris

The head of the clitoris is incredibly sensitive, hosting more than eight thousand nerve endings in its tiny package. When it becomes truly aroused, the hood, or prepuce, swells and covers the clitoris to protect it from too much stimulation. Both the head and the hood love strokes that are rhythmic yet gentle, although as a woman moves along towards climax, they can both handle a firmer touch.

Her G-Spot

A sensitive spot along the top of the vaginal wall, the G-Spot is a spongy bit of tissue that abuts a woman’s urethra, and is very pleasurable to the touch when rubbed or pressed during certain arousal periods. For the remainder of this series we’ll refer to this area as the G-Spot because it’s the more commonly used term, but try to think of it more as a general area than a small spot, as it can be quite expansive depending on the woman.

The Mons Pubis

The Mons Pubis is just on the outside of where the G-Spot can be found, and you’ll want to use this spot during your oral manipulations because tensions from both sides is really pleasurable. Imagine this whole area as a sandwich, where your hands are the bread (one inside, one outside) with both applying pressure to the ‘meat’ (G-Spot).

The Front Commissure

The super-tender spot just above the clitoral head covers the shaft and bulges out ever so slightly if you look or feel closely along this area, especially when a woman is excited. The Front Commissure is similar to the clitoris in that it likes softer tongue strokes initially during the first arousal phase, but then prefers a more firm touch, such as with a finger, flat tongue or lip, as the process continues.

The Frenulum

Just underneath the clitoris, on the other side of the Front Commissure, lays the Frenulum. It also likes a softer touch initially, with a firmer feel as time goes on. Most of a woman’s sexual pleasure is gained from this general area Front Commissure to Frenulum.

Her Labia

The smaller lips that surround the opening to a woman’s vagina are the Labia Minora, and they fill with blood the more excited a woman is, to the point where they can double in size. Light touches work best here, as when engorged with blood, they can be especially tender and sensitive.

The Vaginal Opening

The only part of the vagina that is visible to the naked eye likes light nibbles and long licks, but not a lot of tension or firmness.

The Fourchette

Found just after the vaginal opening closes, and where the Labia Majora and Minora meet, the Fourchette is best stimulated with tickles and very light rubbing.

Her Perineum

The space between the Fourchette and Anus is the Perineum (also known as the Taint), and is full of connective tissue and a network of pelvic muscles that lend themselves well to gentle pinches, tickles, licks and finger pressure, both from the inside and the outside of her body.

The Anus

The same network of muscles that help the perineum feel wonderful are in play with the anus as well, and this whole area contracts during orgasm too. Light touches and pressure are excellent here, but be sure to either use a finger cot to keep your hands clean, or wash your hands thoroughly before using those fingers elsewhere along her genital area, because the anus can harbor bacteria that isn’t friendly to the rest of her sexual experience.

Cure Premature Ejaculation – 7 Expert Tips For Instant Results

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Premature ejaculation will ruin your sex life if you don’t get a handle on it. Here’s how to get rid of premature ejaculation TONIGHT!

The key to lasting longer in bed doesn’t lie in any pill, cream or special condom. It lies in making a few small changes to the way you have sex. Now as a side-note, each of the tips below will help you last longer in bed, but I recommend you use them all together for MAXIMUM effect.

Urinate Before Sex

A full bladder means you’re putting unnecessary pressure on your genitals. Too much pressure means you’re much more likely to orgasm prematurely. Put a stop to this by getting into the habit of urinating before sex.

Thrust Slow In The Beginning

The first few minutes of sex are when your penis is most sensitive to the feelings of being in the vagina. If you add fast thrusting on top of this already heightened sensitivity then you’re really going to struggle to last long in bed.

Get Some “Pleasure Awareness”

Get into the habit of paying attention to your arousal levels during sex and notice when you’re getting close to orgasm. When you start getting close don’t just keep doing what you’re doing, do something different to lower your arousal levels or else you’ll have no chance of avoiding premature ejaculation.

Get Her To Orgasm First

A big cause of premature ejaculation is the pressure we men put ourselves under to perform. This pressure more often than not converts to premature ejaculation because of the negative effect nervousness has on our body. One dead simple way to get rid of this nervousness is to take away the pressure to perform. You can do this easily by taking more time during foreplay and being sure to give her an orgasm first during foreplay, so that when it comes to sex you won’t feel as much pressure to satisfy her, because you know you already have.

Use Tactical Sex Position Changes

Find you’re getting close to orgasm? Don’t just do nothing, take action. A great way to break up your pleasure temporarily to help you last longer is with a tactical position change. Every time you change positions you get a temporary break from the stimulation of sex. So start using position changes tactically when you need a little break and it won’t arouse any suspicion from her that you can’t last very long.

Use The Woman On Top Sex Position

Want to know a sex position to use to last long in bed? Get her on top of you while you lie on your back. What’s great about this position is that you can fully relax your leg and butt muscles in it. By relaxing these key muscles your body will find it a lot more difficult to orgasm and you’ll be surprised at how much longer you last.

Avoid Watching Too Much Porn

Porn is a terrible source of information when it comes to learning to be a better lover. Never forget that porn is edited and the men in it are probably using techniques to last longer in bed OFF-CAMERA that they won’t show in the footage you see. Wise up to this now and forget about using porn as a guide to last longer, because modelling yourself on the videos you see will only lead to premature ejaculation.

Oral Sex: To Orgasm Or Not To Orgasm

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Oral sex is an excellent way to bring a woman to orgasm before intercourse. But she may not always want that – here’s how to tell.

She May Not Reach Orgasm

Although cunnilingus is quite possibly the easiest and most direct approach to getting your partner to reach orgasm, this may not necessarily happen. Don’t stress! Your partner will still enjoy your efforts a lot. As you become more and more experienced, your ability to bring her to orgasm will likely increase, possibly to the point where she orgasms every time you perform cunnilingus.

This is the part where it is important to pay attention to her sounds and movements as well as discussing with your partner what she likes best during cunnilingus.

Communicating With Her

If you’re not comfortable yet asking her directly about her likes and dislikes, if you pay attention to what she’s doing during cunnilingus you will most likely be able to figure out for yourself which movements bring down the house. Movements and sounds that will alert you to an impending orgasm is bucking and shuddering (particularly her legs) and she may be gasping for air or making a lot of noise or none at all. If you’ve ever given her an orgasm before (whether by cunnilingus or other means), you will more than likely be able to recognize when she is on the verge of a mind-bending big O.

Once you start receiving cues that your partner is feeling really good, continue licking and sucking her vulva in the same manner until her orgasm. You can, of course, do a few variations, but most of the fancy tongue movements are for the beginning when she’s really getting warmed up. Most women, like men, need repetition when they are close to bring them to orgasm.

If you and your partner are comfortable with talking to each other about cunnilingus, this can be of great help to a man. Men function best when given clear, direct instructions and if your partner is willing, she can tell you exactly what she likes, where she likes it and when to do it. In this way, she can take control of her pleasure while still experiencing the wonderful and exhilarating feelings of cunnilingus.

You can help her to be more open to expressing her likes and dislikes through conversation by asking her questions about what feels good. You can say in a hot, breathy voice onto her clitoris “Do you like that?” You will almost always be able to tell by the enthusiasm in her voice whether she truly likes the movements or not. And she may surprise you by just saying no!

Vary Your Techniques

If you sense that she does not like a movement, switch to something else and ask her if she likes that better. If nothing seems to be working, don’t get frustrated! If nothing is feeling good for her, she will be frustrated enough for the both of you! Ask her gently to suggest a movement that she would like more and you can even ask her to demonstrate what she would like on your mouth. Keeping the lines of communication open is essential to her experiencing an orgasm. It is possible that she won’t, however, no matter how hard you try.

If you find yourself in this situation, try to bring her to orgasm using a sure-fire method that you know will work, such as using your fingers or intercourse. You may want to have a list of questions ready to ask though, because she may not be able to give you a blow-by-blow of exactly what she wants. Think of some questions beforehand so you can ask (and be sure to ask her gently) what she would like – all you will need from her is a simple nod or shake of her head! This makes it much easier on her – she may not even know what she wants at this point and suggestions can help her figure out what strokes and techniques she likes the best. Some good questions to ask are:

  • Do you like this speed? Would you like me to go faster or slower? Just a little faster (or slower) or a lot?
  • Would you like me to continue moving or stop moving for just a moment? If you want me to stop, just give me the green light to go again.
  • Is this stroke good? Would you like me to continue using this technique? Let me know if you’d like me to change it up a bit.
  • Would you like harder or softer strokes, or do you like the pressure I am applying right now?
  • If this is not the right spot, I would like you to show me exactly where you would like me to move to.
  • Would you like me to move my tongue around in circles like this, or do you prefer another type of movement?
  • Do you like long tongue strokes or short ones?
  • Would you like me to use a little suction or possibly a little more pressure? Let me know what feels good to you or what would feel better.

She Will Still Enjoy What You’re Doing!

There will be times in which she doesn’t want to have an orgasm at all, but is simply enjoying your efforts. That’s fine, but it is also another reason why communication is so important. If she is not going to experience an orgasm, it is important that she tells you before you become frustrated as well. Don’t react harshly if she does tell you that she is not going to have an orgasm (or you sense that she is not) because you may turn her off cunnilingus entirely or at least for a while.

If you feel that her body wants to have an orgasm but for some reason it is just not happening (even if you’ve tried using your hands or intercourse) give her the freedom to masturbate finish her orgasm for herself. She may want you to watch or she may need privacy. This is, of course, the last resort, but if you find yourself in this situation a time or two, don’t be judgmental about it and just let her get her groove on.

3 EXPLOSIVE Tips To Give Your Girl Mind Blowing, Exquisite Orgasm!

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Female orgasm is like the holy grail of sex – but it doesn’t have to be THAT unattainable. Try these three tricks to give your lover the orgasm of a lifetime.

Men want to deliver it. Most women never get it. What is it? The female orgasm.

Playing Hard To Get

Why is the female orgasm so elusive? Well, it is not, at least not when a woman is seeking self-gratification on her own. But when guys come into the picture, more than 50% of women have to fake one in order to please their partners, or simply to get the act over and done with.

So what is it about the female orgasm that most guys simply don’t get it? Read on for three unusual tricks on giving her the first one, tonight!

Appreciate Her Pleasure, With Or Without The Big ‘O’

Stop fussing over whether she will get one. When she knows that you are relaxed about sex (which you SHOULD), she will naturally let go of her own inhibitions too. Relaxation is the key to inducing a female orgasm. Show her that you appreciate her sexual pleasure, even if she does not climax. This will ironically speed up her orgasmic response and bring her to the edge sooner rather than later.

Be Her Bosom’s Best Buddy

A woman’s breasts are her gateway to her orgasm. Don’t believe? When you are engaging in foreplay on her breasts, stay away from her un-aroused nipples first. Instead gently caress the side, top and bottom of her breasts before slowly moving towards her nipples. When she is getting aroused, you will notice the nipples swelling up and flushed with flood, signaling that the time is ripe for direct stimulation. Give her breasts and nipples a good 2 to 3 minutes of your attention and you will induce greater blood circulation and lubrication in her genitals, priming her for an orgasm later.

Put Friction To Good Use

If you want to maximize the amount of pleasure she is getting, try increasing the amount of contact with her clitoris during penetration. For example, when she is lying down, use the base of your penis to rub against her clitoris. When you penetrate her, do so in an up-down movement instead of a direct in-out thrust. Alternatively, you can gyrate your hips and rotate your pubic mound against her clitoris. This will take a great deal of stimulation off your penis glans, helping you last longer, and giving her maximum stimulation at the same time.

There are plenty more tips and techniques to give a woman an orgasm. These 3 tips will give you a great head start and prime her for a sizzling time in bed, as soon as tonight!