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What Is The Perineum – Ways To Please A Man Sexually

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The perineum is one of the most sensual sex zones of the human anatomy. It is the bit of skin between the anus and sex organs. It is a hot spot for sexual sensations for both males and females, so you had better learn more about it if you want to learn the best way to please your man.

Slight stroking of the perineum area can stimulate your man even if you have not touched his member yet. This area is so rich in nerve endings that simply stroking it rhythmically to complement a blowjob can make a man climax in minutes.

How To Touch The Male Perineum

The best time to touch the male perineum is when you are going down on your man and you have reached the sensitive area below the balls. You will notice that the skin around this region is thinner than the rest, so even light touching can send electric waves of pleasure through your man. Be careful not to pinch or scratch this area, but you can caress and fondle all you want.

The ABC Technique

When you are going down on your man but you’re squeamish about rimming him (i.e. licking the general area of his anal hole), you can try writing out the alphabet on his perineum with your tongue. This can be done while your hands are moving over his shaft, or while you are giving him a hand job.

Different Sensations

Experiment with tongue movements. Try horizontal lines, vertical lines and parallel lines. You can stiffen your tongue or keep it lax as you lick his sensitive skin. Always remember to keep on going whenever he expresses pleasure at something you tried. The more you lick and kiss him there, the closer you bring him to orgasm.

For best results, bring a cold drink or a hot drink with you in the bedroom. Take a sip of either one before you go down on your man to vary the sensations you create with your tongue. You can alternate between hot and cold sensations, or you can go for “slightly warm.”

Give Him A Perineum Massage

An erotic massage on the perineum can result in the stiffest hard-on ever. Wouldn’t you want to see that happen? Here’s how…

Make sure your hands are well lubricated before you start stroking any part of your man’s gonad area. Wet hands and fingers glide smoothly with minimum friction, and the lack of friction is one of the main things that make a hand job so pleasurable for him.

A water-based lubricant is the best for giving a hand job, particularly if you’re using latex gloves. A water-based lubricant is also the best choice for penetrative action, like when you insert one finger inside his anus.

Q&A: Oral Sex – My Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm When I Go Down On Her?

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If your girlfriend isn’t having an orgasm when you give her oral sex, you’re not alone. While many women love oral sex, others just can’t let go enough to get to the big “O” when their guys are going down on them. Here’s how to figure out why she’s not able to have an orgasm through oral sex and what you can do to change it.

Question: Me and my girlfriend have a good sex life but whenever I go down on her she stops me after about 5-10 minutes and tells me she’s too tired. This sounds strange to me because whenever she performs on me I don’t seem to get tired. This bothers me because she rarely reaches orgasm and she doesn’t get the full satisfaction. Is there anything I can do and is this common in women?

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Why She’s Getting Frustrated

It’s easy for a woman to get frustrated with her partner when he’s going down on her. If she’s not getting close to orgasm, or she is getting close and just can’t seem to make it over the edge, it can easily cause frustration and make her want to stop. There could be a lot of reasons why she’s not able to reach orgasm. She might not be able to relax after her day at work or school and the stress of day to day problems might not be something she’s easily able to let go of. Another reason she may not be able to have an orgasm when you go down on her is your technique. You may actually be causing her pain instead of pleasure, because a woman’s clitoris and vaginal folds can be very sensitive to too much pressure or the wrong kind of touch.

Learning To Communicate With Your Partner

Your girlfriend may be telling you she is “too tired” to continue on with oral sex because she just doesn’t know what else to tell you. She may be embarrassed to tell you that you’re not doing it right, or she may not know how to tell you what she likes when you go down on her. As a result, she may just be settling for telling you that she’s too tired and giving up on getting pleasure from oral sex all together. If you really want to learn how to pleasure her orally, take some time to talk to her and communicate with her. Don’t do it during sex, before sex or right after. Discuss with her how she feels about it and what suggestions she has for doing it differently when you are having dinner or watching a movie.

Brush Up On Your Oral Sex Skills

Don’t assume that because your girlfriend is telling you that she’s too tired for oral sex that it’s what she really means. Don’t assume that your oral sex skills are fine and that the problem lies with her. There is always room for learning and brushing up on your oral sex skills! You’d be surprised at what you don’t know about female anatomy and how a woman likes to recieve oral sex. Take our female orgasm quiz to see if you really know how to please a woman when you go down on her!

Giving Her An Orgasm – The Ultimate Pat On The Back

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Every man hopes to make a girl climax every time he has sex with her, but the truth is that this doesn’t always happen. It’s no secret that sometimes women fake during sex, because they don’t want to make the man’s inability to perform as a big issue that could damage a relatively good relationship. If a girl doesn’t climax during sex, her partner feels extremely insecure, and she knows it.

However, what every man should realize is that the relationship only stays good when everything that goes on inside the relationship is pleasing to both partners. If sex continues to be lousy, the relationship will fall apart sooner than you think.

Making a woman reach orgasm is physically and psychologically gratifying, and we know it. Now, it’s time to discover some of the things that make women climax faster, read on!

Help Her Relax

There are factors that affect our over-all performance in the bedroom, some of which we cannot control (her stress level, her feelings etc.) The only thing we can do is to concentrate on the factors that we can control, like our bedroom skills and making a woman comfortable enough to reach climax faster.

An erotic massage will get her thinking about sex, and the better you massage her, the faster she can climax. This means using your fingers and tongue to caress her most sensitive areas, like her clitoris and her breasts.

Learn From The Way She Masturbates

The thing is, a woman can climax quickly when she is masturbating. Every woman has a special way of doing this, and you can learn a lot from observing the way she masturbates in your presence. If you cannot seem to make her climax during sex, one way to learn how is to take note of what she does, where she’s touching, and what she thinks about during masturbation.

Here’s what you can do. Tell her to pretend that you’re not around and she’s all alone. It will help if you can make her share her deepest, darkest fantasies with you so you can react accordingly.

Role Playing

A woman’s psyche during sex is greatly affected by what she’s thinking. If she’s bored with the same old scenario, you can go somewhere unfamiliar like a hotel room, or a resort. Then, think of a role playing scenario and act it out. Like men, women get their kicks out of certain sexual situations and your goal is to learn the nature of her sex fantasies so you can replicate it every time.

Comfort level plays a big role in making a woman orgasm, and your goal as her lover should be to encourage her to relax long enough for her to climax. You might notice that I didn’t include tips like “going down on her” or fingering. Any man can do these things, but the real trick to getting her to climax has something to do with the way you help her relax, emotionally and physically, during sex.

Working On Frustration With Sex

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If you are struggling with the issue of sexual give and take, and you think every woman but you is lucky enough to have a man who wants to please them sexually, you might be one of the women who are dealing with sexual frustration. What is sexual frustration exactly? It’s that feeling of being left out, being used and being disregarded as soon as the sex is “over” (which means he has reached orgasm).

Sexual frustration also means you are struggling to hold onto your relationship, even if you just do not enjoy the sex anymore. If you cannot believe you are in this situation now when it used to be so romantic and good, here are some tips for you…

Start Demanding, But Mind The Mood

There is a way to demand something in bed that sounds sexy to a man. I’m not talking about laying down ‘ground rules’ or giving him an ultimatum during sex. Being a demanding vixen can be sexy if you feel sexy. That’s where it all starts.

Why not start dressing sexier? Wear a kinky outfit that doubles as a sexual suggestion. You have seen silk body stockings with buttons down the crotch right? Wearing something like that while you’re demanding to get eaten out will make your demands sound more like a sexy suggestion than an actual order.

Start Roleplaying

When the sexual tension is up (he knows you’re going to do it and you’re doing all things that indicate “sex is coming”), you can start talking like you would inside your sexual fantasies. If you plan on wearing a French maid costume and acting like his sex slave (because that is a fantasy of yours), start calling him “monsieur” the moment he comes out of the shower. This will set the mood and will get him excited enough to do anything you want him to do.

“Me” Time

Here’s the scenario. Your man thinks he is the best, and he is blissfully unaware that you have not had an orgasm during sex for a year now. It won’t help to rub this in his face during a fight (when you could be rubbing something else on his face!). Suggest a “me” time for the two of you, instead.

This means that he gets Friday nights and you get Saturday nights. During this “me” time, one partner becomes the other’s love slave, and he has to do what the other wants unquestioningly. I’ll leave it up to you to decide whether you want to go first or if you want to let him go first. Remember, the one who gets Saturday as “me” time can demand payback for what happened the night before.

Men are pretty easy to manipulate in bed, if you know what to do. Increasing sexual romance is a healing salve to your ailing relationship, and these three techniques I taught you today would definitely help with sexual frustration.

How To Make Sex In Your Marriage More Exciting

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Contrary to popular belief, married sex (or long term relationship sex) can be even better than wild, crazy sex with someone you’ve just met or don’t know very well. Married sex doesn’t have to be boring or blase. The trick is, you have to make a conscious effort to make your sex life in your marriage better. Here’s how you can do it!

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Bring Variety Into The Bedroom

Doing the same old thing in the bedroom time after time is an excellent way to land yourself right in a married sex rut. If you want to have a great sex life when you’re married or in a long term relationship, it’s important to bring new ideas in the bedroom. Try new sex positions that you’ve never tried before, or bring sex toys in the bedroom for you and your partner to play with. It’s a common misconception that sex toys are geared for women only. While many sex toys are for women, there are also a number of toys for couples to use together and sex toys for boys!

Make Love Sometimes And Screw Sometimes!

Sex doesn’t always have to be romantic and lovey-dovey. While it’s great to “make love” and share that deep, emotional connection with your partner, it’s also great to “screw” your partner and let your animalistic side take over! Take the lead one night and completely ravage your partner. Act like you’re just going to die if you don’t have your way with them RIGHT NOW, and as you’re having sex, exaggerate your reactions a little bit. Be of the mindset that your partner is the only thing you want at this point in time and absolutely nothing else matters. They are a cold drink on a blazing hot day or a meal when you’ve gone hungry for days! In turn, let your partner do the same to you on another night and let yourself be completely taken over by them when they’re in the lead. You can also take turns being the dominant partner one night. Do it on the couch, in the kitchen or in the car. When you want your partner or they want you, do it right then and there!

Be Adventurous

While it can be easy to let yourself go and have wild and crazy sex with someone you’re not completely comfortable with, it’s even easier to do this with someone you’ve built that trust with. When you’re 100% comfortable with someone and trust them to accept you no matter what, you can really let your wild side take over. Try some taboo things, such as anal sex or prostate massage, or even BDSM and roleplaying. If there’s something out there that really turns you on sexually but you’re not sure if you can bring yourself to do it, doing it with your significant other can actually be really fun and exciting. You don’t have to be afraid that they’re going to reject you if you get a little too freaky, because you know they choose to be with you every day because they love and care about you. So let yourself go and consider doing some things with them that you wouldn’t normally consider doing!