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How To Be The Best Lover She’s Ever Had

Every guy wants to be the best lover his girl has ever had, and he probably wants to be the best lover that every one of his past girlfriends have ever had too. It’s part of the natural competitiveness that just about every man has. They simply want to be the best at everything, even sex. But it’s difficult to know for sure if you really are the best lover she’s ever had, or if she’s had much better sex before you. Fortunately, there are a few ways you can really be the best lover in the world to her, without taking pills to make your penis larger or just being an all around sex god. Here’s what to do to make her want you and only you.

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Avoid Comparisons In The First Place

It’s natural for men to want to compare themselves to each other, regardless of whether he’s got the better car, the biggest penis or the better washboard abs. It’s just something that men do. However, most women consider a man’s need to compete with other men just plain silly and don’t want to have anything to do with it. So you likely won’t get an answer at all if you ask her if you’re better in bed than all her other boyfriends. Instead of trying to compare yourself to your partner’s other lovers, simply check your ego at the door. There’s no comparison between you and them, because you’re you and they’re them. You and her other lovers will be similar in some ways and completely different in others, and that’s actually a good thing. If she wanted exactly what her other lovers had to offer, she wouldn’t be with you, now would she?

Learn From Those Who Came Before You

If she had a lover or two that really drove her wild, instead of bristling at that fact, use the information to your advantage. Her being more experienced in the sex department is actually something that will benefit you and your sex life with her. She’ll know more about what she likes and what she doesn’t, and she may even know more about pleasuring you too. Ask her what her previous lovers did that made her so hot and try to re-enact what they did yourself. Did they lick her clitoris a certain way or finger her g-spot just right? Or did they roleplay with her and fulfill her wildest fantasies? Even if you don’t get it exactly right the first time, ask her what you need to be doing differently, without copping an attitude about it. This takes a lot of guts and requires you to put your “manliness” aside, but the results are well worth it. Your partner will truly appreciate your effort at pleasing her, and she will definitely enjoy you when you’re not being defensive about her previous lovers. It’s very likely that with effort on your part and communication on hers that you can learn to perform as well as her previous partners, if not better! You’ll not only learn what they did to make her squirm, but you will also learn new ways to pleasure her too.

Master The Basics

Many guys think that if they’re “experienced” in the sex department (i.e. watched porn or had a few sex partners) that they automatically know everything there is to know about giving a woman an orgasm. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! A lot of guys don’t know all the ways you can pleasure a woman and many guys don’t even know the basics and there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’ve never taken the time to research ways to pleasure your partner, now is definitely the time. There are tons of resources available that will teach you more about a woman’s anatomy and how you can use fingering and oral sex to make her beg for more. Remember that porn is actually one of the worst examples on how to please a woman sexually, so check out an e-book or a helpful website if you’re looking for tips on how to give her a fantastic orgasm. Some sex tips are pretty basic, but if you’ve never found a woman’s g-spot or her clitoris (or stimulated both at the same time), you have a lot to learn before you can really drive your girl wild. Take some time to learn a few new things that you can try in the bedroom and watch as your partner forgets all about her past lovers and is focused only on you!

Blue Clitoris – Can Girls Get ‘Blue Balls’?

By leejenkins

We all know that men can have what’s called the “blue balls” phenomenon. This happens when a man cannot release by climaxing for various reasons. He might have been holding out for too long because he wants to last longer for the sake of his partner’s pleasure, or his sexual mood may have been destroyed.

A woman can have what we call “blue clitoris” for the same reasons.

The clitoris is structurally similar to the penis. Any book on anatomy would tell you that the penis and the clitoris are made out of the same stem cells and both organs react in a similar manner to direct sexual stimulation.

When a woman feels the urge to have sex, her clitoris becomes infused with blood and tightens into a pink taut bud. The tension builds until orgasm ensues, after which the blood drains from the clitoris and it goes back to being the soft fold of skin on top of the woman’s inner lips.

Because you know the pain of having blue balls, you should know that it’s equally painful for women to experience “blue clitoris.”

Mood Break

If you’re petting in a public place and you’ve been heavily petting, someone or something might happen to destroy the mood completely. The same goes when you’re having sex and the doorbell rings. Don’t be surprised when you see your girlfriend walking in an odd manner when these things happen. Besides the discomfort below her belly (along the navel area); her clitoris might be feeling sore as it uncomfortably rubs against her panties in its hardened state.

Unfulfilled Fantasy

During sex, your girlfriend might be harbouring a fantasy that keeps her aroused. It could be the same fantasy that she uses as masturbation fuel when she’s alone. When she looks up and realizes that you’re nothing like the “you” inside her fantasy, she might lose her mood completely even if her clitoris is still hard.

What you can do is discuss her fantasy during your lovemaking so that you can act like the way you usually do in her daydreams. Communication is the key to good sex, and if you manage to get her talking to you in fantasy mode, you know you’re on the right track.

You Had Your Climax Too Soon

Most guys can pick up where they left off when it comes to sex, that’s why the tension remains high even when you change positions. The sensation may vary, like when you shift from blow job to penetration, but the sexual tension in you will remain high.

Unfortunately, women are not capable of picking up where they left off. If you get her close to orgasm by penetration then you suddenly climax, she won’t be able to climax soon after, even if she manages to fondle her clitoris like mad after you’ve climaxed. When you climax before a woman, one of the consequences is that you may have to deal with is her “blue clitoris.”

How To Arouse A Woman And Give Her Sizzling HOT Sex (Warning! These Will Drive Her Wild In Bed)

By lloydlester

Everyone loves to have great sex. And contrary to conventional wisdom, women love sex as much as guys do, if not more! But what if you feel that your sex life has turned somewhat dull and dreary and needs a little “oomph”? Don’t sweat it! There is plenty you can do to make ordinary sexual experiences into toe-curling erotic adventures in between the sheets. These 6 sensuous tips, for example, are a great start to give her the best sex of her life.

Tip #1 – Setting The Scene Right

Ambience plays a great deal in making sex awesome. Pay attention to the sights and sounds. Try giving your bedroom a sultry, sexy backdrop by introducing colored light bulbs. Did you know that purple color can intensify a woman’s orgasm? It is a surefire way to amplify her erotic energy really fast. Why not spin some romantic, sensual music to get her in the mood too? Women love some moments of intimacy before getting into sex. Sip on a glass of wine and introduce some CD that is hot and delectable to turn up her passion. If you have a fireplace, cuddle up together and seek out her pleasure spots.

Tip #2 – Be Slow But Sure

The biggest mistake you could ever make with sex is to hurry. Devote ample time to get her aroused and excited. You have to understand that men can be aroused on the fly while women take a bit longer than men do. Sensual massages work really well with many women. This form of massage is like any other types of massage; the only difference is that it focuses more on her erogenous zone or sensitive “hot buttons.” Lavish her with your seductive ways and she will show you the signs that she is ready for you to take it to the next step.

Tip #3 – Use Your Imagination Creatively

If you are boring in bed, it will be a lackluster affair for her. With your imagination, you can surely inject fun into the things you wish to do with her. Her mind is the sex organ you should stimulate the most. Look her directly in the eyes and adore her verbally and physically. Tickle her fancy to make her more open to sex. Some erotic adult literature can be a great help too. For example, before you tuck her in for the night, read her some pages from those adult materials. She may have more than just sleep on her mind!

Tip #4 – Unleash The Art Of Erotic Kissing

Women can’t seem to get enough of kissing from their loved ones. Kissing is super important in an intimate relationship and it surprises me why so many guys gloss over this crucial moment of intimacy. If you want to sizzle up your sex life, try some sexy kissing tricks to get her temperatures moving fast. For instance, suck on an ice cube or sip on a cold drink just before you kiss her. She will get hot really fast! Or consume some foods such as strawberries or honey to introduce some tantalizing sweetness in your mouth when you kiss. And don’t forget to kiss her even when you are making love!

Tip #5 – Synchronize With Her Bio-Rhythm

Your actions have to have a natural flow and rhythm. Make it seem like one continuous thing for her. Sex toys or gadgets are great ways to learn more about her body and what turns her on the most. Pay attention to her so you can sexually synchronize with her. For instance, if she has a vibrator, ask her to show you how to use it. Take note of the speed, angle and the kind of pressure that she likes and then perform these on her using your tongue, fingers or your manhood!

Tip #6 – Bring On The Furnishings!

Beds are dull and boring. Sex furniture is a great way to spice up the whole sexual experience. These are usually very discreet and blend in really well with the rest of your home decor. Unlike sex toys, both you and your partner can enjoy using sex furniture together. These allow you to experiment with intercourse positions that you don’t usually get with flat surfaces such as like beds or mattresses. With these, you can fit your bodies perfectly together and ensure that her clitoris and G-spot are properly stimulated during sex.

There is plenty that you can do to enhance your sex life and really give her something to talk about with her friends. Believe me, women talk far more often with their friends about sex than men. If you want to really weave some magic in the bedroom, try injecting these sensual moves to get her all hot and panting in bed!

How To Achieve Simultaneous Orgasm

By loveandsex

Simultaneous orgasm is sometimes considered the “holy grail” of sex, because it can be difficult to achieve but absolutely amazing when you do. Having an orgasm together during sex will bring you and your partner closer together physically (and make you hotter for each other) as well as deepen and strengthen the emotional bond you have with each other as well. While many people think that simultaneous orgasm just happens and if it does, you’re lucky, there are actually quite a few things you can do to help you and your partner reach orgasm together. Here’s how.

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Recognize The Opportunity

A lot of times, couples fail to have an orgasm at the same time because they don’t realize that the opportunity is there. He may not know that she is close to orgasm, especially if it has taken a while for her to get there, or she may not realize that he’s close too. They may miss having an orgasm together by just minutes or seconds, and often they may have their orgasms just one right after the other. Instead of focusing so much on trying to make a simultaneous orgasm happen, focus more on recognizing the signs that she’s close so you can release when she does. When a woman is close to having an orgasm, her muscles will bunch up, her breathing will get faster and her chest will get flushed. When you realize that she is about to go over the edge, allow yourself to “catch up” with her so you can go over the edge too.

Match Her Pace

It can take a lot longer for a woman to reach orgasm through intercourse than a man, so it’s important that if you want to achieve a simultaneous orgasm that you match your partner’s pace and keep your orgasm at bay until she reaches the brink. Go slower and let her be on top. Having her on top allows her to control the pace herself, as well as helping her to control her orgasm. This also takes the control away from you, allowing you to concentrate more on holding out and keeping yourself from ejaculating too quickly. If you struggle with having enough stamina to keep up with your partner, use foreplay techniques to get her warmed up before you even begin having intercourse. Get her close to orgasm through oral sex, or if your partner is able to have multiple orgasms, give her the first orgasm through oral sex and she will be much closer to her second or third orgasms when you start having sex.

Communicate With Her

Another huge reason why couples struggle to have simultaneous orgasms is that they don’t communicate with each other when having sex. You or your partner may feel too shy to announce that you’re close to having an orgasm, so your partner doesn’t know when they need to hold out or when they need to speed up. Work on communicating what you’re feeling during sex with your partner, even if all you’re doing is breathing the words “I’m close” in their ear. You could even come up with a “code word” for being close to orgasm if you or your partner just aren’t comfortable with any other forms of communication. In fact, it doesn’t even have to be a word, it could be a simple action such as biting their ear or pinching their butt when you’re about to have an orgasm. If you and your partner work on communicating during sex, you’ll be able to respond appropriately to where your partner is sexually and hold back if you need to or speed up your orgasm if they’re close.

Seize The Opportunity

In addition to recognizing the opportunity to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, you need to seize the opportunity too! You may figure out that she’s about to have an orgasm, but you may not end up taking the initiative to bring yourself closer to orgasm as well. Instead, when you realize that she is about to have an orgasm, tighten your muscles and bring yourself to orgasm as well. However, if your partner likes to express herself when she has an orgasm with loud noises or moaning, you may end up ejaculating anyways without even trying because you’re so turned on by her! If you see the opportunity to have an orgasm at the same time as your partner, take it! You and your partner will both love having an orgasm together and your sex lives will become that much more satisfying for both you and her.

Sex Secrets For Men – Unlock The Secrets To Giving Her Wild, Pulsating Sex (97% Of Men Are Clueless)

By lloydlester

What are the sex secrets for men? Look, if you are reading this article with the hopes of learning about the best sex position, the best way to give her G-spot orgasms or great oral sex tips to seduce your girl, then I would advise you not to read further. Why? Well, if you are looking for ways to improve your sex life, these things will not help you a bit.

When it comes to having great sex, there is no sneaky trick you can pull out of your bag. It is all about the fundamentals, the basics of sex, mindsets, so to speak. If you get this right, believe me, your enjoyment in sex will increase multiple folds.

The Paradox Of Man’s Greatest Strength

Most men are focused on results. We are by nature very action-oriented. Results are what we care about; the end goal, so to speak. We set targets in the boardroom and get things done. Sadly the same mentality carries over to the bedroom:

(a) undressing yourself and her

(b) begin intercourse

(d) end of sex

So where does this perpetual male strategy leave a woman? Empty, unfulfilled, disappointed. You see, for women, sex is not so much about the end goal per se. They really care more about the journey; how you arrive at the end goal. Women love to savor the sexual experience moment-by-moment, from foreplay all the way to intercourse.

Getting The Foundations Right

You see, sex would be a monotonous and lackluster affair if you use sex techniques without a proper understanding of how and why they work on women. Think about this: What makes a great lover in bed, a Don Juan who can seduce and bring any woman to the elusive heights of sexual ecstasy? It is not the repertoire of techniques he has learned, but the way he USES them.

Many men make the terrible mistake and assume that women are aroused the same way as they are. Men are visually stimulated; women are not. Men can reach a climax within 2 minutes; women need at least a good 15 minutes on average to reach orgasm. Women need good old-fashioned love, affection and attention to detail.

Read that again. This means the way you touch her, the way you seduce her verbally, the mood you bring into the lovemaking, all play vital roles in your sex life.

Do You Know Her Emotional Underpinnings?

For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, emotions carry huge weight. This means you should never grope her right away. You need to value how she feels and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level. It is all well worth your time, because when you give her an amazing time in bed (and mind-tingling orgasms to boot!), you will be rewarded with much more from her!

So make her feel wanted and appreciated. This means when you kiss her, look into her eyes and run you fingers down the back of her spine. Spend quality time on slow, tantalizing foreplay and you will build up her sexual anticipation in a hurry. When you penetrate her, acknowledge her presence and ask if that feels great for her. Above all, be a man and focus on her needs exclusively FIRST. You will emerge a far better lover, one that she will be proud to brag to her friends the next morning!